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A ... - FORUM . Blessed be the parents "Some of us think, many of us think we think, hut most of us ' would rather die than think and we - do!" I admire and respect the job parents do with rearing their chil dren. It isn't an easy task . ' My wife and I are "DINKS." That's "double income, no kids." I ; have come to appreciate and ; understand the challenges many ; of you struggle with and endure > daily. Balancing work and family ! can be a full-time job. Sending the kids out of town 1 for the summer or even a weekend ; vacation can be a blessing. I saw a ; couple dating at dinner last Sun ? day. Their child was out of town ! for a few days. They were smiling and enjoying an adult conversa tion with another couple and lov ? ing every minute of it. I was introduced to changing ; diapers and warming milk when I ? was sixteen years old. That's when my youngest sister was born. It is ; with her children ? two girls ? as ? well my friends' children that I ! have learned to appreciate par | ents, concerns, challenges and ? sometimes frustration. ( ? I realized the difficulty in keep | ing up with two children during ? morning worship service. They ! were two and four years old at the I time. I had the two-year old in my '. lap. Her sister decided she was going to crawl to the end of the . pew and get underneath. When I motioned for her to return, she nodded her head. No! Well you can imagine my blood pressure went up. I am holding one child and the other will not do what I am telling her. I recall a church member helped me gel the situation under control, only to lose it again. The two year old is now crying and wants to get down and in the battle of who is actually in control, she becomes as limber and fluid as a bag of water. I am having great difficulty trying to pick her up. After that ordeal, I enjoyed sit ting by myself with no responsibil ity! Parents have to work all the time. You don't have any time off. And just when you think you have it figured out, the unusual hap pens. On the way to the a baseball game one evening, we were listen ing to the radio and a gospel song was playing. Alana, then five years-old, announced she was not going back to church with me. Yasmeen jumped in, "me neither." I asked them why not? "The preacher talks too long," Alana said. And that's when they started laughing like little children do. It becomes contagious. " Lordy, Lordy," they said. " Lord Jesus, Lord Jesus." They were mimick ing what they heard someone say at church. It took all I had not to laugh at and with them. You have to be careful what you say around children. It is like ly to be repeated at an inoppor tune time. A young girl was compliment ed for her beautiful Easter dress by the minister of her church. It apparently took her mother quite sometime to iron it. The little girl replied, "Yeah, and my mother says it's a b?h to iron." The microphone worked perfectly and you can imagine the surprise of the congregation and the embar rassment of the mother. And can you imagine what was going through the mind of the white parent sitting in the doctor's office when my wife entered. His son shouted "why are all those black people in here. Where did they come from." His father tried except for oversleeping the next morning. It was a school day and I assumed they all knew when to get up and what the routine involved. I heard little feet run ning around the house in a hurry and realized I made the wrong ? ; Motivational Moments Mig?l Altton \ S. I to keep him quiet. "Shhhhh!," he said, " they have a right to be here." Baby sitting has its challenges also. My wife agreed to keep a friend's children one night. Keep in mind we don't have children, so we don't know the routine. Pick ing up kids involves car seats, clothes and multiple bags. I expected to come home and see two little kids running around. What I saw was my wife in the den reading the newspaper. She had worked hard transporting them and their belongings and just wanted a break for a minute. The problem was this: they were still in their car seats. Needless to say, they were happy to see me. Freedom! You can't take anything for granted when dealing with chil dren either. A friend had a special anniversary surprise planned for his wife. He needed someone to stay with the three kids for a night. I asked my wife to go with me and she laughed. All alone, I accepted the challenge. Everything went as planned assumption. The high school stu dent was able to get a ride with a friend. I think it was planned that way from the beginning. The mid dle school student really wanted to ride the bus. I had to make the effort to locate it, knowing it had already gone. While rushing her to school, I had to leave the elemen tary school student at home to wait on the bus. I rushed to work and called the school to ensure he had arrived safely. I knew I had blown my assignment and the par ents would not trust me with their kids again. They are still laughing at me. Parenting isn't an easy job. And trying to balance it with the daily pressures of work and the activities children are involved in is really challenging. My hat's off* to you. Nigel Alston is an executive with Integon Insurance and can be reached at P. O. Box 722. W-S. N.C.. 27102 or e-mailed at nalston237@aol.com More words from slaves Mary Ingram (Texas): "De Marster, he tell who can git mai'ied . (married) and who can't. Him ? select de po'tly (large) an' p'lific womens, an' de po'tly man, an' use sich fo' de breeder an' de father of de women's chilluns. De womens dat am selected am not 'lowed to mai'y (marry). De chilluns dat am bo'n dat way don' know any father. De womens have nothin' to says 'bout