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Every afternoon, Monday through Friday
Waste Creates Corruption
-- Defenders of the proposed Federal budget frequently
r challenge critics to point out specific places where sub
- stantial cuts can be made without weakening essential
: government activities. And sometimes they get away
; with this challenge, for the reason that the budget is
. so complex that the average man can hardly make head
or tail of it.
Luckily, however, there are experts who can read and
analyze even an $85,000,000,000 budget, and find out
where money would be needlessly squandered. One such
- expert is Senator Byrd, who has specialized in fiscal
"matters during his whole public career. The Senator has
'submitted a detailed, step-by-step trimming program
- which would reduce the budget as a whole by the huge
I sum of $8,600,000,000. Other individuals and organiza
tions have also presented detailed analyses showing
where the budget can be reduced by comparable amounts
- —without eliminating or in any way weakening “neces
sary” government undertakings and policies.
■ These cuts take various forms. Some are simply de
signed' to rid the government of routine administrative
wa£,e, resulting from duplication of effort, inefficient
purchasing methods, excesses of red-tape, and so on.
Others go farther and would prevent the government
from spending our tax money on jobs that should and
can be done by private enterprise. These last would do
more than just save money, important as that is—they
would be a barrier to the blight of state socialism that
has grown like a fungus over the past 20 years.
A wasteful government inevitably becomes a corrupt
government—as recent sordid revelations of scandals
and graft in high places hae proved. And a corrupt gov
ernment can destroy a nation. All the signs indicate that
the American people are awakening to that fact at last.
We Need These Taxpayers
There is one little matter the drum-beaters for social
ized electric service always try to sidestep. It’s what
happens when taxpaying enterprise is supplanted by
tax-free, tax-eating enterprise.
As a good example, take a California power and light
company, Pacific Gas & Electric Co. This concern pays
$2 in taxes every time the clock ticks. Last year, its total
taxes were close to $66,000,000, which works out to
something more than SIBO,OOO for every day of the
year
T3xes are the company’s largest single item of operat
ing-expense. In 1951, they exceeded by over $14,000,000
the-payroll for all employes save those engaged in con
struction. And they exceeded by more than $25,000,000
the total paid in dividends to the 188,463 people who
-own the company.
I utility pays property taxes in 48 of the state’s
58 counties. And tn several of the counties it pays over
-50" per cent of the total taxes collected —that is, more
than all the other taxpayers combined.
• All over the United States power companies, regard
less of their size, are among the largest and most de
pendable taxpayers. On the average, substantially more
-than 20 per cent of all the money these utilities take in
Igoes out for taxes. Every time they improve and expand
•their facilities new taxable assets are created—and every
lunit of government, -from the village to Washington,
;D. C., benefits financially.
- Contrast this with socialism, which levies heavier and
"heavier taxes on the people—and destroys our liberties
with our money!
Frederick OTHMAN
WASHINGTON. Old friend of
mine in Pittsburgh has a son I
hadn't seen since he was wearing
socks and Buster Brown suits. So
•the son married the most beautiful
girl In the world and headed for
Washington on his honeymoon.
He and bride never saw such a
place. There were so many people
they hardly even got a glance at
the cherry blossoms. So they star
red looking for a room. None to be
•had. They phoned me and I was
]out somewhere listening to law
givers yammer.
Next they called the lobbyist here
for a steel company; used to know
him in Pittsburgh. He was an in
fluential fellow for sure’. He got
'em into our biggest hotel for the
night. The clerk said there'd prob
ably be a cancellation the following
day and not to worry.
They took a sightseeing tour,
after some trouble finding tickets
for that. Got back to the hotel and
the man said he was sorry but
they'd have to move. Too many
reservations for the same bed. All
the qtßer hotels also were as crowd
ed as., concentration camps.
