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An Honest Statement
Mike Disalle, the OPS administrator who has an
nounced his candidacy for the U. S. Senate in Ohio, de
serves some sort of medal for forthrightness in politics.
—-At a news conference, reporters asked him what he
thought would be the main issue in the Ohio senatorial
Cfunpaign.
T"T guess the biggest issue,” replied DiSalle, “is which
candidate can get the most votes.”
Impressive Action
The Daily Record takes this opportunity to congrat
ulate Dunn Jaycees—and particularly Bill Biggs and Jim
McMillan, co-chairmen of the polio drive—for their en
thusiastic work in behalf of the March of Dimes campaign.
"At a time when nobody was doing anything in Dunn
toward raising our quota, the Jaycees came along and
adopted the project. They went to work the same night,
amP they’ve been working hard ever since.
Z»They not only went to work but also enlisted other
cithiens to help them in the canvass.
or not the Dunn drive will be a success and
go over the top still remains to be seen, but the energetic
and enthusiastic manner in which the Junior Chamber
tackle its first project has been an inspiration.
And, may we gently remind you, the drive is still on.
IfSfcii haven’t made your contribution to this very worthy
cdufce, please do so as soon as you can—and give as liber
ally as you can.
Smith-Hoey Voting
‘During North Carolina’s senatorial campaign of 1950
it“was frequently emphasized that the election of Willis
Sfedth would provide this State with a more forceful type
of representation than would have been the case with the
enaction of Frank Graham.
With Sen. Clyde R. Hoey representing a conservative
approach to legislative matters while Senator Frank Gra
ham voted more times than not wjth the Senate’s liber
als, the net result was that North Carolina contributed
little vote-wise In connection with many key issues before
the Senate.
However, with Senator Willis Smith of Raleigh join
ing Senator Hoey in rounding out the State’s two-man
Senate team during 1951, the results were of vastly dif
ferent nature.
Senttor Smith and Hoey agreed on 86 per cent of
the issues upon which they both voted in 1951. This was
abdVe the average for the 19 solid Democratic Party states
in the U. S. Senate.
So it would seem that those who advocated two North
Carolina votes in the Senate, rather than votes which
cancelled out one another, have won their point.
federickOTHMAN
WASHINGTON. Having spent
thTTBCv gnawing the end of my
pegSuwhile the statesmen worried
sbre* 1 4ww ate they ever going to
oHMjrkU the billions in taxes Mr.
- -la 1 h * d * n idea '
CUyTtoi down to where a fellow
can jalford to pay 'em. Then he'll
* Any up without a whimper and
wtfDoWl need 84,000 tough Fed-
HT eral agents to twist his right, or
pocketbook, arm. Thereby saving
OTOrtvts a few hundred million in
wdSflTfor the cope.
about this, or course
MfTfolution is too easy. So long
as the management spends 285,000,-
280,000 a year, we’ve got to collect
almost that much from voters. This
is like squeezing turnips. Gets
tougher all tbe time.
Results in crooked tax collectors
making deals with crooked tax
payers. Brings on stories about in
vestigations. free mink, coats, shake
downs. and firings of the mighty.
Causes the President to figure out
a reorganization plan taking tax
collectors out of politics and putting
P 'em under Civil Service. Sends up
to the hill the two honest Johns,
Engder and Dunlap, to explain to
theCQPgressmen what they hope
B . i«*-8toe» they were in the gold
drijped sanctum of the Ways and
Treasury ‘ V Snyder
'.Jt£ HOGS
and the bald-headed revenue com
missioner Dunlap, telling how the
new deal in the revenue bureau
would eliminate the scoundrels.
The trouble, as they have dis
covered, is that the more money
you try to wring from a taxpayer's
wallet, the more fishhooks he's
likely to put in his pocket.
Things have come to such a pass
now that millions of taxpayers
simple don’t pay up on time. Sny
der, Dunlap and Co. figure that
this year alone they will have to
write out special delinquent tax
notices for 18,353.080 people. This
takes time. It costs money.
As of now the Treasury has
57,000 tax collectors on the pay
roll. It wants to hire 7,400 more
so they can ferret out all the gents
with nonexistent grandmothers
listed as tax exemptions. It figures
that each new agent investigating
tax returns pays his wages 10 times
over.
The trouble Is that 64,400 reve
nue agents is an awful lot. Equal
to the population of any of a
number of cities, such as Dear
born. Michi., Cedar Rapids, Ia„
Decatur, 111, and St. Petersburg,
Fla.
