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Every afternoon, Monday through Friday
Harnett Still Committee
When the Harnett Board of County Commissioners
held its organization meeting this week, among its ap
pointments were members to the Still Committee.
That’s right, Still Committee.
Minutes of the meeting list R. L. Mangum and W. L.
Byrd as the duly elected Still Committeemen.
An initial check of the Harnett County courthouse
failed to produce one who could define the Still Commit
tee’s duties. Did its name come from lack of activity? Or
its immobility?
At last Mrs. Inez Harrington the County Register of
Deeds, explained. “It’s for seeing that captured whiskey
stills are destroyed and properly disposed of.’’ she said.
I Is the committee kept busy? What is the liquor situ
ation in prohibitionary Harnett that makes a committee
on liquor-making equipment a necessary agency of of gov
ernment?
Well, during November, 20 stills were captured. With
cold weather here and Christmas coming on. maybe there
was an unusual bit of mash-stirring last month, but no
one remarked of it.
At any rate, the Still Committee in Harnett is far
from still. The ink on its records, like the county’s woods
and the citizenry's pantries, is seldom dry.
From the Sanford Herald.
Frederick OTHMAN
WASHINGTON. The time has
come for a little straight talk a
bout bluenoses arid how to keep
them dry. I mean there have been
some bitter complaints about my
treatment in print of Rep. Ezekiel
C. Gathings (D.,Ark > and his in
vestigation of feelthy literature.
The main kicks about my dis
patches on this interesting subject
claimed they were entirely too
Irreverent. Said I didn't show en
ough respect for a group of Con
gressmen conscientiously trying to
do a good deed for their country.
The lawgivers somehow managed
to put in the record for all to see
the list of books they thought too
warm for public view; since then,
according to my book dealer, there
has been a rushing demand for
every title on the list.
My own theory, with all respect
to Rep. Gathings and friends, is
that this nation has some good,
solid laws about obscenity in print.
All they need is a little enforcing.
The statesmen on thecommittee,
including two lovely ladies, are
sterling characters everyone, but
I’ll thank them to let me decide
for myself what is fit to read. For
this privilege I've got to thank one
of the greatest judges in this land.
If the censors kindly will sit still.
I’ll recall for them a little literary
history:
Back in the '2o's James Joyce,
the Irish novelist, published in
Paris a book called “Ulysses.” It
concerned the everyday lives of
some ordinary folk in Dublin and
it not only told what they did. but
attempted to show what they were
thinking about. This resulted in
some exceedingly complicated lan
guage: it also turned up some of
the frankest talk ever put in print.
For 15 years "Ulysses'’ was banned
in America. Literary milepost it
may have been, but anybody who
sold it here was a criminal, sub
ject to a jail sentence for peddling
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PRESIDENT TRUMAN congratulates Rear Adm. Sidney Souers after pre
i senting him with a Distinguished Service medal at a White House
f ceremony. The admiral was first director of the Central Intelligence
J Agency and now a consultant on security and intelligence affairs. He
I was praised for his “effective security program.” (International)
smut. In thedepts of the depression.
Random House, Inc. of New York,
took .the "Ulysses.’ case to court.
In December, 1933. the same
week that Prohibition was repealed.
District Judge John M. Woolsey
handed down what has become a
monumental decision on “Ulysses.”
He ruled,, in effect, that a book
of artistic integrity, such as this
one. could not be banned, no mat
ter how frank its language. The
judge’s decision in itself was a
piece of literature, which I com
mend to the Congressmen.
Studying "Ulysses," he said, was
•a heavy task. He read it carefully
as a whole and then read the pass
ages blue-lined by the censors.
"In spite of its unusual frank
ness.” hecontniued. I do not de
tect anywhere the leer of the sen
sualist. I hold, therefore, that it
is not pornographic.”