: The steel man wished he could
take him in at his house, but he
jUready was full qp wjth
' impS couldn't rent •'rooms. I wishes
Jttp. but saw 'guest room also was
Mlftto. ; 9?h# IMmaynyooners regret
ifpUy shoved igf for ihe ,Wesi. Some
■
all iw days hspej our', town
fwr'j'iriir ** en: f dmmed - with
fjttfatfs. The sightseeing buses park
Biglouhfe lines on Capitol HUI. at
•f
f the Washington Monument, and at
I Mt. Vernon. The Federal buildings
r are clogged with callers suffering
? from the peculiar tenderness that
1 comes to feet tramping on marble
r floors.
Even ti.<- Oeuators. who only a
1 few weeks back were orating be
! fore nearly empty galleries, now
t have S. R. O. audiences. Most of
• our restaurants have lines of the
: hungry waiting for seats.
; The hardships for a tourist with
■ out iron-clad reservations are con
siderable. but I must report that
: a visit here now is worth the effort.
r I don’t believe Washington ever
' has been so beautiful.
; Flowers all over the place, in
■ eluding those late-growing, orange
■ colored tulips the Dutch sent over
! to cheer up their Queen. The
landscape artists who went to work
• at the White House after the build
• ers got through with their $6,000,000
1 remodeling job were bell ringers fp~
- sure. The turf looks like it had been
' there a century; you'd never guess
I that the mighty boxwood bushes (
around the front were installed oniy (
a couple of weeks ago. The place ,
I is so doggoned magnificent it hard
: ly looks real: squint your eyes a (
\ little and you’d think you were ,
> looking at a picture postcard. ■
i All this . salubrious atmosphere ,
I guesss is impressive largely he
\ ,cjuse til .is >so brief. In another i
> eaujke of weeks dbr town gets hot
.and stays that way. MBdeW comes i
on the shoes in the’ eloiets and J
anybody ta my business who writes ’
a piece about frying ap egg on <
Pennsylvania Avenue gets a pljin- I
These Days
CROSBY ON THE FBI
Men do get excited on these tele
vision panel programs ami say
, more than they planned to. So it
seems that John Crosby, the radio
and television expert of the New
York Herald Tribune, got all ex
cited on the "Author Meets the
Critics” program, which these days
booms with controversial inepti
tudes.
His desire was to denounce his
opponent. Ted Kirkpatrick of
■'Counterattack” and "Red Chan
nels.” which is anyone’s privilege.
Instead Crosby walloped the FBI.
to which service Kirkpatrick once
belonged. Crosby has since apol
ogized for so heated and careless
a remark as this:
"Everybody was in the FBI dur
ing the war. It was away of get
ting out of the army. We have
copy boys on our paper who were
in the FBI during the war.”
On September 6, 1939, to the
FBl's duties in the criminal field
was added the responsibility of
guarding the internal security of
the nation. This required a rapid
build-up of its forces, which could
not be done with a lowering of
qualifications, as that would defeat
itself.
No man could serve in the FBI
who had not been especially train
ed. Once appointed, the new agents
were sent to the FBI Academy,
located on the Marine base at
Quantico, Virginia. Here they were
given an intensive course of in
structions. Classes were from nine
in the morning until nine at night.
Already qualified as lawyers or ac
countants or college graduates with
specialized skills, they were train
ed as expert investigators and they
qualified as experts in firearms—
the Thompson sub-machine gun. the
rifle, the shotgun and the pistol.
A daily class in athletics training
kept them in trim.
When war came, these men were
engaged in tasks which were an
essential part of any war, namely,
guarding against espionage, sabo
tage, subversion. They were de
ferred from the armed services be
cause they were actually doing war
work. General Lewis B. Hershey,
director of the selective service sys
tem. issued this memorandum on
the subject:
'The Federal Bureau of investi
gation is charged with the respon
sibility of investigating all viola
tions of Federal statutes, and has
further been charged with respon
sibility in matters pertaining to
the national defense, including
espionage, sabotage, and subver
sion. As a part of its duty the
bureau receives and maintains ex
tensive fingerprint records. In the
present national emergency’ the du
ties of the Federal Bureau of In
vestigation will become more ex
tensive and will assume an in
creasing importance. It is consid
ered essential to the national
health, safety, and Interest, and
to the national defense that the
functions of the Federal Bureau
of Investigation should not be im
paired by the removal of trained
personnel from critical positions
with the bureau.”
