DO PARENTS KNOW
THEIR CHILDREN?
(Continued from pairp 3)
nated and enamored with the multi
plied experiences that the autnmo- i
bile has made possible. However, 1
it does not seem that we have found j
a way to maintain family integrity '
under the rapidly changing social 1
environment. Parents are not in
different to the welfare of their
children today, or ignorant of their 1
needs. In fact, they were never
more concerned about the happiness
and success of their children than
they are at the present time; but
parents are finding it difficult under
present conditions, to direct the en
ergies of their children and to safe
guard their morals. More and more
therefore their familv ties have been
loosened, for parents have thrown
the responsibility of nature and edu
cational guidance upon schools and
colleges. The rapidly increasing
number of youths who have entered !
our schools and colleges has made :
the task very difficult for our insti- |
tutions of learning.
It is not apparent what the solu
tion of this problem will be. Mv
long contact with young people in
college does not arouse a feeling of
pessimism. The great majoritv of
voulhs who ar" entering college are
ambitious and anxious to succeed.
But 1 am convinced that, to maintain
the level of personal rcsponsibiliiv
and consei Ke ethical standards,
there must be a better coordination
of effort on the part of the home,
the school and the church. The
working out of this problem in the
immediate future is demanded by
e\erv cause of public welfare.
However, not all presidents of col
lege.-* agree with Dean Gauss. Here
is what President Sills says:
So far as mv own experience at j
Bowdoin fines, both as President and J
Dray. I feel that parents of the pies- \
ent day are exactly as much inter
ested in their hoys as they used to
l>c*. T have as many letters as I ever j
had from parents expressing the
greatest concern ahout the hovs in |
college. As for the statement of j
Dean Gauss that parents do not I
lenow their children as well as was
the case in the past, our experience |
is to the contrary. I agree with him |
and with you that nothing is more '
important.
A rift of retieenees (now because
of business, formerly a Puritan hang
over) between father and son in post
Puritan New England is discerned
by President Faunce of Brown. The
contrast between this letter and the
first we cited is marked, and may
suggest that individual characteris
tics account for much.
Unquestionably most par e n t s
would be amazed if thev really could
see into the minds of their own chil
dren. But in America ? at least in :
New England ? the older and the
younger generations have alwavs liv
ed separate lives. Mv own father,
a noble Christian minister, never
never plaved a game with mP and
never had a confidential talk with
me in his life. He loved me devot- i
edly and I revered him sincerely,
but entire reticence on all personal
matters was the Puritan tradition.
Today it is not reticence but ab
soiption jn business and social life
that leads a father to ignore the ex
panding horizons and the vexing
problems of his own boy. Th? son
usually would go to his roommate,
his dot-tor. his teacher, his minister
? to anybody sooner than to bis own
father, since to a man of middle age
the greatest joy on earth comes from
looking constantly through the eyes
of youth and feeling the beating of (
a youthful pulse. Happv is the fath- 1
er not too busy to know his own
boy!
President Harmon (Transylvania
College, Ky.) agrees essentially with
Doctor Faunce as to facts. Howev
er ho sees signs of betterment.
The youth for the past twenty
vears has been living in a zone quite
apart from that in which the parents
have lived. There has been a car
rying-over os the part of the parents
from the old order into the n?w and
as a result parents have not lived in
the world in which their children
have l>een living the past twenty
years. The parents hav?* had I he
methods and attitudes of mind that
belong to thp horse and carriage
period, while the children have liv
ed in the auto and radio period. It
is my observation that there is be
ginning to be a new generation of
parents who are alive to this transi
tion. This latter type is now begin
ning to know in a belter way the
world in which we are living, there
fore, have finer sympathies and a
better cooperation with their ehil
dren. W? have not yet arrived on
this problem, but there are suffi
1 cient pattern types of the modern
parents that it affords reason for
I hope.
Quite the same opinion is held by
President Clapp (University of Mon
tana. I Parents are indifferent and
ignorant, especially the older gener
ation. More trouble arises from
parents than from young people, as
I lie former have in many cases set
j up a double standard ? for them
selves. for the young.
Some investigation of his own was
done by President Doney (William
ette I niversitv. Oregon,) and here
is the way ho feels:
Do we know our children? We
don't know ourselves: We gi\e our
selves a thousand surprises in the
course of a lifetime. Hut parents I
nro still more ignorant of their chil
dren. That is largely because of
thoughtlessness, procrastination, or
a seem in c lack of ability to ap
proach children in a way to win
their confidence. Recently I addtes
sorl seventy-five V. M. C. A. men |
and learned bv definite inquiry that j
only two of that number had ever |
received any sex instruction from
either of their parents. Parents have
often asked me to talk to their chil
dfV?n about matters which clearly
should have been di?4Mis-i*d between
them, but which a wall of reserve
appeared to prevent.