The judge went on to say (and
I hope the lawmakers are listening
closely) that the law any law
is concerned with governing
normal people only. No normal per
son .he said, could possibly have
his mental outlook warped by
reading “Ulysses.” He then added
his famous last line:
" .... in many places the effect
of 'Ulysses” on the reader un
doubtedly is somewhat emetic, but
nowhere dees it tend to be an
aphodisiac.’ ”
There you have it. ce soi.s. The
law now takes care of dirt for
dirt's sake in .prim, but when an
'. author conscientiously, tries to tell
the truth in a book, it is beyond
; the clammy hands of those wno
would burn it.
A number of such honest bocks
have been mentioned in evidencce
before the committee, but so long
as Judge Woolsev's decision stands
they'll remain in print. One other
thing: don't buy a copy of 'Ulysses”
if you're looking for purient read
ing: you'll be badly stung, no mat
ter what the bluenoses claim.
These Days
© *
JAMES MCGRANERY
When James P. McGranery was
appointed Attorney General of the
United States last April, I said in
a radio broadcast:
“McGranery is a likeable
person and a friend of mine, and
although we have been op opposite
sides of most questions. I would
say that he will try to do a decent
job .. ”
I immediately received a large
mail attacking my judgment of
the man. Yet. the fact is that he
has established an enviable rec
ord of having restored the reputa
tion of the Department of Justice
as tile law enforcement arm of the
government. It would be too much
to say that he has been able, in
this short time, to clean out all
the corrupt personnel and the in
competent time-servers who set
tled down in safe berths over a
20 year period.
But for the first time since Har
lan Stone was Attorney General
G924'. the FBI has been properly
used by an Attorney General. For
20 years, at least, this most effec
tive agency of government, limited
as to its functions by law, sub
ordinate to the Attorney General,
has diligently been gathering data
on criminals, spies and subversives
only to find that adequately pre
pared cases got lost in the Depart
ment of Justice.
James McGranery has resurrected
many of these cases and either put
them on the docket or if the
statute of limitations had already
run. he has handed the cases to
Congressional committees for in
vestigation. He has cooperated with
the chief Committee of Congress
in this manner as he has with the
McCarran Committee. It had been
the habit of the Department of
Justice heretofore to resist the
search by Congressional committees
for data.
In the matter of American em
ployees of the United Nations who
are subversives or who engage in
espionage, the Department of Jus
tice did an amazingly swift and
competent job since James Mc-
Granery became Attorney General.
He appointed Roy M. Cohn a
special assistant to ferret out these
cases. Roy Cohn is one of a hand
ful of lawyers who are expert in
this field.
The story goes that the FecV'a!
Grand Jury ran away in this case
and resisted interference by the
Department of Justice. It will be
found, if the subject is ever in
vestigated,. that tremendous pres
sure Was nut on the Attorney Gen
eral to drop the investigation of
UN subversives and even to dismiss
Cohn. However. Cohn remained on
on the job' the cooperation be
tween the Department of Justice
and -the McCarran Committee was
a wonderful example team-work
ac iinst subversives. Had a similar
effort been made years aeo, the
spy Arthur Adams would not have
escaped.
I owe heard James McGranery
sav that he would not be Attorney
General long enough to try the
"«(« ’’“at• pear) their day in court,
but that before he left office, he
would put them on the docket for
, his ‘successor to handle. The case
of Owen Lattimore is .in point.
Anyone who has read the full
te'timony before the Tvdings Com
mittee and the McCarran Commit
tee must have felt that the con
fusions and contradictions required
further investigation. Senator Pat
McCarran recommended that the
Denartment of Justice deal with
the Lattimore case before a grand
It would be wrong in the Am
erican sense of justice to assume
thr t Lattimore cannot clear him
self or that h° is guiltv of any
thin-'. even perjury, before it is
so proved. On the other hand, when
contradictions give rise to the as
sumption of perjury, the place to
deal with the matter is not in the
State Denartment or the President’s
office, but befqj-e a Federal Grand
Jury. This is now being done.