Even to intimate that these men
were draft-dodgers, slackers, or
anything of the sort, is stupid non
sense and represents the kind of
wild thinking so characteristic of
all ad hominem arguments. In fact,
FBI men were regarded as so im
portant in their work that they
were required to give up any re
serve commissions they held. In
March, 1952, the Secretary of War
issued this order:
"In view of the fact that your
civilian employment in the Fed
eral Bureau of Investigation, Unit
ed States Department of Justice, is
of such a vital nature to the na
tional defense as to necessitate your
remaining at your post of duty,
despite the fact that you hold a
reserve commission in the United
States Army, I request that you
submit, through proper channels,
your resignation from yoUr com
mission.
“I am making this request be-*
cause of my knowledge that the
services being rendered by you to
your government in your present
employment are of great value to
the war effort. The personal risks,
the hazards and the sacrifices
which you are called upon to make
in your daily service in the Federal
Bureau of Investigations are in no
manner or degree inferior to those
you might be called upon to make
in the armed services.”
A similar order was issued by
the Navy.
John Crosby may not like Ted
Kirkpatrick because of “Counter
attack” and “Red Channels,” but
to attack the FBl’s war record, in
the year 1952, is a dangerous sup
port of men and women whom no
American should regard as friends.
The FBI kept this country free
of Hitler's agents during the war:
the FBI can do the same in rela
tion to Stalin's agents.
If you want to know how they
do it. see the motion pictures, “My
Son John” and “Walk East On
Beacon” when they appear in your
neighborhood.
tive call from the Board of Trade
A female author of my acquain
tance wrote last year that Wash
ington wae summer resort
This wa£ a 'fraud. It isn’t. Fact is
even now my wool suit is beginning
to feel sticky,
THE DAILY RECORD. DUNN. If. C.
MISTER BREGER
•ryes, sir! What we breed in this club are CHAMPIONS!”
k Cfte WASHINGTON
diiMERRY-GO-ROUND
tf OtlW MAtSOW
DEAR DAUGHTER
I have been sitting in my hotel
room looking down at the park next
to the Champs Elysees, watching
French children play and thinking
of the many times when I have
been in Paris before. The children
are swinging oh swings, riding on
a merry-go-round, roller-skating,
or sitting on bored and dejected
donkeys which walk the length of
the park and back for 10 francs
per promenade.
It reminds me of the time when
you and Tyler were very small and
we visited Paris. And it also re
minds me of other trips when I
was a lot younger and more opti
mistic about the peace of the world.
The first time I came to Paris
wqg after a great war had been
fought which we thought was to
free the world, when Woodrow Wil
son's virbrant doctrine still rang
in people's ears and they were con
vinced that peace could be with
us permanently.
The next time I came to Paris
was in 1927, en route to the Geneva
Naval Conference which was to
carry out the disarmament goals of
that peace. Your mother was with
me then and we left you behind—
so small you didn’t recognize me
when I returned. But at Geneva.
Bethlehem Steel, Newport News
Ship and other shipbuilding com
panies had hired a lobbyist to upset
the treaty—because they wanted to
build warships. And because the
French, Italians and Japanese were
also not enthusiastic, he succeeded
The next year I came back to
Paris with Frank B, Kellogg, who,
as Secretary of State, had nego
tiated a treaty to outlaw war. I
watched the ceremony of the sign
ing of the Kellogg-Briand Pact and -
got a great thrill—as did much of
the world—over the idea that at
long last it was now illegal to make
war.
SEEDS OF WAR PLANTED ,
My next trip to Paris was during
the London Naval Conference in i
1930—an attempt by a most high
minded Secretary of State. Henry ■
L. Stimson, to curtail the weapons i
of war. But he was not even able to
persuade his isolationist chief in j
the White House—Herbert Hoover
—that we should consult with j
other nations in case war threat- j
ened.