In other times, when the average
man almost considered It a pleasure
to pay his taxes, collection was M
problem. As Snyder said, the col
lectors just took the money, said
thanks, and sent u along to Wash
ington Now they’ve got to pry it .
out in many cases with legal crow
lo&rs. /
He told the lawgivers he did be
lievethat the rw-ga^xatlcr
that the Preside*! J
These Days
Sokdiklf
A VIOLENT CAMPAIGN
/
A short trip between New York
and Texas is not a conclusive tour
J’ of investigation. Yet, one can catch
' the atmosphere of the moment,
because curioqsly. the divisions in
the population are similar in dif
ferent parts of the country.
Clear is the general unpopular
ity of the President. He is more
. unpopular in Houston, Texas, than
in New York City. His unacoepta
btlity is as articulate among Demo
crats as among Republicans: among
- taxi - drivers, Pullman porters.
1 hourly laborers as among bankers
and business men. Democrats.
. wherever I met them, felt that he
had let the Democratic Party down.
I found considerable MacArthur
sentiment. In fact, those who sup
port General MacArthur for Pres
ident are surprisingly fanatical and
refuse to believe that he will not
run.
The Eisenhower boom is vigo
-1 rpus and active. Eisenhower ad
■ herents are found everywhere and
Often they are among the most
prominent citiaens. Many news
papers that ordinarily would sup
port Taft or Truman are far Eisen
hower.
One difficulty that faced this re
porter. however, was wonder as to
how many of those who are so
; vehement in their insistence
ISisenhower are not men and wo
, men who have heretofore supported
the New Deal and therefore are
seeking, on the Republican ticket,
. someone who is less Republican
than he should be.
I raised that question and found
many answers. One was that that
is precisely why Eisenhower should
be nominsded; that he would at
tract so many Democratic and
New Deal votes that he would surely
be elected. This is regarded as a
particularly potent argument a
mong those who are so anxious to
rjd the country of Harry Truman
tjjat they frankly admit that they
Would vote for anyone who oould
accomplish that. e
Another answer is that if Eisen
hower were elected on the Republi
can ticket, he would owe hit elec
tion to that party and any personal
affiliations with New Dealt* and
B uoiaidtos - toon IP (ttuhipM at
the assumption of party leader- .
ship-
Among organisation Republicans,
the sentiment is strongest for Sen
ator Taft. They argue that they
have stood by their party through
all the hard times since 1222 and
that in a year when there is a
cfaanoe to win. they have no in
tention of letting the election go to
an outsider who has bad no prior
evident relationship to the party.
In all the years that I have
watched pre-convention campaigns,
I have never encountered such vio
lence of expression and sentiment
M among the partisans of Taft and
•tsenhower. It is doubtful that the
decision of the convention will
Wipe out these emotions and pre
judices.
Degrees are, of course, hard to
measure and one has to go by ear.
but it is obvious that Robert A.
T»ft has won a place among those
Who like a fearless and competent
to* A Were it not believed that “he
tomitrt be elected.’’ his would not
be a difficult candidacy. But that
Argument is being used vehemently
by his opponents. Taft has an ad
vantage over Eisenhower from tbs
Standpoint that those who vote for
delegates to the convention are
stronger for Taft than for Eisen
hower.
Among Democrats, such candi
dacies as those of Estes Kelauver,
pr Chief Justice Vinson, or Brten
McMahon are not mentioned. The
general assumption is that Harry
Truman will run and will wage an
aggressive campaign.
An Englishman of some stature
Said to me that the apathy of the
American voter astonished him. If
lewer than 90 percent of bis awn
constituency came oat to vote, R
would be a disappoint,meat. On the
other hand, a SO percent vote hen
would be considered high.
I tried, on this trip, to engage
traveling soldlen in conversation
and found that they -“rr uirefl
many subjects but rarely the can
didates, which led to an Inquiry
on ms part, as to their political dif
fidence. The significance of these
conversations was that young people
I their age felt that it did notSti
Mr much who is elected.
i I found this apathy among a
group of college girls meet of
Whom felt that polities woe «
to time. It was bard not
to ato them what they were doing
• ***** of time - but
I-set it go.
This is no poll and is not offered
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TOR DAILY RECORD, DUNN. H. CL
—Tlte
IWmr \nil ILL
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“It's SO delightful to hear little boys working at some-, i
thing constructive!”
