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Jesse Jackson:
Mondale Alone
Blew Ejections
Rev. Jesse L. Jackson publicly
denounced former Democratic pre
sidential candidate Walter F. Mon
dale Saturday, accusing him of
running on a platform that was
guaranteed to loae and sharply
rapped critics who blamed the pre
sident's landslide victory on the
alleged apathy of the poor.
Jackson chided those who accused
the poor tor not voting.
“The poor made no mistake. The
mistake was made at the top not at
the bottom.’’
Jackson said the candidate did hot
run on a commitment for Jobs, and
social Justice. Instead, he said Mon
Staking his head in disbelief,
Jackson added, ".. .From the day of
the American Revolution on back to
biblidHtenet,folkshavealways run .
from (advocating) increasing
He said when they do. “they
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tiwaLwSoo1metric tana, valued at
$37.5 million, for Ethiopia, bringing
country to 215,000 metric tons valued
at $96.8 million.
New amounts of emergency food
assistance also were announced for
Mozambique ($5.9 million) Mauri
tania ($8.5 million) and Chad
($5.6 million).
This week’s announcements, in
cluding that for Ethiopia, are for
137,000 metric tons of U.S. emer
gency food aid for Africa, valued at
$58 million.
Total U.S. emergency food aid for
Africa so far this fiscal year, which
began October 1, 1984, is 560,000
metric tons, valued at approximate
ly $200 million. In fiscal 1984, the
.U.S. contribution was 505,000 metric
tone, valued at $172.4 million. Thus,
in only the first 45 days of this fiscal
year, the U.S. will have committed
more emergency food assistance to
Africa than in all of fiscal 1984.
Luncheon Seminar
Panel To Discuss
Small Businesses
■ A panel will discuss the opera
tion of (mail business during the
December luncheon of the 19M-S5
Professional Development for
Women luncheon series.
agement assistant with the U.S.
Small Business Administration, will
address the question, “Is There an
Option for a Small Business in Your
Future? ” The panel will Include
Carol Hardin, president and owner
of Commtel Business Telecom
munications Systems; Wanda H.
Lewis, secretary and treasurer of
Maintain It; and J E Jackson, co
owner of Just Chocolates
Other topics to be covered at the
next stx luncheons include network
ing, professional training for
women snd^the career profiles of
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Appearance
By Jalyne Strong
Post Staff Writer
Gloria Kingsberry retains her
attractive .look* and good form
through daily workouts at a local
spa. The mother of three engages in
aerobics and Weight-lifting and has
found that the exercise has signi
ficantly improved her appear
ance. | ti.i
"I’ve seen much older people who
stay in shape, they look good and
seem to prolong their life in a better
way,” cites Gloria as one reason
why she is interested in staying
physically fit.
, The other reason is that Gloria has
always been athletic. “I played
softball and during my senior year
in high school, I received trophies in
basketball," she revealed. Other
ways Gloria stays in shape are by
bowling and roller skating with her
children.
She claims she divides her time
between working, working out and
taking care of her children, Benitta,
10, Stacy, 8, and Grasand, 3. Gloria
is employed with Philip Morris and
her husband, William, is a 1st
Lieutenant with the Army Reserves,
Her husband's work keeps him on
tbe road and Gloria admits, “It’s
difficult taking care of the children
with my husband away so often. But
without them I couldn’t make it,”
she smiles.
A native of New York, Gloria first
came to North Carolina when she
was 15 years old. At the time, she
moved to Louisburg, N.C., a small
town outsideof Henderson. “It was a
very small city,” recalls Gloria.
“But the pace in New York was a
little too fast for me at that young
age. I got used to Louisburg. There
were not many places to go. It kept
me in control,” Gloria’s mother still
resides in Louisburg.
She and her husband came to
Charlotte in 1979. Gloria says, “1
love Charlotte and this is where I
Intend to make my home.” She
attends Morningside Baptist
Church, though she remains a mem
ber of her home church, Concord
Baptist, in Kittrell, N C.