That conference was a tragic |
failure. And with that failure it ■,
seemed to me that the world started i
downhill again—toward war. War ]
does not start easily or quickly, i
The seeds are planted long in ad- i
vance. They do not sprout suddenly l
—as when Hitler invaded Poland in j
1939. They had been planted per- :
haps eight or nine years before
that invasion. And by the next
time I came to Paris they had 1
definitely begun to sprout. t
That was Christmas of 1936. You !
were with me then. But you didn’t ,
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know, any more than the children
playing in the park below my hotel
window today know, that the seeds
of war were already planted.
A sure and certain sign that
they were planted had come in
March 1936, when Hitler’s troops
marched into the Ruhr and Rhine
land. With that vital source of iron
and steel. Hitler had the tools of
war in his hands, and it was only
a matter of time before hostilities
started.
Actually the seeds of war had
sprouted well before this. They had
been nurtured in the soil of de
pression, bank failures, unemploy
ment, hopelessness. The seeds were
really planted when American in
vestors stopped buying European
bonds, thereby ending the American
subsidy which kept Europe pros
perous under Harding and Cpolidge
and which—though paid in a dif
ferent form through the Marshall
Plan—also has kept Europe pros
perous under Truman.
When people lose hope they turn
to war. And the great depression
from 1932 to 1939 had made
Europe lose hope.
MILESTONES TO PEACE
It seems that most of my trips
to Paris have been connected some
how or other with milestones on
the road to or from peace. My next
trip was for the Paris Peacfc Con
ference in 1946, when Americans
generally had great hope for peace
—though Europe was skeptical. That
was when Jimmie Byrnes gradually
saw hope fade—dashed on the rock
of Russian recalcitrance. That was
also When Europe again began to
lose hope.
And when I visited Paris one
year later with the Friendship
Train. Europe was starving, ships
were tied up by mutinous steve
dores, railroads were on strike
communism was on the March,
and I have never seen Paris so
woeful and discouraged.
The Marshall Plan came after
that and, despite some of its faults,
it wrought miracles. Its drive in
the right direction is being con
tinued by Eisenhower and the North
Atlantic Pact. As a result, there
is a note of hope today in Paris.
But, underneath that hope, there
is danger. Eisenhower’s departure
is one danger. Inflation and soaring
prices are another Resentment a
gainst America for forcing rearm
ament is another. Reversing the
disarmament policies of Frank
Kellogg and Henry L. Stimson, we
now tell Europe their only hope is
to rearm. Naturally, people don’t
take this reversal happily—espec
ially when it means higher taxes
and higher prices.
WORLD HANGS IN BALANCE
But the greatest danger in
Europe today is the intense, ex
tremely skillful propaganda of
Soviet Russia against the North
Atlantic Army—especially against
Walter
Winehell
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BROADWAY HEARTBEAT
Celebs About Town: The XI. S.
Senator Brewsters (of Maine) in
the Stork Club, enchanted by the
star-studded scene. . . . Scott Brady
and Dorothy Malone of Hollywood
among the iiandholuers at the 400.
. . . Elliott Roosevelt’s lovely com
panion over the holidays his
grownup daughter from Texas. . . .
Arleen Whalen’s sunset hair and
emcrald-hued gown. . . . Frank
Costello, more concerned over the
newspapers listing his age at 61 in
stead of 57. . . . Critic George Jean
Nathan and actress Julie Haydon
feasting on peeled furters. . . . Bet
ty and Jane Kean, the Copa come
diennes, shop-talking on the 54th
and 6th corner. . . . Gloria Swan
son, in "The Grass Harp” audi
ence, stealing the show from the
cast. . . . Martha Wright of “South
Pacific,” being adored by the crew
on the U. S. S. Wasp. . . . Frank
Sinatra, pacing the Central Park
South pavement, waiting for Ava to
show up.
