11 Uloild?
i Hli\1 I
I OVERCOMING THE
I FEAR OF SUCCESS
I By Martha Friedman
Seaview, 199 p., $10.95
I Overcoming the Fear of Success by Martha Friedman
is a plain and simple approach, presented in layman's
language, 10 recognizing and overcoming the
psychological barriers related to overcoming the fears of
success. Ms. Friedman strongly contends that there is
such a thing and that
It is a significant problem
- T It resides mastly4nahe-cealm_ofUhe-unconscious^
It stems from early childhood experiences
It is reinforced by cultural and family double
messages
It manifests itself in self-sabotaging behavior
that leads to unsatisfactory work lives and/or
love lives
It can be overcome, or at least modified
v
She further explains that the sort of success she refers
I .~ ???'
iu ib geiung 10 ao wnal you really want to do in your
work life and your love life, doing it very well, and feeling
good about yourself doing it." 1
This work is another worthy addition to the current list
of self-help publications. It not only describes specific
behavior but also helps us understand why we possess
fears related to accomplishment. At length, she
deliberates and explains, through innumerable anecdotes,
family situations which hinder positive thinking and limit
creative opportunities.
If I had it my way, no two people would'
ever be allowed to create another human being or
raise one, without first taking and passing i
a course in Family Life-Sex Education.
She believes that people need to be taught to be
parents, that they need to understand family interaction
which is so crucial to a child's upbringing and future role
as an adult competitor. The four chapters on the family
dynamic are appropriately titled "Family Olympics" and
deal with how we so skillfully learn to fail.
Ms. Friedman's remedy for overcoming fears of success
is to first recognize that we have them; secondly, to
, discover why we have them; and thirdly, seek therapy or
counseling, if necessary, or take advantage of some of the
maViy books, classes or workshops dealing with personal
growtn and development. The ultimate goal is to be fond
of^ourselves and thereby be happy in our work and love
lives.
Overcoming the Fear of Success is more of a study of
childhood experiences which exhibit themselves in later
life than a remedy for overcoming the problem; however,
she does contend that recognition of the problem is a
giant step toward getting rid of it.
Although this is not a tightly-woven or well-organized
text, it is extremely enlightening. It helps to open our
eyes, look at ourselves objectively and ultimately decide
whether we seek supreme happiness or idle existence. The
-- 1 jii
m'l ; I B
BP^P^PBPIPP^C:-"^PIBB
<> \
EACH YEAR, the family
gathers, pours their
Scotch, and toasts: I ]
"Grant us brotherhood." [
The gift of Dewar's."
One of the good things ^
in life that never varies. W ~~ "
l V *^*v' ?^!^V>^
^ (ilKTWK"
Hit ?)? ()'>< ' ' ( It W'lSnv HI, M ????(>(>? '??HO SC'HI \l ? v IMPMHIS ft
" -hm* i IW'&l&r
Hjnf
mi
from right), head of the Southern Christian Leadership C
vice president for urban affairs of the F. W. Wool worth (
the Woolworth/ Woolco division, and Hal Sieber {right),
ing the Sixties by the late Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. T
Edwin Hawkins i
Symphony Make
Edwin Hawkins, The Hawkins Family and the 35-voice
Love Center Choir realized a vision on October 13, 1978
when they performed with the 65-piece Oakland Symphony
Orchestra at the Paramount Theatre of the Arts in
Oakland, California before the first sell-out, turn-away
crowd since Van Cliburn played there several years ago.
The performance was called rousing and touted as "a
majestic musical collision" and "an euphonious synthesis
of cultures." On Wednesday, December 17 at 9:00
p.m., Edwin-Hawkins at the Symphony brings this inspired
event to Center Channel(s) 4 & 26.
In 1968, Hawkins organized the Northern California
State Youth Choir and recorded "Oh Happy Day," the
first gospel hit to reach the top 40 charts. In 1969,
Hawkins and the choir went professional as The Edwin
The PATTERSON fl JU
AVENUE YMCA will JQ|
sponsor an Amateur H
Athletic Union (AAU) Box- H
ing match at the PATTER- H JW9
SON AVENUE YMCA,
625 North Patterson H JUPPI
Avenue, Winston-Salem, H
Vl^.tU ' -
nuiui v_arunna, on ^aiur
K, t-tI
K^ I'Ul^^^^H EH *2 ^n
t-4|-35 I ACONVI
7 I 727-8822
z\Z forI 475-213
fllS 0MI 249-3!
