PAGE FOUR Wxt jpailai lll tmvfr DUNN, N. C. Published By RECORD PUBLISHING COMPANY At 311 East Canary Street " NATIONAL ADVERTISING REPRESENTATIVE THOMAS F. CLARK CO., INC. 205-217 E. 42nd St., New York 17. N. T. Branch Cfflees In Every Major City " SUBSCRIPTION RATES ST CARRIER. 20 cents per week; $8.50 per year in advance; U for six months; $3 for three months IN TOWNS NOT SERVED BY CARRIER AND ON RURAL ROUTES INSIDE NORTH CAROLINA: $6.00 per year; $2.50 for six months; $2 for three months OUT- OF-BTATE: $8.50 per year In advance; $5 for six months. $8 for three months Entered as second-class matter in the Post Office in Dunn, N. C., under the laws of Congress, Act of March 3, 1879 Every afternoon, Monday through Friday No Reason For Firing The Daily Record has learned that a movement is un derway in the county to persuade the Harnett County Board of Commissioners to fire a county official simply because the official was financially unable to contribute to the Democratic campaign fund during the recent pri mary. It seems that County Auditor Herbert Carson, who is recognized as one of the outstanding auditors in the en tire State, wasn’t financially able to kick in a third of one month’s salary. In the previous campaigns, Mr. Carson had contribu ted liberally. In the campaign before, he gave $l5O to the cause, even though he had to borrow the money to do so. This year, Mr. Carson explained very politely and thour oughly to the campaign worker who solicited him that he just wasn’t able to make a contribution. Mr. Carson, who is not a high paid official, has had a great deal of sickness in his family. Furthermore, he’s still paying for a home which he was industrious enough to build with his own hands. Like many other service men, he was called to arms and therefore unable to accumulate any great savings while serving his country. And now somebody wants to penalize him for doing a good job, for bdng efficient, for giving value for money received. There is no evidence that Mr. Carson was disloyal to the county board or to any other candidate on the Demo cratic ticket, although hundreds of other Democrats in the county saw fit to split their ticket. Mr. Carson dutifully supported the Democratic ticket from top to bottom. It would have been a different story had he gotten out and worked against his party. But that is not the case. We have never been in favor of a political party de manding or extorting money from a person just because that person happens to be on the payroll. We don’t believe in it in politics, in churches or any other organization. It is not the American way of getting along. Contributing for any cause should be voluntary, not mandatory. We believe, certainly, in the old political adage that to the victor goes the spoijs. That is fair and expected in politics. In the case of Mr. Carson, his party and his ticket won. Mr. Carson and any other employee who would have taken time off from his official duties to engage in politics would be subject to criticism from the public. This office, along with the tax collector’s office, the farm agent’s of fice, the tax supervisor’s office and the others should be as free from politics as possible. The opposition to Mr. Carson is not coming frofn the board he serves; nor the taxpayers for whom he works. There is no evidence of any sort that he has been negli gent or unfaithful to his duties. Instead the opposition is coming from a handful of partisans who apparently put politics before principles and just plain common decency. We believe that the people of Harnett County are go ing to rally behind Herbert Carson until there is evidence that he has done something more than failing to contri bute tea political fund. And we believe that members of the county board will consider the matter from the proper perspective. Frederick OTHMAN ACAPULCO. Mexico. l'm be ginning to look like one of Sadie Thompson's boy friends: no shoes, no shave, no ambition. Nothing matters. I'm a. beachcomber at heart and in fact. The liesurely life grows on a fell ow and his wife. More on him, probably, than on her. We have breakfast around noon on our private front poreh at the Caleta hotel overlooking the Pacific; lunch at four, and dinner around 11. Then usually w'e go to bed on arcount of being exhaused from lolling on the sand all day. There’s plenty of night life in this gayest of Mexican resort towns, but a thorough going beachcomber like myself prefers the snore to the samba. When Hilda does insist on a formal evening of dine-and dance, I try to steer her to a surf side night club called the Casa Blanca. Anybody ignorant enough to wear shoes in the first place must check 'em at the door. Dancing here is done barefoot on the hard-packed beach. For light there's the moon and if a cloud passes in front of it, who cares? Dancing in the sand is not like using a waxed maple floor but it works out fine because there is no jitterbugging. That demands too much