Sallies in Our Alley: Tallulah
Bankhead tuned in on “The Con
tinental” for the first time the
other night. . . . When he looked
straight into the camera and purr
ed: "Don’t be afraid. Eeet ees only
a man’s .apartment,” Tallulah bari
toned back: 'Tm simply petrified!”
. . . Marlene Dietrich c&nsiders it
one of her pet compliments. As she
walked into a Hollywood studio
commissary, a wag said: "Gee, I
wish I had a grandmother like
that!”
Midtown Vignette: The Robert
Ruarks (of the Colyuming Set) have
some house pets. One is a standard
poodle .... When they came home
from a play they found utter cha
os. .. . The dogs had practically
wrecked the redecorated penthouse.
. . . The Ruarks got slightly hys
terical from laughter, however,
when they saw Mamselle, the poo
dle, sitting in the middle of the
ruins—with a long-stemmed Amer- ;
ican Beauty in her teeth. . . . They
now call her Carmen.
Memos of a Midnighter: NBC
paid Judy Holliday $17,500 to date
but hasn’t used her once this sea- :
son on “The Big Show.” The net
work fears casting her, despite the
fact that Cong. Comm, recently
cleared her. . . . Garbo has a ren
dezvous at Johns Hopkins for sur
gery. . . . That fight Barlon Bran
do was in (with 3 French sailors at
a Paris bistrop) may cost him
$3,000 for wreckage . . . Sharman ■
Douglas and Nick Bjorn have Let
It Cool. . . . Maxine Moore, for
mer show girl, and her rich groom,
Col. S. Sanson (victims of a $350,
000 gem robbery), may lose sheir
marriage, too. ~ . Washington hears 1
that ex-Ambassador Wm. Bullitt’s 1
next will be a French socialite. . . . 1
Dick Cowell's charming decoration ‘
is Barbara Gaylord Cook, dghtr of <
the Mayer of Trenton. . . . The Jack
(CBS) Sterlings are letting it melt.
It was their 2nd Try. ... Adman j
Scott Eddy of the Soc. Register and f
stylist Georgians Rake will try to
$2 window in June. ,
Behind the Scenes: Gertrude ,
Lawrence unveiled this to Berna- ,
dine Kielty. ... It happened when I
the star was playing "Susan and ,
God.” . . . She told producer John -]
Golden that she was considering l
matrimony. . . . "Rut why?” said ,
Mr Golden. "Why you—of all peo
pie. You’re one of the most popu? <
lar actresses, you’ve had a great I
career, you have plenty of money ]
and lots of beaux. Why marry?” i
’ : - “Because,” said Miss Lawrence t
wistfully, “I want someone to <
nudge.”
The Orchid Garden: Jana Jones' [
2 a. m. "Singing the Blues” session f
at La Vie En Rose. . . . Rita Moss’ i
4-octave chirping at the Pomp .
Room. . . . Les Freres Jacques at
Blue Angel.^. . . The new Havana- j
the dread idea of France and Germ- !
any marching together, unified, un- !
der the same flag. The Kremlin *
sees this, as many Europeans do 3
not see it, as the first step toward J
European unity. And the Kremlin l
knows that European unity means <
prosperity, strength, and hope. In ,
that kind of soil, also, the seeds \
of war do not* grow.
That’s why I think the next few c
months—during our elections—are l
so crucial. One more push can 'put ]
across the unified European army E
—and, with it, European cooper&- r
tion. But any number of things can r
stop it—the wrong president of the t
u. S. A., more harmful speeches 1
like Tom Connally’s, a sudden cur- l
tailment of American budgets for 1
European defense, bickering among 1;
our Allies, or the continued success t
of Soviet propaganda. I
That’s why I look down at the •«!