A qi» WSMHGTM
MERRY-GO- ROUND
Sc.. r, By »«1W HAttOH
WASHINGTON. Though price
administrator Mike Di Salle has
bucked all sorts of discouragement
in his battle to hold down prices,
he has never lost his unquenchable
humor. •
The other day he called up hand
some, unhumorous Sen. Jbhn
Bricker of Ohio, Republican, and
the following conversation took
place:
“Say. I was thinking about run
ning for your job.” announced Di
Salle. ”1 just wanted to ask how
you like it.”
Flabbergasted, Bricker hesitat
ed. finally said:
“I didn’t like it very much at
first, but I've got so I like it now.”
“Maybe I should try to take it
away from you,” joked Di Salle,' and
after a few more pleasantries, hung
up.
MORE TAX SITUATION
Though Howard McGrath has
talked his way out of resigning as
Attorney General, the Justice de
partment has not moved regarding
the unique fact that one of Frankie
Costello's companies has hired a
17. S. attorney.
The U. S. attorney is Lester
Luther of Kansas, who became the
resident agent for the Rean Oil
Co., of , Russell Hans., owned by
Lafry oKnohl. the tax fixer, and
gsanbler Frankie Costello.
Undoubtedly Luther got into the
operation without knowing what
the score was. He was asked by
Knohl, before the latter made
headlines, to organise an oil com
pany in Kansas for him. And
since U. 6. attorneys are permit
ted to handle non-government mat
ters, he did so. Furthermore, he
continued to serve as Kansas agent
tor the company even after KnoM’s
name and picture was headlined All
over the nation as having tried to
fix the Friedus tax case and for
having arranged a 85,000 airplane
commission for Lamar Caudle.
Last month, and only after the
internal revenue collector in New
York asked U. 8. officials in Kan
sas to file tax liens against Knohl,
did Luther say that he would re
sign immediately.
The Justice Department, when
quired. said it knew nothing about
the matter. It would seem, however,
that the Justice Department would
not only ask Luther to explain the
matter, but also examine all other
outside connections of all other
U. S. attorneys.
Note Knohl and Costello own
several oil leases in and around Rice i
County, Kansas. Costello's share
cutib;
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i a year.
—SPLIT COMMAND—
! One factor influencing the final
Churchill-Truman decision against
a British naval commander for
the Atlantic fleet was some of the
split-command experiences in World
War 11, especially the battle of the
Java Sea.
There, Admiral Tommy Hart at
first commanded the Allied fleet,
but was relieved following Dutch
protests that while Hart maneu
vered, the Japs built up their fleet.
Replacing him, a Dutch admiral.
Conrad E. L. Helfrich, took com
mand.
Under the Dutchman were Rear
Adm. William Glassford. U. 8. N.,
Rear Adm. Francis Palliser com
manding British units, and Rear
Adm. Karel Doorman, who com
manded at sea.
However. Admiral Doorman, a
heroic officer, was not experienced
in commanding a large fleet; so
When the Exeter, struck in the
engine room, was forced out of
line, Doorman turned out of line
with her. This was the signal for
every other ship to turn out of
line, after which there was no
unity of action. >
Dutch, British and U. S.
ships scattered, became thevpftjy
of bands of Jap destroyers. It was
a tragic defeat.
After the battle, British Admiral
Palliser announced he was with
drawing ail British units immedi
ately. ,
“But,” remonstrated Admiral.
Helfrich. “yoqr orders were to 6erve
under me.”
“My orders,” replied the British
comander. “are to serve under
you until the situation becomes
hopeless.”
“And what do you propose to do.
Admiral Glassford?” Helfrich ask
ed.
"I remain at your service,” re
plied the American.
This and other wartime exper
iences have made the admirals ex
tremely leery of foreign naval
commanders.
FOR AND AGAINST DEMOCRACY
HOW NOT TO MAKE DEM
OCRACY WORK "lron Curtain”
Congressman Heller of Brooklyn re
fuses to let the Senate know about
bis committee’s probe of the Sec
urities and Exchange Commission.