effort. People usually wear shoes to the other night spots, but they’re still suitable for the masculine beach comber. Most of these places are fancy looking enough to be at Miami Beach (and expensive en ough, too) and the ladies dress in their fanciest strapless evening gowns. First time I attended one, I wore a coat and tie. This was embar rassing. I was the only overdressed man in the place. The rest of the gents were clad in pants, shirts and Mexican sandals. Most of 'em didn’t even wear socks. I soon caught on. Now when dressing for a formal night on the town. I merely put on a clean shirt, with the tails in or out, according as to my mood. Last night, having had a satis factory siesta after breakfast and another longer one after lunch, I ambled over to the Jai Alai Fron ton shortly before midnight. The festivities were just getting start ed. Four young men witli baskets strapped to their right wrists were knocking themselves out on a long court, playing a kind of high-speed combination of handball and ten nis. The ball traveled like a bullet; when one of the players would catch it in his basket, he'd usually heave it so hard against the wall that he fell down doing it. The game apparently was more for gambling than watching. The audience sat in tiers on one side of the court. Down front four small bookies in white suits and red berets, so they couldn’t be mis taken. handled the gambling de partment. Say you wanted to make a bet on who won the next point. You’d signal one of the red tops and he’d toss you a kind of ten nis ball with a slot m it from which you extracted your ticket. This was done on credit; you settled up after the game. So balls were whizzing all over the place and such expert tossing I never did see. This also turned out to be my first sporting event, with full room service. Other men in white suits, but without caps, stood by the crimson-heads. These were the waiters. You signaled them for whatever you wanted, from a bottle of beer to a plate lunch. How a Mexican manages to signal with his fingers that he wants a chicken enchilada with fried beans on the side is a mystery I never fathomed. I signaled for something simple, meaning a jug of dark beer, caught the eye of the wrong man and re- These Days REVOLT OF THE MASSES I suppose everybody and his brother has by now had an opinion on the Eisenhower landslide and as the days pass, new theories will be thrown into the hopper. In re trospect, it is clear that this was not a politicians’ victory but a people's revolt against Korea, Com munism and corruption. The politicians of both parties got into the Korean argument late in the campaign, but the people were not late about it. With 3,500,- 000 Americans conscripted, their parents wanted to know what Korea is all about, and nobody in the government quite told them. There can be no qeustion that as the campaign approached election day. the Korean question loomed largest of all and Eisenhower said that he would go to Korea per sonally even before he assumed the Presidency. Even if he can accomplish little or nothing in Korea during the interim period between November and January, his assumption of responsibility gladdened enough worried mothers all over the coun try to give them some hope that someone would have a new look at the Korean situation. The Democrats never understood the Communist question. In the Roosevelt Administration they had formed a united front with Am erican Communists.* admitting them into the government and forming alliances with them in the big cities. When this united front poured into the Truman Administration with the Alger Hiss case, the Latti more case, the, charges of Joe Mc- Carthy, the absurd Tydings Com mittee whitewash, the amazing dis closures of the McCarran Commit tee, Truman floundered in a sea of unbelievable intrigues and ideo logical discussions beyond his in tellectual capacity. But the people understood Com munism. They know that a traitor is a traitor: that a liar is a liar; that an American who obeys Joe Stalin is unfit for the company of decent Americans. They do not like a fellow like Alger Hiss being called a "red herring.” Americans prefer to call a spade a spade and there is no possibility of calling a Com munist an American. ( Harry Truman and the Democrats dallied with the Communist ques tion because they regarded it as a political liability. They did not at tack it; they tried to cover up. Their loyalty boards did not clean out the filth; they tried to hide it. The vicious attacks on Senator Joe McCarthy are understandable only if we recognize that the Democrats knew that McCarthy would succeed in cracking this coverup if he stuck to his exposures. They tried to put him on the defensive but only succeeded in stimulating the Mc- Carran Committee into proving the McCarthy charges. The people were not interested in the fight between the Senators McCarthy and Benton. They were and are interested in doing some thing positive