The Home Circle.
IT MUST BE
However the battle is ended,
Though proudly the victor comes
With fluttering flags and prancing nags
And echoing roll of drums,
Still truth proclaims this motto
In letters of living light
No question is ever settled
Until it is settled rigit.
Though the heel ot the strong oppressor
May grind the weak in the dust,
And the voice of fame with one acclaim
May call him great and just,
Let those who applaud take warning
And keep this motto in sight
No question is ever settled
Until it is fettled right.
Let those who have failed take courage,
Though the enemy seemed to have won,
Though his ranks are strong, if ho be in the wrong,
The battle is not yet done.
For sure as the morning follows
The darkest hour of the night.
No question is ever settled
Until it is settled right. Ella Wheeler Wilcox.
THE GENTLEMAN.
It is sometimes well to remember ! a certain promotion in the Navy as
that the truest gentleman who ever the rank and file, to mingle military
walked this earth was born in a sta- j and naval expressions, could not
ble and worked at the carpenter's j fulfil the social functions expected
bench. He hud royal blood in his
veins, but his mother was nearer
peasant than queen. lie grew up in
a provincial town who.-e ill fame
had passed into a proverb. Ilis
friends were fishermen and he broke
bread with tho low caste Publican.
Yet in the home of the rich Pharisee,
not Simon but Jesus was the gentle-
man and Simon received a rebuke for through the appointment to An
neglecting the ordinary usages of : napolis and the training given there
hospitality which he never forgot, j by a liberal government. He was
Nor was Jesus unmindful of the : reminded of the pit from which he
usages of society. It was against ; had been digged, the elevation be
his disciples and not him that the ( ing all to his credit until he mani
Pharisee brought the charge of eat- ; fested that want of consideration
ing with unwashen hands. It was j for his fellows, many of whom are
the gentleman who, all through his as well born and, save for the pecu
life, showed that consideration for i iiur training at Annapolis, as fit as
others which is the distinguishing j he is to represent the American peo
mark of the class ; consideration for ple And the bitterest drop in the
women, sympathy in their afflictions
and regard for their helplessness ;
tenderness for the little ones ; self-
sacrifice for his friends. It was the :
gentleman who said to the soldiers, .
If ye seek me let these go their way ;
who put royal, inquisitive Ilerod to
the blush by dignified silence ; who
made Pilate uncomfortable by the
simple sincerity of his character and
evident reading of Pilate's motive ;
who showed forbearance to his exe-
cutioners and compassion to the j respect himself a cad. Other peo
thief beside him ; while in his dying ! pe instinctively agree with him in
agony he declared in a word his no- j hjs estimate. He can imitate a gen
ble trust in his friends and his ten- j Meman on occasion, but, no matter
derness for his mother, saying, Wo- j wr.at h.is wealth or his social posi
man, behold thy sou ; and to John, tiorij he a manikin rather than a
Behold thy mother !
We are conscious, perhaps in read
ing this, that the word has been
fearfully abused. It was formerly
used of those who occupied a certain the quu from a porcupine's back
rank whatever their other qualihca- aml we ive them u wij0 berth,
tions. With the equalizing tenden- j Vcrv Teful men they may be some
cies of our own country it has been ; times, shouldering their way through
a word to be claimed by every one life aml commanding the admira
as his right, the assertion that a man ; ton of the weaklings whom they
is no gentleman generally resulting : thrust aside. Their self-respect has
m the violent proof of the asser
tion. Not every man of gentle
blood is a gentleman, nor is every
one who has attained a certain posi-
tion in society. There is no birth so ! real ,cntleni.tn and tho people see
humble that a man cannot become a j what pities they are. It is said
a gentleman and there is no name so j tUat a p0rCupine is really a small
obscure that a gentleman nay not j arjmml when stripped of his quills,
wear it, While exalted station often j And a good deal of tho prejudice
serves to make conspicuous the boor j airaiust tll0 name gentleman, and
and the cad. i; joa carries, comes from those
Self-respect is one of the esscntlials, who imal?ine that thoir faiiure iu
of gentlem anlincss. It keeps a man : this ro,pect is due to their circum
from doing anything that is low (r stanccso 1)irth or poverty or callinR
mean It throws arounds his speech whon it is duc to thoir mvn chura0
and actions restraints that are all . ters There are no outward circum
the more powerful because they are j stunce9 that CUn rob a man ot self
self imposed. He would die rather ; re,pect. No rank in society is nec
than do those things which involve , es.arv for a man to cxcrci,e the vir
a loss of self-respect, because his self ; fuo of consideration for others. No
is more valuable to him than his j honest ,vork cau unmake a gentle-
! men. While selfishness will make a
And the second essential is consid- boor of a king and the great army
eration for others, for their feelings ! of Cads is continually recruited from
their interests and even for their in ; tl ks of tho nobmtv und the in.
nrmines. ner cjrcjos ()f the upper ten.
