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. . . v-.. -r .v :' vr . -. :-;.--. v...; -v.:.,, .. -, .ay,-..--;: . ' T H E C 0 N S T I T U T 1 0 N , A N D T li E LA W S THE G I? A.R D I A NS OF O U R L1BERT Y 4- : - : ; z. ., , f , Vol: XLV. r HILLSBOROUGH, NV C, DECEMBER 14, 1864, No.; 2275; . . mi m POLITENESS. True politeness it a very rare thing, gentle reader, siare though you may. Of the gentlemen, voungaad old, whit kered and unwhiskered, that may be seen in Washington stieet any sunshiny day, there is nut one ho dors not think liim sell a polite man, and who would net very much resent any insinuation to the contra ry. Their opinion is grounded on reasons something like the loilowing: hen they affect to ko rough, or forgetful, or absent, Irom a notion that his deficiencies in these little thing will be ascribed lo the large ness of the objects with which he is habit ually cnnverant, and that his mind will be supposed unable to come down from .the airy regions of contemplition to such low loatter. Hut such alujie should be put in to the same stateroom ol the great Ship Fools, with thoss who twitted their necks to look like Alexander, or spoke thick to reeinble Hots;ur. A man that can do tro to a oartv t ie? make a low bow to the resemoie Hotspur. A man that can m'utress of ti e house, ami then look round Jlt things and not little ones is an im after somebody that is voung and pretty to . wake themselves agreeable to. At ball tbey will do their utuiost to entertain tUeir partaer, unless the fates have given them aome one who is ugly and awkward, and they will listen to her remaiks with their most bland expression. It they are invited to a Jinter party, they go in their best coats, praise their entertainer's wine, and tell the ladr they hope her children are ajl well. U they trrad on the tu. of a well dressed peroti they will beg his pardon. They never spit on a caipet ; and, -in walk ing with a lady, they always give her the inside, and, if the practice be allowable. they oBVr her their arm. So far, verv good ; but I must alwavs see a man in cer tain situations before 1 decide whether he be polite or no. 1 woild like to see how he would act, at dinner, between an ancient ioiden lady and a country clergyman with majl salary . and a rutty coat, and with some dtttin uihed person opposite to him. I want to are him on a hot and duty day, kitting on the back seat of a stage cach, wheu the driver tikes in me poor loue wontaii, with may be, a child in her arms, and tell he gentlemen that one of them mut rule outside antj make room for her. 1 want to be Deaf him when hit washer-wonun makes some verv e6d excuse to him for not biinging home his clothes at the usual time, or not doing up an article iu exactly the sty Ic which he wihril. I want to hear the tone and emphasis with which he gives irdeis to servants in steamboats and taverns. I mark his conduct when he i walking with an umbrella on a rainy day, and over takes an old decent looking woman, who is exposed without protection to the violence if the storsa. If he be in company with those whom he thinks his inferior, flUtrn to hear if his conversation be entirely abuat himself. If some of the number be very Jistiogiihed, and some quite unknown, obsme whether he acts as if he were un conscious of the presence of these last, There are a great many little offences camwitted agsititt gnod'manncrs, of which people are hardly aware at the tif-e. It is ' not polite for instance to teae a person to da what he has once declined ; and it is equally impolite to refute a request or an invitation in order to be urged, and accept Afterwards. Comply at once; il your trie o J be sinrrre, you will gratify him, il not. punish him, as he deserves to be. It is not polite, when asked what part of a (Jiah you will have, to say," Any part it it quite indifierent to me;" it is hard enough to carve for one's friends, without choosing for them. It is not polite to en tertain our miters with our own family faittory, and the events of our own houe hold. It is not polite for married ladies to talk in the presence of gentlemen of the ' - ttifficulty they have in procuring domestic, ' and how good for nothing they art when procured. It is not polite to put food on the plate of your guest without asking his leave, nor to press mm to eat more man ne wants. It it not polite to stsre under la die' bonnets, as if you supeeted thcr had atolen the lioings from you. It is but let iae rr me moer it is not pome to ne a core, especially in print. Let no man imagine thai his rsok, sta tion, or talents can excuse him from at . Uatian tn these rules af good breeding which cost nothing but i little care, and which form the sun total of hsppiness. They are as imperative as rules of moral tyj ind there is none however great or high, that doii not owe to society a liberal recompense ftr what he receives from it. There is bow tod then a oaa so weak ti (o perfect man, and there is. ho more incon sistence between the two than there fa in reat poet's being able to write a prom is ag sory note, or a great orator s having the power to talk about the weather. ' . 