&|| ??&? I Hurry, Of
;ofVf H ^ I 'Available in serviced are
\\MM DAT \n| \TKv\C( >S | I SUMMI
) \ v \ v
r
> *- _r-? r-r-r???r? .7?xr"vae=rV- ??M?r?'
niiniwim^ X'Hnifll III a -aimt ><*' r ? r -';. Hi irfilll
JF ^
I
mz 9^I
rES TO SCLC- - Dr. Joseph Lowery (second
onference, recently received a check from Joseph Carroll,
Co. Looking on are Aubrey Lewis (left), vice president of
vice president of B&C Associates, Inc. SCLC was led durhe
Woolworth presentation was made in Atlanta.
\nd The Oakland
; A Joyful Noise
Hawkins Singers, toured Europe, and performed extensively
in the United States.
Because of his mainstream appeal, Hawkins' music has
been labeled "cross over" ? a departure from the traditional
gospel sound in its use of electric instruments and
chord structures more commonly heard in secular music.
Hawkins admits his eclecticism, citing Ray Charles,
James Cleveland, Aretha Franklin, Sergio Mendes, Peter
Nero,Barbara Streisand and Stevie Wonder as early in:
fluences. . -
In addition to "Oh Happy Day," the program includes
"Worship the Lord." "All of My Heart," "I Know a
Man," "He'll Be There," "Come to Me," "I Need a
Pray," and "A Gift of Song," all compositions written
by Edwin Hawkins.
^4 LAST CHANCE
itmiin to save_si o
UlilKi on hbo install
WWa OFFER ENDS DEC
Don't mis* out on this limited time offer.
^ BIH Call or write today. And see all the movie;
W Hi HHlj wanting to ?ee. ?vrry month. Without a si
v |U^Q commercial. And for leaa than the cost of u
to a single movie.
COMING sow. Thtflow. AJisn. Qss^
Third Kind and M?ath^[la. Cat) today Don't 1
JSH HBO PEOPLE DON 'T Mli
^LVft'
^L1k? HWS
NOW TO SCHEDULE
ENIENT INSTALLATION
' 111 tt iiia&vna9aieni
17 in Thomasville
>08 In Lexington
OR WRITE |
fer Expires Dec. 12,1980 j
uab^^HCKJ
I
The Chronicle, Saturday, December' 13, 1980-Page 9
1. SPj jjBAiK J .1 TEN COMMANDMENTS I
^? 'w/u.mj?jritc Wilder VT'"V p.ni,"
M-F $-7-9 Xall\ T:
\ s-s 3-5'7-" ( IK ATS \ G J
*1.50
'JL SONG ^RBSiaUTtKU J ^
^ yaiu-uu. up hwiii in 1
1 SOUTH T| M-F 5-7-9
9 M-F 5-7-9 11 S-S 3-5-7-9 p^ I ^
Blox Offlo* Open 0:30
Adm. 3.00, Mn. olt. 2.00 IM9twTOurye-1
PIATWts- SECRET DREAMS ^
3RD OF MONA Q >
FEATURE-hunory younq J ;
^^ \
U : ^.'x:'&.-. wftfyS^F, R
n VJinp m M
* JM L J m h
1 HH F%| ^ ||^^^|; a
I co^2*\Ai> ''* ^*** ^
RT r_^-: I
*
^cut^ |
_
I
I
-"VU1 I I
Cte?t Of/Jfi I
Ci . ...
Get Cable and HBO I
Installed ?h?a|
For $P00|
^^*CAl#el
^JTo"|
m og^nSl^SrBSt "Tpo 1m
Please install complete cable with HBO for only
$5 ... a $10 savings.
Name
Address I
City Zip J ^
Home Phone Work Phone
In Winston-Salem In Thomasville or Lexington
Mail to: Mail to: 5
P.O. Box 2954 P.O. Box 667
Winston-Salem. N.C. 27102 Lexington, N.C. 27191