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Engineers Wanted
The American Engineer recently carried an article
entitled “The Engineer—Key to Coal Progress" by Repre
sentative Augustine B. Kelley of Pennsylvania, who is al
so a coal operator of long experience. Mr. Kelley went into
some detail as to the opportunity coal mining offers to
young and ambitious engineers. At the end he summed
his views up in these words:
“The coal industry is one of the most progressive
of all industries, both from the standpoint of the mine
operator and the mine worker. The producers of bitu
minous coal are constantly investing in research and de
velopment, and mine organizations welcome new ma
chines and new techniques that tend to increase produc
tivity. Under such conditions, and with the increasing de
pendence that the nation will place upon bitiuminous coal
in the coming years, it is obvious why the young graduate
in mining engineering who joins the coal industry can
look to the future witn confidence and enthusiasm.”
What gives this significance is the light it casts on
the tremendous changes that have taken place in the
coal industry in the last 20 years or so. Many of us still
think of coal mining as an excessively arduous and dan
gerous job, where Lie principal tools are the pick, the
snovel and a strong back. The fact is that modern mining
is accomplished with exceedingly costly and complex
machines, and the miner is the skilled craftsman who
guides them. Along with this, coal has made new safety
record after new safety record and won the unstinted
praise of the Bureau of Mines and other authorities.
Coal is a lively, vital and versatile industry. It looks
to the future, not to the past. And it offers unlimited op
portunities to young men who are qualified and ambitious.
Your Meat Dollar
Many seem to feel that most of the money taken in
by large industries disappears into the pockets and bank
accounts of a small, vaguely-defined group of people
known as “owners” or “stockholders.” This group, the
reasoning goes, is the final recipient of a very substantial
proportion of ail the average family spends for goods and
services.
That belief is sheer illusion. As a general rule, the
money which the owners of a business can keep—the pro
fit—is one of the smallest items in the financial picture.
The meat packing industry is a good example. This
industry is made up of 4,000 companies comprising the
World’s largest food manufacturing group. And here's
what happened to each of the dollars it took in last year
from sales:
First of all. 79 5-10 cents went right out to the farm
ers and ranchers in payment for livestock and other farm
products.
Second, 9 9-10 cents went to the employes, in the form
of wages.
Third, 1 1-10 cents went to government in taxes.
After all these unavoidable bills were paid, 7-10 of one
cent was left on hand. And that 7-10 of one cent was pack
ers’ profit—the “wage” they earned for operating a com
plex and essential business. Put another way, this profit
worked out to about one-third of a cent for each pound of
meat sold. So. if the packers had earned nothing at all
in the way of profit, the saving to the consumer would
have been so small as to be practically invisible in his
budget.
Frederick OTHMAN
WASHINGTON Ah. the irony
gs it. Or would you rather believe
1.000 mothers on what is fit tele
vision fare for their children, or one
Congressman?
Television, as you. doubtless know,
now is under investigation by Con
gress because Rep. Ezekiel Ga things
(Demmocrat. of West Memphis.
Ark.) looked at it and decided its
moral tone was lower even than its
necklines.
What particularly pained the
gentleman was a peanut-butter pro
gram. entitled, “You Asked For It".
You want to see a performing alli
gator. the top of Mt. Everest, a
horse that sings, the interior of an
atom bomb, or a Hottentot drink
ing bottled milk? Just write the
producers and they'll knock them
selves out bringing it to your tiny
Screen.
Way back last winter, a viewer
wrote in that he'd sure like to see
a Samba dancer, dancing the Sam
ba. This was easy for the producers
of “You Asked For It." They de
livered at once.
Well, sir, it happened that the
gentleman from West Memphis
saw this dance on his own TV and
It didn't look like art to him. He
testified that it was the hcotchie
kootch. For the photographers pre
gent he demonstrated, while sitting
down, what he saw. Then he stood
up, with hands clasped behind his
neck, and demonstrated again. The
gentleman is long and lean; the re
sultant photographs were among
the funniest ever printed in a news
paper.
