PLANNING
iftflj AND HEALTH
i Mr*. Gloria Riggsbee
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Dear Gloria:
Please tell me if it is true
that men go through the
"change" like women do. If
they do, can it make them
be mean to their wives? Will
they go out looking for other
women? And do they act
angry and treat their wives
like dirt? What can cause this?
Mrs. G.
Dear Mrs. G.:
It is true that men do be
gin to have certain changes
in their bodies, but these chan
ges are not as sudden as those
which appear when a woman
goes through the change of
life (menopause). Somewhere
about the age of 40-50 years,
the man's body slows down
on the production of a certain
sex hormone. When this
happens, (and it is a very slow,
gradual process), it becomes
slightly more difficult for the
man to have an erection (har
dening of his penis or sex
organ), and there is some de
crease in interest in sex.
Many doctors believe that,
at this period, some men be
come very upset. To try to
prove to themselves that every
thing is the same as it was at
the age of 20, they will be
come more active sexually.
Some times they will turn to
other wo me n in their efforts
to prove they are still "men."
Of course, not all men re
act in this manner. Some may
show no change while others
show only slight differences.
And some men may display
much greater changes in their
behavior. The same is true
also of women who are going
through menopause (change of
life). So physical changes
take place in everyone's body
during middle age, but the pro
cess is more gradual for men.
What can, and does, differ
greatly is the amount of change
in personality and actions this
period.
It should be remembered
that the middle years are some
times a period when people be
gin to look back over their
lives, to remember all the
dreams they had when they
were young, and to realize
they have not reached all the
goals they set in their youth.
It is a time when some may
look around and question the
value of many aspects of their
lives. When a person • feels
resentful or cheated because
his life has not turned out
as he had planned at the age
of 18, his feelings of angei
and frustration may be taken
out on the people closest to
him.
You can see that behavior
changes such as you describe
Mrs. G., may have both physi
cal and psychological causes.
When these changes are severe
enough to put a strain on the
marriage, professional help
Travelette Club Holds Meeting
The Travelette Club had
its monthly meeting at the
home of Mrs. Mamie Cutting,
2205 Chautaugua, May 11.
The meeting's entertainment
included songs, programs on
weight reduction and, ended
in prayer. Everyone expressed
enjoyment of the program.
Those members attending
the May meeting included:
Mrs. Lottie Burroughs, Mrs.
Mary Brown, Mrs. Mamie
Cutting, Mrs. Dossphine
Thorpe, Mrs. Many Johnson,
Graham Receives
Research Award
Jbhn E.
Graham, an alumnua of North
Carolina Central Univeralty
who la now anrolled in medi
cal achool at tha Univaraity
of North Carolina at Chapal
Hill, has received a Maad
Johnaon Award for outatand
iag reaearch as a aacond year
madlcal atudent.
Graham, the aon of Mr. and
Mra. Jamat E. Graham Sr.
of Charlotte, was among 136
madlcal students, graduate
students, Interns, and resi
dents who presented research
findings at the Student Amer
ican Medical Association Uni
verslty of Texas Medical
Branch National Student Re
search Koruna. i
should be obtained. Many peo
ple have found that a local
mental health clinic can help
get them through a difficult
time. If the problems you
describe \ are present in your
marriage, I urge you to see a
family counselor at the mental
health clinic in your town.
**#
Dear Gloria:
I would like the free book
let on permanent birth control
methods (tying the woman's
or the man's tubes). I am a
mother of four and 1 tried the
loop after my fourth child,
hoping there would be no more.
Now the loop is lost and the
doctor is not sure yet whether
or not I am pregnant. But I
do have the symptoms of preg
nancy. My baby is only seven
months old.
Mes. W.
Dear Mrs. W.:
The loop is a very good
method of birth control -- about
97% safe as long as it is in
place -• but any kind of IUD,
such as the loop or the shield,
can occasionally be expelled or
lost from the womb. That is
why it is very important to
check to make sure it is still
in place, following the instruc
tions given by the doctor who
inserts the IUD.
I am sending you the book
let which describes steriliza
tion methods for the man or
woman. I am sure your doctor
has told you to be sure to use
some other method of birth
control until you find out for
sure whether you are pregnant.
Once you know definitely
whether you are peegnant, you
will be able to consider definite
plans for the future. If you are
not pregnant, you and your
husband should discuss your
situation with your doctor. He
can explain what is involved in
the procedures to make either
you or your husband sterile so
that you will no longer have
to worry about an unwanted
pregnancy. As you probably
know, tying a man's tubes
(vasectomy) is simpler and less
expensive than tying a woman's
tubes (tubal ligation). It can be
done in a doctor's office and
the man can return to work the
next day, while a tubal ligation
for the woman usually requires
2-3 days in the hospital.
If you are pregnant, you can
request that your tubes be tied
while you are still in the hospi
tal after having the baby. There
is a possibility that you might
be eligible under North Carolina
law for a legal abortion - your
doctor can give you details on
the law and its requirements.
***
For a free booklet on birth
control methods, or a booklet
on sterilization procedures
(permanent birth control),
write: Mrs. Gloria Riggsbee, 214
Cameron Ave., Chapel Hill,
N. C. 27514.
Mrs. Burma Holman, Mrs.
Margaret White and Mrs. Con
stance Davis.
A very delicious repast was
served by Mrs. Cutting. The
next meeting will be at the
home of Miss Constance Davis,
200 Weaver Street, June 8.
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Mrs. Emma Duren
To Speak Sun.
