16 THE CAROLINA TIMES SATURDAY, JULY 17. 1932
7
Coping:
We Call This -Love
By Dr. Charles W. Faulkner
Q
' A'Clienl who came to my office for counseling
old me thai ie had had problems finding a
'suitable companion; She .gave this example of an
unsuitable;, companion: She was attracted to a
gentleman with whom she fell she was very com-
.; patible arid, expressed her kind affection for him.
'One day -when. they were caressing each other,, in a
very sentimental mood, an emotional lear came to
his eyes. This action caused her to lose respect for
him and led to the eventual break-up of ihcir rela
tionship. This example represents an ideal case of the deep
down emotional need that each of us, male and
female, has for an opporlunily to completely
. release our pent-up emotions and to be understood
and accepted by the mate.
The young lady in the above case did not unders
tand this need that exists in each of us -j even in
herself. When we are rejected in our efforts -KH
release our deep feelings, wc may never have the
confidence in our mate to completely release our
feelings; or to allow our emotional needs to emerge;
or to let our feelings hang out with no rest rict ions or
restraints.
There is within everyone a need to be caressed, to
be understood and accepted as we are. In our
weaker emotional moments, when we are troubled
and in need .Of compassion, nothing is more
wonderfurthan for our mate to say, "I understand,
pon'j be isharrted of ypur emotions." Nothing is
moTe:dwtTessing and depressing than to have one's
mate pash . htm of her away at that very tender mo
ment. Tne very person who pushes us away is pro
bably expressingi With J his rejective behavior, a
similar need for an opportunity lo release these
deeply ingrained feelings and an anger at not,
himselfherself, having an opportunity lo express
similar feelings. '' ' . ' ;
-.'. Unfortunately, our society tends to frown on
males who are tender and emotionally expressive.;
Females are rejected also in certain situations'.. Uik
fortunately, most of us are so caught up in our own
emotional heeds that we lack the compassion,
understanding tr time to allow someone else to ex
press their needs.
Yet, the need remains for an opportunity to ex
press our emotions. The frustrations build up. The
unhappiness becomes more and more of a burden.
When one has had the opportunity to "let it all
hang out" and is rejected in the effort, another ef
fort may never be forthcoming. The fear of being
rejected may haunt us for the rest of our lives. This
is the very burden that confronts practically
everyone in our society even though few people will
admit it.
When we realize that beneath the tough outward
demeanor of everyone is a need lo be needed; a need
tn he lnvft a nppr fnr an nnnnrt unit v tr frfr nur
emotions, a little boy or girl who will be refreshed y, , ' w ;,)n 1
wiiii a kuuu ti Y . wv win a nivis .iiian i' i.ni,-.; . .5
tional happiness and stability.
If the young lady mentioned in the first
paragraph had caressed her mate and said: 'l
understand", she would have contributed lo the
emotional happiness of her mate who would, later,
have reached out in a kind, sympathetic manner to
her when she needed to be caressed.
We call this love.
'-'1
Two NCCU
Authors
Aid Book
!
l ,i.'s -, Y v -
' . " r-i y ;-r re ':v-i.t ,,.. Jmm
Prison
Fellowship
Announces Seminar
At Butner July 29-31
WASHINGTON -'
Prison Fellowship, the
Internal tonal ::. Christian
mi ni st ry to i ri mates, . ex -
offenders V and their
; families, has annou need
a three day seminar July
29-3 1 af; the Federal Cor
rectional Institution at
Butner. : .
Volunteers from I he
community, many of
whom arc active wilh the
Prisoti Fellowship Care
Committee, will par
ticipate in the seminar
with inmates,;
Instructor for ihc
scries will be Dr. Bob
l-upton, Decatur,
C'.eorgia. Dr. Lupton is a
psychologist by profes
sion and is president of
. Family Consultation Ser
vice in Decalur. He holds
the Ph.D. degree and is a
graduate of a Bible col
lege. Those graduating
from the seminar will be
among l6,000 prison in
mates across the nation
who will graduate this
year. Prison Fellowship
sponsors seminars on
Christian living, leader
ship, and discipleship at
major state and federal
prisons across the na
tion. The Organization
was recently cited by I he
Associated Press as one
of the "fastest growing,
most ' dynamic
moyemenls of. modern
times lo reform prisoners
and prisons."
lion programs have Tail
ed. Lives arc being
salvaged and fhe bulk of
our graduates stay out of
(rouble once they' are
released."
Thirteen
Dissidents
Sentenced
4 iv
Recently Newsweek
magainc cited Prison;
Fellowship for its impact
in changing inmates'
lifestyles and for rallying
Christians in 35 states
and six foreign countries; not been, as
for prison reform and in- Twent y-two
males" rehabilitation.
Charles W. Colson.
president of Prison
Fellowship, said:
Prison Fellowship is
changing lives through
the Gospel of Jesus
iChrisi.'. The ministry is
making an impact where
conventional rehabilita-.
against them.