de 'rangement. If she am po'tly an' well formed, deys fo'ced her wid de breeder. W'y don' weuns refuse? Shudks, man, yous don' know w'at yous says. De rawhide whup [bullwhip3 keeps you rom I refusin'. I's know 'cause I's see I de young girls cryin', an' deys I gits whupped 'cause deys stub- I bo'n. De ol' nigger women 'vise H [advise3 de girls dat 'twarn't no rS use to refuse. Dat it jus' makes it wo'se fo' dem. Dat I ? deys git de whuppinl an' have If* to do de same. Now, warn't dat I awful to treat humans dat I way?" Zack; Herndon (S.C.): I "Marse Zack never bred no I slaves ... He (said) dat God I never intent fer no souls to be I bred as if dey was cattle, and he I never practice no sech." Katie Darling: "Massa ... I ?, Jlst put 'em together. What he I want am the stock." (Many slaveowners mixed their stock by bor rowing each other's largest male slave. Carrie Davis (Al.): "If marster wanted to mix his stock of slaves wid a strong stock on 'nother plan tation, dey would do de mens an' V women jes lak horses." Zeno John: "When de marsters see a good big nigger, sometime dey buy him for a breeder." Elige Davison: "Massa ... wouldn't let me have jus' one woman. I have 'bout 15 and I don't know how many chillen." Julia Malone: "He [father3 was used fo' de father to sev'ral wom ens on de place. My mammy was a big women. Look at me. Ise six foot fouah [four3." Martha Jackson (Al.): "(My aunt) was er breeder 'oman en brought in chillun ev'y 12 month' jes' lack a cow bringin' in a calf. work and sell for a Heap of money." Hilliard Yellerday (NCH "A slave girl was expected to have chil dren as soon as she became a woman. Some of them had chil I ed niggers to breed like livestock 'cause she [mother3 birthed 19 chillen." John Smith (N.C.): "My marster ... started out wid two 'oman slaves and raised 300 slaves. IN THE WORDS QF AMERICA'S NOBLE ANCESTORS DONNA WYANT HOWELL ^ iri . - She say dat whut make her mo* val'ble to her ol' Marster." Willie Williams: "... De marster anxious to raise good, big niggers, de kind what am able to do lots of dren af'the age of 12 and 13 years old. Negro men six feet tall went to some of these children." Lulu Wilson: "They must of pleased the White folks what want to volunteer jor me Ameri can Slaves National Monument project or for information about this series of books containing full life stories, call 202-737-7827, Please call now while vou're thinking about it. One wuz called Short Peggy and the udder wuz called Long Peggy. Long Peggy had 25 chilluns. Just think o' dat, raisin' 300 slaves wid two 'omans." Thomas Johns (Texas): "If de man and de woman refuse to be together, dey would get whipped hard, maybe whipped to death. Course, hard whip pin' made a slave hard to sell (because slave buyers) would make him strip naked and look him over for whip marks and other blemishes, jus' like dey would a horse. Course, even if it did damage de sale of a slave to whip him, dey done it 'cause dey figured/Kill a mule, buy another, kill a nig ger, breed another.'" f r . i 4 t Cabin? for ilov* brooding In Oaorgla. NOTICE Of PILIC HEARING REZONINC Of PROPERTY CITY OF WINSTON-SALEM ?' ? The Board of Aldermen will consider requests to amend the City of Winston-Salem Zoning Ordinance by reaming property as shown below DATE: July 6, I WW TIME: 7:39 pas. PI-ACE: Board of Aldermen Chamber, CHy Hall I 1) Petition of Jessie D. and Kathy W Myers; from RS-9 to MH; property located on the north tide of Coolt Street approximately 375 feet east of Pine View Drive. W-2229. 2) Petition of Ray E. Whtteheart and Whiteheart. Inc.; from RS-9 to LO. property locat ed on the southeast tide of Shattalon Drive between Reynolda Road/NC67 and Laytlon Drive. W-2230. 3) Petition of David R and Heidi F. McNeaJ. from RS-7 to RSQ; property located on , the northeast tide of Green Street between Academy Street and West Street. W-2232. ? s ^ 4) Petition of June A. Miller; from RS-9 and LB-S (Services, Personal) to LB-S (Ser vices. Personal; and Child Day Care Center); property located on the northwest tide of Waughlown Street approximately 104 feet southwest of Reynolds Potest Drive. W-2233. 5) Petition of Associated Land Group, Inc. for property owned by Graham Enterprises; from RS-9 to RM-8-S (Residential Building. Multifamily); property located on the south side of Old Hollow Road/NC 66 between Windy Hill Drive and Cannoy Street. W-2234. 6) Petition of Arthur C. and Rotehannah P. Motsinger, Jr.; from RS-9 to IP-S (Recre ation Services, Outdoor; and Church or Religious Institution, Community); property located on the west side of Long Drive approximately 75 feet north of Polo Road. W- i 2236 7) Petition of Frances Hendrix from RS-9, RS-30, and RM-12 to NSB-S (Shopping Center - Two Phase); property located at the northeast comer of Old Hollow Road/NC 66 and Gennanton Road/NC 8. W-2228. Interested citizens will be given an opportunity to be heard. All requests for appropriate and necessary auxiliary aids and services must be made, within a reasonable time prior to the hearing, to Angela Cannon at 727-2056 or T.D.D. 727-8319. THIS MEETING WILL BE BROADCAST LIVE ON CITY TV-13 to Rente Rice, Secretary x to the Board of AM~"/ien r ERIE INSURANCE GROUP Innovative insurance... Auto, Home, Business and Life Insurance at the lowest possible cost William Barge, QC, LUTCF Barge Insurance & Associates 5101 Country Club Road Winston Salem, NC 27104 (336)760-6565 and the Erie Insurance Group provide Policyholders witn as near perfect protection and service as is humanly possible. Why not make us prove it! m 40 ERIE INSURANCE GROUP ERIE. The Chronicle i rktQam/*,???? lin I ?iAHwx?i.i Home Delivery Subscription Order ? 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