TRANSYLVANIA'S
MENTAL HEALTH PROGRAM
By - Dr. Joanna Byera
Consulting Psychologist
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Dependence - Independence -
Interdependence
One of the things that happen to single
people, especially if they are living alone, is
that of developing an attitude of independence
which at times cuts them off from others. Be
cause they neither share with someone else
in a living situation nor have the need to give
way to others, there can be an attitude of “I
i can do it” and “I don’t need anyone to help
me.” Along with this can go an ego-centric
attitude of “I am right”, I am the center of the
world” and “I can tell others how to live.”
Probably one of the saddest experiences
one can go through is to have some person who
is living alone come to visit. I remember when
we have had visitors like this. One of them
talked incessantly for 10 days. Conversation
was punctuated with ‘I’d — ”, “I think — ”, “I
believe — ”, and ‘‘If you could just do what I
I do!” After the 10 days we had two days in
which to really talk with that visitor. Certainly
the getting it all out was good for the guest but
a rather boring and sad experience for the host
family.
Still another example is that of a friend
who would not permit us to stop by to take her
to a party, who refused extemporaneous din
ner invitations and was often curt when other
offers of help were given. One evening dur
ing a discussion she remarked: “Nobody helps
me!” About that time we had had enough of
this and the whole gang pounced: One said,
“you wouldn’t let me take you to the party.”
Another said, “You wouldn’t come to dinner
after a swim one evening! remember?” etc.
She looked hurt and sulked the rest of the
evening; but next day she called and said
V “you are right! that’s what I do! How can you
people stand me?” As a result she looked at
herself, recognized how she had been, and
made a definite effort to change. It was a
while before she had learned another way of
answering. Ewery-once in a while she would
say, “No, I can get there by myself—” then
catch herself and say—“Oh dear, there I go
again—yes, I’d like for you to come by.”
It took some doing for her to move from
independence to interdependence for that was
the result. She became dependent on us some,
we asked more of her and soon there was an in
terdependence which made everybody more com
fortable with her and made her more coipfort
able with us. The next base thing was that her
changed attitude made her more attractive so
she was engaged before the year was out and
married six months after that.
In this present day world when things
seem difficult and there are many changes to
fce made, there is still the need to be dependent
on, independent of, and interpendent with
other people. Sometimes if we look at our
selves in a new light we see that are not ex
periencing one or more of these joys.
Of course, as in other areas of living, we
want to experience all and use all of these ways
behaving. Too much dependence can lead to un
happy relationships. So can too much independ
ence can lead to unhappy relationships. So can
too much independence. Interdependence leads
to more comfortable relationships and allows us
all to be healthy people.
If anyone has some area of mental health
that should be brought out for discussion,
please feel free to call the Mental Health Pro
gram 883-3955.
I ETOWAH VALLEY GOLF CLUB
DINING ROOM & LOUNGE
For a dinner and evening that is distinctively
different, relax and dine in a charming
atmosphere overlooking beautiful Etowah
Valley Golf Course. FEATURING PRIME
STEAKS AND SEAFOOD.
Toss your own Salad from 17 ingredients.
Champagne with your meal, compliments of the dub.
Thurs. is Family Night featuring a spaghetti
dinner with a delicious homemade meat
sauce.
By Popular Demand Now Open Every
Evening Except SUNDAYS and TUES
DAYS 5:00 - 11:00 p.m.
N.C.
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Women's Golf Tournament
At Glen Cannon Is Slated
The Glen Cannon Country
Club will hokl: their Women’s
Club Championship Tourna
ment August 31 - September 8.
All Women Club members
are urged to join this event.
August 31 - September 1 are
for 36-hole qualifying rounds.
“Get your own foursome,
sign up for tee time and pay
entry fee at pro shop,” officials
say.
September 7 - 8 is tournament
play, which will be flighted,
Trophies will be awarded for
championship, first and second
runner up . . . First and second
runner up in each flight.
Medalist award will be given
for first two days of qualifying.
In the event of rain qualify
irg rounds will be played Sep
tember 2nd and 3rd. Past Club
Champions arc: 1968 - Betty
Mcllwain; 1969 - Shirley Lea;
and 1970 . Betty Brown.
Openings Available At The
Presbyterian Kindergarten
Several openings for stud
ents are still available for the
coming term of the Weekday
Kindergarten of the Brevard
Davidson River Presbyterian
Church. Classes for five-year
old children will be held each
week day morning from 9:00 to
12:00 noon following the same
schedule as the public schools.
Children of age five whose
fifth birthday falls prior to
October 15th may be enrolled.
Officials issue the following
statement:
“The Presbyterian Kinder
garten has spacious rooms, ex
cellent classroom equipment
and a fenced-in outdoor play
ground equipped with safe, at
tractive equipment.
“A week-day kindergarten
helps children in many ways.