French kids playing in the park and t
wonder whether in 10 or 15 years r
they will still be enjoying life or »
marching bff to war. If they march 1
off to war, my grandsons also
march off to war, and, as General
Eisenhower told me the other day
so will his grandsons. That’s why
the next six months are so all- ,
important. That’s why it’s going to ’
take a lot of understanding and I
patience by the American people li
plus a lot of understanding and a
paflence fey our AlHgs i„ gurope’ 1
to achieve the »great" gbal that t
seems almost within' our grksp. g
With Love From ”‘v ' t
Tour Father. < ; rJB |
TUESDAY AFTERNOON, APRIL 22, 1952
• I
The Worry Clinic
By DR. GEORGE W. CRANE
Notice how I won a wager with
Professor Clyde. “Earned" love
can easily be developed if two
reasonably attractive people of
the opposite sex will just fol
low the psychological rules.
Love may grow so gradually,
you don’t realize you are its
victim until the threatened loss
of your constant companion
suddenly wakes you up to the
real diagnosis.
CASE D-326: Clyde G., aged 27,
was a cynical young college pro
fessor.
“Dr. Crane, women are all alike;”
he spoke positively. “When you’ve
known one, you’ve known them all.
“I never had many dates with
any of them. I’ll admit, but that’s
because I am more interested in
figures that are Arabic instead of
anatomical.
“However, I’m willing to be
shown. If you want me to date
some eligible girl, I’ll follow' your
prescription for a few months and
test your theories.
“If after six month's I am still
fancy free, then you can take me
to dinner and the theater.
“But if I fall in love, then I’ll
take you and Mrs. Crane to din
ner and a show. What do you say?"
DIAGNOSIS
Os course, I said “Yes.” That’s
tile kind of wager I always enjoy.
Since Clyde let me do the choos
ing of his girl friend, I looked a
round among the students in my
larg evening classes where the ages
ran a little higher than on our
Evanston daytime campus.
Then 1* selected an attractive
girl whose anatomical figure might
well distract Clyde’s attention from
the Arabic variety with which he
deals in his profession of mathe
matics.
This girl, whom I shall call Pol
ly, had an engaging laugh and had
also memorized my “Formula for
Being an Interesting Conversa
tionalist.” She was really quite
charming.
“I wonder if you’d mind having
a.\ date with a friend of mine?” I
asked her after class one evening.
LOVE A LA CARTE
"He is somewhat cynical, but
was brought up in a cultured home
by a religious mother,” I added,
“and he isn’t such a bad looking
fellow.
®y America's Foremost
Personal Affairs Counselor
GIRL SUFFERS MENTAL AN
GUISH AS SHE RECALLS HAV
ING BLOCKED MOTHER’S
ASPIRATION TO MARRY WID
OWER.
DEAR MARY HAWORTH: My
father died when I was 7, leaving
just mother and me. We managed
on a small insurance, with mother
working. When I was 16, mother
met John, a nice widower, and
w'anted to marry him, but I was
very upset at the idea, as she had
n’t gone out with men before. I
loved her so much, and feared
I would be thrown down if she
married again. *
Mother tried to reassure me. She
said she wouldn’t have considered
the idea when I was little; but now
I was almost grown and would be
leaving her in a few years to es
tablish my ow'n home and family.
She said she was thinking of me
as well as herself, in contemplat
ing second marriage, and certainly
didn’t want to be a burden to rpe
in her last years. None of this
sank into my head at, the time.
I threatened to leave home and
school, told mother she would be
sorry and never would see me
again if she married John,—and
many other things a jealous 16-
year-old would say in like circum
stances. To please me, she didn’t
marry, and all our friends know
why. John married another woman
in a nearby city. All this was 10
years ago, and mother has aged
20 years since.
Now mother is sick with an in
curable disease and hasn’t long to *
live; and J don’t think I can live
long after she is gone. My con
science hurts. I feel if she had
married and been happy, she might
not have taken sick. How can I
tell her I am sorry, so she will
love me as much as she used to?
And should i ■ find John and tell
him of her illness? Maybe a friend
ly visit from him would cheer her ;
up. Or would it make her worse?. :
Now I am her support, and you
don’t know what I am going i
through, working to pay for her
medical and nursing care. Any ad
vice will be greatly appreciated.— i
T. K. • i
DEAR T. K.:, In the circum
stances, you have’ enough to bear
without borrowing , anguish) frqm j
Madrid revue ft!#* Lao and La .