about the Com munists. Communism is a tremen dous issue in many states and the people have faith that Eisenhower will get rid of every one of them who remains in government. Many smart politicians did not believe that corruption played a great role in this campaign. They are wrong. The disclosures before the Fulbright, Kefauver, Chelf and other committees of corruption on a scale unprecedented in our his tory, shocked the nation. They were made by Democratic committees and Truman might have taken ad vantage of them to say that he ex posed the corrupt in his own Ad ministration. He dared not do it. He could not guess which of his cronies had sold him out. But the people knew. They ob jected to all of them. They wanted all the rascals out. Therefore the slogan. "It’s Time for a Change.” had real meaning for the voters. They realized that no investigation, no matter how competent, could catch every thief; so they wanted all the thieves driven out of office, the hidden as well as the disclosed ones. The Democratic argument that Gen. Eisenhower is inexperienced in civilian matters made no im pression upon the people. They did not care about that. They as sumed that he could learn or be advised. What they wanted was to drive out the Truman corruption ists and they did not believe that Stevenson could do it. The Democrats missed the bos* when they tried to say that Eisen hower was the captive of Robert A. Taft and other Republicans. The people brushed that off. What wor ried the citizens was that Adlai Stevenson would be the captive of the Tniman machine which wds corrupt and contented. They voted against that. When the American people face moral issues, they never go wrong. ceived direct to my chest a ball containing a ticket that, within 30 seconds, lost me five pesos. Fig uring that was a small charge for my first lessor. In sign language I got out of there; it was nearly one A. M., much to late for a genuine beachcomber, and I never was so sleepy in my. life. IB DAILY RECORD, DUNN, N. C. MISTER BREGER X —« ■ ■ 1 "V •- \\ Ipolling] I I “There go the women who voted already—back again after changing their minds ..." a quwsnwittl s»MHHW-GO-ROU» I, mw siaasow ____ WASHINGTON. I would like to urge fellow newsmen, radio com mentators, and the American public generally to undertake a voluntary news blackout on General Eisen hower's forthcoming trip to Korea. In brief, the time of his departure, arrival in Japan, departure from Japan to Korea, ought not to be published. While the first lap of the trip across the Pacific to Japan carries no great danger, the second lap behind the battle lines of Korea could be one of the most dangerous ever undertaken by a president - elect of the United States. When President Roosevelt took similar trips to Casablanca. Teheran and Yalta, the time of departure, arrival, and even the fact that he planned such trips were military secrets. No word was published in the press. Danger to Gen. Eisenhower is not from any deliberate Communist attack. Presumably the men in the Kremlin don’t want to plunge the world into war. But the suicidal mania of Oriental warriors is all to well know to risk a drunken pilot or group of Chinese kami kazes who. flying only a few miles, could create a crisis leading to de mands for World War 11. While Gen. Eisenhower will be meticulosuly guarded, there is no use taking chances by giving a way the details of his itinerary. 1932 - 1952 It’s a lot tougher shifting admin istrations than it was 20 years ago. As a result, Eisenhower and ad visers will have to burn a lot of midnight oil. Twenty years ago, when Herbert Hoover handed things over to Franklin Roosevelt. there was no atomic energy, no Korean war. no military draft, no threat of Russia, no foreign-aid program, no radar ring defending the U. S. A. There wasn’t even a Pentagon In 1932. The State Department was a fraction of its present size, and the War Department shared the same building. Major Eisenhower had an unobtrusive desk in that building in the outer office of Gen. Mac- Arthur extreme outer office. He was a ghost-writer for the Chief of Staff. The budget was only $4.659,000,000 in 1932, and the government coll ected only $1,924,000,000 in taxes. Today the budget is $79,000,000,000 and the annual tax take is $68,700,- 000.000. Labor Unions had only 3,226,000 members then; today they have 16.000,000. There was no tele vision, not much radio, no big com mercial airlines, not much air mail, no Tennessee Valley Authority. But there was a depression. And FDR, facing the same personal ten sions with Herbert Hoover that Ei senhower does with Truman, came CUTIES ‘‘l CAN’T make myself any shorter! I’m in my stocking fcerwwC* to Washington for conference which yielded nothing. The time elapsing between the Presidential takeover was longer then—November to March. But the economy is now gigantic, dyn amic. and delicate. Indecision, cross-' ed-up cooperation, or even such a thing as a small