Rear-Admiral 8;ininon has in j t- ..i,.-., .. a;f,,i
jured himself irretrievably with the
American peonV. There was a nu
merous body of his fellow country
men who 1 eli.-vt-1 tiu.t hi- was enti
tled to the chief honor f . .r the naval
victory at Santiago as
he would
have been mainly responsible if the
Spanish Fleet bad demolished or es-
caped the ATr.erican. There is little
doubt that he would have been ac
corded a higher phice at fir-t if ho
had been more generous toward his
rival in his rep rts of the battle.
But the other day he wrote a le'ter
which, unfortunately for him, was
published, saying that only the grad
uates of Annapolis were entitled to
SETTLED SIGHT.
of naval officers, were not tho gen
tlemen, in short, that the Annapolis
men were.
Then it was recalled to Sampson's
shame, what had been recorded to
his honor by all right thinking
people, that his father was a rather
shiftless ditch digger and that the
sn had risen from that position
cup was probably the publication of
the other fact, that his rival in popu-
lur estimation, Winfield Scott Schley,
lmd behind him several generations
Gf ancestors of gentle birth, and that
he was the one to give the credit of
Santiago to the "men behind the
guns." It is an impressive lesson,
that the man who lacks considera
tion for others is bound to show
what he is some time.
We call the man who is unable to
man.
And the man who has no consider
ation for others we call boors.
i Roughness bristles out from them as
evolved into monumental conceit and
exaggerated egotism. But people do
not like them. And now and again
thev measure themselves against a
the desperate efforts made by men '
and sometime.-, perhaps of ten, maybe ;
just as often, by women, to counter- 1
ieit,by their exclusi veness, their rules ;
of etiquette and their affectations of ;
manners, that which really belongs !
to the character which is as immis- j
takablo as the ring of true metal,
and which may be attained,
unless the character has been
unchangeably lixed, by the observ
ance f a law that was given by Moses
:ml reiterated by Jesus 'Christ,
Thou shalt love thy neighbor (con
sideration for others) as thyself
(self-respect).
Kill'l lr :r if- thrill I'nr.HH-N,
And muij,!,. r.-th Hi ui Norman blo.nl.
N. C. Presbyterian. j
The Progressive Farmer, April 2, 1901.
THE "BICHEST MAN IN THE WOBLD."
A remarkably vivid article of An
drew Carnegie the man, the iron
master, and philanthropist appears
in the current World's Work. It is
written by Henry Wysham Lanier,
and is, in short space, the story of
the life and appreciation of the
character of the wonderful man who
is retiring from the control of the
great steel works he has built.
Among the other things the writer
has selected a few of Mr. Carnegie's
epigrammatic remarks. Three or
four of them are particularly good :
''If a man would eat, he must
work. A life of elegant leisure is
the life of an unworthy citizen. The
Bepubllc does not owe him a living ;
it is he who owes the Republic a life
of usefulness. Such is the republi
can idea." Triumphant Democracy.
"In looking back you never feel
that upon any occasion you have
acted too generously, but you often
regret that you did not give enough. ' '
An American Four-in-Hand in
Britain.
'Among the saddest of all specta
cles to me is thatof an elderly man
occupying his last years grasping for
more dollars.'' An American Four-in-Hand
in Britain.
"The Monarchist boasts more bay-
i onets, the Republican more books."
j Triumphant Democracy.
' "There are a thousand heroines in
i the world to-day for every one any
i preceding age has produced." Tri-
; umphant Democracy.
"Put all your eggs in one basket
land then watch that basket."
j Curry Institute Address, lbb5.
FOR OUR YOUNG WOMEN.
Mrs. Rorer, head of the Philadel
phia cooking school and a famous
authority on the culinary art, is giv
ing lectures in Raleigh on cooking.
The Landmark gives hail and good
day to Mrs. Rorer. We hope she
will succeed in impressing on the
women of this day and generation
i that the art of properly preparing
food for the table is one of the most
important branches of domestic
science and one that is worthy of
their careful attention and consider
ation. Not only is it important that
they learn how to prepare cakes,
pies and other knicknacks, but they
should know how to prepare bacon
and beans, corn bread, greens and
tho other common stuff that com
mon folks have to eat. The average
householder who has to depend on
colored help has occasion to curse
the day that he was born. They are
lazy, slouchy, vicious, ignorant and
thieving. It would be a blessing to
us all if young white women of re
spectability, instead of considerinir
knowledgo of
cooking and house-
O
keeping a disgrace, would study do
mestic science and elevate this most
important part of domestic economy
to the plaue which its importance
demands.
