By Carole B, Ricks =
.Carrit^
If You Are Of Different Races Your
Life Experience Is Not Thfie Same
near Carole: •'*, .
We are an interracial couple
who is very much in love. I am 30
years old and my girlfriend is 27
years (rid so you can see we are
not young kias.
Our upbringing is very simi
lar. Even our religious deno
mination is the same. We have a
compatible outlook on life. And
we are co-workers. We can
accept each other beeause-we^
^are Hnweyer, our co-workers
and our families thinR TF§~lm
pressures of society and be
happy. Do you think we stand a
good chance of making it as a
married couple?
uear F.A.:
If you are mature, responsible
and loving adults your chances
of haying a sound marriage are
good. However, in addition to the
many social and emotional ad
justments that marriage re
quires, you will have another
adjustment to make: a cultural
adjustment. Although your up
bringing is similar, if you are of
different races, your life experi
ences are not the same. Our
society does not treat all people
in a fair and' equal manner
Prejudice and bigotry still exist.
The success of yoiir marriage
will depend on your commitment
to each other. You must help
offer with-hints iff
racism within yourselves, your
families, your jobs and Society.
Carole
Dear Carole:
apy other kind of problem. .
Well, add me to your list. I had
no idea that I had said, “I do, ” to
my husband and to his Whole
family, too. But we’ve been
married only eight months and I
can't put up with the way they
interfere with us.
New 1 come-irom a large
family too. But my family does
not make demands on me. My
husband says his family ‘‘needs”
him because he is the oldest
child Well, I “need” him too.
And I have told him this. After
-aflfSf, am his wife Which
come first, his wife or his
Rona
Dear Ruua: -—;---—
"You, as the wife, should be
given first consideration. It is
difficult for newlyweds to learn
that they must draw a boundary
of love and loyalty around them
selves. No one else should be
allowed to enter that boundary.
Neither friends nor family. When
others are allowed in and they
become a part of your deci- -
sions, the result is usually
trouble.
In time of crisis, your fam
ilies should be able to depend on
you bom. Your families don’t
have to be neglected. But they,
must be taught, by you and your
itajBMajM; to respect the privacy.
i'ofyour marriage. You should be
number one in your husband’s
life ahdlie in yours.
**“^~*~ Carole
Editor’s Note: Carole B. Ricks,
and M.6.W., A.C.S.W. social
has a private practice in
ie as a counselm. -She is
featured in Carole’s Corner
Mondays and Thursdays at 7:30
and 9:30 a.m. on WPEG radio .
98-FM. If you have personal
adjustment, parent-child or mar
riage problems that concern you,
Carole’s Comer
P.O.Box 37107
Charlotte, N.C. 28237
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