increase in the interest rate on government bonds, could throw our economics off bal ance. UNDER THE DOME Sen. Mike Monroney of Oklaho ma took a run-out powder on his McCarthy Investigating Committee by sailing to Europe without even telling fellow members that he wax leaving Langdon West, assis tant to Sen. Tom Hennings of Misouri, is begging him to sidestep the McCarthy probe. Hennings is chairman of the elections com mittee, and West is afraid Mc- Carthy will turn the tables and go after Hennings. Hennings is riot buckling Adlai Stevenson has confessed to friends that his original plan was to run for president in 1956. He figured from the first that 1952 would be a tough year. That was the reason for his reluctance at Chicago .... It looks like Repub lican Senators were much more an xious to probe the election of one of their own number than any Democrat, namely Senator-elect Fred Payne of Maine. Behind this is seen the hand of defeated Sen. Owen Brewester back to the Sen ate Said 6-year-old Nickie Clark, daughter of Reader’s Digest Blake Clark: "I didn’t know Ike’s last name was ‘Landslide’ .” Those close to Elsenhower claim one of the most significant things about his campaign was that the last three weeks wound up with Republican moderates and liberals closest to him. The isolationists were on the outside looking in. And they attribute Ike's big pick-up at the end to the fact that he followed these men, publicly disclaimed McCarthy’s tactics, and announced he was “the samp old Ike.” Here is the roll-call of the Ei senhower ball club as they finished the season in their relative closeness to Ike and home plate: Gov. Sherman Adams of New Hampshire, responsible for the first crucial Eisenhower primary victory; Sen. Fred Seaton, progressive Neb raska publisher; Robert Culter, Boston banker and friend' of Justice Felix Frankfurter; -Sen. Frank Carlson of Kansas, a great moderator and conciliator; brother Milton Eisenhower, former New Dealer; Gen. Wilton G. Persons, an old arm friend; Governor Dewey, kept in the shadow, blit a potent adviser: Arthur Summerfleld, GOP national chairman, the man who put across Ike’s endorsement of Walter WlneheD ", a New n York .»» Celebeauts About Town: Irene Dunne beautifying the 57th Street shopping crowd. One of Hllvweird's biggest Credits .. Kim Hunter, the kodaktress, feeding the spar rows and pijjies at Duff Square..., Paula Stone excitedly telling chums about Cineramagic in Gilmore's vouring their first cheeseburgers The F. Laines (Nan Grey) de cat Hamburg Heaven) after 3 months (decades!) in Yurrop .... Ethel Barrymore Colt (now a thrush) running for the 5:15 for Mamaroneck with her son who Town Halls on the Bth Paulette Goddard wearing no cam paign pins. Just the ones that em brace her nylons .. Norma Shearer (With husband) at the Embers. Elza Maxwell (at Park and 50th) almost hitting a truck Lucky truck. Sallies In Our Alley: At the French Casino a Democrat was bragging that Truman "brought back good times” “Ail he brought back,” said a hero, "was bad vaudeville” .... We know a New Dealer who saves Roosevelt Dimes and throws away Truman Dollars. Mid town Head-Shrinker: We were showing Bert 'Lahr and Sher man Billingsley the just-released Nielsen Report on our Oct. sth teevy premiere: 16.8 .... The pro grams (at the same time) were rated (in Variety) 13.8 and 9.9 .. . Along came a middle-aged lady, making her first visit to the Stork Club. She paused at the table: “You’re Mrs. America,” said your N. Y. Correspondent. “I knew you as soon as I saw you!” .... She looked at us all and, beaming, ex claimed to Bert (who has no pro gram): "You’re Bert Lahr! I knew you as soon as I saw you!” (Hmmmmmmmm). Memos of a Midnighter: The Tony Canzoneris separated (legally) af ter 18 years Les Compagnons (the Waldorf hits) enliven the Banshees bansheendig tomorror .... Bob Olin’s still amazed that neither party boasted that its candidate contained chlorophyll .... A Lin dian got a large iaff defining a teevy vice-president: “The guy who goes around with a perplexed look on his assistant’s face.” (Doesn’t the stale one go, “with a worried look”?) ... Pierre Barron presumes the “S” in Harry S. Truman stands for “Spendergast” From the Tron to Globe & Mail: “Robinson's friend and confidant (WW) doesn’t want Sugar Ray to lace on the leather mittens and WW generally has his way, according to Tom Gabby Walsh” .... (End of Bunk) The Compass, which is supposed to point to the North Star, followed the Party line and pointed to the Red Star instead. It has at last folded. For once it took the right direction—to oblivion. McCarthy. Tuward the end. an early Ike - rooter, Paul Hoffman, who had been strangely silent, flew in from Cal ifornia and reaffirmed his support. Also Governor Warren of Califor nia teamed up with Ike in the last week, made a special broadcast to California. Earlier. Warren had gone through the political paces, but they seemed perfunctory. Another GOP