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LASKE2V NORTHAMPTON COCHSTTY, N". C, THURSDAY, MAR OH 8, 1894.
NO. 10.
The Matrimonial Ventura,
At this season of the year when j
wedding bell are sounding in the
feir, auu uruuu wars nu iroufgeaius
Are subjects of deep interest to taik
! f i '
over, my miad dweUs with treat i-
. terest on this blissful period of iife.
ind my best and warmest wishes axe , untimely grave to refuse to marry
extended to all those who are and them. You are not the first love of
are to be newly wedded. J sveh as these. Self love is first, and
Whea we thick of if seriously, se- , lf VHX stood between them and per
lecting some one to clicg to for life ' 8"al gratification they would sacri
ts no trifling matter; now is ilf I ; fic yu every time. Character and
almost wonder anyone has the cour- jpriciple should be firmly established
ige to venture on such an uncerUin re marriage is thought of, for it is
sea, in , the face of all the conjugal ' not. a reformatory inetiUitioa by any
wrecks ooe sees sure wed around ; and means. If it were an easy thing for
if there is ooe thought that L wocld wives to improve husbands, or bus
particularly like to impress oa the , bands to improve wives, there would
cuiuds of Ue girl, it is that tiey de- t he so wany ill-assorted pairs.
liberate '1 before Usey decide what They wkj li ail eooa be educated to
their course shall he la (his import-
f there are any coatemplating
marryina: with the hope to ci'ova
thair clioice after the ceremony, I
cv:sb titey would listen to me, and
please don't; How many sinners
bave you ever seen turned into saints
by their wives ! In this tof&
.venture theehance are aa&ily againsi t
you, and it would be far easier to '
break your heart over hii before you
marry tliia after. To dismiss an
ajreeabte, bul ua worthy uiior, ruiglit
cost a few 6ieenle99 eights and mel-
anciioly days, tttii it won't kill; whiJe
to marry him would plunge you into
lifetime of unutterable wretched
t4o6s, if not premature death I (tare
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eecn Utis tried and in every instance
it has failed. .. I bave bad tiie confi
dence of those whose lives arc filled
vi:ti wtrmwood and gall because of
brutality and neglect, when tliey hal
ever' reason Ui expect Just the op
Hsit. ;
It is well t ,ake n thought of the
morrow coneerautg what yMi shall
eat or whaty'ou shall drink, or where
withal you shall be clothed, nut whom
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you. shall marry, that is quite anoth
er matter and demands the deepest
f though L
There is the picture of the drunk
ard's home for you t co itemplate if
you have any drawing towards a
winebibber. How would you like to
spend your evenings aloue while he
M at clubs or in saloons spending his
sulstatee in riotous living! How
wouid you like to go out to wash, or
clean ixxise. br do all sorts of work.
to eke out a living for yourself and
children, and tcaybe for him! How
wcKild you enjoy a vomiting, stupid
beast of a man as a protector and
companion, anyway! Would you
pnd it pleasant to nurse in infancy
and tend in maturity a grinning, gib
beriag idiot as a result of oeiog mar
ried to a drunken brute of a hus
band? You run the risk of anyone.
r all of tliese eonlitioos being
yours, if you link your fate with a
tippler.
And what would life be warthto
you tied to a gay gallant with no sta
bdity of character! How should you j
bear to sec lite smiles and tender at
tentions tiiat were niice yours, and
still sre yours by right, showered up
on some undeserving dirt, who thinks
it rather a good joke to break your
heart I Could you smile on, and do
your duty patiently, with the money
that rightfully 'should buy home com-
forts for you and your children spent
for diamonds and gewgaws o adorn
the oerson ofsome .inWnrtJ.v rt..rpf
You
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couldn t, and wouian't, did 1
j -
yon 6ay ! W ell then have a watch- ;
ful C5"e over the company -ou keepr1
At best mam
nage is a lottery, and
' - .. ,
admor feature m court
deception a le
mp, ann oniy penect trust can give
AM m.a & J m.
