TRANSYLVANIA'S
MENTAL HEALTH PROGRAM
By - Dr. Joanna Byers
Consulting Psychologist
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Talking: To-At-Or With
In my work with young people I hear
them say: “You can’t talk to my parents.”
When I am with parents I hear them say,
“We’ve talked to her and talked to her, but
it does no good.” When married couples are
having problems they say “I can’t talk to him
(or her).” All of these people are saying
they cannot communicate with one another.
Today I’d like to have you look at the pre
positions that go after the word talk. Talking to
someone usually means lecturing them or giving
information. Talking at someone means one per
son talking in the direction of another person but
there is little evidence that the other person is
listening. Talking with someone means that
both parties are taking part, listening to what
the oilier says and replying or presenting another
idea. The first two kinds of talking go in a one
way direction with minimal feed-back from the
recipient. The last one goes in a two way di
rection, with feed-back from all participants
and gives some basis for each person to try to
understand what the other is saying.
As you are taking a look at yourself and
others, take a look at how you talk. How
many times are you talking to or at somebody,
neither wanting nor expecting any reply? This
kind of talking goes on all the time. We have
jokes about it, cartoons are made about it and
yet it still happens. Many times mothers
will say to me, “Maybe I talk too much!” Usu
ally they are right. They are talking to or
at their children. When 1 ask how much do
you talk WITH your children?” the answer
comes back “But I talk TO them all the time!”
Too many times parents don’t want any
answer from their children. This is one of the
things they call “back talk” or “sassing.” Then
when the children are big enough and have ma
tured enough to ask questions or to talk with
their parents the parents have become so ac
customed to talking at or to the children they
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1 master Charlie Patton an
nounces today.
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was written by the internal
Revenue Service and con
tains many examples to illu»
trate how the tax law applies
to actual situations. A spec
ial feature of the booklet is
the sample filled-in return,
Form 1040 keyed to pages
where explanations can be
found for each entry on the
return.
The 160-page booklet is
now on sale and costs 75
cents a copy.
“By selling this booklet at
postal facilities in Brevard
and Pisgah Forest, we are of
fering a convenient service
to our customers,” Postmaster
Patton said.
“We are participating In a
nationwide program to make
the tax booklet available to
the public in 15,000 postal
facilities,” he concluded.
are unable to listen and to talk with the young
people.
In arguments or discussions all too often
each person is so busy getting ready to say
what he has to say next that he fails to hear
what others are saying. At one meeting where
this took place three men in a row had said
approximately the same thing using different
words. Each thought he was at odds with the
other. When a fourth man stopped them and
said “Please listen to what Tom said”, and
then what Sam said and then what John said,
after they listened they all looked at each
other in wonderment. Each was so caught up
in what he had to say next that he had no idea
that there was no argument, they were all m
agreement. And then they were able to dis
cuss what could be done about it.
So when we are talking let’s try to de
termine whether we are really talking with peo
ple. Perhaps another way of saying this is: Are
we really listening to what people are saying?
Are we just waiting for silence, when we can
say “um hum”, or to put in our few words? If
parents would listen to children and talk with
them, and children would listen to parents, how
much better their relationship could be. The
same can be said for wives and husbands; co
workers; lodge members; church-goers; etc.
When you have your next contact with
another person try to judge whether you are
talking to him, at him, or with him. If you are
talking with people your life is enriched and
so is theirs.
Brevard High School News
From The Broadcaster
Merrill Recipient
Becky Merrill has been
named BHS’s Betty Cocker
Homemaker of Tomorrow for
1972. She was chosen on the
basis of her score on a writ
ten knowledge and attitude ex
amination taken by senior
girls on Dec. 7.
She will receive a specially
designed award charm from
General Mills, sponsor of the
annual educational program. In
addition, she is now eligible
for state and national honors.
The State Homemaker of
Tomorrow will be selected from
all school winners and will be
awarded a $1*500 college scho
larship. A scholarship of $500
will go to the second - ranking
girl in the state.
Becky has been a member
of the DE DECA dub during
her junior and senior years.
