Best Way To Cool Hot Temper?
Dear-Camlfi,_'
What’s the best way to cool
down a hot temper?
“Hot”
Dear“Hat’\
Whose temper are you talking
about, yours or someone else’s?
Here are a few pointers for
cooling your own temper.
t Try to handle issues of
conflict when they occur. Try not
to let your feelings build up.
Stored up anger doesn’t go away.
It turns inward and reappears
when you least expect it 2. Talk
to the person with whomyouare
angry. Don’t talk around the
person or about the person. Talk -*
about the topic of conflict Work
towards a resolution. 3. Turn
your angry feelings towards
other activities. Walk, run,
jump rope; do something ac
tive to. consume your angry
energy.
Carole
Dear Carole,
I know that most people frown
on the idea of having an affair.
But as for myself and my mar
riage, an affair has helped my
marriage. My wife never really
knew what was happening be
cause I was what you might call
HicrrMp . ... j_\
I wouldn’t hurt her for any
thing. Tlie affaii1 is over now. But
my lady friend taught me how to
be more loving to my wife! I
really think our relationship is
better since my affair. Although ~
I won’t do it again, I don't think
going to someone else is all that
bad. What do you think?
H.C.
Dear H.C.,
I think you have learned a lot
from, your experience. If you
think that what you learned
during your affair has enriched
your marriage, who can judge
your affair as “all bad?”
l can’t help but wonder
■ though, if you were as discrete as
you might think. Any time that
“extra” people are used to
“improve” a marriage, the risk
is great that at least one per
son will be hurt.
Carole
Editor’s Note: Carole B.
Ricks. A.C.S.W., is a marriage
aad family therapist -with a
private practice in Charlotte,
N.C. If yon have personal,
parent-child, or marriage pro
v Wems, write to: \ 'vV '■?
' Carole’s Comer
P.O.Box 37107
Charlotte, N.C. 28237
Another July 4th Tradition?
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July rourtn traditions on
Another, often overlooked
aftermath oTthe hoHday
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“Fireworks are net
toys,” cautions John T.
Church, Sight Saving
Chairman of tha North
Carolina Affiliate. “Yet, 74
percent at all those people
injured last year were
under age M. Without
doubt, are need to keep
fireworks out of the hands
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related injuries there.
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t Record
When Sabrina Johnson,
promotions-marketing
director for The Charlotte
Post and coordinator for
the ‘‘Churchworker of the
Year” contest, first
talked about her anticipa
tion for the contest, she *
revealed that her hopes
were that this would be one
of the most successful con
tests held in the hiWery of
the six-week campaign.
From the results of the
first week of reporting it
looks as if Ms. Johnson’s
high projections are right
on target. ”1 am very
pleased with the results of
the first week of the con
test,” replied Ms. Johnson.
There are good reasons
that she should be pleased.
In comparison to the past
four contests, this first
week's reporting surpassed
the first weeks’ reporting
in previous years. Com
pared to 1984 and 1983 this
year's contestants end r
committee persons’ sub
scription sales tacreased
by 44 percent over 19*4 and
by 14 percent over 1885
Ms. Johnson gives a lot of
credit to this above ave
rage reporting to the con
testants and their minis
ters. “I really feel that the
first week stands out be
cause-the contestants are
enthusiastic and the min
isters fed good about the
With this first week be
ing completed. Ms. John
son projected that next
weak’s totals will exceed
this week’s. “I do fed
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cum 1CJtrill uial nexi W66K s
total wifi be even higher.’’
Ms. Johnson explained that
'the report of the first weak '•
only included cash reports
from 10 contestants.
“There were it other :•
candidates who have yet to
make their first financial
ting a committee together.
Once they take care of that
I expect the total reports to
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oaies, supportive pastors
ha ve Indeed made this first
wee* 01 reporting in the
“Churchworker of the
Year" contest the base of
an exciting context, givii*
persona a weekly target to
reach has bscn a helpful
instrument as wsB.
"By letting those in
-s--a _iAs._an* . — ■
vfMvea wiin selling suo
scriptlons know that a
minimum of U subscrip
tions should be sold each
weak, It has taken a lot of
the ambigidty out of the
contest,’’ emphasised Ms
The three top sellers thfe
week are Bessie Marshall
~oT "Pleasant IllD DapUat
Church who represents the
large category, Mattie
Caldwell, a four-time con
testant and a member of
Ebenezer Baptist Church
of the medium category,
and Cora Hubbard who re
presents Chappell Me
morial'in the small cate
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