Gathings’ denunciation of "You
a-Iran ir or it” resulted in a full,
formal investigation by the Com
merce subcommittee of Rep. Oran
Harris <D., Ark.) into the morals
of TV. This has been going on for
months. It’s still going on—and here
Is where we came in to meet Mrs.
Winfield D. Smtra, a handsome
housewife of Falls Church. Va.
Mis. Smart told the gentlemen
that she and her fellow mothers
felt that something was lacking in
the TV programs designed for their
tots. So Mrs. Smart, as past-presi
dent of the St. James Parrish Coun
cil, undertook to make a TV sur
vey among 1.000 mothers. She
brought the results along.
They were enough to singe the
ears of some of our leading TV per
formers. The ladies were, sincere
and they were honest. They leaned
over backwards to be fair. Among
the welter cf programs in the early
evening were a few of which they
heartily approved. In particular did
they like “You Asked For It."
This, their vote showed fine, ed
ucational program. It was the one
show for which they allowed their
youngsters to sit up late.
“B-b-b-b-but.” expostulated Ren.
Arthur G. Klein <D.. N. Y.t. “that’s
the performance that brought on
this inquiry."
The blonde Mrs. Smart gasped.
“Yes.” said the Congressman,
smiling, “one of our witnesses, a
fellow legislator, described it for
us. He objected to a dance that ap
peared on this program. It just il
lustrates further the danger of
hasty conclusions."
Rep. Klein didn’t say whose hasty
conclusion. Mrs. Smart, who is a
diplomat, said it may be that some
programs (she didn’t mention which
ones) are good only nine times out
of 10. Then she changed the sub
ject.
She said she did not believe the
lawgivers should worry too much a
bout the kind of commercials shown
to children. Their mothers don’t
worry at all.
“When the commercial comes on.”
Mrs. Smart said, “is when the chil
dren go out for a drink of water, or
something.”
These Days
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TO RECAPITULATE
Since 1933. when the United
States recognized Soviet Russia, the
infiltration mio our government by
Communist agents and emissaries
has been a major political issue.
There is no hindsight about tins:
a voluminous, .factual attack lias
been constant since 1917 when tits
Bolsheviks took over Russia.
The year following recognition,
the Harold \v are ceil i 1934 > was
organized in Washington, consist
ing oi bright young men, mostly
from the Harvard Law School,
whose oDject it was to . gain impor
tant positions affecting government
policy on behalf of boviet Russia
and international Communism. Tney
found it easy to enter the AAA in
the Department ot Agriculture, men
presided over by nenry Wallace,
il must say. in justice, that wnen
Wallace discovered the nature of
this cabal, he boated the gang out
of his department.)
Subsequently, this Harold Ware
group found its way from the Aaa
into other government activities, to
the National Laoor Relations Board,
tne Treasury, the State Department,
etc. Lee Pressman, for instance,
wrote the Wagner Act; wnicn es
tablished the National Labor Rela
tions Board ot which Nathan Witt
became secretary and practically
the head man. Wilt s associate in
Communist activity, Lee P.essman,
became counsel for tiie newly form
ed C. I. O. Pressman and Witt
worked together, so that a govern
ment agency dealing with laQcr
matters and a national labor union
favored by that agency were join
ed together through the coopera
tion oi two Communists.
The La Follette Committee was
leaded with members of the Harold
Ware cell who served as investiga
tors, researchers and counsel. This
committee so slanted an investiga
tion as to provide the Communists
with the data they required for
their propaganda against American
capitalism.
Other members of this group, be
cause of their abilities, such as Al
ger Hiss, Henry Collins. Charles
Kramer. Harry Dexter White, came
to the fore and were perforce ex
posed. ,
The Administration cannot claim
that it was without data on the
subject. It has always had the re
ports of the FBI. an agency that
from the first recognized the. Com
munist menace. Neither President
Roosevelt nor President Truman a
vailed himself fully of FBI facili
ties on this subject. To this must
be added the intelligence reports of
Army, Navy and State Departments
prior to the Marshall-Acheson re
gime. Finally. there were many
books, magazine ar.d newspaper
articles, some written by Commu
nists. others by Anti-Communists
since 1943.