Usually, when a Cabinet officer
parses into retirement, after the
opposite party has been elected,
no one sheds a tear and the fare
well is not to fond. However, Mc-
Grarerv’s short tenure in office
has been so exeentiorial that it has
att’acted attention.
He cam) in as a makeshift to
save President Truman embarrass
ment when his predecessor. J.
Howard McGrath, was forced out
under circumstances which still
require clarification. He could have
sat rp his Lands waiting for the
appointment of his successor. He
had on prospects of reappointment
by either Adlai Stevenson or Gen
erat FWnhower.
Yet. he has exposed arid dismissed
cooks. brought cases to the light
of dav. fought subversives, put the
hmelight on spies, and created a
host of persons! and political en
opiies who will not, forget that he
smashed their nefarious careers.
LIONS BOARD TO MEET
The Board of Directors of the
Dunn Lions Club will meet to
night at the Commercial Bank at
7:30. it was announced today by
President J. N. Stephenson. He ur
ges all members of the board to
attend as well as ar y club members
who wish to make up a meeting.
AZ DAILY RECORD, DUNN, N. a
MISTER BREGER
“I KNEW it would come to this—37 prizes but nothing
to eat!”
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ty BtKW HAUOW _ _
WASHINGTON. lnside reason
why General Eisenhower sent his
apologies to the U. S. troops flthich
were kept standing for inspection
in the Korean cold was because an
overzeatous brass hat had ordered
the men to wear dress uniforms,
not winter uniforms.
Dress uniforms has no ear flaps
and. as a result of waiting two
hours and fifteen minutes in bit
ter cold, a lot of ears and noses
were frozen.
Naturally when the troops saw
their visitors in nondress uniforms
with ear flaps, while they wore
dress uniforms, there was resent
ment.
Eisenhower hit the ceiling when
he heard what had happened, sent
lvs apologies for keeping the troops
waiting.
IN KOREA WITH IKE
MODEST UNCLE OMAR —When
Charles E. Wilson was up at the
front with ROK troops, he saw them
shooting tracer bullets into the
side of a hill. “What are those little
red balls?” asked the new Secretary
of Defense, who apparently has a
lot to learn about defense but is
learning' the hard way .... Meet
ing his son. Maj. John Eisenhower,
in Korea, ike told him he celebra
ted his election as president by
buying Mrs. John a new fur coat
Van Fleet’s own bedroom, while
Van Fleet slept on a cot in the
laundry. Gen. Omar Bradley slept
in the guest room which is on
the street side. The secret didn’t
consider it safe for Ike to sleep
in a room on the street, but didn’t
seem to mind what happened to
uncle Omar Uncle Omar, in
cidentally, got pushed around more
than any other VIP in the party—
chiefly as a result of his own mo
desty partly because some office, s
in Korea didn't recognize him. The
unassuming man from Moberly,
Mo., usually found himself looking
over the shoulders of photographer.;
.. Herb Brownell, the new At
torney General, left his clothes in
Seoul because of the hurried get
awav.
IKE S SECURITY lt was Jim
Rowley, head of Ike’s secret service
squad, /who vetoed the proposed
parade through Seoul .... Despite
the fact that President Rhee had
arrested 20.000 people as security
risks. Rowley learned that the
Communists had smuggled about
200 agents into the capital. So he
decreed: “no parade.” . .. On the
last day of Ike’s visit, Dr. Syngmar
Rhee was frantic because- Gen
Eisenhower had not returned
Rhee’s call. The President of Ko
rea had called on Ike, but Ike had
not called on him or posed for a
photo with him. So Rhee kept
sending the head of the Korean
army to see Eisenhower, urging
CUTIES
“It’s lucky for you he’s a prize fighter. Anyone else you
might have killed-”
i that he call on the Korean Presi
: dent. Finally Ike did so. and. on
i his last day, their pictures were
published sitting together
Though Rhee is strong with the
Korean people he is not so strong
with the politicians. For Ike to
have left without posing for a pic
: ture would have meant loss of face
for the President of Korea.