I think parents do not commence
early enough to instruct and confer
with their children. Too often par
| ents lie by word or act and later they
know that their children know they
are liars: Jience there is no confi
dence possible.
Children passionately wish the
love and counsel of their parents,
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I but they must have that attention
| from babyhood, and constantly and
j with utter truthfulness. Such rela
tionship through life would he of
| unmeasured beauty to parent and
child and to the latter would be a
piiceless guidance of safety.
Among all the letters received
from these educators only one ex
pressed almost unqualified censure
of parents. President Hass (Muh
lenberg College, Pa.,) seems nearly
to despair as he sees the older gen
eration unresponsive even to a
strong nudge.
Our expeiience indicates that
while there are still parents who
take a direct interest with their chil
dren there is considerably more in
difference than formerly. In part
the children themselves aie to blame
because thev resent parental guid
ance, On ?hf* whole parents take
thir duties very lightly and in many
cases there is little home influence.
At the end of a month we notify par
ents whose sons are not keeping up
with their required work. We searce
1 lv receive one replv out of a hun
[ d'led assuring us that we have the
I assistance of the parents. We must
handle most of our boys irrespec
tive of parental influence. We have
a few verv encouraging cases of par
ental control; in the majority of the
cases parents will interfere onlv i
when their sons are either suspend
ed or expelled or drooped on ac
count of poor work. We have had a
c ase lately of a voung man who forg
ed the names of professors on some
of bla ran'? removing conditions.
We have had no assistance at all in
this case from the father. Onlv rel
atives have inquired and the pastor
of the bov. We feel that we must do
our work as best we can without re
iving on the influence of the par
I cnts.
Piesident John W. Huffman
(Ohio Wesleyan University.) while
realizing the wealth of serious ami
earnest youth in the colleges. in
?? lines to say a good word for paren
tal guidance. He emphasizes I he
value of exnerienee (the parents'.)
and would have it employed fully
hut wisely to guide the children.
One ran not generalize on your
I nuestion with anv decree of accu
| racy. I ndouhtedly the parents of
I the well-to-do konw their children
J l?o|tor to-day than forty years ago.
Fathers are more intimate with their
sons and wother with their daugh
ters. This intimacy is due to many
influences converging on the home,
each of which emphasizes llie neces
jsily of parents knowing their chil
dren.
i The serious lack in young people
todav is not dup to ignorance on the
part of the parent of what is in a
hoy's mind hut lack of firmness in
the home, an absence of a religious
atmosphere, and. above all. the fool
ish ?de? ?r?n mirsf live his own
life in his own way. The age and
experience of the parent counts for
naught; the young man must make
his own beliefs out of his own im
maturity; the parents must let him
make his own mistakes, for the de
lusion is widespread, that only in
this way will he become a man.
Certainly it would be fatal to re
vive the despotic parent; but just
as certainly do our young people
need the firm and wise guidance of
an idealistic parent. The great sad
fact is: our parents are not devoting
sufficient time and real hear-strug
gle in the training of their children.
What is most needed to-day is a
widespread emphasis on the fact
that children impose a responsibili
ty for home training that can not be
farmed out to govenesses, schools,
and experts. Every campus is wit
ness that the home training for many
is supperficial, lacking in clearness,
in intelligence, and in religion, and
with o moral reserve adequate for
the emergencies of life. Consequent
ly. every college has too large a per
centage of students who lack in the
nice discriminations of conscience,
so essential in life.
Thees statements are not to be un
derstood as including the greater
part of every student body, sound in
their thinkinsr. earnest in their pur
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I pose, and having a real capacity for
I hard work ? qualities they have de
veloped in homes where the father
and the mother have consecrated
themselves, by precept and by exam
ple. to the development of those
virtues in their children that will i
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"Times change, and we change
with them," but through all changes
abides the influence of the hepne,
for good or evil. Of the transfor
mation proceeding about us the
learned educators we have been pri
vileged to quote have taken due ac
count. In doing so they necessarily
had the history of the family in
mind. While thus implicitly or ex
plicitly viewing the present and
forecasting the future, and while not
glossing defects or deficiencies in at
titude or conduct, on the whole their
attitude is hopeful. The fault on
the part of parents that seems to
them to island out in boldest outline
is no tindifference (though that of
ten exists) but ignorance, and that
is remediable. Some parents do not
"know" their children, not because
they do not desire that knowledge,
but becalifee of a lack of suppleness
in their mental joints, or because of
the hiph pressure of business or so
cial life. They are learning, how
ever. to make adjustments, especial
ly parents of the vounger generation.
On the other hand, tho this fact
does not come out so strongly in the
Inters, the marked emphasis of the
last decades upon child-training,
under the influence of the new phv
chology. has resulted in the re-edu
cation of many parents. The pres
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