In 1939. Whittaker Chambers ex
posed actual espionage -to Adolf
Berle. who informed Dean Acheson
and President Roosevelt cf the ac
cusation that Alger Hiss, already a
high State Department official, was
a Russian spy. Hiss was promoted
to higher office subsequent to the
accusation and was Roosevelts Far
Eastern expert at Yalta.
On October 23, 1946. Prime Min
ister MacKenzie King of .Canada,
came to Washington with the data
uncovered at the Canadian Spy
Ring investigation. King, gave t.o
President. Truman data on the
American side of the espionage.
Nothing happened.
Meanwhile, the House Committee
on Un-American Activities, organ
ized in 1933, was month after.month
providing items which when taken
together have produced* the pattern
of Communist infiltration into the
lives of our people.
The “Amerasia” case, involving a
vast amount of classified secret
documents (over 1700). taken from
the files of military intelligence,
naval intelligence. Bureau of Cen
sorship. British intelligence, the
OSS and the State Department was
one of the most brazen acts cf es
pionage yet developed. On March
11. 1945, the “Amerasia’’ headquar
ters were searched and the docu
ments found. Involved were Philip
Jaffe, Kate Mitchell. Mark Gayn.
John S. Service. Lieut. Andrew
Roth and Emmanuel S. Larson.
After Alger Hiss was convicted, it
was impossible to disregard the
“Amerasia" case. A Senatorial com
mittee. headed bv Senator Millard
Tydings. was' appointed to investi
gate. in particular, charges made
bv Joe McCarthy on Communist in
filtration into the State Denart
ment. At first. Senator Tydings
seemed to be anxious to do a thor
ough job. However, political exi
gencies drove him to the white
wash pail. Senator Henry Cabot
Ledge. Jr. said of the Tydings Com
mittee. of which he was a,member.
“The investigation must be set
down as superficial and inconclu
sive. The proceedings often lacked
impartiality; the atmosphere was
. too often not, that of seeking to as
certain the truth. The sub-commit
tee’s record is a tangle of loose
threads, of witnesses who were not
subpoenaed, cf leads which were,
not followed up.”
Much more can be written in re
capitulation, but there is no space
here, except to say that under both
President Roosevelt and President
Truman. Communists flourished in
our government.
THE DAILY RECORD, DUNN, N. C.
“Sorry, sir, but we MUST respect the fact that Mr.
Smithers used to be a blacksmith!”
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WASHINGTON. General Eis
enhower’s income taxes, when and
if published, will contain some
small and interesting enterprises
that the public doesn’t know about.
There’s nothing wrong about them,
but the public doesn't ordinarily
think of a five-star general in
vesting in a lipstick company or
a restaurant.
However, Eisenhower has a stock
interest in the “Charm-More" Com
pany which puts out lipsticks. He
was one of tire original investors
when the company was first or
ganized.
He also owns part of a Howard
Johnson Restaurant in Washington.
D. C. Geo-ge Allen, the former
White House jester got Ike into
this deal, along with another fam
ous Democrat, Ed Pauley, the big
California oil man. The restaurant
is located in downtown Washing
ton.
Ike also has his farm in Gettys
burg, which lie bought through
George Allen.
On'y embarrassing thing in Ike's
income tax returns in addition to
the l generous capital sains tax
which the treasury let him pay on
the $1,000,000 received on his books,
is an exemption on his house re
ceived while President of Columbia.
Tn 1948 the General wrote the
treasury asking that his house, plus
12 servants and upkeen not be con
sidered as income since he was
required bv the universitv tn live
there. The ’r-easurv ruled in his
favor, cave '-Im. tax exemption on
his Columbia expenses.
In contra it. the Treasury has
balked at -letting waiters, waitress
es bellhops, chamber-maids who
also may have to live in hotels,
deduct their meals and lodgmrr.
Th«« must be treated as taxable
inc'—’e, except under certain cir
cim’stanres.