THE WOMAN AND HER CLOTEES.
It is Almost Criminal to Make Dress One
of the Vital Things of Life.
"When a woman devotes one-half
of her life to thoughts of dress she
absolutely rakes the whole question
out of its proper relations to her
life, and belittles the talents which
God gave her for far greater things,"
writes Edward Bok, in reply to a
woman correspondent, in the April
Ladies' Home Journal. "It is, indeed,
a grave question whether she does
not debase herself. Nor will she be
'well dressed' : the chances are far
greater that she will bo 'over
dressed.' No woman who has any
regard for what is worth while in
this world, und for what will bring
her the surest and fullest happiness ;
in the long run, will so dissipate her
energies and vitality. The right to
dress prettily and becomingly be
long to every woman. It is her
birthright, and her duty. A disre
gard of dress, or the affection of
queer or freatish dressing, docs not
belong to a normal woman. But to :
make dress one of the vit.tl things I
t- rr ; t j- i
or hie is carrvintrit bevond too rii -!
v - v
ulous point and close to the crimi
nal. And is is just this rightful ad
justment of the things in life which
simplicity does for us. It gives a
riglittul place and a rightful value
to each. It doesn't belittle the one ;
nor distort tho othes.-." ,
.. ;
With a quickened eyesight, go
on discovering much good on the :
ide, remembering that the i
worse
, ,
.a.pv, i'iv'puiiionauiy
iiu'buu.' ami ut.uuiunaiu iu vuu iuc .
much more good on the better side.
Bobert Browning. I
:
The secret of success in life is for !
a man to be ready for his opportun- 1
u :i . i
ity when it comes. Disraeli.
Our Social Chat.
EDITED BYACXTJESME, RALEIGH, JJ. C.
AS CONTRIBUTORS to this department of
The Progressive Fanuer.we have some of the
most wide-awake and progressive young ladies
and young men and some of the mostentertam
f, i writers among the older people of this and
other suites, the ages of the members ranging
from sixteen to more thon sixty.
YOU ARE REQUESTED to join by sending
us a letter on some subject of general interest,
and writing thereafter as often as possible.
WHEN WRITING, give full name and post
ofliee address for Aunt Jennie's information.
If von do not wish your real name to appear
in 'print, give name by which you wish to be
known as a Chatterer.
TWO WEEKS OR MORE must, as a rule,
el.-ipse between the time a letter is written and
the date of its publication. .
AI1RESS all letters 10 Aiwijiiir,uucu.
lie Progressive Farmer. Raleisrh, N. C.
Th
AUNT JENNIE'S LETTER.
One of our most popular members
writes :
"Aunt Jennie, please give me
some hints about how to make my
new dress? I want it to look well
all summer for it will be my best one.
Some of the neighbors say ruflie it
to the waist, but I think that would
be too fussy for me."
But, my girl, how do you expect
me to give you the desired informa
tion when you failed to tell me the
kind of material to be used? I think
! you are right in not caring to have
I your dress ruined to your waist line,
j few persons look well in a dress
made thus and they are (if made of
wash goods) so difficult to launder.
I had such a one when I was a giri
and .Mammy Mary never failed to
look cross when she had it to iron.
Rubles are to be worn. Two, or
even three, look well on thin skirts,
but perfectly plain skirts are pre
ferred by some and are stylish.
Fancy waists are all the rage and
are constructed of all materials and
as many different trimmings. How
over, this is to be a lace season, so
the magazines tell us, and it is used
in many ways. I saw a lace hat and
many others trimmed with lace and
ilowers at the millinery openings
here this past week. One especially
pretty hat was made almost entirely
of violets. The brim was a mass of
those beautiful Howers while the
top of the crown was completely
covered with the green leaves.
Under the brim was plaited chiffon
of the faintest violet hue. A ban
deau on which was placed a large
bunch of violets and leaves beneath
the brim on the left side completed
this beautiful hat, which would be
especially becoming to a fair young
face. Many hats are made of flow
ers. One of roses of a delicate pink
hue was much admired, but "too
much of a thing is too much" is
the impression it gave me. The lit
tle chiffon toques are beautiful and
becoming to most persons since they
are fashioned of any color desired.
