DO PARENTS KNOW THEIR CHILDREN? (Continued from pairp 3) nated and enamored with the multi plied experiences that the autnmo- i bile has made possible. However, 1 it does not seem that we have found j a way to maintain family integrity ' under the rapidly changing social 1 environment. Parents are not in different to the welfare of their children today, or ignorant of their 1 needs. In fact, they were never more concerned about the happiness and success of their children than they are at the present time; but parents are finding it difficult under present conditions, to direct the en ergies of their children and to safe guard their morals. More and more therefore their familv ties have been loosened, for parents have thrown the responsibility of nature and edu cational guidance upon schools and colleges. The rapidly increasing number of youths who have entered ! our schools and colleges has made : the task very difficult for our insti- | tutions of learning. It is not apparent what the solu tion of this problem will be. Mv long contact with young people in college does not arouse a feeling of pessimism. The great majoritv of voulhs who ar" entering college are ambitious and anxious to succeed. But 1 am convinced that, to maintain the level of personal rcsponsibiliiv and consei Ke ethical standards, there must be a better coordination of effort on the part of the home, the school and the church. The working out of this problem in the immediate future is demanded by e\erv cause of public welfare. However, not all presidents of col lege.-* agree with Dean Gauss. Here is what President Sills says: So far as mv own experience at j Bowdoin fines, both as President and J Dray. I feel that parents of the pies- \ ent day are exactly as much inter ested in their hoys as they used to l>c*. T have as many letters as I ever j had from parents expressing the greatest concern ahout the hovs in | college. As for the statement of j Dean Gauss that parents do not I lenow their children as well as was the case in the past, our experience | is to the contrary. I agree with him | and with you that nothing is more ' important. A rift of retieenees (now because of business, formerly a Puritan hang over) between father and son in post Puritan New England is discerned by President Faunce of Brown. The contrast between this letter and the first we cited is marked, and may suggest that individual characteris tics account for much. Unquestionably most par e n t s would be amazed if thev really could see into the minds of their own chil dren. But in America ? at least in : New England ? the older and the younger generations have alwavs liv ed separate lives. Mv own father, a noble Christian minister, never never plaved a game with mP and never had a confidential talk with me in his life. He loved me devot- i edly and I revered him sincerely, but entire reticence on all personal matters was the Puritan tradition. Today it is not reticence but ab soiption jn business and social life that leads a father to ignore the ex panding horizons and the vexing problems of his own boy. Th? son usually would go to his roommate, his dot-tor. his teacher, his minister ? to anybody sooner than to bis own father, since to a man of middle age the greatest joy on earth comes from looking constantly through the eyes of youth and feeling the beating of ( a youthful pulse. Happv is the fath- 1 er not too busy to know his own boy! President Harmon (Transylvania College, Ky.) agrees essentially with Doctor Faunce as to facts. Howev er ho sees signs of betterment. The youth for the past twenty vears has been living in a zone quite apart from that in which the parents have lived. There has been a car rying-over os the part of the parents from the old order into the n?w and as a result parents have not lived in the world in which their children have l>een living the past twenty years. The parents hav?* had I he methods and attitudes of mind that belong to thp horse and carriage period, while the children have liv ed in the auto and radio period. It is my observation that there is be ginning to be a new generation of parents who are alive to this transi tion. This latter type is now begin ning to know in a belter way the world in which we are living, there fore, have finer sympathies and a better cooperation with their ehil dren. W? have not yet arrived on this problem, but there are suffi 1 cient pattern types of the modern parents that it affords reason for I hope. Quite the same opinion is held by President Clapp (University of Mon tana. I Parents are indifferent and ignorant, especially the older gener ation. More trouble arises from parents than from young people, as I lie former have in many cases set j up a double standard ? for them selves. for the young. Some investigation of his own was done by President