Heller doesn’t seem to realize that
the House and Senate are not like
West Europe and Russia; that time
Is the most precious thing Congress :
has; and that the “Iron Curtain”
Walter
Winchell
In
New
York
BROADWAY MIDNIGHT
Celebs About Town: Betty Hut
ton, beautified by the most golden
of suntans, delighting the Laßue
crowd with her dance-floor abandon
Henry Hull, the star, getting
Bis mustache reddzned in a 57th
Street shop .... Helen Hayes, an
authority on the subject, leading
the appiaadience to salute the ac
ting of Kath Cornell in “Constant
Wife” . .. The Dick Powells (June
A Hyson) decorating the Le Ruban
Bleu ringside Judy Holliday’s
hideaway. La Boche (in Green
wich Village), where she uniaxes
in dungarees, flat heels, no makeup
and mink ooat Merle Oberou
and Dr. R. Ross hastening out o!
the Laurent to make the plane for
So. America .... Arthur Murray
offering Judy Garland 215,0 M tor
herself and another 15Gs to the
Actors' Fund for a 6-minute TV
job Feb. 3rd.
Sallies in Our Alley: Over at La
Vie En Rose the subject was Eisen
hower and who his running mate
would be “If he gets elected,"
1 someone observed, “he’ll need a
good Vice-President" “Oh, I
dunno,” sarcasm’s another, “FDR
did all right with Truman”
Eleanor Flourney’s capsule criti
' sims of a Hollywood colyumlst:
, "I don't like her keyholier-than
thou attitude.”
Midtown Vignette: Reporters co
vering the Frank Costello trial were
puzzled by the identity of a tan
ned, well-frocked woman, who re
mained' through every session un
til the end This is why she
was in the courtroom .... About 5
years ago Costello (who gets them
by the bushel) received a letter
from a woman he didn't know
Her mother, she wrote, was dying
of an incurable illness—they wrfe
penniless and would he send her
2500? ... At recess the other day
she approached Costello and said:
“I once got 2500 from you by writing
you a letter. I just want to tell you
it paid for an operation and my
mother is still alive. I flew np from
Florida to pay you back and pray
that you win this case” Cos
tello will hate seeing this in print
... It will start an avalanche of
loaches!
Novelette: Warners’ signed Peter
Ortiz, one of the most decorated
soldiu-s of France His heroics
in thfe war were so thrilling, they
are also filming his life story
It wffl be called “The Fighting
Marine" The title role will be
played by Cornel Wilde Hero
Ortiz has been assigned bit parts.
Broadway Tabletalk: Terry Du
gan, the newest chorus beauty at
. the Latin Q. has V?.n. Hathaway,
the Maine canning tycoon, . not
looking - where - he’s - going - in
traffic How tempus fugits:
George Olson, Jr., son of the former
band pilot and headliner Ethel
Shutta. has joined the Air Force
Pamela Anderson, an editor
at Good Housekeeping, becomes
Mrs. Robert Wolfe (he’s the ad
agency exec) soon Truman
Capote’s new play, “The Grass
Harp” (based on his book), will
cost 2100,000 to stage Joyce
Stewart, once in the Copa chorus
(and in Mickey Mantle’s heart),
married the Copa lounge Mgr. yes
terday After a dozen years
backer* of the “Life With Father”
rec. another plump dlvidend-bigger
than their original Investment The
other performance when Viven
Leigh couldn’t go on as Cleopatra
—Oliver made a tender speech
explaining the understudy would
play the role. Not a patron asked
for refund.
Nice Place to Visit Dept: J. Gold
stone, President to the imperial
Pearl Syndicate, donated a gown
valued at 2120,282 to the Runyan
Fund ... H has MOAN cultured
pearls ... He and his wife «■. to
New York the other day from his
Chicago headquarters to attend a
swank affair at which this gmrn
of pearls was model’d by Glaria
Swanson before newspaper people
The party was a Mg success
—and Mr. G. jras very happy ....
Because he had done -"rthrr coed
deed to help people In tostres,
Bnt his happiness didn't Into very
feag ln a cab with his brother
•n the way uptown eneltirr cab
crashed into theirs .... They are
at Lenox HUI Hospital with all
torts to concussions, plus broken
fee*. <
he has rung down between the
House and Benate over the mere
exchange of information will cost
the Senate’s Fulbrtght Committee
thousands of dollars in time that
could have been saved.
HELPING TO MAKE DEMO
CRACY LIVE Col. Francis Oafe
rtoki and the OH City Newspapers
for adopting 388 Korean orphan Tat
Yang Joo Chainan Colonel
Gabreski, one of the great air aoca
of World War H, is new oomman
dtog the Afet Fighter Interceptor
KtaHwaunqS
and appealed to his “Old Hoare
Town," Oil City Pa., to help out
aswwaraa: !
and ■
wrer ttoTooußtw. brotherhood
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FRIDAY AFTERNOON, JANUARY 55, 195?