Hay2l At 3 PM
Russell Memorial C.M.E.
Church, pastored by Reverend
L. H. Whelchel, Jr., will ob
serve its annual Women's Day
Sunday, May 21, at the 11:00
a.m. and 3:00 p.m. services.
Mrs. Emma Duren, teacher
in the Winston-Salem Forsyth
County School System, will
yr J*¥
II k "£ 1
MRS. EMMA DUREN
be the guest speaker for the
Women's Day Service at eleven
o'clock.
The speaker is a native of
Macon, Georgia. She received
the Bachelor of Science degree
from the Winston Salem State
University, Master of Educa
tion degree from the Univer
sity of North Carolina in
Greensboro and has done fur
ther study at the University
of North Carolina in Chapel
Hill.
Mrs. Duren is a member
of Hanes Memorial C.M.E.
Church in Winston Salem where
she serves as a member of the
Stewardess Board, Missionary
Society, Board of Christian
Society, Board of Christian
Education and Director of
Youth activities. She also
holds several annual conference
positions. She is affiliated
with the YWCA, Daughter of
Isis, Eastern Star, NAACP,
and Delta Sigma Theta Soro
rity.
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Other program participants
at the eleven o'clock service
are: Rev. Mrs. Essie Faucette,
Mesdames Fannie Lee, Delores
Price, Portia Faucette, Rosa
Carpenter, Sarah Mangum and
Margaret Goodwin.
A musical program featuring
outstanding singing groups will
be presented at 3:00 p.m.
Mrs. Emma Jean Harris is
captain of the Women's Day
Rally.
A cordial invitation is ex
tended to everyone to attend.
NORTH CAROLINA
DURHAM COUNTY
RE: Estate of James M. Hubbard
NOTICE TO CREDITORS:
"Having qualified as Adminis
trator CTA of the Estate of
James M. Hubbard, Deceased,
late of Durham County Dur
ham, North Carolina, this is to
notify all persons having claims
against said estate to exhibit
them to the said Mechanics and
Farmers Bank, 116 West Parrish
Street, Durham, North Carolina
27702 on or before the 22nd
day of November, 1972 or this
notice will be pleaded in bar of
their recovery.
All persons indebted to said
estate please make immediate
payment.
Thif 16th day of May, 1972.
Mechanics & Farmers Bank
Administrator CTA of the
Estate of James M. Hubbard.
May 20, 27, June 3. 10, 1972.
a YOUR
MIND
rhe Lack of True Love and
Real Understanding
■" '¥T LI AM pORrE^...
Since man came into being
on earth, he has demonstrated
an unhappy inability to get
along with his fellow humans,
either in the family group or
as nations. This graphically
proves that life is an individual
proposition and that, until we
change our own thinking and
attitude toward others, we can
not expect them to change theirs
toward us.
Impersonal and no reflection;
we have the spectacle of wives
divorcing husbands and hus
bands divorcing wives, claiming
incompatibility, and they can't
get along. And yet each in
his or her feverish search for
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the right mate, hopefully
marries again, only to go
through the same unhappy ex
perience. Never seeming to
realize that the trouble is fun
damentally within themselves
and, until they correct this trou
ble, they cannot be truly happy
with anyone.
Not only husband and wife,
but just think about the diffi
culties that members of a family
experience in getting along with
each other.
If there are any individuals
who should understand and
love one another, it is those
comprising the family group.
Brother is often out of sym
pathy with toother, son is at
odds with father, sister cannot
agree with sister, and daughter
has little in common with
mother.
It is difficult, of course,
under various pressures of life,
to hold the right feeling con
stantly, when our morale is
low, when we are depressed, we
transmit our feelings to other
loved ones, friends, or asso
ciates. The same is true when
they are down in the dumps.
We are dragged down with
them.
All of those negative condi
tions comes from the lack of
true love and real understand
ing. We should stop punishing
ourselves and others. Fear and
worry, hate and resentment,
and other destructive emotions
can so change our body chemis-l
try as to make us susceptible
to various illnesses. And as
long as negative thoughts re
main in our mind, we cannot
really enjoy life, or possess a
healthy body.
Saturday, May 20, 1972 THE CAROLINA TMES-
Ever-Ready
Club Holds
Monthly Meeting
The Ever-Ready Club of the
Orange Grotre Baptist Church
held its monthly meeting at
the home of Mn. Felicia Re
vels 1511 Rosewood - May 7,
with the vice president Mn.
Louise Lee president Mn.
Louise Lee presiding. Devo
tions were ted by members of
the group. At the conclusion
of the business sessions , our
president, Mn. Esther Moore
led the group in a very in
teresting discussion, Topic
"Our Nation Today." This
was enjoyed by all. The hos
tess Mrs. Revels served the
club a delicious repast.
Members enjoying the hos
pitality were Mrs. Savater
Hunter, Mrs. Gracie HoUo-
way, Mr*. Vhglate Paato, Ma
Mary Patenon, Mn. Hurf
McClain, Mn. Louise Lm,
Ms. Esther Moors, Mn. OUa
Hubbard, Ma Ann#. Charts,
Mn. Stanley Hollo way, Mn.
Helen Alston, Mn. Doraiby
Gray, Mn. Edna Roystar, and
little Miss Felicia Perry as
guest. The group asnds aO
our prayer* and get well
wishes to all memben who waa
absent due to sickness, next
meeting at Mn. Grace Hollo
way.
The hardest thing in the
world to open is a closed mind.
Ruth Russell, Los Angeles,
Calif.
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