For instance, ’waiters in restau
rants do not have to treat as irt
cpme a noon-dav luncheon served
while fhpv arn 0 n duty; b'-t can
not deduct, dinner at the end cf the
dav if served to them when their
work is over.
"Nurses who have, to live in hos
pitals were finally given mo e fav
orable treatrvmt than waiters.,
though only after a long Treasury
wrangle: whereas Eisenhower got
his ruling without any trouble.
The man who cave him the
rulings on both tb» cW”h
saved him abou) 3590.000. end the
house at Columbia; was C’mvles O'i
phnnt. who resigned aft"r bitter
criticism by Republican Congress
men.
NOTE: At. Columbia. Eisenhowe
receiv-d his regular Army pav of
$15,751. • plus three aides or st°n
ograuhers. plus a cay in addition
tn Columbia University remuner
ation.
CUTIES
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HARVARD ADVISERS
The Eisenhower train is far bet
ter organized than Governor Steven
son’s entourage. Little is left to
chance around Eisenhower, espec
ially the advance men who pre
cede the train with banners, signs
and even balloons.
In contrast, the Stevenson party
hasn’t even always arranged for
hotel reservations.
The fact that most of the ad
visers around the Democratic can
didate are Harvard graduates caus
ed Mike Reilly, former White House
secret service man now guarding
Stevenson, to remark:
“Harvard is going to have to start
a new rours" —‘Hew to Select A
Presidential Candidate. ’ ”
MURDER IN MARYLAND
■ There was some frantic backstage
manipulating aboard the Eisenhow
er train as it relied into Mary
land. The General had been tipped
off that Edward Gramme;-, on trial
for murdering his wife, then nut
ting her in a runaway automobile,
would . try to subpoena Eisenhower
as a “character witness. f *
This started some urgent* tTlr
grams to Maryland authorities s°-
ginning at 3 a.m. Finally. Maryland’s
Secretary of State dug up an old
law which held that a man need
not. testify ns a character witness
if he signed an affidavit, that he
didn’t know the defendant. Eisen
hower promptly signed such an af
fidavit and quit worrying about
process-servers.
SNEAK ATTACK
Friends of Senator Kern of Miss
ouri are p’anning a last-minut.e
sneak atta-k on Stuart Symington,
now running against Kem for the
Senate. They will charge that, Svm
ington wa« convicted for stealing
an automobile in Baltimore.
Os course, polities can be pr°tty
dirtv. But the real facts are that
Svmingt.on. when seventeen years
old. went for a ride with two other
boys in a ca" belon'>ine to their
next-door neighbor. That was in
the days when there weren’t so
many automobiles.
the boy who was driving ran the
car into a ditch, the neighbor nat
urally got sore and the three boys
we'-e fined $25 each
However, the neighbo". Harry
Derrey Watts, learning that the in
cident might be used against Svm
ingten in. the Senate race, wrote
him a letter:
“Your father.” he wrote, “one of
my closest friends, immediately got
together with the parents of the
other boys and paid me in full for
the damage. The incident was only
a prank, and it’s absurd that it
could be considered anything else
34 years iater.”
NOTE: One man who really tried
to clean up Washington is Syming
ton—regardless of any joy-riding
in his youth.
Walter
Winch 4* 11
York
BROADWAY HEARTBEAT
Celebs About Town: Joe DiMag
gio, who isn’t secretly married to
Marilyn Monroe (yet) breathless
over the theater-teevy version of
the AVaieott-Mareiano brawl at the
Guild . The Paul Lucas's (one of
the actors with Class) in the Stork
Club Sophie Tucker presenting
Betty Hutton with her original
manuscript (in longhand) of her
life story, “Some of These Days”
Patricia Marand, the “Wish A’ou
AVere Heroine ” swankling by Olin’s
on Central Park West U. S. Sena
tor Homer Ferguson giving Bil-
Table 50 some dignity..
Spencer Tracv and Morton Downey
(Shure a Little Bit of Ireland) in
the Pierre elevator.