Doney (William ette I niversitv. Oregon,) and here is the way ho feels: Do we know our children? We don't know ourselves: We gi\e our selves a thousand surprises in the course of a lifetime. Hut parents I nro still more ignorant of their chil dren. That is largely because of thoughtlessness, procrastination, or a seem in c lack of ability to ap proach children in a way to win their confidence. Recently I addtes sorl seventy-five V. M. C. A. men | and learned bv definite inquiry that j only two of that number had ever | received any sex instruction from either of their parents. Parents have often asked me to talk to their chil dfV?n about matters which clearly should have been di?4Mis-i*d between them, but which a wall of reserve appeared to prevent. I think parents do not commence early enough to instruct and confer with their children. Too often par | ents lie by word or act and later they know that their children know they are liars: Jience there is no confi dence possible. Children passionately wish the love and counsel of their parents, PHONE 95 WALNUT ST., & SOU. RY. I but they must have that attention | from babyhood, and constantly and j with utter truthfulness. Such rela tionship through life would he of | unmeasured beauty to parent and child and to the latter would be a piiceless guidance of safety. Among all the letters received from these educators only one ex pressed almost unqualified censure of parents. President Hass (Muh lenberg College, Pa.,) seems nearly to despair as he sees the older gen eration unresponsive even to a strong nudge. Our expeiience indicates that while there are still parents who take a direct interest with their chil dren there is considerably more in difference than formerly. In part the children themselves aie to blame because thev resent parental guid ance, On ?hf* whole parents take thir duties very lightly and in many cases there is little home influence. At the end of a month we notify par ents whose sons are not keeping up with their required work. We searce 1 lv receive one replv out of a hun [ d'led assuring us that we have the I assistance of the parents. We must handle most of our boys irrespec tive of parental influence. We have a few verv encouraging cases of par ental control; in the majority of the cases parents will interfere onlv i when their sons are either suspend ed or expelled or drooped on ac count of poor work. We have had a c ase lately of a voung man who forg ed the names of professors on some of bla ran'? removing conditions. We have had no assistance at all in this case from the father. Onlv rel atives have inquired and the pastor of the bov. We feel that we must do our work as best we can without re iving on the influence of the par I cnts. Piesident John W. Huffman (Ohio Wesleyan University.) while realizing the wealth of serious ami earnest youth in the colleges. in ?? lines to say a good word for paren tal guidance. He emphasizes I he value of exnerienee (the parents'.) and would have it employed fully hut wisely to guide the children. One ran not generalize on your I nuestion with anv decree of accu | racy. I ndouhtedly the parents of I the well-to-do konw their children J l?o|tor to-day than forty years ago. Fathers are more intimate with their sons and wother with their daugh ters. This intimacy is due to many influences converging on the home, each of which emphasizes llie neces jsily of parents knowing their chil dren. i The serious lack in young people todav is not dup to ignorance on the part of the parent of what is in a hoy's mind hut lack of firmness in the home, an absence of a religious atmosphere, and. above all. the fool ish ?de? ?r?n mirsf live his own life in his own way. The age and experience of the parent counts for naught; the young man must make his own beliefs out of his own im maturity; the parents must let him make his own mistakes, for the de lusion is widespread, that only in this way will he become a man. Certainly it would be fatal to re vive the despotic parent; but just as certainly do our young people need the firm and wise guidance of an idealistic parent. The great sad fact is: our parents are not devoting sufficient time and real hear-strug gle in the training of their children. What is most needed to-day is a widespread emphasis on the fact that children impose a responsibili ty for home training that can not be farmed out to govenesses, schools, and experts. Every campus is wit ness that the home training for many is supperficial, lacking in clearness, in intelligence, and in religion, and with o moral reserve adequate for the emergencies of life. Consequent ly. every college has too large a per centage of students who lack in the nice discriminations of conscience, so essential in life. Thees statements are not to be un derstood as including the greater