TAFT AND IKE
You can write it down that Bob
Taft has decided to control his
outbursts against Ike and will try
; to cooperate in the future.
Inside reason why he originally
got so riled was because he came
to the conclusion that Herb Brow
nell was kidding him about confer
ring on the new Secretary of La
bor.
Brownell, who will be Attorney
General and who is now handling
patronage, had been talking w’ith
Taft by phone about the two final
cabinet appointments Labor and
Commerce. But when they were
finally announced, Taft became
convinced that they had been
secretly selected a week beforehand
and that the consolation with him
was just kidding him along to keep
, him happy.
Taft’s friends are also convinced
that the Dewey forces around Ei
, senhower are deliberately trying to
goad him into a fight with Ike in
order to crowd Taft out of the
senate leadership. If Taft is senate
- leader he is automatically invited
to the White House every Monday
for strategy conferences. If he isn’t
senate leader he isn’t invited. And
some Dewey leaders think a lot of
i friction might thus be avoided.
Much of this came to Taft as
: an afterthought and is why he is
dropping his Ike-feud. He knows
he can’t possibly win a battle with
; the President-elect at this time,
: and he isn’t going to be goaded by
, the Deweyites into a fight.
Taft, therefore, will lay low,
; cooperate as far as conscience per
■ mits. try to dominate senate legis
i lation, and plant as many of his
own men as possible inside the Ei
senhower administration. This, he
; knows, can’t be done by political
: warfare with Eisenhower.
1 So Bob will control his outbursts
■ and go along with the new Presi-
I dent.
MEXICAN MIX-UP
Some people are still laughing
. and some are still chewing nails
• over Gringo politics at the inaugu
• ration of the new President of
Mexico. i
The hopitable Mexicans have a
i habit of inviting all sorts of people
■ to their inauguration, regardless
[ of government protocol. Thus Gen.
i Alberto Salinas, Mexican Military
, Attache, sent a special plane for
Gen. Harry Vaughan, aide to thp
President, for Gen. C. J. Mara, aide
Walter
Wiaehell
York
MAN ABOUT TOWN
Gov. Adlai Stevenson’s former
wife is escorted about town by a
prominent Wall Streeter, who can
not be named now.. Those two
chaps (llagh & Haig) divided the
Fed Skeltons.. The Lindberghs’ lad
Jen and a debcaut (first-named
Marilyn) are a Mistletwosome
Latin Quarter cutie Beverly Rich
ards is on a plane to Mexieancel
her “Chick." He says: “Put it in
the paper Big!” .Otto Kahn’s
dghtr Claire and her Lieut, groom
arc reported editing a story.. Glo
ria Swanson won’t name her new
pulse-pounder. A businessman..
Gloria DeHaven’s romance (this
week) is P. Pittera, director of the
Motor Sports Show. She believes
Brevity Being the Soul of “It”
Recently divorced IWrs. George
(Dorothy) Ross, the publicist, has
acquaintances Gasping Brenda
Frazier’s "Shipwreck” Kelly is sail
ing smoothly with the ex-wife of
socialite E. Haring Chandor What
zo-odd about that Guy being turn
ed into a Guyl in Copenfag-en? We
saw a Cavanagh being turned into
a hatcheck girl.
How about the Jcan-John case
(around here) about 3 years ago?
In which a gal became a guy
“He” recently became a Pop. His
frau was the Girl Friend, who per
suaded him (or her) to get the
operation According to a medico
(who performed a sex-switch) one
out of every 1.000 babies is born
a pseudo-hermaphrodite Not all
are as pronounced as the case of
Georgc-Christine but 1 in 1.000 has
elements of . both sexes The doe
also said: “Humans are fussier a
bout the pedigree of hosses than of
their children.”
