h End Evil m I m Ml—-*— JI Uii. UH 'HWLiJ *lßl f , * mksXSBBfniSBRMXjMr I Vtiakh. JtZeaStSKl '* I >,* WJzkM 1 ivlWkl THHPT 1 ' Ht* I T H/ S' - |9f I| £ 1 Kjl 81 £ i Wm w w n BHRw sjl Jll | W iWffi m£ MW ® r ||| IKi \ vTX /al-ffl r \ X \ /vjPf / V \5Mi . J iff JW, [f 4 PIC Companionship is an essential quality for marriage. A man and a woman can’t retain any sort of friendship without common in terests. proximately the same social status, and in a variety of situations within that group, before a definite decision is made.” The girls are told to know themselves first, and then their men. I)ROF. JOSEPH K.. FOLSOM, profes * sor of sociology, repeats the same advice when the girls face him in the lecture hall. “It is especially important that mates be rather similar in aims ahd objec tives," he says. “Values should be much alike. The two people may be different in style, temperament, and methods of obtaining their objectives The greatest tragedy of married life is the mating of two persons whose values in life are incompatible. This happens most fre quently when a mating is brought about through romance without sufficient ac- SiHFjH EMbKK- 2B RpMk a ®||&M '''' "■•■' """ " t jH gfc km jM KmjSHßk jHH jf BHtl* ' 'ffifflUi. SK i /• i I Prot. J Howard Howson (left) and Prof. Joseph K. Folsom, lead ers in Vassar’s summer courses on mental hygiene and family life. quaintanceship. There is a lack of social machinery today which would bring young people together and let them be come acquainted. “We need some institution which will replace the old marriage broker. There have been college date bureaus a.id correspondence leagues but they haven’t got very far yet. It is up to the younger generation to find away of doing it.” “That’s all very well,” the cry goes up from the campus wailing walls around America, “but if love always went where it is sent we would choose somebody who would be fun forever 1 * m ***•»*' ' m gpi ... ■Gw Pp' ■; •But. what.” wall the girls, “can we do when we love a guy who doesn’t fill the marriage course bill?” What can we do when we love a guy who doesn’t fill the marriage course bill? Answer that one, please!” All right. Here’s the answer! Sit down by the sun-dial or under old Matthew Vassar’s portrait and consider all the differences between yourself and the wearer of the Harvard H or the Yale Y—or the postman, the lifeguard, or your roommate’s brother. If you be long to the same social group, like the same things and feel pretty much the same about life, then it’s all right to be marriage-minded. If you differ very much —well, kiss him and say goodby —it will make a nice memory—and in vestigate somebody else’s status. Romance and marriage, as it happens, are two distinctly different things, Vas sar girls are learning. The cardiac pal pitations which denote an affection for one lad may last no longer than the length of a new spring moon. Or they may linger into old age. If they are the result of an interest in someone not suitable for marriage, they will be short-lived, the information goes. Don’t hurry into something which doesn’t stand the similarity test. “This question of considering likes and dislikes is tremendously important,” Professor Folsom goes on. “A girl should size up herself, first of all, and know what she likes and believes. Then she should meet the man under con ditions which show him up. Too often she may know a splendid man but owing to the fact that they see each other only briefly in business, they never grow acquainted.” r l''HE belief that women are taking the * main initiative in courtship is denied by Professor Folsom. “Males still expect to take the initia tive in courtship,” he advises. “It is less true today, perhaps, since more obvious moves by the girl are tolerated Still men continue to have a greater ten dency to resist entanglements into which women seek to lead them than women have to resist men. The wise girl will recognize this situation and will at least give th’ man the feeling that he is tak ing the initiative.” Changing the theme slightly, he con tinues: “There is no evidence supporting the old idea that opposites make the best life partners. The lasting attraction usually is between similars. Statistics show that those with similar back grounds are much more likely to marry happily than those with unlike back grounds and Interests ”