MlnerVjt . . . The., way Trudy Rich- l
graSSr. ;
ton’s hell-raising at
at Case Society ItyWJ*- 1
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“I should like to have you keep
him at arm’s length but turn on all
your oomph and applied psycholo
gy,” I added with a smile.
Polly knew what I meant, for I(J
had discussed “earned” love vei
sus love at first sight, in a lecture
in Social Psychology the previous
term.
Well, that was the start. After
the first date, I saw Clyde on the
campus and inquired how he liked
my choice.
“Not bad,” was his noncommit
tal response.
But I hadn't given Polly an “A”
grade in my psychology courses
without realizing that she knew/T.
how to apply what I had taught
her.
And she relished the experiment.
They went to the opera and to the
movies. They went on hikes and
picnics.
“EARNED” LOVE
She made him take her to church,
despite his exaggerated groaning,
meanwhile kidding him into good
humor.
Polly knew the art of using the
bantering tone of voice which peryq
mits a girl to say very serious 1
things without fully committing
herself. For her banter keeps a
man guessing,
Clyde finally took her home for
a weekend visit during one of the
holidays. She met his mother and
father, as well as other relatives.
Then she gave him the acid test!
Regretfully she turned down a few
dates with Clyde, explaining mean
while that she had promised ano
ther man she would be his partner
at the Senior Prom and some oth-V'
er college functions, ' which was
true.
Clyde had begun to lean upon
Polly for his enjoyment and com
panionship. When the emotional
crutch was no longer there, he grew
panicky.
Suppose another man should
steal her aw'ay from him! He was
in torment, •so he bought an en
gagement ring. Polly got the ring
and they took Mrs. Crahe and me
to dinner and the theater to cele-v
brate.
(Always write to Dr. Crane in
care of this newspaper, enclosing
a long 3c stamped, addressed en
velope and a dime to cover typing
and printing costs when you send
send for one of his psychological
charts.)
the past, in the form of pointless
remorse about an adolescent dis
play of blind selfishness. Had you
known better at the time of blocks
ing your mother’s disposition t<r
marry John, you would have done
better, of course.
The sacs that you enforced your
will on her wasn’t entirely your
fault. The framework of your rear
ing, as a half-orphaned only child,
also the pitch of your mother’s
character —soft and indecisive, I
gather—had much to do with shap
ing your proprietary feelings in
relation to her. You were condi
tioned to cling to her as your “one©
* and-only,” somewhat as she had
clung to you, as the sole consola
tion of h,er existence, in her first
years of widowhood.
Unconsciously, without meaning
to, or without considering eventual
results, she had influenced you to
lean ' heavily on her society and
solicitude for a sense of well be
ing. Thus you continued unduly
childish, when more self-reliance
was in ojder, en route to woman--
hood. In a sense, your mother wa“
the architect of your panic at the
prospect of "losing” her to a step
father, in a relationship that you
couldn’t really share.
TALK FRANKLY
WITH MOTHER
Doubtless you would have been
pretty much of an outsider to their
reciprocal devotion, had they made
a good marriage. But if you had
been a hardy 16, emotionally
.abreast of your years, absorbed i©>
suitable social interests—instead or
beirig a mama’s girl—you would
have tolerated the alliance, possibly
with the adventurous hope that it
would bring you certain advan
tages. However, may I also add, as
honest salve to your tortured con
science, that most teen-agers are
disturbed by the thought of par
ental remarriage, or any major
shift in their security arrange
ments. # So your behavior, though
more extreme, was in line witMg
average adoleicent tension. v
Sit down with your mother and
talk insistently about your regret,
since it is on your mind. Don’t let
her silence you; tell her she must
listen and forgive. Say that you
want her to. understand that you
acted in ignorance, without a
woman’s knowledge (then) of Jier
position in - the matter; and now
your heart aches to make amends.
Ask if she would receive John for
a friendly call, because you’d likrv
to apologize to hjfo too, and lean?"
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