Black roses with gold centers, in
fact, black Howers with a touch of
to '
T-l . 1 T 1 A . 1 j?
riacK anu wnire comoinaiions
hold their own both as hat and
dress trimmings. Eton and bolero
jackets are worn and add a bit of
warmth to a cool costume. They
are usually made of the same mate
rial as the skirt and worn over a
shirt waist of a contrasting color ;
sometimes, however, they are made
of lace or other material and applied
to the waist, thus forming one gar
ment instead of two as formerlly.
Waists are very long in front
with little fullness and small pouch,
but allowed to come only to the
waist line behind.
Stitched belts of like material as
the dress are favorites just now,
but we are promised many fancy
belts later in the season. Ribbon
belts will bo very popular and the
newest buckle is a large brooch
which pins and holds holds the rib
bon in place ; usually crossed in
from.
Little gilt and pearl buttons are
affected as trimming and in combi
nation with narrow black velvet are '
extremely neat. Broad turn-over
linen collars are the favorites at
present but fancy lace, ribbon, silk
velvet and chiffon stocks will all
find advocates this season.
It is predicted that the hair is to
he loosely coiled and securely pinned
near tb n:iI)G of the neck since lmv"
crowned hats are to be worn, but
, . . ' 1
nearly every woman ha her favorite
mode ; we will await developments.
But after all keep in mind these
facts as stated in this month's De
lineator : "For the street it is better
to practice severity of style in dress
rather than to wear anv sunerabmi-
dance of trimming, or to display any
fussiness in detail. The simplest
gown of good, durable material and
of a quiet color is in better taste than
a f?own t cheap quality, gay color
f, m;ule .?? an reme of' fashion j
iu pas.- ii way quiCKiv. "er-
faction in cut, correctness of line ;
are in iitimg, are tiie cliiei requi-
ites in a garment."
We gladly welcome Washington
county's representative; although
she """"tea ns from Warren her home
1 W?shinSton. One more added
to the list of counties.
Aunt Jennie.
MMW I 1 1 m
FROM A COLLEGE GIEL.
Dear Aunt Jennie : I have at last
summoned enough courage to ven
ture so far as to ask for a short
space in your column. I have long
been interested in your Social Chat,
and have often wondered if a letter
from Washington county would be
appreciated, but I felt a little bashful
in asking to be its representative.
I am not at this time, however, in
Washington, but in Warren county,
at school. I appreciate my opportu
nity very much, and I greatly en
joy college life. It has always been
my greatest desire to go off to col
lege. And I am sure I could not be
at a better institute in the whole
land now, that is a broad statement,
so I guess I had better not give its
appellation. I will leave it for you
to guess, but truly it is a good Chris
tian school.
I often sit and think of how many
idle persons there are in this wide
world that might be up and doing
something that would be a help in
moving our Great Master's work
forward. There are so many things
to be done, yet we sit idle. If we
could only see ourselves we would
no longer entertain such idleness.
Burns very wisely said :
"O wad some power thegiftie gie us,
To see oursels as others see us!"
Oh ! let us wake up and think
what we are here for. Let our watch
word be "Forward!" We do not
live for ourselves alone, but, for those j
around us. We were not put here
merely as drones to Hll up space, but
as bees to perform our many little
duties that are presented to us, and
if we neglect them they will never,
no, never be done, for no one can
take our place and do exactly what
is intended for us to do. So let us
be up and doing as there are so
many things to be done. Oh,
shine and be a star in the sky of
some one.
I am afraid I am chatting too
much. So for fear Aunt Jennie will
get out of patience I wTill bid you
adieu by saying perhaps if this ap
pears in "our" Chat I will feel some
what encouraged and will try to
write an interesting letter next time.
Abersteen,
Warren Co., N. C.
LIVING ONE'S OWN LIFE."
I have been particularly struck
lately with the lack of courage
among young girls in doing things
independently and according to their
own convictions of duty and good
taste. It is far from my intention
to show approval of arrogant self-
assertion, or for a moment to be sup
posed to encourage a young life in
opposing itself to home rule and that
obedience to parental guidance and
authority which is a corner-stone' to
all building-up of noble womanhood.
The honor due to father and mother
is of sufficient importance in God's
sight for him to include it in the di
vine law, and it is the only com
mandment to which a promise is
added.
No ; what I men by the indepen
dent living of one's life is the free
dom from fear of not being "like
other girls" in dress, in ways of liv
ing, choice of occupation, or any
similar way in which your lives de
velop themselves.