From a sports page: “Sugar Ray
has never come right out and said:
‘I quit’ or ‘I retire’ ” This col’m
published his retirement from the
ring months ago and on the ABC
(radio) Sunday night, Nov. 30th,
after we reported (on our earlier
tcevycast) he would fight Turpin
in London Coronation Eve. lie tele
phoned immediately: “What makes
me unhappy is that you did not be
lieve me when I took an oath to
God that I was never going to fight
again!” Now, his mgr (Gainford)
insists Sugar (the mealticket) will
’ fight Turpin, etc. .The Dept, of
State is planning to veto Dr. Sig
mund Freud’s dghtr Anna—on any
permanent visa—for allegedly be
ing Lettish?.. Sam Levinson and
Phil Foster almost came to blows
(at a benefit) in Loew's Pitkin The
ater. (Loew-Brows.)
Tlie recent Canadian stock mar
ket crackup (which flattened thou
sands of U. S. investors) is blamed
on draft-dodger Serge Rubinstein,
whose deportation has been mys
teriously stalled for years. He sold
“short” and allegedly made 10-mil
lion bux . The Securities Exchange
Commish (here) enjoined him
from operating here on a deal —so
he went to The Dominion where
there’s no SEC Here’s a tip for
Sidney Fields’ never-dull Mirror
col’m. “Only Human”: Barbara'
Stetson (the top Ford Agency
model) and husband Kenneth
Fritzjoffsen had a Blessed-Shevent
—their first. Mother will quit Cover -
Galing (for missionary work) when
Daddv grads from Divinity school
There’s a Cold War in the fash
ion business to determine who de
signs Mamie's Inaugural frock. Her
pet designer (Mollie Parols) doesn’t
make eve’g gowns so the field is
wide open. Now, Girls. No screech
ing !
to Vaughan, and Gen. Wallace
Graham, doctor to the President.
They weren’t picked as delegates
by the State Department, but the
Mexicans brought them down any
way.
Likewise Mexico invited the new
Veep-elect, Senator Nixon. How
ever, Nixon was not an official
delegate so he telephoned assistant
Secretary of State Ed Miller, asking
that he be officially appointed.
On top of this, the new Secretary
of State, John Foster Dulles, also
called Miller asking that Nixon be
appointed; while Sen. Henry Cabot
Lodge called John Steelman at the
White House, saying that it would
be embarrassing to Nixon if he
were not an official member of the
U. S. delegation.
So Nixon was appointed.
However, arriving in Mexico,
Nixon proceeded to give the Am
erican delegation, of which he was
by that time an official member,
a wide berth. He snubbed Secretary
of Agriculture Brannan, head \of
the delegation, never phoned or
even spoke to him.
Finally Brannan, in turn, de
clined to stand in the same re
ceiving line at the American Em
bassy with Nixon.
However, the Mexican govern
ment ga/e Nixon four bodyguards
and he had a good time seeing the
sights.
The people who had the best
time of all, however, were the
Mexicans, watching the Gringos
snub each other.
VISITORS FROM RICHMOND
Mr. and Mrs. W. B. McNeil and
children. Alma and Willma from
Richmond visited Mrs. Mamie Ray
over the weekend.
WEDNESDAY AFTERNOON, DECEMBER 10, 1952
The Worry Clinic ||W|
by DH. GEORGS W. CRAMS
NOTICE THE TWO KINDS OF
DISHONESTY THAT ARE CUR
RENTLY PRACTICED IN AM
ERICA. ONE COMES FROM THE
COMMERCIAL; THE OTHER
FROM THE PROFESSIONAL
FIELD. IT’S TRAGI|C THAT MEN
WILL WASTE THEIR INTELLI
GENCE, TRYING TO EVOLVE
NEW METHODS FOR CHEAT
ING, WHEN THAT SAME EN
ERGY AND STUDY WOULD
PUSH THEM TO THE FORE
FRONT IN LEGITIMATE FIELDS
OF HUMAN ACTIVITY.