oy wsiiiJHux ot uauyiHg respeci
through long years of married life,
If rm dtr n Mir;viHM .l-w iho
character, of our lover, you bad best
can a oait ana pursue life aloue. It
IS more tnaa time that women were,
demanding parity for purity, and as
uiSu r morals for husbands
,nea do foc wU'- The poet writes :
i
a. uufcw,w .uc.,i t mi to God because of the on-" ""v v-us a uw parents.
iu wiuij, k gin uu iucii noi ga iicr; . j I 1 he flav UK" the oneninr nf fJi fr
- . pression of the Egyptians, and com) ly tw iue opening oitneiree
But it will not send these selfish ,. f. f(llltf!l,f . school arrives, and children from far
fellows with Godless appetites to an
Che same moral plane, &nd such as
are ,ia the institution would not he
wishing to get out, and such as are
out wishing to get in, as is alleged
to have been the case since the be
ginning of the world.
Parents are the best moulders of
character, but if they fall short in
their duty, and there is noc enough
inate strength in the child for selfJ
preservation, there is trouble in store
lor somebody. So, girls, don't be in
a hurry about marrying. Let your
courtship have some length to it, tjjat
you may know what you are about.
An editor writes: "No marriage
engagement should be more than six
months long ; the most ardent lover
gets tired of living up to his girl's
ideal any longer than that11 Tbis is
good reason why a courtship, not en-1
gagement, should go on and on' for
a long titte; for two or three years
of walking the chalk line of high
merit to please bis dear, might be a
practice, th&tf would cling fr life.
ux-uuv tieveu years is none iw ins
to find out if a man is reall" a man
"for a that," or .only .-"living up to
his girl's ideal." (The Head of the
Sidneys ays he wishes I had men
tioned this to him before we were
married, he would have liked a few
more years of real single peace and
quiet. )
The rule applies equally well when
reversed, for girls are not always
above deceiving: but the matrimon
ial venture ifnot so great qu te for
man as woman, lie has the world
of business and his feMowmeii out
side of home to absorb a large part
of bis thoughts, while she has a life
of unmitigated woe before her if de
ceived and neglected, and uuprovid
ed for at the family fireside.
The x -convict Bid well advises
young meu "to avoid the epeod thrift,
the gam blerlhe libertine, and the
drtmfcard ; and it is even more ira
portan I, Hear girls, for you to shun
such society, for a whole family of
unborn 'generations may have to suf
fer the consequences of your as
sociating with such characters. If
you stand aloof from them you will
not be in danger of being persuaded
to marry such. It is too true that a
fine horse and carriage, a silk hat,
and broadcloth, with a fat pocket-
bok are often seductive.
'Maidens like moths are ever caught
by glare,
And mammon wins his way where
aeraphs might despair.
Mary Sidney in Farm Journal.
If Time -be of all things the mos
precious, wasting Time must be the
greatest prodigality, since lost Time
n never iouuh saiu; ami wum we
- 4 enough always proves lit-
fle enough. Let us then up and be
doing, and doing to the purpose; so
bF diligence shall te do more with ,
less periUHxitv. Sloth makes all
thjajI5 difficult.but Industry all easy ;i
and be tliat cisetb late must trot
all j
his
nay, ana suatt scarce overtawe nis s
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business at. nrght; while Laztnessj
travels so siowiy, mat rovenv scon
jt OQt tb&t urive thee - and earlv to
bed, and early lo rise, makes a man
beal thy, wealthy, and wise. fcrankhn.j
Public Schools Again.
For the Patron and Gleaner.