The Worry CHnic BW|
rwH I©
By DB. GEORGS W. GRANT L |pTjfmfH I
Roger’s parents are feuding
over his custody. Use the objec
tive rating scale below (or deter
mining which divorced parent
should have custody of the child.
- Notice how I have attempted to
n evaluate some to the paycholog
e leal factors.
“ CASE C-353: Lana M.. aged 33. is
* a divorcee with a boy, aged 10.
B “Doc is trying to get sole cus
tody of Rogers," she Informed ihe,
_ “and I wish you would be willing
to testify in my favor at the hear
t in 8 ”
„ Doc and Lana are acquaintances
s of mine. I tried to persuade Lana
. not to get the divorce originally, at
3 least until she had moved into
p a little apartment and lived away
„ from her parents a year, for she
4 and Doc had never lived alone.
r Their marriage nad thus never
y had a fair chance to sucoeed,
r especially since Lana was an only
e child of doting parents.
V But Lana refused to give her
marriage an adequate chance, even
a for the sake of her boy.
Five years have elapsed. Doc has
e since married a charming woman
” and now has a young son by this ,
a second wife. He has also asked !
I me to testify in his behalf at the !
I forthcoming hearing.
DIVORCE FACTS
Divorced couples usually become i
: jealous of each other and vindictive. ]
Doc says that Lana doesn't let ;
him see his son as per schedulfe. 1
■ If he is to get him at 10 o’clock i
c on Saturday morning, Lana doesn't
- give up the boy till 10:30 or a quar- 1
- ter of eleven. (
Lana, In turn, accuses Doc of un- i
e duly spoiling the boy and not bring- :
3 ing him home on time. Each is
» right, but a vicious circle is develo- i
r ping, for the longer Lana delays on 1
Saturday morning, the later Poc i
f holds the child. I
e They have reached the dcplor- i
r able state of trying to cheat each
r other out of a few minutes of i
: Roger’s time, meanwhile employing si
f ■■■ 'to' 1 ■■■■■■ - '■ i. I——————
4 > jMv By America's Foremost [
1 |t ''. Porsonal Affairs Counselor c
. GIRL HOPES TO FIND SOME
. BOOK THAT WILL HELP HER
, UNDERSTAND FIANCE’S IDEA
THAT HE OWES HIS MOTHER
. WHO HAS A HUSBAND, THREE
; FOURTHS OF HIS EARNINGS
DEAR MARY HAWORTH: I
. would appreciate your recommend
: ing a book, or books, dealing with
> the responsibilities and moral ob-
I ligations of parents to children,
. and of grown children to parents.
■ I -am interested in studying this
, subject, as a means.of better un
[ derstanding the attitude of my fi
, ance and his family.
j John and I are In our middle
twenties and we are trying des
perately to save money, in order
. to marry. John's mother was left
a widow, and she has had more
] than the average struggle to raise
her family. She has married again,
! and expects John to assume his
. share of family responsibility, by
| contributing three-fourths of his
meager income. I might also men
tion that he owes nearly one thor
sand dollars to a brother, borrow
. ed for tuition while he was In col
-1 lege
My fiance’s attitude is that h»
mother’s sacrifices on behalf of the
children were worth far more than
the contribution expected of him.
1 And despite the fact that he loves
' me deeply, he feels that his moral
1 obligation to his mother makes It
necessary to postpone our mar
-1 riage (or a period of three years,
or maybe longer. Thank you sin
-1 eereiy far whatever suggestions you
> may offer, to help me understand
their viewpoint. E. G.
STRECKERS’ BOOK .
AFFORDS INSIGHT
DEAR E. O.: In all probability
the best introduction to the aUi- i
tude of John's family will be found
in Dr. Edward A. Streeker’s book
“Their Mothers’ Sons” (Lippincott),
a psychiatric study of momism,
and its frustrating effects on the i
Times Sq. Ticker: In “Main 84. !
to Singapore,” Capt. B. Grenfell i
of the Royal Navy says: ■ “No re- ,
asonably >informed person can now (
believe that Japan aide a Titian
tons, unexpected attack on the U. ,
s.” Onowlookahere! Horn- |
Mewing by metarule ap to 3 a. ,
re. on Park Avenue in the totter j
5Ts b driving residents whacky )
*SZZ?SSf2£ TSKi
About 35 percent refused. Unions ,
ha<*ad there ap .... Rawsraal an- i
Ktoneaa an Rfcb (Ms: CeatoiU gets <
Sstrjir-JS 1
ln>T "7* ““ ’
Ural mhb .... Marian ~—i*- i
apparently to helping to .pms- j
totont tola next movie, “Flea Zap- t
ate. Tamed up at **** Bine tmd r
their sod as the hapless bone of
contention over which these two
humans are marling like ordinary
dogs of (he street.