1 1 will only remark, in conclusion, that gnotk breeding should form a part of every system of education. Not tnat children ghonld be made to bartr their native sim plicity for a set of artificial airs and gra ces ; but that they should be early impress ed with the delWmhy of eifisluio, and the necessity of thiukicg of others as mell as. themselves. Care should be taken that tkeir intercourse with each other be in a pint of courtesr and mildness. lie who has been reared lis a brawling and ill man nered uurvsry can hardly be expected to ripen into polite man. The elder mem bers of a family should bear in mind that the influence of their own conduct will eu circls the children like an atmosphere. There can be little' happiness in that house hold in whicU the minutest oflkes aie not dictated by apuit of ihoughiiul courtesy and delicate consideration lor otners. ila-1 ny marriates arc made wretched by neg lecting ihoe mutual attenlious o acrupu leuIy pnid in the days of courUhip. .Let it be borne in mind that t' cords uf love, whicb bind heart so closely together that neither L.iie, nor L'eata, oOr lime, nor Eternity can sever. ihetn are woven of threads no bigger thak a spider's web. the Governor found it necessary to make a people reflecting upon, their lineage and importations and to krep up manufactories, former freedom. ' both of whieh required the exemption of a Resolved, further, That such experiments number of men. Besides the State kept upon, the temper of this commonwealth. up in its own service a brigade of infantry have incrersed, are increasing, and ought and a battalion of artillery. 'These men, to be diminished. though in the State service;.fiad been on- Resolved, That His Excellency Govern or jder the control of Confederate commanders or Vance be requested to transmit copies of and hd supplied the places, within their of these Resolutions to His Excellency thV state, ol tyouiederate troops, who were President of the Confederate States; and, needed elsewhere. The Governor of North also to our Senators and Representatives, Carolina, it must also be mentioned, had in Congress, to be by them laid before that . been made by the Legislature the grand honorable body. almoner, of ... thousands and thousands of Mr. Phillips said recent occurrences ia women and children, whose protectors his -county had prompted bim to offer these were absent in the Confederate service, resolutions. He did not deny the right qf ; To distribute subsistence to this multitude impressment, and no State had acquiesced required the. exemption of a number of more cheerfully in it than North Carolina, men. But besides all these t'here were a -but he did protest against taking pri h umber of State officers, clerks of courts, vate property withput paying a just com- justices of the peace, &c. These ceuU pensatien. If the grievances complained not be reached by any law tfiat Congress of were the fault of mere officials, or had could pans. But they had, by an ace of arisen from an imperfect organization of the Legislature, been made, home guards, government.'they wijibt have been borne, and were at this time doing duty, arresting but they bid been suffered everywhere it deserters, maintaining order and perform- the Confederacy, and for year after year ing other duties. The resolution, he re- He then proceeded to a discussion seriatim prated, was supererogatory, and would, he of his resolutions, and said the only q'ues feared, be taken offensively by the States, tion was Whether the Confederate govern- . The people of North Carolina were proud Iment had violated the principles of right. EXEMPTION OF STATE OFFICERS A resolution proponing a jinl committee of tbf I wo Huut of CtMigrew rrapeciinf tba tioiptioD o Stat flicer iron the oiliury aarvico of the Coofed ttait Kuteg, baving pirwd the Hour, came go for coniMeratioo iu the finite' n TbutaJty th Itt iu ttitt, and afir tme rroiarka from Mr.Grbm,wa. oa hi motion. UiJ on th ladle. NVe uoic the fol lowing from the Eitminr; Mr. Graham, of North Carolina, said he regarded tniaas an unnecessary reolutin, and thnughl that it ought not to be passed. It came .to.the Senate uoaccompanied with any statistics relative to the number of of ficers exempted by the States. He had seen in the newspapers a tabular statement of the troojis furnuked by the States and the number of -jhose exempted, but he had learned, on inquiry, that that statrment was not relied upon by the Miliary Co mittee of the House of Rrpresentatives, and that steps were being taken to have it corrected. It wast novel thing for Con gress to open & communication with ike Slates upon any subject, roperially upon this. The proposition embraced in ibis resolution was that Congress should cor respond with the States and ascertain whether thev could spare any more troops for the Confederate armies. Such corres pondence should, if neceasary.be had by tbo Executive, by the Secretary of War. For Congress to address the Slates on this subject would imply an insinuation that the States had been delinquent. North Caro lina and Georgia were represented, in the statement just alluded to. to have i larger number of cxamnts than soy of the other Ststes. This was either & mistake, or, if t fact, could be easily explained, so fsr as regarded the State of North Carolina. The Governor uf North Carolina in 1861 under toak.it being the only condition upon which the President could receive the number of troons that the State was fur Dishing, to clothe the North Carolias troops. This arrangement was still in force, and by it the Governor of North Carolina is the Grand Commissary of fifty thousand troop's. To clotio these troops of having furnished one hundred and eizh- In support of his riesition that thty had, he teen