When the cry of the Isrealites
required to make brick, not without!
straw as it is usnally q-ioted, iwt ln 11861,001 nombenng about thirty
that after gathering their own straw !five' ie teaeber when she (I use the
tliey were expected to make the , feraiflioe most of oar public
same number of bricks in a day as j001 teacliers are women) begins
whea the straw was furnished. Now j to examine the tKks of the pupils,
it seems to me that the able Editor !8mls the followin articles, (with some
of the "Patron Gleaner and j slight variation) : Three good slates.
the "eminent physician" (the latter
of whom if I mistake not is a trus
tee of one of Bertie's public schools),
are requiring even more of th? pub
lic school teacher than the Egyp
tians did of the Isreilites, when they
insist, or even suggest.-that anything
else, especially a thing so extensive
as free hand drawing, be made obli
gatory, unless at the same time, tbejr
insist that more facilities for teach
ing Ih3 added to the public school
building. The various cductiooal
Journals and some other papers of
the State have for sometime (to use
a bomcb but expressive phrase) been
pitching into the public school teach
er. Now I wish to' present a few
points on the other side. I have a
large amount of sympathy with the
public school - teacher. : ATot on the
principal that a "fellow feeling makes
us wondrous kind but because as a
bishop once remarked of a Methodist
Annual Conference :tbey, arc the
poorest paid and most liberal set of
paupers I have ever seen." ; -
I raise no -question' as to the ad
vantages to be derived Irom free
hand drawing indeed. L believe that
nt only drawing, but Music, Latin,
and more than alt, pahlology, should
be taught in ul 8c1:IoIh but I do
,,lx.j.,.,..Ti;f(0. fi.r
teaching should increase in propor
tion to the increase in what is re
quired from a teacher.' . '
I have visited some of the public
school buildings in this and other
ooun:ies of North Carolina and have
been shocked at their scanty supply
of not only comforts, but of absolute
necessaries Now lets take a public
school building in Bertie -and as it
is in a good part of the county I sop
pose it may be considered a fair av
erage. First there is -no well of wa
ter on the lot, so regardless of weath
er the children must be sent off a
hundred and fifty or two hundred
yards for It. In winter (the time
that the schools are usually in ses
sion) the grounds around the house
are for weeks soaked in water, and
the teacher and children must wade
through this to reach the building,
which, by the way, is good as far as
it goes, but is neither ceiled or plas
tered, therefore is very cold. When
the interior is reached, we find it
furnished (?) ! equipped (?) I Well,
we'll see. The day being cold the
first thing we notice is a good stove,
but it has an old rusty worn out pipe,
which smokes whenever the wind
blows, and consequently' renders the
room uninhabitable unless the win
dows are kept open, not a pleasant
alternative with the themometer at
thirty-five.
The furniture, if such it can be
called, consists of an inclined shelf '
nailed up on one side of the room,
I
(ft the children to write on I pre-:
siiraechair for the teacher, a water j
bucket and dipper, eight or ten long
benches without backs and a dozen
or to r.&sls driven around the" wall
for h?i
No desks no -black-
mi.- n, n fiiohs no die-'
. .
lw'Q - J, v- 1 mi&
most say no anything, to enable ow ?
teacher or pupil to do good wirk.1rth
teicner or pnpi
xi,e children are
'
from rn-ne.t,.
neccRst
:nilnr nn t , t. i.
enil unless child nature was dilferent
jit is a moral impossibilitj to keep
order. ,
I Now that have seen how woe
fully the trustees, state and county
superintendents, have neglected iheir
nd near are rbustletT off to school.
uve l,aives x x pieces lourorave
incucs ana ot man Hold shapes, a. half
dozen slate pencils, two bottles of
ink, one pen, three or four sheets of
paper and about a number five copy
look with several pages torn out or
scribbled over belooglng to a chdd
who cannot mrkc a letter. When the
l)ooks are handed in it would seem
there was an .educational convention
oti hand from the number of gram
marians, arithmaticians and ."'hist-
oriahs " represented, while the read
ers, oh i "their name is legion,, and
if the teacher dares to intimate that
she would" like to classify so.ee of
the pnpils.and must have new books,
the parents complain and say, "It is
so expensive to buy books.9 and ask
the committe for some one else next
time, and if she tells the trustees that
maps, blackboards, etc., are needed,
they dub her hard to please and
elect some one else. -
- Now let's get down to facts. You
engage a teacher and put her in one
of these average schools, with no
blackboards, no map, and children
whose parents will not buy books,
and it will take her frooi six to eight
b ors to g; qver the tessons--she
loesnt teach them ruuqh, fr it js
im.ossibie under the circumstances.