Sallies in Our Alley: Some re
porters in Lindy’s last night were
gabbing about the brawl between
this column—and an editor who
onc-e was an official of The Young
Communist League . "WW was
fighting the commies,” said a scribe,
“when that peenk was in knee
pants!” “You mean.” said another,
“when that punk was in kneedeep!”
.. Leo Durocher, guest of the
Friars’ at luncheon, said he read
in this column that one of his team
had flung a bottle at a Negro’s
car ‘ .“It couldn’t have been any
cf my pitchers,” he said. “They
couldn’t hit a car”. Ask the Hud
son River Highway motorcop who
reported it to the 50th Precinct!
Times Sq. Roundup: The David
(Holiday for Strings) Roses (Bet
ty Bigelow) expect their 2nd blessed
adventure .. . Archibald MacLeish
(the frantic poet) is snipewriting
words for Stevenson Jim Piersall,
the Red Sox rookie (he blew up at
baseball fans and got in fistfights),
has been released from Westboro,
Mass. State Hospital, cured . In
siders hear that Pearl Bailey was
beaten up by the brother of one of
her gir! companions that night...
Despite the exciting Waicott-Mar
ciano fight photos and the Nixon
eration in the Wednesday papers,
the 50th St. and B’way newsstands
got stuck with scads of the N. Y.
ImPoster.
Newsboy Novelette: It happened
som4'. time ago . We just encount
ered. jt A publisher
Was revising some editorials in his
apartment one hot, humid night .
He decided to take a stroll around
the block for some fresh air He
went out coatless, no hat, his shirt
opened at the collar, wearing old
trousers and his slippers He walk
ed lialf-a-mile and paused to buy
the midnight editions of the morn
ing papers . “Oh,” he told the news
boy (a kid of about 13) “I left my
money at home”. So saying, he
put the papers back on that stand
. “That's ail right,” said the kid,
“you have an honest face” . “But,”
said the man, ‘you can’t always
judge by a face, you know".. “Well,”
said the lad, “yours looks all right
to me, mister".. This touched the
Old Boy so deeply that when he got
home he phoned one of his top
brass and instructed him to get the
boy’s name and address. “But don't
tell him why!” . Shortly after, that
newsboy was sent to a military prep
academy and then to college .He is
now an officer in the Army He
never knew the name of his bene
factor. William Randolph Hearst.
Benson Methodists
Methodist Group
Convenes In Benson
More than one hundred women
from missionary societies in the
Raleigh district of the Methodist
Conference assembled Tuesday,
September 23, at the Eenson Meth
odist church for the annual sub
district meeting.
Registration of the visitors be
gan at 9:30 and continued until
10 o’clock when the meeting was
opened with the singing of the
hymn. “The Kingdom Is Coming”
and prayer fcy Rev. Ivey T. Pooie,
pastor of the local church.
Mrs. M. M. Person of Louisburg,
president of Raleigh District of
ficers introduced Mrs. H. C.
Turlington, missionary education
secretary, of Dunn, who announced
the program of the day and its
purpose. Home missions and human
rights were discussed and Mrs
Frank Spruill, secretary of youth
work, of Dunn and Mrs. T. A. CoL
lins, secretary of children’s Work, 1
of Raleigh, presented youth and
children’s materials on Missions and
human rights.
Mrs. L. A. Watts of Selma pre
sented the Preface to Bible study
and Mrs. P. C. Perdue, secretary of
promotion, of Louisburg discussed
the value of correlated programs
and the importance of monthly
and. quarterly meetings for detail
ed p’anning of work.
Mrs. L. D. Gill, secretary of lit
erature and publications, of .Wake
Forest was heard in relation to her
work an dthe morning session was
closed with prayer by Rev. Mr.
Poole.
From 12 noon to 1 o'clock lunch
was served in the basement of the
church by members of the Benson
church and immediately there
after -the group re-assembled in the
WEDNESDAY AFTERNOON, OCTOBER 1, 1952
The Worry Clinic |p!pp
tty DK. GEORGE W. CHART | V J
AVhile in Manitowoc, Wis., dur
ing the spring I addressed 1,290
high school boys and girls. They
wanted to know how to carry
on an interesting conversation;
There is a psychological trick
that will help you become a pop
ular conversationalist. Be sure
you learn it. Better paste this
Case Record in your Scrapbook.
