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FORUM ' Ahh...the power of love ! M/f?/ Ahtmn CoHvatfonal Moment* "When In doubt, tell the '! truth." - Mark Twain i What i? the proper age to : get married? "Eighty-four, because at \ that age, you don't have to '; work anymore, and you can ; spend all your time loving '? each other In your bedroom." * ' ? i A Judy, 8. "Once I'm done with ; kindergarten, I'm going to ; find me a wife." - Tom, 5,' Why does love happen ; between two particular peo ' pie? "No one Is sure why It happens, but I heard It has something to do with how l you smell. That's why per fume and deodorant are so popular." - Jan, 9. "I think you're supposed \ to get shot with an arrow or . something, but the rest of It Isn't supposed to be so painful.' - Harlen, 8. And what ii falling in .love like? "Like an avalanche where you have to run for you life." - Roger, 9. "if falling in love Is any thing like learning how to tpeil, I don't want to do It. It taket too long" The inside scoop on the "L-word" from kids. John Blanchard could have used these tips and more when he stood up and studied the crowd of people making their way through a train station. He was look ing for the girl. The one with the rose. The girl whose face lie had not seen, but whose heart he knew. Miss Hollis Maynell was her name. He was intrigued by her. Months earlier, he had taken a book off a shelf in the library and noticed the penciled notes in the margin of the book. There was something about the handwriting that made him want to find out her name. With some effort, he located her address in New York City. . A beautiful relationship began with the letter. He wrote her and invited i her to respond. There was one small i pqpblem, he told her. The ' next day he was to board a ship for overseas for service i in world War II. I During the next 13 ' i months they grew closer through their long-distance ' exchange of letters. Each I 'message was anticipated. A i romance was beginning. Can you imagine falling i in love and not knowing what the person looks like? I Blanchard requested a i photograph, , but *he refused. She felt that if he really cared, it wouldn't matter what she looked like. From penciled notes in a book to a long distance rela tionship. . Finally came the oppor tunity to meet her face-to face. It would be an emotion al day! Anticipation. Excitement. Nervous ness, Joy and pain. I imagine Blanchard did n't get much sleep the night before. How would he recognize her? "You'll recognize me," she wrote, "by the red rose I'll be wearing on my lapel." He would learn that great love and great achievements also involve great risk. When you put your heart on the line you trust your feelings. He would also learn that your character is your des tiny. He was bound to do the right thing. "A young woman Was coming toward me," he said, " her figure long and slim. Her lips and chin had a gen tle firmness, and in her pale green suit she was like ipringtime come alive." He was hooked! In love. There was one oversight though. She was not wear?, ing a rose. "Going my way, sailor?," the said. Directly behind hfr was the woman with the rose. She was much older than the woman he just encoun tered. Well past 40. Gray hair. Plump with thick ankles. "I felt as though I was split in two,".he said. He did not hesitate to do what he thought was right. Maybf something better than love was in store. He would be happy with a spe cial friendship. "I am so glad you could meet me; may I take you to dinner?" The womari smiled. "I don't know what this is about son," she answered, "but the young lady in the green suit who just went by - she begged me to wear this rose on my coat. And she said if you were to ask me out to dinner,. I should 90 and tell you that she is wait ing for you in the big restau rant across the street. She said it was some kind of test!" He passed the test, but did he enjoy the meal? The answer is found in another tip from kids. How can you tell if two adults eating dinner at a restaurant are in love? "Lovers will Just he star ing at each other," said Brad, age 8. "And their food will get cold. Other people care more about food.' Nigel Alston Is an execu tive with Integon Insurance and can be reached at PO Box 722, Winston-Salem, N.C. 27102 or e-mailed at nalston23 7@aol. com Race report reveals what we already know F Jones Street President Clinton's Race Advisory Panel completed its yearlong report, which includ ed some interesting findings. The panel - headed oy Durham's own John Hope Franklin - held over 300 meet ings across America and inter viewed scores of community leaders and civil rights activists. Some of the panel's findings . included support for the Presi dent's position on affirmative action; the creation of a per manent panel to promote racial and ethnic harmony and dia logue; study police misconduct involving minorities; and a reduction in the disparity in sentencing for the use of crack and powered cocaine. But the most significant finding in the report was Amer ? ' . , ' . ica'a hiatorv of white privilege. The panel round that whitea are atill benefiting (either unknow ingly or conscientiously) from America'a hiatory of white privilege. White privilege ia defined aa the uneven, unequal and capricioua aaaignment of favora and perka to white peo ple for no other reaaon than the color of their akin. L don't think we needed a panel and a yearlong atudy to tell ua that white privilege ia alive and well in America. Just look at the reaulta of integrated teat aroupa that go out and aaaeaa the treatment of buaineaa cuatomera. In too many cases, whitea with the aame background, credentials and qualifications aa non whitea were given jobs, con tracta and other privilegea not afforded the non-white teat subjects. White privilege covera the entire waterfront from auto shopping and apartment rental to bank loana and employ ment. In moat caaea the aales Graon or employer doean't ow either party. The only explanation for thia behavior ia America hiatory of white privi lege. Opponents of white privi lege are facing an uphill battle in their attempta to leveling the uneven racial playing field. Il appeara that the panel found that whites are uncomfortable with the term white privilege. Even some of the paneliiti think we need a new language to talk about white privilege. I say it's going to be next to impossible to resolve the prob lem of white privilege if we're not even allowed to talk about it. Whites are going to have to deal with this one, because it's too important NOT to talk about. As my college basket ball coach used to tell us, "you're gonna have to suck it up." In America's early begin nings, white privilege was an acceptable norm in tne nation's cultural conditioning. Euro peans were (and still are) the majority race in America. Native Americans having lost their land in the "Great Wars," African Americans - having lost their freedom to slavery, and many Asian Americans - who served in lesser roles and positions gave Europeans a reeling of supremacy, domi nance and privilege in Ameri ca. But should modern day whites who had nothing to do with their great-grandfather's accumulation of wealth t through free labor still benefit I from that creation and subse 8uent transfer of wealth? In >r. Claude Johnson's book I "Black Labor. White Wealth," > he outlinei the proceaa by which whitce have come to sucn > dominant power in a country of many race* and ethnic i groups, he alio points to white privilege. (T say we make the abate ment and destruction of white privilege a national priority! It's as important as affirmative action. After all, the real need for affirmative action came about because too many Amer ican institutions were discrimi nating against people of color, and at tne same time continu ing the historical practice of white privilege. If we waged an all out frontal attack on white privilege, maybe, just maybe, there will be little need for affir mative action. But. whether we abolish affirmative action or not, white privilege has to go. If we are to survive as a multicultural nation, we can't have one group of Americans considered to oe greater than and other groups of Americans considered less than. - VAL ATKINSON it a Tri angle Tribune columnist, <*? You Deserve It! ' You iv nucbtd 50 pha You dmnv tfjecUd tnutment Thut 't why wn created Community V) f1tu , ? W minimum dmct rupmt mm ? NO fan lor dMcfc? ? 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