At least some of (heir
followers, however, have
I'oiiunalo,
detainees
iranslened front
I tihumhashi to M;ikal;i :
prison in : Kinshasa in';
.April accused of sVm
palhy with l lie proposed
paitv are said lo have
been i epeaiedlv uu t uied
in elToits to. have ihem
accuse Ihc ; pailiamen
larians ;of an aim
uoveinnk'Hl plot:
Two veteran fa'ctiliv
members al NC'CU are
contributors to the
recently published Con
tritmtions nf lilink
Women 10 America:
' 1 776-197 fi. ,
The two volume book
was published by Keitdav
Press, Inc., of Colum
bia, S.C., and . was
underwriilen by the
Women's Fducational
Fqiiily Act Program of
Ihe U. S. Deparlmeni of
Fducalion and by the
Ford Foundation.
, Mrs. Helen S. Miller,
who retired in June as
associate professor of
nursing: at NCCU, con
tributed to (he book's
seel ion on black women
in nursing. Mrs. Miller,
wliojuul been a member
of ijhe . NCCU faculty
since 1956, is also' died
in the book for eoniribti-'
lions as a nursing
educator.
Dr. l eroy T. Walker,
professor of physical
educalion and the 1976
head coach of the U.S.
Olympic Team, wrote
the i nt rod net ion to a
chapter on. .black women ;
in spoils..
By Joe Black
The Good Book tells us: "a child shall
lead them." and in the complex and changing
society of today, our young people represent
the future leadership of the Black Community
and some aspects of our national government.
However, they need some guidance, arid we
Black adults have a responsibility to encourage
and assist these leaders of tomorrow. We
must remember that a college graduate of 1979
was probably born in 1957: thus, he or she
was not born when Mrs. Kosa I'arna was too
tired to move to the back of the bus: 6years of
age uunng uie outrage ui uii uu; uuja x iu
forceful fire hoses in the park in Birmingham
and the inemorable" March On Washington."
and 8 when thousands marched from Sclma to
Montgomery. As a result, loo many of our ;
young don't know or understand. Ihe lhaist of
Ihe Civil Kighls Movement.Too many of them
have chosen to Ix guided by emotion and want
lo Ix'lieve that it was to prove thai Black can
Ixmf White or iriistakenly thinking that we were
to retrive. something just because we're Black.
It s t inie for Black adults to forget popularity;
and haw 'the Intestinal fortitude (o loll youth
ful Blacks thai they are spending loo much
time worrying alxuit the word -"racism." When
we were voting, we called i( "prcjudicc."'segre
gal ion." and "Jim crow." but we did not spend
our t line worrying alxuit it. And we made some
s(x io tronomic gains despite that roadblock.
Yel txlav. despite Ihe fact that we have more
college-educated Blacks than ewr Ix lbrc.we
also haw higher unempUiynicnt. Racism is not.
1 repeal - is not Ihe only rcason.Too often
Black t()llegeslucleitls"sekrl "sop" courses
rather than I hose studies dial will make
Ihem comX'litlw in today's, lalxir market. In
other words, it will Ix'a combination of a college
diploma and Ihequality of their preparation
that will enable them to lakeadranlageof Ihe.:
d(xrs opened by Ihc CMvil Rights Mmvnui?t.
Uwe get this message across to our youths.
. ihen we can all ivho Dr. King and say: "This will
Ix I he day when all of God's children will be
able losing with a new meaning, 'my country
'tis of thee, sweet land of liberty, of dice I sing.
Land where my father died, land of the Pilgrim's
pride, from every mountainside, lei freedom ring"
: m0"m' 1111
TV
.i
Jse'Bhck
e. "Z Vice President
saTiv The Greyhound Corporation
life continuaiiy renews itself . Her happinft u reflected
in your eyes. It is a day for smiles, your daughter's wed&ng
day.
As she, arid your brand-new son-in-law begin tJJeir adven
ture togelher. (living happily ever after, we hope) openbtg
up a brand new instant cash overdraft protection checkfaj
account in that new family name seems like a great we&Satj
fj!ft. Or, a new inl(rest checking account plan, or any one
of our several, very special, tailor-made banking services.,
'could be one of their most favorite gifts : V
Here's to health, wealth and happiness! f
tl MECHANICS fi :
.-PAMSEfiS BANES ;;
, 116West Parrish Street
615 Fayenevine Street 411 E. Chapel Hill Street
My Thanks
iflrr AM), ni i world wcihthoikih inuinpioii Mit:ir Kuv I conurd was
hack in ItulTulo Thursduv. JnU I, lo llmnk ri'sidrntv for I heir toiuern, ul'l'ci
lion and hospilulil v. His Ma I4lli title liuhl in Kulfalo was t aiui'lled due to
an iyi injury, Piclurrd lo lionard's U'll is I rio ComiU l.iTiilivi Ixlward
Kiilkowski, and lo his ritihl. Muor Jami's (iril'I'in. i pipnoi..
. ' - - i
r
?4 u IH n
fST-r- 5 a .: 11 "
mmmmimSm' : V; l, ':
Pi , ' r 1
I till , .a
l.f $Wlf':sK
llillllllllf W;M "v
: - m if
n
. I.
CANADIAN
MIST
MIST
NG
Mistmg is going first-class all the'wa'y. '
It's the smooth, distinctive taste of Canadian Mist.
An Imported Canadian Whisky. . v
' . ? ,. . . i i
IMPOOTfDBref SPWIS LTD, NY CANAOIAN WHISK YABlf NO 80 PROOF CW8I