For instance, if nine girls out of
ten are wearing feathers and buckles
in their hats and yours looks very
far removed from the fashion, with
only a plain scarf or a ribbon, I
would rejoice that any one of my
girls should count this a matter not
only of very little consequence, but
even a source of just pride, if the
price of the feather and buckle had
been either used unselfishly for the
comfort of the family or bestowed
upon some needy persons. I could
not hope or even wish that any
healthy minded, wholesome-hearted
young girl should be indifferent as
to whether her hat was becoming ; a
girl who does not care how her hat
looks is unnatural in some way. She
must be utterly broken-hearted if
she is indifferent on that point. But
neither feather nor buckle is needed
to insure just the right style and
color and shape, and what I mean is
the being above copying and striving
after the predominating fashion at
the cost of better things.
Servile it is servile imitation of
what is the last new thing is what
makes our streets full of cheap
finery and shabby ornaments.
Tho things a girl should take great
pride in are a sufficient supply of
good underclothing not cheap lace
and ribbon things, but well-made,
neatly-trimmed, entirely whole
snow-white garments ; good shoes, j
spotless collars, and a gown that fits I
v. ma TiTiuin ail I rm- .
ashamed because a dress is not i$
the latest style ; to be ready to sta
at home because a skirt is too full Qr
a sleeve too large ; to wear a fine
gown when the money could help t;0
lighten home toil or educate a youn?
brother or sister these aro thin4
which show that a girl has lost her
independence and is no longer uHQ
to live her own life according to the
principles she knows are high and
true. Mrs. Clement Farley, in
Ledger Monthly.
AN IRISHMAN'S CALENDAR.
It is always fair weather with the
residents of the Emerald Isle, h
tourist may be drenched to the skin
with the wettest of rain, but every
native he meets will assure him that
it is "a foin day."
It is only when an Irishman takes
his pen to write that he numbers
something beside the sunny hours
as in the effusion below, which is
marked by rather more truth than
poetry :
Dirty days hath September,
April, June and November.
From January up to May
The rain it raineth every day.
All the rest have thirty-one
Without a blessed gleam ,f s;i:. ;
And if any of them had two-und-thirty
They'd be just as wet and twice as
dirty.
NOT SO BAD.
"Norah, will you marry mo whin
I come from the war?" demanded
Mr. Herlihy of his sweetheart.
"It's mesilf that's not pn. '- .ml to
give me answer now," said Norah,
with a coy smile. "I'll have it
ready when you're coming home,
Jim."
"Well, that's not so bad," sadd
Mr. Herlihy, after a moment's re
flection. "Just tell me the wan
thing now, darlint will it be yis or
no?" Ex.
THE RULES OF LIFE WRITTEN
TWENTY-FOUR.
AT
The vault in the dilapidated little
graveyard opposite New Orleans
where the body of John McDonogh,
known to American history as an ec
centric philanthropist, was first laid,
was kept in order for years after the
removal of McDonqgh's remains.
A faithful negro who had been one
of McDonogh's slaves for years at
tended to this. Chiseled in the stone
of the vault are the following rules
which McDonogh formulated when
he was but twenty-four years of
age, for the guidance of his life :
"Remember always that labor is
one of the conditions of our exis
tence. 'Time is gold ; throw not one min
ute of it away, but place each one to
account.
"Do untj all men as you would be
done by.
"Never bid another do what you
can do yourself.
"Never put off till to-morrow
wrhat you can do to-day.
"Never think any matter so trivial
as not to deserve notice.
'Never covet what is not your
own.
"Never give out that wdiich does
not first come in.
"Never spend but to produce.
"Let the greatest order regulate
the transactions of your life.
"Study in the course of your life
to do the greatest possible amount
of good
"Deprive yourself of nothing neces
sary to your comfort, but live in an
honorable simplicity and frugality.
"Labor, then, to the last moment
of your existence.
"Pursue strictly the above rule-,
and Divine blessing and riches of
every kind will flow upon you to
your heart's content ; but first of all,
remember that the first and great
study of your life should bo to tend
by all the means in your power to
the honor and glory of the Divine
Creator.
"The conclusion at which I have
arrived is that without temperance
there is no health, without virtue no
order, without religion no happiness,
and the sum of our being is to live
wisely, soberly and rigllteously.,,
Randolph Nelson, in March Lodger
Monthly.
Tennyson is said to h ave been
fond of foolish fun, that ever de
lightful sort of fun which is not wit
but nonsense.
One day, Burlington House, ho
asked the guests a connundrum
which he had just made :
"Who are tho greatest women in
the world?"
The answer was :
"Miss Ouri, the Misses Ippi and
Sara Gossa." '
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