liberal who did his bit wax Sen. Charles Tobey of New Hamp shire. These are some of the men who will carry a lot of weight in the new administration. George McGhee, U. S. Ambassa dor to Turkey, who has oil on both sides of his family, may be one Ambassador who’ll keep his job. While he contributed to the Dem ocrats, his wife contributed to the Republicans Japanese news men met at the National Press Club just before the election to dis cuss which candidate would most benefit Japanese-American rela tions. Their vote was Stevenson.... Oscar Chapman of Colorado, re tiring Secretary of the Interior, may set up a law practice with de feated Sen. Joe O’Mahoney of Wyoming. Chapman will leave a hole in the Interior department. He’s been there 20 long years .... Sen. Bob Kerr of Oklahoma is the man most Democrats would like to see as their new Senate leader. Bob has the tongue of the latex Sen. Pat Harrison of Mississippi, ; who made Republicans squirm un der Collidge and Hoover. Ike Expected (Continue/, From Page One) man early next week about the or derly transition o i the government from one administration to an other would prevent him from at tending a conference of southern i governors In New Orleans Nov. 8-18. Some of the southern states sup- ! ported him enthusiastically in the campaign. Two southern senators have said they believe : that southern < Democratic lawmakers will sup port the Eisenhower administra- : tion on all sound legislative pro poeals during his term in office. i Ben. Burnet R. Maybank (D-S.C.) : backed up' the forecast of Sen. Har- : TUESDAY AFTERNOON, NOVEMBER 11. 1952 The Worry Clinic jpS||j By DR. GEORGE W. CRAW® ||||y HOWARD NEEDS TO DEVELOt A “CONVERSATIONAL FORMU LA" AND MEMORIZE IT, AS A STAR SALESMAN LEARNS HIS SALES TALK. MRS. FRANKLIN D. ROOSEVELT SAYS SHE USED TO BE VERY SHY AND LACKING IN CONVERSATIONAL SKILL UNTIL SHE ARBITRARILY MEM ORIZED A CONVERSATIONAL FORMULA AND BEGAN USING IT. Case F-302: Howard 8., aged 17, reads this column in the Toledo BLADE. “Dr. Crane, I have made high grades and have won a letter on my high school swimming team,’ he in formed me. “But I am so very self-conscious that I feel miserable. I am afraid to ask a girl for a date, because I don’t know what to talk about. "Besides, I don’t even know how to dance. I’ve been visiting her in Chicago, so I though I’d see if you could he.p ~ic get rid of my infer iority com pic “I want to be happy and confident like other fellows. How can I get tnat way?” HOW TO BE CONFIDENT Yes, Howard can get that way, for confidence is simply based on accomplishment. If you know how to swim, for example, you still feel confident, even though your canoe may be rocking dangerously from side to side. But if you can’t swim a stroke, you will be panicky with fright and lacking in confidence. Getting along successfully with people is quite similar to the ana logy just mentioned. It demands that you acquire the habits that will carry you through the situa tions in which you find yourself. If you now feel self-conscious be cause you can’t dance, then learn to dance, for this new habit will demolish at least this one cause for your feeling of social inferiority. FEEL AT EASE Don’t make the mistake, more over, of thinking that everybody but yourself is as cool as a cucumber WgMNMB By America's Foremost Personal Affairs Counselor PEPPERY WIDOW, 75, VISITS AROUND WITH RELATIVES, CAUSING EMOTIONAL WAR FARE WITH DAUGHTER AND SON DEAR MARY HAWORTH: I am 40, very happily married and have five children. The problem is my mother, 75, a widow in perfect health, able to travel a circuit be tween the homes of her two daugh ters and other relatives. She never stays long anywhere, gossips and criticizes her previous "hostesses,’ and has a longstanding complaint that her daughters don’t care what becomes of her. On various occasions she has de parted in a great huff after an ar gument with one of her daughters. Each time some semblance of peace was restored, with my brother Harry acting as mediator. My disposition is to answer her gripes and defend the victims of her tirades; but I have to ignore most of it or we would be fighting continually. The latest upheaval was due to her spreading some information she picked up here, which I felt she had no right to repeat. This time I am through trying to placate her but again my bro ther comes to her rescue, won’t dis cuss the issues involved and ships her off to my sister. To be frank, I honestly feel I hate her at times She criticizes her sons-in-law un justly, and all my married life I’ve been seeking her approval—in vain. I don’t want her here again. I in sist my first duty Is to my husband and children and I can’t have her disrupting our life. Am I right ui taking this stand? Can you tell me how to handle her? Now about my brother. He is 45, married, childless and never has been very well. He has fevers, aches, nausea and general rundown condition without apparent reason. He’s had