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Page B8-The Chronicle, Thursday, April 12, 1984
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By YOLONDA GAYLES
Syndicated Columnist
Dear Yolonda: I'd be interested in knowing if
reports about sexually-transmitted diseases have cut
down on pre-marital and extra-marital sex, and if so,
to what degree?
I ask this because I'm single, yet I'm truly afraid to
engage in a relationship with a woman. I'm afraid
she might have herpes, VD, or, worse, AI.DS.
I'm sure other people think about this, too. If they
don't, they should. 1 just read a published report
about one woman giving herpes to,at least five men.
I'm 32, so I'm not new at relationships, but I'm
truly interested in knowing how others handle this.
Do you ask questions before becoming intimately involved?
Do you say: "You don't have herpes, do
you?" Do you cut on the light and inspect?
Bringing this subup
seems to upset
some women - particularly
the ones I
would be the most attracted
to ? yet 1 find
that can no longer
blindly become in
This
a conpprn
Bob M. Yolonda
Dear Bob: It's difficult to glean figures on sexual
habits, but readers are echoing your thoughts. They
say that they're being much more cautious about
relationships.
I would think things are going to return to the days
when partners knew one another better before
becoming sexually involved.
Because many venereal diseases aren't visible to
the untrained eye, turning on the light won't help.
Still, I can't think of a tactful way to approach this
subject with a potential mate, either. Perhaps a few
readers will write in and tell us how they approach
the problem. ' .
Friend Overhears Gossip
Dear Yolonda: My girlfriend who I have loved and
trusted like a sister has betrayed me.
I happened to walk up behind her and overhear her
criticizing me and giving out some very personal
business. I stood there frozen in my tracks and listenI
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Superstar Stevie Wonder returns to tips," in 1
Detroit, the city where he was raised Motown 1
and became famous, for his first solo troduced 1
television concert special, "Stevie White of t
Wonder Comes Home," scheduled to received 1^
premiere on the Showtime cable televi- career, inc
sion network in June 1984. The pro- Year cita
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April 12, 13. 14 and 15, presenting a At ^
retrospective of his most popular with havjn
songs, as well as a preview of material
from his forthcoming Motown album. Wonder
" 'Stevie Wonder Comes Home' is ter Than
more than a pay-TV special,'* says memory o
Peter Chernin, Showtime's senior vice and slain <
president. "It is a major national event Luther Ki
that will capture the lasting works of active in tl
one of the most gifted songwriter- made Dr.
performers of our generation." national h
Wonder was born in Saginaw, on Washii
Mich., and has been in the record in- bill this y<
dustry since the age of 10, when he In 1983
recorded his first hit record, "Finger- the Songw
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led values?
ed.
When she finally turned around and noticed me
standing behind her, you could have brought her for
a penny. She called out someone else's name as if she
was talking about them, but it was too late then. 1
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ncai u cAawuy wnai sne saia aoout me.
She has~called me several times since this incident,
but I've put some distance between us. The next time
she calls I'd like to say something to her, but what?
I.F.
Dear I.F.: My personal rule for gossip: People who
engage in behind-your-back gossip do so because
they have nothing in their own lives worth commenting
on. They gossip because criticizing someone else
gets the conversational spotlight off their own
weaknesses.
What should you say to her? When you see her
again, simply tell her to work on her own act instead
of worrying about yours.
Nurse Wants Discharge
Dear Yolonda: Seven years ago I took up nursing.
After graduation, I got a job in a hospital, but,
within six months, I decidecTI didn't like the hospital
I worked for, so I quit. I found another nursing job,
but I didn't feel comfortable there either, so I left
that job. I finally figured out that I just wasn't made
to be a nurse.
Since then, I've held a iob as a tvnist. But this is a
position that doesn't even require any special training.
I feel as though I've wasted the money that I spent
going to school. Sometimes I even feel as though I'm
wasting my life. My family is also very critical of me
for what I've done with my training, but I just hated
the field. What should I do now?
Karla J.
Dear Karla: I called a local nurses association and
was told to direct you back to your former school.
TherCr-a counselor should advise you to the slew of
- jobs for which your training would give you.an jedge...
Mentioned briefly was hospital administration work,
or case work. Or, if you want to try a completely different
route, there's pharmaceutical or hospital
equipment sales.
Don't be too hard on yourself for wanting a
change in occupations. People change careers every
day.
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was dedicated to the
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oliday. He led his own march WAIR-AM will air "Mi
igton, D.C., to lobby for the Forever," Sunday, Ap
jar. gram will feature a
, Wonder was inducted into muaic and one of hit
writers' Hall of Fame. Danfela).
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which will air in this area on WJTM-TV, Channel 45,
"Got A Date" and "Two Ships Passing In The Nigt
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music. King has been quietly v
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sang the national anthem.
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~ By RHONDA BRANNON
Chrnncilc Columnist
^^Jgm |P^I "Splash," the most recent
It J released by Touchstone, the
W oriented Disney movie compan)
Tom Hanks, Daryl Hannah,
Candy Eugene
U i leaiures a conventional, adult-oi
story line - to a point.
Alan Bauer (Hanks), the CO
of a fruit and vegetable wh
business, falls for a mysterious
I I woman who saves him from dro
Daryl Hannah is the young wo
well, at least half of her is worn*
_ - f bottom half is all fish.
Marvin A boy-meets-girl love story
twist, "Splash" is a delightful
irvln Gaye: The Legend is tale" of love and laughs direc
ril 15, at 4 p.m. The pro- Ron Howard (formerly of "
retrospective of Gaye's Days" and "The Andy G
last interviews (photo by Show"). Babaloo Mandel and :
Ganz, who collaborated on Ho
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Dionne Warwick later this month. The show,
will feature Miss Warwick's performances of
it," among others.
? after the O 'Jays?
, who black act in 1982.
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crested Long Overdue
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vuumg Kecoras ana tne Harlem YMhat
he CA have established the first Harlem
r tour. YMCA^ Jazz Hall of Fame to give
jcently recognition to the world's greatest jazz
Page- artists. The 1984 induction ceremony
boxing will be held at Avery Fisher Hall inD'Jays
New York's Lincoln Center on Monday,
May 14.
should The ceremony, paired appropriately
as sold with a concert that will present artists
ie^has such as Ramsey Lewis, Hubert Laws*
n LPs, X Ron Carter and atRatino All-Star Band
ir by a 'J Please see page B10
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first film, "Night Shift," are responsi
ble for "Splash's'' enjoyable script,
t film and lest I forget, Mary Routh is
adult- responsible for the polyurethane mer-;
\ stars maid tail worn by Hannah.
John The story line goes something like
md it this:
riented Twenty years ago at Cape Cod, a
vnuna hr?V rnpftt a vnnno mprmaiH nnA
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owner they share a few tender moments:
olesale together. Years later, the incident is
young just a silly childhood dream to Alan^r
wning. who by now is a successful
man ? businessman who's not having too-"'
in; her much success with his private life.
You see, Alan wants to settle down
with a and start a family, but that's not about"fish
to happen. His girlfriend is leaving
ted by him.
Happy Hanks, formerly of TV's "Bosomrriffith
Buddies," turns in a good performance;
Lowell as a young man in search of love. He's:
ward's Please see page B10 ,z