Now that she is settled in Char
lotte, Gloria states she likes her job
and thoroughly enjoys her daily
exercising and all her other in
terests are directed towards her
family. Her hopes are that her
children always remain close and
that they each receive "the best out
of life.”
Continue Through Sunday
Worship Services Honor Rev. Robinson
ror 38 years of ministering the
Word of God, Rev J. C. Robin
son is being honored by members
and friends of Mt. Moriah Baptist
Church, located at 381 Crestdale
Rd., Matthews. .■).
Worship services began Wednes
day (November 28) and will con
tinue through Sunday. December 2 -
all a part of worshipping God and in
celebration of the many dedicated
years Rev. Robinson has committed
to the Lord.
' Wednesday, the guest speaker was
Rev. W. Gahnon, pastor at Red
Branch Baptist Church, Mint HIU
Tonight, miuimy, November—
28) at7:80p.m gusetspeaker will b«
Rev. A. Lockhart, pastor of Morn
ing Star Baptist Church, Derttg,’
On Friday, November 20, at 7:20
p.m., Rev. A. L. Jinwright, pastor of
Salem Baptist Church, will deliver
the meeeage
Saturday, December l, at 8:20
Em., Master at Ceremonies will be
r. L. D Parker, pastor at St. Luka
Baptist and Moderator of Lane
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Rev, J. C. Robinson
.*• years of ministering
Creek Association. Principal speak
er wtO be Rev. W. Robinson, pastor
of rirst Baptist Church, Gethse
mane Baptist and Rose Hill Baptist
Chureh, Kershaw, i.C.
Greeting* on this evening will be '
given by Rev Robert "Bob” Walton,
Rev. Bob Walton
. ....Bring* greeting*
County Commissioner and pastor of
St. Paul Presbyterian Church; Dr.
C. C. Craig, Executive Secretary
Treasurer, General Baptist State
Convention, Inc., Raleigh; Dr. A. L.
Bell, pastor of Pint Baptist Church,
Wadesboro, and Moderator of Zion
Dr. t. D. Parker
.Principal speaker
Missionary Baptist Association,
Wadesboro; Dr. W. C. Hay, Mo
derator, Rowan Baptist Association
and pastor of Galilee Baptist Church.
Winston-Salem and many other
friends of Rev. Robinson
See WORSHIP Oa PagatA
TO LIFE Teaches
How To ( oix> With Grief
By Audrey C. Lodato
Post Staff Writer
Grief ancHoss experiences are a
part of everyone’s life, yet there is
nothing in our education that
teaches us how to cope with them
ourselves or help friends through
their grief.
So sav Howard Winokuer and
Alexis Stein, president and
executive director of TO LIFE, an
organization founded to help people
learn to deal with death and the
other losses to which we are all
subject. Some common other losses
include marital break-up, loss of a
cherished, pet, failure Tb achieve
some long-hoped-for goal or dream -
in short, any situation in which we
must give up someone or something
that has been important to us.
According to Ms. Stein, “loss is a
powerless feeling. We’re so used to
having control. Loss is one of the
- things we can’t control We have tn
learn to understand that life can
change within seconds.”
Both Stein and Winokuer, who
have masters degrees in
- counseling, agree that “you have to
feel the pain," Trying to avoid the
bad feelings of grief won’t work
forever^Sooner ^or later, your grief
*work,” Stein retlarked. “We’re
uncomfortable with anyone who is
crying or out of control. Our society
doesn’t believe in pain. We take pills
for pain. What we’re saying is, a pill
isn’t going to work.”
The goal of grief work is to be able —
to remember with pleasure rather
than with pain.
The TO LIFE staff cite four basic
tasks that need to be completed to
achieve that goal. These tasks,
Winokuer emphasized, do not occur
neatly, one after the other, but
are simultaneous. One of the tasks is
accepting the loss, dealing with the
reality of it instead of denying it
happened. How this is done will
differ from person to person.
Another task is to feel the pain.