Case F-347: William T„ aged 55,
is a manufacturing executive.
“Dr. Crane, we recently manu
factured a safety razor sharpener,”
he said. “We have sold -nearly a
million of them already.
"But we gpt an order for $375
worth from a fellow in Virginia.
He wanted the order sent C. O. D.
“I asked Dunn ana Bradstreet
for a financial rating on this man,
for he is a new account and I knew
nothing about him.
“They called me on the phone
a few hours later to give me an
oral report, for they didn’t want
to put their comments doVn in
black and white.
CROOKS IN BUSINESS ,
“They said positively we should
not send the order, even though
it was marked C. O. D., for this
fellow has been working that stunt
for years.
“He orders a shipment of goods
in this fashion, but after it ar
rives, he refuses to accept the
order.
“Meanwhile, the company that
shipped the merchandise has gone
to the trouble of packing the goods,
labeling them, and then will be
forced to pay for the roundtrip
shipping charges. .
“This scoundrel then makes the
shipper an offer to take the goods
at half the usual wholesale price,
or at least at an extra discount that
equals the roundtrip shipping
charges.
“Some companies used to ac
cept his offer rather than bring
their goods back for re-packing.
“But at last we have this fellow’s
number so reputable business firms
who come to us for his financial
rating, are now advised to ignore
f °r.^
ENGAGED TO WONDERFUL BOY,
GIRL IS SHOCKED BY HIS AM
BIVALENT ATTITUDE TOWARD
MARRIAGE
DEAR MARY HAWORTH: I am
engaged to marry Tom, a wonder
ful boy whom I love very much.
But now that we have set a date
for the wedding, two month away,
he has grown very cool towards the
prospects of marriage. He says he
loves me, but he acts differently.
And he makes constant pessimistic
remarks about other marriages
how they have failed, etc.
While I am anxiously planning
for the wedding, he seems pallidly
indifferent. In fact, he grows sullen
and angry almost, when I speak of
the wedding. He expresses no joy
whatsoever about our future, which
is a decided shock to me. My
mother has noticed the change
and says he no longer wishes to
marry me or he wouldn’t act this
way.
When I have tried to talk to
him about his strange be
havior he says he doesn’t under
stand himself. He is afraid of so
many thing afraid he won’t be
a success, afraid wewon’t make a
go of marriage, afraid we won’t be
able to find an apartment, etc. Yet
he still insists he loves me and
wants to get married, even though
he can’t show gladness about it.
Tom has always been sweet and
considerate in every way and I had
thought it would be mutual joy
planning the wedding but obviously
Tom finds no joy in It. I am just
plain bewildered. I want to marry
him. In fact I love him too much
to give him up but do you think
we should marry, while he feels
this way? I am almost inclined to
believe mother when she says he’d
like to back out even though
she is prejudiced, as I am her
youngest and the last to marry.
Please give me your opinion at
once. G. L.
IS MAN REALIST,
GIRL DAY DREAMER
DEAR G. L.: There is no great
mystery about Tom’s feelings. He
wants to love and be loved in re
lation to you but he finds himself
panic-stricken when you bring
JUNIOR WOMAN’S CLUB
Miss Jean McKay will give an
illustrated lecture on paintings in
spired by the Biblical account of
the Birth of Christ at the meeting
of the Lillington Junior Woman's
Club on Tuesday, Dec. 16. at 8 p. m.
The meeting will be held at the
Community Center and there will
also be displays of holiday gift
wrappings, doorway designs and
other holiday decorations for the
home. All members are urged to
attend.
his order entirely.”
PETTY CROOKS
Isn’t it tragic that people will
waste their intelligence in scheming
how to hoodwink their fellowmen,
when that same amount of time
and ingenuity would help them
forge to the top in legitimate bus
iness enterprises?