CHILD CUSTODY
Ordinarily the courts hold ttia\o
the influence of the mother is more
important in the life to a child than
is that of the father. This is sound
psychology.
Let me show you how I have afe
rived at a tentative rating of tne
pros and eons in the present feud
between Lana and Doc.
Lana still lives with her elderly
parents and would take her son
there to grow up with three adults!
Doc. however, oould give him a
good stepmother, plus a younger*
half brother to help extrovert his
attention. ,j
So I would now testify In sup
port of Doc, as regards the best in
terests of the boy, and here M
why.
Arbitrarily I shall allot 100 points
of credit for a good mother. Bey
cause the father isn’t in such in
timate and constant contact with
the youngster, I grant only 75
points even for a superlative father*)
A good stepmother, however, oer
tainly should be worth 50 points,
and I fell that the extrovertive
value of another child in the home
is worth 50 points.
Even excellent grandparents us
ually rate only 25 points apiece
Lana can thus give her son 100
points, plus 25 for his
Influence, plus 25 for his grand
mother’s, making a total of 150.
Doc, can give him 75, plus 50
for a good stepmother, plus 50 fM#v
the younger half brother, thus
making 175, -so I feel that Rog£jj
will be somewhat better off these.
Besides, his pride will then be
shielded, for his classmates will not.
be so likely to know his parent;
are divorced. They will probably
think his stepmother is his real
mother. .
And this will help the boy “Cover
up” the divorce, thus protecting his
social ego. „
I ’T-l P'l'WtoMHy :
lives of progeny, particularly mawr 1
children.
It is significant of mom-type reari- 5
ing. I think, that John feels IrfJl
delibly conscious of a top-priorltjr‘
moral obligation to repay principal
plus-interest on his mother's pasY
devotion—in sacrificial disregard iff;
other relationships and potential;
loyalties in his life. And this de|u‘
pite the fact that she has a hus“‘
band and other children, who ptd'-‘
sumably are as “liable” as he,
the maintenance of her peace ts“
mind and general security.
Fundamentally, the mom-mother
is psychologically immature, and 7
this is the source of her impbeft
dependency-claims to perennial ftf*
ial care. She suffers from iwandicS
ata feelings of inadequacy and self
concern in the adult role; and un
consciously resents any weight of
routine responsibility for other?'
welfare. Because these fretful sen -
timents are at work in her “mpyu
thering” performance, she invoi-iV
un tartly and indirectly indoctrkbr.
ates her children with an tns&.‘-
fable sense of guilt about the burV.
den they are to her, in minor years'^
And it is this residual deposit of
contrition in their aoulc that keepi ,
them striving endlessly to make,
atonement for their existence,
relation to her.
GIRL MUST FACE ii w
A HARD CHOICE
From the mature, setf-rehapU.
view—which characterizes the MktltflP
personality—parents “give” Use tefo
children, and enhance the gift
further bestowing maximum oifrv
portunity (commensurate witji
family' circumstances) to develop,
into responsible, productive indi r <
viduato in their turn.
ed parents don’t “Invest” them*?
selves in children, purportedly giv
ing their “all” in bargaining ex#
pectation of becoming paid-up
wards of the children’s bounty in
later years. Rather they tend tmi
accept family production as 00*3
aspect—or a by-product—to a nor
mal lifetime’s experience; and to
look to themselves,, net to their
offspring, for enduring social res-,
tenance.
In my opinion, John wiH
a handicapped personality to
riage, whether he marries now or
years from new. while Ids motM#*
is alive. Because obviously bis mot’"
ther intends to retain his first dp’
legiance; and manifestly he Is con-'-'f
rationed to defer to her, witbet#'
examining (much fees discarding
the emotional complex that cWf
tools his compulsive obedience to*
her will. v -
Thus your problem in relation to
John comes back to the gtototto^
his involvement with family ihate^