.When hhe goes book; sle stodics four
or . five ' liburs, preparfng for next
day's work ; you pay her 2,1.00 per
monitis lor eleven hoir s ban! work;
I e pays out eight dollars for board,
i
tne for washing, and "two for other
exppnses ; so at the end of the month
she has twelve .or 'fourteen dollars
Uft. Can you get a day laborer to
to do as much work for .so', little pay?
You engage the day laborer for
twelve months and furnish him with
all necessary ititplements to cultivate
your land ; but you expect the teach
er to cultivate your children's hearts
and brains in three months without
MLhe necessary implements Is that
jnstf Who can complain if. she
fails f No one7 should ; and yet most
pa-ents do. - The blame and the fail
ure lelong not to the teacher or
child,1 but to the legi-lators, superin
tendents, trustees, and the parents
of the state. '
If you will exjunine the matter,
readers, you will find that the public
schoolteachers are' the poorest paid,
yet most faithful class of workers to
be found ; you will cot complain that
eo little but will wonder that so much
has beeu done.
To prove that I am not far from
right, I request that the chairman of
the board of trustees of every public
school in Uertie and Northampton
counties, publish in the Patron and
Gleaner an itemized statement of
tlte condition and furniture jof their
sc'iool building, the ' length of tle
school tcrmand the salary paid by
them. Let ua begin at the bottom
and build on a firm" foundation.
Pnocioif.
v Which is the belter, the gold or
its
glitter?
picture
or its
frame?- The vir!
,
lmn.? r,ie
rtne . tt,e praise it!
stance 'or its fibad-
stance or its,suao r
Ilenrv Clav's wonls "I would'
uenry ia s woni i wou.u
ier he ritrht than be President '
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are ire?erved as in a casket nfffohl ?
1,1 tlip mpniinp; nf UionAnn who.
recnized is the utteranca gAm of,
brighter radiance than eysr sparkled
m the diadem of a monarch.
Free School Books.
The Sentinel beltevcsjn education
and believes also in free sch.ol
books. The cost of books in the
.schools of Boston had been as low as
70 cents a year and furnished books
free in all places where it lias been
tried ha been followed by an, in
creased attendance and ,bv more ef.
ficient;.' schools..- That is the desira
ble thing an increase of edutation
without a proportionately increased
expense.: r -;r-'-V.:- -V;
School book rings, composed of
bKik "'publisher, have always fought
the free school book proposition, bnt
The Sentinel woulrtl go to the full
length of the prop?6ition and have
the State-prepare and print all text
books used in the common school;
This is alre&ny rioae in one State
where by the tricks of the school.
book publishers, parents have had
to pay exira largo sums for their
children's books. One ccunty, for
instance, would adopt one set of
readers, and the next county anotlw ,
er. If a family removed from one.
cou nty to the other the hook9 they
had already bought were useless.
They bad to buy new text books at
considerable expense The bribery
of - the book men tp influence school
boards became matters of scandal
and at last the State took the whole
business in .charge, had its best
eclkolars prepare good books, and
they were printed in the State print
ing office.
People sometimes forget toconsid
er that education-is a business prop
osition."." In educated communities
property fa always more valuable and
crime more rare. There is more com
fort, better government, less taxation.
Oar schools are not ch ari table dnsti-1
tutions.--' They are, In fact, tlie'mbit,
necessary and vital mediums ofgooa.r
government. Stand, by them. Pro-,
tect them. Cherish them. Don't
let anyliody injure them in any way.
In them lie's the future of this town
and this nation. Winston Sentinel.
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