thousand troops to the Confederate instanced the impressment of 160 males Government, besides having three thou- and horses in his county, lor which' the and in the State service. The resolution schedule price $700 had been paid, when. would not be considered respectful. It the animals would have brought, in opea would be considered that Congress had ap- market, the sum of $2,100 each. ! pointed a committee to reason with them THis was called impressment, but it.was . I - n or. a I. .a upon tnetr ueiinquency. li such a letter, taxation, ann taxation without the censti a proposed by the resolution, was to be tutionil requirement of being uniform, written to the States, they Would reply: One-third of an article's valae was not just " Search your own departments and see if compensation. Complaints had become mere are not many men mere wno snouiu irequeni en mis suujci, ana in a couec be in tho field ; Uok at you: commissioners tion of General orders, issued from the A. i about th courts, the persons employed .in & L G.'s office, reference was made seve .l. e .?' . .. t? .a. i . .!-. me conoacaiionoi property, tne nangers on rat times to mese remonstrances, so mac about post quartermasters' offices, &c.&c." the authorities could not plead ignorance He hoped these- questions would -not be of these evils. He had no hesitation ia raised between the State and the Con fed- stamping this conduct as deliberate, and in. erate States. For the reasons he had stat- saying that these violations of right were ed, he did not think the matter commend- increasing in magninde He then pro- ed itelf to the favor of the Senate, and he ceeded to review the legUlation on this would, therefore, move that it belaid en subject, argting that the laws provided no, tho table. ' redress, and statins that it was a siznifi- Mr. Barnwell, of South Carolina, agreed cant fact that the people never appealed to perfectly; vith what had been said by the the law feeling that to do so would afford Senator from N. C, (Mr. Graham.) He 'hew no relief, and only serve to bring; had been opyosiJ to the resolution from down a heavier pnniskment upon them. the nrst. not liking to see questins raised lhe people were succumbing to these between the 'States and the 'Confederate encroachments, and it was time to speak Slates. Whatever the States did ia this and arouse tbera to an assertion of their matter must be done of their own motion, rights. If it were u-A done, all would bo Mr. Graham's motion to lav on the table Most. It was so ia all great struggles, had was adopted, and the resolutions were thus been so in England and would be so' here. disposed of. ' A warning should be given, for remon strance, memorial, complaint hid been in vain. It must Le ua.lt kqown that, the people were not satisfied to endure every thing. No uiao could' love t power that The special order for eleven, which had wronged hint, and no people love a revtrn- been postponed to the conjuration f ihe I nient that wersi-teolly and deliberately militarv bill, thn came before tbe House. I robbed its citizens. being certain resolutions introduced a few It was a point of honor, too. that these days since by Mr. Phillios.as f,llew: wrongs should n-t be borne. Johlllamp- Wiurias. V sa plain principle of jus- " Tiai relused to pay even twenty snil- tice that all the expenses caused by the 105 hP money o principle, and lor present wsr ,hould be borne bv the various himself, he would say it was not so much citiiens in due proportion to their proper- h amount taken as the right to take, tvjand whereas the prices occasioned by sgainst which he employed thas thtlan the depreciation of the currency are fairly gua?e of protest and-indignation. North HOUSE OF COMMONS. TueaJaj, December 6. to be reckoned anion? such finer.. Carolina nan a iionuio intarest ia tna tnat- wherea. further; it is equally unjust and her. Her shbstauc was tikea without unconatitutional f.r tho ConfeoVr.f iust connensation, rd hew could she then vernrnent to appropriate the property of P ncr taxes hw rooet this 9,O00.OCO private citiiens without just compensation the State Treasurer required 1 Be struck 1e the owners t Therefore. net at mm a auartermaster was ncihinir Resalvti. That thia General litmkU. but h- did strike kt '.he system and the. ia the name of the rood people of Notts levemmest that eatrie.d it on. This itn- Carolina, doth solemnly protest sgainst the system new in force tnreugnout the con federacy which claims andi exercises the power of impressing private, property at certain nominal rates, arbitarily establish ed, sad known as schedule prices. Resolved, That this General Aliens); tskes occssioa ia this connection to ex press the opinion that meek of the' machi nery by which the Confederate gevsramest gives effect to the extraordinary measure connected with this war is rallis; sad ominous, and is well calculated to ggiute prtsaraeot irjuatif e was the precursor oY a general advance oa all our liberties. Was not tliis advance were Vot JhesV success sjve inroads, to b ort! And if not'nuw, when was it to Ws done ? He wsi Olipos ed in th v gerci.e oiftll its Mnstitutiooat privilefcs'to suttain the Confederate go verame'et, but hi was opposed tc soy eu sroacHnsnts. Mr. 8hr piefd, of Cumherlatiil, raid thcr were aome grounds' tk en by the geotl man from Oiai.g,, on which he took no i sue with him. He was prepared, toe, h
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