TRANSYLVANIA'S
MENTAL HEALTH PROGRAM
By - Dr. Joanna Byers
Consulting Psychologist
Complaints And Complaining
The verb Complain means to express
grief, pain or discontent. The reason for ex
pressing a complaint is to get it out in the
open so that something might be done to ease
the offending situation. Many times some
thing is done. But what about the times that
nothing happens?
There are individuals who repeat their
complaints over and over. It is almost like
listening to a record. Sav the right word and
on goes the record. A physician told me of a
patient who came in each week. Every time
she came in she went through the same story.
One day he taped her list of complaints. Six
months later he played the tape for the patient.
When it was ended she looked at him seriously
and said “Yes, doctor, that’s exactly how I feel.”
In all that time neither had done anything to
change her, so the complaints remained. Final
ly. when the doctor began to listen to what she
said, he was able to sav: “You must decide. Do
you want your complaints or do you want to do
something about your marriage?”
All too often when another person com
plains we fail to listen. When we listen to
what is being said then something can hap
pen. In the case mentioned above the real
problem was hidden under the cloud of physi
cal ailments. So long as the physician was
concerned only with physical illness he could
find no basis for complaints. When he finally
listened to her, he was able to begin to help
her to see that the real problem was her un
happiness and bitterness toward her husband
and children. It took another six months for!
her to look at herself and accept that it was
this that made her feel ill. When she decided
she would do something about it, the list of
complaints began to grow shorter and short
er.
Another kind of complaining is that of the
person who wants to blame other people for his
or her troubles. This individual says “My hus
band’s drinking is the cause of all our troubles.”
or “My wife’s family is always mixing into our
business.” In cases such as this what happens
is that the person falls into the habit of blaming
others and doesn’t stop to look at his or her own
behavior. They tend to remove themselves
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as a possible source of interpersonal conflict,
so therefore nothing can be done about the com
plaints.
When anyone can begin to look at com
plaints as an expression of pain, grief and dis
content they can begin to ask the questions
which will lead to relief from the porblem.
For example, the wife who says “My hus
band’s drinking is the cause of all our
troubles”, may begin to ask herself “Why is
he drinking?” This leads to new questions
and soon she may be asking the pertinent ques
tion: “What does my behavior have to do
with my husband’s drinking?”
Do you have a favorite record of com
plaints that you play out when somebody says
the right word? If you stop to listen to your
self sometime then ask yourself what you have
done to lessen the problem. And also ask your
self if your complaints are masking some prob
lem you don’t want to Jook at. If they are a
mask you may need someone else to help you
work out a solution. But until you decide to do
something about it your complaining will cause
nothing to happen, except to lose your friends
and loved ones.
Are your complaints a way of blaming
other people? If they are then when you look
at yourself, you may ask “Why do I do this?”
“How else can I behave?” “Who am I trying
to kid?”
Complaining may be, as someone has
said, a good old American habit, but what
does it accomplish if nobody listens and acts?
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Legion Dance
On Feb. 5th
The Monroe Wilson post oi
the American Legion will spon
sor a dance on February 5tt
here in the Legion Memorial
hall.
Music for the dance will be
furnished by the Contempos
and admission will be $3.00 pet
couple.
The public is invited.
From The Clarion
Music Department Presents Wide
Variety Of Musical Programs
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Miss Talmadge Is A Finalist
For A Meredith Scholarship
Pamela McKay Talmadge oi
route 1. Pisgah Forest, has been
selected as the finalist in the
Transylvania Association, one
of 80 Baptist Associations in
North Carolina, for a Regional
Baptist Scholarship given by
Meredith College.
The selection was based on
the student’s contribution to
her home church, her potential
as a future leader in the de
nomination, and her scholastic
ability, said Mrs. Fred Kilstrom
of route 1, Penrose, chairman
of the association selection
committee.
Miss Talmadge, daughter of
Mr. and Mrs. Stephen T. Talm
adge of route 1, Pisgah Forest,
is a member of the Turkey
Creek Baptist church whose
minister, Rev. Zez D. Baker,
endorsed her application.
Members of the selection
committee named by Meredith
College to choose the finalist
from the Transylvania Associ
ation were Mrs. Fred' Kilstrom
of Penrose. Rev. Otis Wheel
house of Brevard and Rev.
Nolan Ford of Brevard.
Miss Talmadge’s selection as
an association finalist places
her in competition with other
association finalists for the
Regional Baptist Scholarship
available for an entering fresh
man from the region in which
the Transylvania Association is
located.
One scholarship is available
for an entering freshman at
Meredith from each of the 10
regions formed by the Baptist
associations. The 10 Regional
Baptist Scholarships, which may
be renewed annually, range
from $100 to $1,000 per year, de
pending on the financial need
of the recipient.
Before the associational win
ners go on to regional competi
tion, their applications for ad
mission to Meredith must be
approved by the college. After
approval, candidates are sent to
a regional committee for evalu
ation and selection of a winner.
Meredith will announce the
10 recipients of the Regional
Baptist Scholarships as soon as
Several brief items of inter
est have taken place in the
music field recently.
On Tuesday, January 18, Miss
Irene Brychcin of the mu
sic faculty presented an infor
mal recital at 4:30 p. m. in
Dunham Auditorium. Miss Bry
chcin clarinetist was ac
companied by Sam Cope at the
piano. i
This recital had been pre
sented by Miss Brychcin at
Western Carolina University
the previous week. This was a
part of the faculty recital ex
change program arranged be
tween Brevard and ,W. C. U.
Members of their faculty will
perform in Brevard pn March
14, N .1
On the night of Saturday,
January 15, the Asheville Sym
phony Orchestra presented its
first concert of the new year.
Several Brevard people per
form in the Symphony. On Jan
uary 21, it was many students’
privilege to hear the young
renowned pianist, Andre Watts,
as part of the Asheville Com
munity Concert Series.
This session was held at
Salem College to plan for next
year’s convention to be held
there. Mr. Adams is First Vice
President (Program Chair
man), and Mr. Miller is thl
Voice Section Chairman.
every region selects a winner.
The amount of each indi
vidual scholarship will be de
termined by the financial need
of the winner and will frequent
ly be a portion of a total pack
age of aid.
A winner who has no finan
cial need will receive the $100
minimum scholarship. Associ
ation finalist who are not
named regional winners but are
still in need of aid, will be
eligible for financial assistance
under the regular aid program
at Meredith.
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