Also she is presently employed
by Winn-Dixie.
“I was extremely surprised
to win this award, but I feel
honored,” Becky said when
asked her reaction to the
award.
Honors Club
Tutors Now
The National Honor Society
is now sponsoring tutoring ses
sions after school on Wednes
days in Mrs. Lathrop’s room.
These tutoring sessions are de
signed to help students in all
academic areas, not just math
and sciences. All that is neces
sary is for students to come by
after school.
Introduction of new members
in the National Honor Society
is currently being processed by
the teachers and guidance of
fice, who determine who the
new members will be, on the
basis of their scholarship, lead
ership, character, and service.
The induction ceremony will
be held sometime next week.
Silversteen
News Reported
By • Edith Hogsed
(Too Late Last Week)
SILVERSTEEN — Although
the crowd was small at the Bake
Sale the amount was gradify
ing. We would like to thank
each one that attended the bake
sale.
Sunday guest of Mr. and Mrs.
Avery Hogsed was Judy Owen
from Balsam Grove.
Guests of Mrs. Eliza Hogsed
were Mr. and Mrs. A. C. Hog
sed and family, Mr. and Mrs.
Artellus Hogsed and family and
Mr. and Mrs. Lesley Hogsed.
The total amount of money
taken in was $89.82. We hope
everyone had a nice time. There
has been a meeting set for Sat
urday, February 12th, at 7:00
o’clock in the evening. Every
one come and have a good time.
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Jack Huggins Is Promoted By
Knitwear Division Of Hanes
Promotions for three mem
bers of the marketing depart
ment of Hanes Corporation’s
Knitwear Division were an
nounced today by Thomas J.
Btenemann, Vice President -
Sales and Marketing.
John W. Ketchum has been
named Product Manager-Men’s
and Boys’ Sportswear. Jack L.
Huggins and Robert P. Mos'jr
have been appointed associate
product managers in the men's
and boys’ product area. Mr.
Huggins will be responsible for
“Pro’s Choice” and “States
man” brands of lightweight un
derwear, “Red Label” women
products, pajamas, heavyweight
NOTICE
OF
SERVICE OF PROCESS
In The General Court Of Justice
District Court Division
State of North Carolina
County of Transylvania
MERCEDES M. HACKNEY,
Plaintiff
- vs -
CALVIN EARL HACKNEY,
Defendant
TO CALVIN EARL HACKNEY:
Take notice that a pleading
seeking relief against you has
been fill'd in the office of the
Clerk of the General Court of
Justice of Transylvania Coun
ty, North Carolina, the nature
of relief sought being as fol
lows:
To obtain an absolute divorce
on the grounds of one (1) year
separation.
You are required to make
defense to such pleading not
later than the 20th day of
March, 1972, and upon your
failure to do so the party seek
ing service against you will ap
ply to the Court for the re
lief sought.
This the 3rd day of February,
1972.
HAMLIN, POTTS &
HUDSON,
Attorneys for the Plaintiff
By: S/Jack H. Potts
15 East Jordan Street^
Brevard, N. C. 28712
2/3/3tc
JACK HUGGINS
underwear and special brands.
Mr. Moses will be responsible
for “Red Label” knits, “Under
colors” and other fashion un
derwear styles, and all private
label brands.
Mr. Ketchum has been with
Hanes Knitwear since May
1969, having been associated
previously with Reynolds Met
als Co. and Clinton E. Frank,
Inc., advertising agency in
Richmond, Va. He is a 1964
graduate of Marshall Universi
ty and has done graduate work
at Virginia Commonwealth
University.
Mr. Huggins joined Hanes
Knitwear in 1965 and has held
a number of marketing man
agement posts. He had pre
viously been associated with
Mason Athletic Company in
Gastonia, N. C. He is a native
of Brevard, and an Army vet
eran.
Mr. Moser was also associat
ed with Mason Athletic Com
pany prior to joining Hanes
Knitwear’s Marketing Depart
ment in 1968. He is a 1967
graduate of Wake Forest Uni
versity and a native of Salis
bury.
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