There are physical, emotional,
psychological and spiritual levels of
pain, TO LIFE’S president
explained. Allowing oneself to cry is
part of this task.
A third task involves adjusting to
the changed environment and
understanding how one’s own role
has changed. This task is action
oriented and involves doing; :;for
example, performing a chore that
used to be done by a spouse.
The fourth task is what TO LIFE
calls “reinvesting in the future,” or
taking some forward steps.
There is no time frame in v/hich
these tasks yare usually
accomplished. "Most people think a
year is the number,” stated Stein,
"but that's not true.” Winokuer
added. “Everyone experiences grief
individually.”
" Some people seem lo get stuck in
expressing their pain. Stein
-TO LIF^
I^EOUTIVE ■
ALEXIS STEIN AND HOWARD WINOKUER
— Executive director & President
suggested that, while it may seem a
person is telling his or her story over
and over, what is happening is that
the person isn't feeling listened to.
“It'shard for friends tn go through. ’'
she admitted. “Our society would
rather ignore people who are
grieving.” Watching others grieve
frightens us because it is a reminder
that it could happen to us, Winokuer
pointed out.
He continued, “There are \no
magic words to make someone feel
better. The greatest present you can
give someone who is grieving is yoUf
presence. Long after they forgdjt
what you said, they’ll remembei
that you were there.” Winokuer
advised to be specific in yonj
willingness to l^elp. Don’t just sayj
‘‘call me.” If you see the grass needs /
mowing, do it. '/
In the case of death, don’t be
afraid to mention the deceased
person’s name. Well-meaning
friends often think talking about the
deceased will remind the grieving
person, but “they’re already
thinking about it,” said TO LIFE’S
president
According to Ms Stein, “Men
have fewer sanctioned ways of
grieving Women are given more
time. They’re allowed to cry and
reminisce We put a lot of heavies'
on a man. We freak out if we see
tears in his eyes ”
Winokuer noted that the holiday
season is often difficult for people
who have experienced loss,
especially if it’s the first year that a
loved one isn’t there This time of
year is seen as a time for families to
celebrate, and the absence of
someone who used to be there is
painful. Add to that the usual holiday
pressures and December can
become a very stressful time
TO LIFE offers a bereavement
group for those who are dealing with
the death of someone close; a
separation and divorce group; and
individual counseling, either in
person or on the telephone. In
addition, the Charlotte agency
sponsors a spring conference,
"Living Til We Die."
During their last fiscal year, TO
LIFE held over 40 workshops and
seminars for various community
groups, and four major conferences
in which approximately 3,000 people
participated.
Unlike some agencies, TO LIFE
has no restrictions on who can call
for help Staff accept referrals from
many different sources in the
community, as well as individuals
who simply call themselves
TO LIFE'S offices are housed at
Myers Park Baptist Church,
although the agency is not affiliated
with the church
CAM To Administer
Duke’s Challenge
Heating Fund
The Crisis Assistance Ministry has
been designated to administer Duke
Power Company’s 1984-85 Communi
ty Challenge Heating Fund in this
area, Fred West, Charlotte division
vice president, announced this week
The fund, initiated by Duke Power
stockholders, is designed to help less
fortunate families pay winter heat
ing bills, West said Charlotte-Meck
lenburg families will be eligible for
over $80,000 in assistance if local
agencies raise a three-to-one match
of Duke’s contribution, he said
‘The challenge fund is just that,”
West said. "We are challenging local
sources to come forward and triple
our donation for the wake of
Charlotte-Mecklenburg's needy ”
The fund has the potential ot
raising over a half-million dollars in
the company's North and South
Carolina service territory, accord
ing to West.
It is not necessary to be a Duke
Power customer to be eligible for the
assistance. Homes max be teated
with any source, including natural
gas, oil and wood, he said.
Individuals or organizations wish
ing to donate to the fund should
contact the Crisis Assistance Min
istry at 704-333-0131.
"Cold weather is upon us now. and
the need for assistance has never
been greater,” West said. "We have
high hopes that iocs) organizations
will respond to that need.”