part of every student body, sound in their thinkinsr. earnest in their pur WE OFFER $100.00 To any one who will use Padgett's Indian Herb Juice and fail to get re sults we claim for it. Indian Herb Juice has given satisfaction to alj i who have used it for twenty-five years. We recommend Padgett's In | dian Herb Juice for constipation, indigestion, rheumatism, liver and kidney trouble, and has proved su preme for high blood pressure. For sale at all drug stores. I pose, and having a real capacity for I hard work ? qualities they have de veloped in homes where the father and the mother have consecrated themselves, by precept and by exam ple. to the development of those virtues in their children that will i stand the strain of every situation I in life and prove a source of inspir ation for time and for eternity ? an intelligent, resourceful, and vigor ous character. "Times change, and we change with them," but through all changes abides the influence of the hepne, for good or evil. Of the transfor mation proceeding about us the learned educators we have been pri vileged to quote have taken due ac count. In doing so they necessarily had the history of the family in mind. While thus implicitly or ex plicitly viewing the present and forecasting the future, and while not glossing defects or deficiencies in at titude or conduct, on the whole their attitude is hopeful. The fault on the part of parents that seems to them to island out in boldest outline is no tindifference (though that of ten exists) but ignorance, and that is remediable. Some parents do not "know" their children, not because they do not desire that knowledge, but becalifee of a lack of suppleness in their mental joints, or because of the hiph pressure of business or so cial life. They are learning, how ever. to make adjustments, especial ly parents of the vounger generation. On the other hand, tho this fact does not come out so strongly in the Inters, the marked emphasis of the last decades upon child-training, under the influence of the new phv chology. has resulted in the re-edu cation of many parents. The pres ent generation is. we Iwlipvp. becom ing increasingly "child-conscious." This gives firm foundation for hope. A WORMY PIG PAYS NO PROFIT RALEIGH, V C., Drr. 25.? The common round worm which infests many swine herds of North Carolina is costing the growers of this StntA more money than the com bined losses from cholera, thumps, pneumonia and other common swine diseases. "The reason why this is true, is that most of us think any place is good enough to raise pigs in," says W. V. Hays, assistant swine spec ialist at State Col lege. 44Most grow ers overlook the need for sanitory measures in the hog lot, yet an in festation of worms niav be prevent ed by a little care. When the sow is ready to I arrow, put her ir. a place where hogs have not been k?-pt Give the under part of her body a pood scrubbing using soapy water and a fiber brush. Some mild disinfec tant in the water would not hurt. This will remove the worm eggs at tached to *he mother's body. Now place her in the new quarters and the result will be a pleasant surprise to the one who has not tried this plan." The next best thing to do, says Mr. Hays, is to worm the young pigs. There are spet ially prepared worm capsules that may be used. For best results in using these, the stomaeh and intestines of the pigs should be empty of feed. Give all the water the pigs want. In some cases it is wise to give a laxative dose of epsom salts in a thin slop before n"Uinf the animals on the fast. This fasting period should last 24 houis after which the medi cine is administered. One capsule for a weanling pig and two for the larger shoals will do. After eight or ten hours, give another dose of salts in a thin slop to wash out the i worms. Mr. Hays says this form of treat I ment is being followed by progre I ssive hog growers in a number of North Carolina counties and these men would not attempt to fatten pigs now before treating them, es pecially if there is any evidence of I worms. i iTS DANGEROUS GROUND you stand on ? with a cough, a cold or grippe, and your blood impoverished. You must do something! Dr. Pierce's Golden Medical I Discovery makes richer blood ? builds health and strength. Miss Helen Grady of 7S0 Taylor St., Spartanburg, S. C., remarked: "I have al ways been susceptible to i colds and coughs, the least | exposure, or even coming in I contact with a person hay ing a cold, and I would get { right sick. kealizing my j d need of a tonic ami blood ? builder, I started taking I)r. Pierce's Golden Medical Discovery and found it so beneficial that I always take a bottle whenever 1 am ex posed to the danger of colds. It never fails to keep me fit for my work." All druggists. Tablets or fluid. 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