By Dr. George W. Crane
Case E-368: Diane D.. aged 17,
is a high school senior.
“Dr. Crane, my problem is very
critical," she began seriously. “But
several other girls in my class are
troubled by it, too.
“When we are invited to attend
a dance or go to a movie with a
boy, we don't know what to talk
about.
“And the boys seem worse than
we are. Do you have any hints on
this subject?
“For it is really very embarrass
ing to sit beside a boy for several
minutes without a word being said
by anybody!”
DIALOGUE TECHNIQUE
Diane’s problem is not limited to
high schoolers. It troubles people
of all ages.
Diane is correct in saying that
the male usually is less talkative
than the female.
The average boy, however, sen
ses that it is his responsibility to
entertain his girl when they are
on a date.
But his conversational skill i$
generally limited. He has only two
or three "openers” for getting their
dialogue started.
“It’s certainly been hot (or cold
or rainy), hasn’t it?" he may say,
as he leads off with one of his
few conversational trump cards.
“Yes, it has,” his girl friend may
tmidly reply, as she fails to pick
up his lead and advance the dia
logue a step further along the road
to easy, effortless conversation.
But the proper dialogue tech
nique involves giving a cue to your
partner bv asking a question.
HOW TO START
CONVERSATION
Launehfeg a conversation is much
like starting an automobile. You
first get it in low gear: then move
it into second and finally into
high.
Even then you must get it up
By America's Foremen*
persona! Affairs Counselor
VOICES RISE TO DEFEND
COLUMN’S PLAIN SPEAK-:
ING; SYMPATHY SEEKERS
WANT TO STAY SICK, SAYS
ONE
DEAR MARY HAWORTH: On
September 9 you published a letter
from a woman who takes you to
task for lacking “humility and hu
manity.” That’s her opinion, voic
ed to a psychiatrist friend, who sug
gested she tell you about it, she
says. I wish to offset her view
with mine, which I am fyre is
more widely held than hers.
Usually I don’t find your col
umns comfortable reading either.
This is because you discern the
pattern of endemic emotional dis
orders behind and beneath the spe
cific problem. Consequently your
insights are a polt to the reader,
as well as the person with the
problem. You hit the whole audience
in a most sensitive spot, namely,
the unconscious. That is why you
are so helpful.
Each time you illuminate our
common unconscious negativisms,
we see the springs of motivation
a little more clearly: and tyie way
is prepared for healthier feelings
to take over. Your searching can
dor could in”ur the dislike of those
who feel “exposed” which includes
most of your readers, of course.
But you are strong enough to
speak the truth (which hurts be
cause it is true)—so that, the read
er willing, improvement may be
gin. In this respect, you show > a
vital concern for humanity.
As for humility, it can be carried
to a fault. I have no use for its
craven aspect, when it says in ef
fect, “If I run myself down, you
don’t need to believe me. and cap
like me better.” Ingratiating hum
church auditorium forth" remain
der of the program. Mrs. H. C.
Turlington, discussed the promot
ion of the total educational prog
ram. A discussion of the missionary
work in Africa was heard after
which Mrs. Paul G. Parker, south
ern sub-district leader cf Erwin
conducted the closing worship ser
vice. the sacrament of service, and
led in the benediction: “Grant, O
Io”d. that what hath been ra’d
with our Ups we may believe with
our hearts, and what we believe
in our hearts we may practice in
our lives, through Jesus Christ
our Lord.”
ANNOUNCE BIRTH
Mr. and Mrs. Jack E. Gates of ,
Roxboro announce the birth of a ,
daughter Rosalie Prince, Tuesday,
10:25 p. ml, September 30 in Watt’s
Hospital at Durham. Mrs. Gates is
the former Rosalie Prince of Dunn.
to 20 miles per hour in order for
its momentum to carry it along _
without perkiness. 9
When a boy valiantly }.ries to
get a conversation into low gear,
you girls should pick up vour cue
and carry it into second. Then pass
it back to the boy who can put it
into high.