Here in Chicago a book store
owner recently informed me of a
crooked stunt employed by oc
casional college professors.
“Professor Blank came in here
and sold me $242 worth of new
textbooks yesterday,” the book deal
er spoke disgustedly.
“As you know, Dr. Ct.rne, it is
customary for a professor to order
a new book for a 10-day examina
tion. If he decides to adopt it for
class use, he is then entitled to his
examination copy as a free desk
copy.
"If he doesn’t adopt, then he is
supposed to pay for the text or
else return it to the publisher
from whom it was ordered.
"But this crooked professor writes
for every new textbook that comes
out, even if it isn't in his field. Then
he comes over here to me to sell
them.
"I despise him, but he has large
classes and I feel compelled to pur
chase his book, lest he blacklist
me with his students and tell them
to patronize my rival book dealer.
“And the publishing houses don’t
want to press him too hard, either,
lest they possibly spoil a future
classroom adoption. So he gets
away with this petty thievery.
“We book store dealers confront
this kind of textbook racketeering
all over the country. Because the
value of any one book, may not
be over $5 to $6, no publisher makes
an issue of it. But I wish you
would present these facts to the
reading public.
“Just think of sending teen-agers
to sit in the classes of such petty
crooks! These professors often affect
smug superiority, but they are
really no better than pickpockets!"
(Always write to * Dr. Crane in
care of The Daily Record, enclosing
a long 3c stamped, addressed en
velope and a dime to cover typing
and printing costs when you send
for one of his psychological charts).
. him face to face with final wedding
- plans. As he haggardly admits when
I you pin him down, he is scared of
a lot of things afraid to go for
i ward and afraid to retreat. He
• doesn’t know which direction will
. cost him most, in the long run.
; You don't mention your age or
, Tom’s, except to call him a boy,
: which he certainly is not a man.
; His attitude is adolescent, consci
. ously unprepared to shoulder a
: man’s obligations to wife and chil
■ dren. And you don’t say anything
of his background, as to family,
; education or job experience (if any)
ommissions that suggest you are
' a bit of a scatterbrain, a character
-1 istic that may trouble Tom. If you’d
: stop to think .oyu’d realize that
' I can’t reasonably evaluate Tom’s
1 potentials, if I haVe no factual
' concept of his real status.
’ Tom may be just as much in love
, as you, but more of a realist, in
’ terms of thinking about the prac
tical aspects of marriage, year in,
, year out, whereas your mind is
. fixed on “getting married,” as if
. that took care of everything Has
, he got a steady income with a
, future, based on marketable skills,
, habits of industry, reliable charac
, ter, etc.? Or are you counting on
• a young recruit’s Army allowance
[ to ’launch you in matrimony
! hoping to improvise more security
later, after he quits the service?
MAYBE THE LADY
TALKS TOO MUCH
Your fiance’s cheerless reaction
to your anxious, urgent .wpuld-bc
, "joyous” planning may reflect good
. common sense. Maybe you are. try
ing to hasten him into an enti*-
prise that he actually cannot
finance; and maybe he distrusts
your ability to meet the emergency
( if things get tough. He sounds pretty
’immature, I grant, but from’ his
viewpoint you may be even more of
a child than he. Maybe he knows
the impossibility of trying to keep
pace with your daydreams, but
lacks the force or articulacy to put
you wise. , „,
On the other hand, possibly he
could swing a successful marriage
if he were less harried by mis
givings. and maybe his dubiety is
kindled by too much talking on
your part. Perhaps if you Just
smoothed the way with clever plan
ning taking for granted that he
approves your specifications, as you
briefly report them from time to
time it would revive his confi
dence and restore cooperation.
Ordinarily that’s the best way to
persuade a skittish temperament,
and maybe Tom is the skittish
ty Pf M. H.
Mary Haworth counsels through
her column, not by mail or per
sonal interview. Wi-lte her in case
of (The Dally Record).