They develop mentally by learn
ing through experience at their
own rate of speed in a happy,
home-like environment under
cheerful, well-trained guidance.
“They develop socially by
learning to live together
through play, to give and
take, to share their toys
and working materials, as wdl
113 their first cooperative
thoughts, with each other. And,
it helps them develop emotion
ally by learning to accept
change gracefully in our chang
ing world today, thus establish
ing stability at an early age.
“Also, in a church - sponsor
ed school, a Christian atmos
phere will prevail wherein the
child may develop spiritually
but without sectarian or de
nominational emphasis of any
sort. Children of all faiths are
welcome.”
Mrs. Glenn C. Winston, a
qualified teacher with public
school experience, will be the
teacher. Additional information
may be obtained and registra
tions may be made by calling
her at 883-2696 or the church
office, 883-2488.
Revival To Begin Monday At
North Toxaway Baptist Church
By - Mrs. Leo Owen
LAKE TOXAWAY — Revival
services will begin Monday
evening, August 23rd, at North
Toxaway Baptist church with
the Rev. Harold McKinnish,
pastor of Ebenezer Baptist
church in Henderson County as
the visiting minister. The pastor
of the church, Rev. Tommy
Owen, invites the public to at
tend.
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EXECUTOR’S NOTICE
In The General Court of Justice
Superior Court Division
State of North Carolina
Transylvania County
Having qualified as Executor
of the estate of Essie Scott
Banther, of Transylvania Coun
ty, North Carolina, this is to
notify all persons having claims
against the estate of said Essie
Scott Banther to present them
to the undersigned within 6
months from date of the publi
cation of this notice or same
will be pleaded in bar of their
recovery. All persons indebted
to said estate please make im
mediate payment.
This the 3rd day of August,
1971.
Gayle E. Ramsey
c/q Ramsey, Hill, Smart &
Ramsey
P. O. Box 426
Brevard, N. C. - 28712
8-5-4tc
EXECUTOR’S NOTICE
State of North Carolina
County of Transylvania
Having qualified as the
Executor of the estate of James
O. Summey, deceased, late of
the county of Transylvania,
North Carolina, this is to give
notice that all persons having
claims against the estate of the
deceased to present them to the
undersigned Executor at Route
2, Brevard, N. C’ 28712 on or
before the 29th day of January,
1972 or this notice will be plead
ed in bar of their recovery. All
persons indebted to the said
estate will please make immedi
ate settlement.
This the 29th day of July,
1971.
Van E. Summey
Executor
Estate of James O. Summey
deceased.
7-29-4tp
Methodist Kindergarten Is
Still Accepting Applications
The First United Methodist
Church Weekday Kindergarten
is still accepting a few applica
tions for the four-year old and
five-year old classes this fall.
Children who are or will be
four years old or five year old
prior to October 15th will be
accepted.
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The four-year old class'meets
three days a week, Mbnday,
Wednesday and Friday. ;
The five-year old group meets
daily, 9:00 to 12:00 noon
through out the school yetp.'
The public school calendar will
be followed for vacations and
holidays and days schools are
closed due to the weather.
The weekday Kindergarten
has been sponsored and operat
ed by the First United Metho
dist church since 1965. It is the
purpose of the Kindergarten
not only to meet the standards
of the State Board of Education,
but also to provide in a Chris
tian manner for all children in
the community, as they work
and play together.
Classes will begin on Monday,
August 30th, at 9:00. Applica
tions may be obtained by call
ling the director, Mrs. Robert
Lentz at 883-32M.’fc| the church
office at 883-9025. |
OPEN FOR THE SUMMEk!
POOR RICHARD'S
KITCHEN
AT
THE HAUNTED MILL
“A REAL COUNTRY MEAL
SERVED FAMILY STYLE”
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Luncheon Served 12 Noon to 3 p.m.
Dinner Served 5 p.m. to 8 p.m.
AFTERNOON TEA
Served 3 p.m. to 5 p.m.
CLOSED MONDAYS
_★
SUNDAY DINNER
Served from 12 Noon to 8 p.m.
_★
FOR RESERVATIONS & INFORMATION
DIAL 1-693-6931
Directions to Poor Richard’s Kitchen
And The Haunted Mill
FROM HIGHLANDS & BREVARD
Take 64 East toward Hendersonville—just past
Etowah across 2nd bridge turn right on Cum
mings Road. Go 2*/j miles deadend, TURN
LEFT one/half mije.
Tomorrow
All your tomorrows.
And each tomorrow has
a different need.
And each need something
today doesn’t know about;
You can make tomorrow
better. More special.
How?
Uncover today the help
we can give you tomorrow.
Know who can serve
when you feel all alone.
Whatever your needs become,
learn who we are and lean
what full service really
I means. Let’s make torcoi row
I everythingyouwantittobe.
I Let’s make tomorrow together.
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