If" you . simply. assent when he
comments, “It's certainly been hot,'’
and reply, "Yes. it has,” you have
put on the ..brakes, in effect, after
he has struggled to start the con
versational machine rolling.
So he frantically tries another
conversational lead, hoping you will
finally pick it up.
“That’s a cute hat." he may com
ment. especially if he has read
this column and lias joined the
Compliment Club.
“Thanks, I’m glad- you like it,”
the girl may retort, and again
conclude her remarks with a per
iod. thus putting the brakes on the
conversational machine.
PICK UP YOUR CUE
Instead of thus checkmating
boy friend, try to help him. A girl
who makes conversation easy for
her escort can hold him against
prettier girls who cannot.
“Thanks. I’m glad you like my
hat.” Dianne should reply, “but I
think our tastes are much alike
for I’ve been admiring your tie.
Where did you get it?” (Note the
fadeout with a question mark)
The boy might then state that
his sister gave it to him for his ’
birthday. a
“Oh. I didn’t know you had aW
sister. Do you have any other bro
thers or sisters?” (Another ques
tion mark.)
And soon the boy will be en
gaged in effortless conversation with
you. That will inflate his ego, so
he will want another date.
But always throw him his cues
in the form cf questions, so lie
can re-enter the dialogue easily.
If you wish a full conversational
formula, send a stamped return
envelope, plus a dime. V
(Always write to Dr. Crane in
care of this newspaper, enclosing
a long 3c stamped, addressed en
velope and a dime to cover typing
and printing costs when you send
for one of his psychological
charts.)
ility would be misplaced in your
work. Tlie sick who strive for
health aren’t helped by coddling.
Those who want sympathy want
to stay sick. By sparing vanities m
you want save ego-heaith, and
think you for knowing the differ
ences. You do me. and others like
me—typical readers—a lot of good.
What more can one person say
of another? Keep writing just as
you have in the past. D. R.
FINDS PITY DOESN’T HELP
DEAR MARY ’HAWORTH: I
haven’t had an easV life and have
always found that the sympathetic
friends was never any help to me
—in fact, has a tendency to fill
me with self-pity. , ™
My true friends have seen my
shortcomings and loved me. in spite
of them: and have given me a
good jacking up when I needed it.
This vigorous treatment makes me
a much better and stronger person.
Thank goodness I can take it. Af
ter reading S. D.’s quarrel with
your plain speaking, I am more
grateful than ever for your ob
jectivity. E. B.
PREFERS FACTS TO
SOFTSOAP
DEAR MARY HAWORTH: In
the course of mv life—and I am
now middle-aged—l have been guil
ty cf human frailties and self-be
trayals. Freauent’y I have felt the
need of psychiatric care; but I am 1
convinced that too many persons
in that profession are in a class
with S. D.’s friends—they go all
out to be sympathetic: an atti
tude that may well prolong visits
indefinitely.
There is a owing need in our Q
schools and colleges for psycholog
ical thinking, taught in the straight
forward language that you so ably
employ. Persons who want verbal
coddling aren’t worth helping, as
a rule. Intelligent people struggle
tn achieve maturity and to know
themselves: and when they seek
help, they want facts! not soft
soap, from the exnerts. C. S.
LOVING -KINDNESS
IS THERAPEUTIC
DEAR FRIENDE: Thanks for f
these kind v>ords. Vour advocacy
is appreciated. But let’s not over
look—nor by implication denv—the
limitless therapeutic value of lov
ing-kindness of attitude, when try
ing to promote healing of a sev
erely disturbed individual. As for
S. D.. her attack really referred to
a condition of chronic hostility in
her feelings, and I tried to eive
her insight into her problems. Thus
I had no space left in which to
remark that her purported defense m
of the previous correspondent wasn’t
warranted—as an impartial review
of the text will show. M. H.
Mary Haworth counsels through
her colupin, not hy mall or per
sonal interview. Write her in care
of The Daily Record.
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