hundreds of medical tests which show nothing wrong, yet his distress is real enough. He changes doctors quite often in 'search of relief and probably could be persuaded to seek such help as you might suggest. Could mother's emotional storms cause, his symp toms? He admits she is wrong but feels we should try to get along for the sake of harmony. Please advise. B R MAN IS AILING WITH (CONFLICT DEAR B. R.: Your brother’s symptoms are psychosomatic, I ga ry F. Eyrd (D-Va.), who said the Southern Democratic bloc would be Willing to Join In a coalition with Republicans and support “sound measures." Rainy weather has oonflned Eis enhower more and more to his cot tage on the edge of the Augusta National Golf Course, where he Is trying to Keep abreast of s deluge of mail and telegrams, but he got In a late-afternoon round of golf Monday. and perfectly at ease. People always look far more calm than they feel. The tyro public speaker, for instance, wiU possibly feel 10 times as nervous anal excited as he looks. Many of these fellows who seem so confident and poised to Howard today, don’t feel that way. In fact, some of them probably envy Ho ward for seeming so assured and self-confident. But if you want to be more at ease at parties, you must date diff erent girls on dozens of occasions. You cannot be nonchalant on your first date! ' And even if you are calm and self-assured when with your accus tomed girl friend, you will still get lather nervous on your first date with a new girl. DON’T BE TONGUE-TIED A salesman of life insurance would be tongue-tied and devoid of confidence, if he hadn’t mem orized a good sales talk in advance. Howard should also learn a "con versational formula” to use as his sales talk. Then he will be maste* of every conversational situation. • When you are selling yourself to your public, you must employ the same good sense and psychological strategy that you would use if you were selling life insurance. Mrs. Franklin D. Roosevelt says as a girl she used to feel quite shy and tongue-tied. Then she arbit rarily memorized a conversational formula, and thus overcame her social fears. Make up such a formula and practice it. Or if you wish a copy* my "CONVERSATIONAL FORMU LA,” enclose a stamped return en velope, plus a dime. It is based on the key phrase “DEAR HOME PALS", in which each letter stands for a different field of conversation. “D” thus represents Dramatics; “A” indicates Athletics; “H” hob bies,. etc. My college students have used it with great success, so try it self if you are now shy and tongue tied. _______________ ther, which means tjiat emotional distress, deeply repressed, is caus ing bodily tension, making him ill without apparent phyjital basis. This kind of illness is just as “‘s»ul,” in its discomfort and in its rav aging effects on health, as the more tangible "diseases.” Your mother is the mom-type, obviously, an anxious- tyrant who exploits her children — her son, especially in vampire fashion, playing havoc with their conscience rather than loving them. Thus it is logical to suppose that her waspish quarrel with life, in which she uses Harry as her sljjeld and buckler, is largely accountable for his sick suffering. Harry is somewhat more possess ed by mom than his sisters are. And probaaiy it is this margin of detachment on their part, which en-r ables them to find fulfillment with* their husbands and children, that keeps mom’s temper on dueling edge when in their homes. Essentially grasping, vain and unloving, hence militantly insecure in her relation ships. she wants to be the Center of attention their “reason-for - living” hence she wars on the sons-in-law, as inferior upstart rivals, using criticism as her wea pon. j WELL TO MANIFEST ' , MATURE COURAGE V Your impulse to bolt the door against your mother is certainly justified by her ruthless disregard of fair <*Gy. And your flashes of hating ner are also a reaction to her menacing attitudes, no doubt. But the grievous problem she poses cannot be solved satisfactorily by trying to shut her out of your life. By dealing with her fearlessly at first hand, you 11 do better in the long run, in the sense of gaining*- maximum peace of mind. *- “Handling” your mother doesn’t consist in planning and arranging for future eventualities. Rather it has to do with accepting yourself as a grown woman, an independent character, no longer a child, in relation to her. When you get the “feel” of mature resourcefulness in the exchange, you will automatically treat her differently and she will sense the difference, with accepting yourself as a grown wo-ff man, an independent character, longer a child, In relation to her. When you get the “feel” of mature resourcefulness in the exchange, you will automatically treat her differ ently and she will sense the difference, with sobering results. In short, act on the reality prin ciple In dealing with her. For guid ance in this read H. A. Overstreet’s “’j’he Mature Mind” (Harper