| Class Subject: Family Of Alcoholic
Family involvement in the
disease of alcoholism will be dis
cussed August 19 at the Hoke
County Library in a class open to
thepublic.
The class will be held from 7 to 9
p.m. by the Sandhills Mental
Health Center.
The speaker will be Dennis
Brewster, a substance - abuse
counselor. The class is titled
"Tough Love."
The announcement of the meet
ing says, "The first step in helping
| the alcoholic is to help yourself, the
family, to live a normal, healthy life
without trying to control the
drinker.
"This can be achieved by first
gaining information about the
family involvement in alcoholism or
drug dependency."
Tlie announcement also gives the
following information.
Many people find themselves
living with a substance abuse
? problem. Mother, father, or hus
t band or wife is an alcoholic. Son or
daughter is abusing drugs. The
family is affected by the substance
; abuse as much as the person using
?? the drugs or alcohol. It's tough to
\ love in a family where one member
is killing the family relationships.
The family of the alcoholic is
involved in his disease, therefore it
is in need of special assistance to
live a normal, functional life. The
family is considered the co
alcoholic.
The family finds itself protecting
the alcoholism from public.
Spouses and children may lie about
the alcoholism. For example,
Johnny may say, "My dad is a
super father. He plays ball with me
every evening." All along he knows
that dad drinks until he passes out
every evening.
Mom may say to the preacher,
"We can't go to church anymore
because 'dad' is too sick or works so
hard during the week we need that
time together as a family."
Families will protect the drinking
and deny any problem, even with
anger.
The anger comes from feeling
guilty about the drinking. Spouse
may feel blame for the drinking.
"If I would have been a better
husband my wife would not have
started drinking as much as she
does."
Sometimes the family feels re
jected or not loved anymore be
cause of the alcoholics drinking.
Then the anger comes across like
this: "If you loved me you would
not drink so much."
The hurt the family feels, the
guilt it accepts, the responsibility
for the drinker leaves the family
incomplete, no longer able to love
each other, the members no longer
able to love each other. The hurt is
too great to allow the members of
the family to grow.
The family tries to make the
drinker stop by threats or by
pressuring him or by making him
feel guilty. -
For example, wife may say, "If
you don't stop drinking I'll leave."
Husband gets drunk, wife does not
leave, or wife leaves but comes back
in a day or two.
Sometimes the threat brings
promises that the alcoholic means
but can't keep. "I'll never drink
again", or "If you leave me I'll kill
myself or you or burn the house
down." Then the non-drinker or
co-alcoholic feels more responsible
and more guilty.
State Elections Board Ruling
Diehl Calls Decision
4 Infringement '
Philip (Phil) Diehl of Raeford, is
quoted as saying a state elections
board decision that removed John
Anderson's name from next No
vember's presidential ballot "was
an infringement on our rights and
I the rights of voters across the
' nation."
He was quoted by a newsman
during a press conference Monday
: in Durham at the headquarters of
. the Independents for Anderson
Party.
Diehl, an attorney, who is a
plaintiff in the suit against the
? state board, said a court decision in
I the matter could be expected in "a
' month or six weeks."
Anderson's supporters said at
the conference they were confident
the U.S. District Court would
; overturn the state board's action.
Diehl and Gerald Eizenstat of
? New Jersey say Anderson withdrew
from the Republican presidential
primary race on April 24, and
consequently did not participate in
the May 6 North Carolina primary
as the elections board claims.
r The board, basing its action on
? its contention, voted 3-2 on July 29
to remove Anderson's name from
the state ballot for the next general
election.
Diehl, pointing out that the three
votes in the action were cast by
Democrats, described the board's
decision as an attempt by the board
to protect the major political
parties from the Anderson candi
) dacy.
He says the decision was not
valid because "this is a national
election and Anderson is a national
candidate, and this was a local
decision.
When questioned about Ander
son's low profile since Anderson's
publicized meeting with Sen. Ed
ward Kennedy of Massachusetts,
Diehl "played it down," the report
of the Durham conference says.
Till Monday night, Kennedy was
trying to win the Democratic
presidential nomination, opposing
President Carter. He withdraw
from the race after a majority of the
delegates at the Democratic na
tional convention voted to require
delegates to honor commitments
made by voters in their state
presidential primaries and cau
cuses earlier this year. The re
quirement affects the first ballot on
candidates for the nomination.
Browsing in the files
of The Nevus-Journal
25 years ago
THURSDAY, AUGUST 11, 1955
Acting County Superintendent
W.T. Gibson said this week that he
had been notified that the Moore
County board of commissioners
had declined to accept the offer of
Hoke County of the Little River
School tax plus the purchase of two
buses in return for the privileges of
having 176 Hoke Cou.ity children
of Little River Township attend
school in Moore County.
? * *
Judy Almond, daughter of Mr.
and Mrs. Crowell Almond of
Quewhiffle Township, route one,
Aberdeen, was declared State win
ner in the poultry demonstration at
4-H Club week in Raleigh recently.
From Rockfish News:
Fayetteville Street is looking for
ward to a face lifting by the road
crew sometime soon, even if Connie
stays out at sea. If Connie hits, no
telling how it will be,
3-Day Tennis Tourney
To Open Friday
The Raeford Adult Invitational
Tournament sponsored by the
( Hoke County Tennis Association
will open at 1 p.m. Friday for three
days of play on the McLauchlin
Park courts in Raeford.
The finals are scheduled for
Sunday.
The divisions of competition are:
Men: singles and doubles; and
35 and older, singles and doubles.
Women: singles and doubles;
and 30 and older, singles and
doubles.
Mixed doubles.
Father-and-son doubles.
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Workers Help Save Injured Man
it all happened so fast.
Donald Branch and Charles
Jacobs, of Red Springs, right-of
way workers with Lumbee River
Electric Membership Corporation,
were pulling into the parking lot at
Currie Chain Saw in Lumberton to
get a machine repaired.
The next minute they were
using mouth-to-mouth resus
citation to revive an employee
whose neck had been crushed.
On the morning of June lb.
Branch and Jacobs started their
day with a safety and rescue
meeting conducted by John Broth
ers of the North Carolina Associ
ation of Electric Cooperatives. The
training was part of their "pole
top" rescue procedures - the type of
thing everyone hoped they would
never have to use but were always
glad to know.
A few hours later, the two men
went to Lumberton to have the
Cooperative's "Bush hog" machine
repaired. Upon arriving at the
dealership, a man rushed up to the
truck and asked for help.
On the floor of the warehouse,
they found a man lying on the floor
between a forklift and a crate that
had two motorcycles in it.
"He wasn't moving," Branch
said. "He was hurt bad and nobody
was doing anything about it."
Jack Davis, a 49-year-old em
ployee of the company, had been
knocked down by the crate and was
not breathing when Branch and
Jacobs reached him. No one knew
how the accident had occurred.
Acting through their training
Ch'irh-s Jacobs and Donald Branch
from that morning, the men began
heart massage and resuscitation.
"We worked on him for about
four or five mintues," Jacobs said.
"We took turns giving him mouth
to-mouth and heart massage. For a
while nothing happened, but then
we got a good pulse rate and his
color started coming back."
The impact of the accident
fractured Davis's neck. He was
taken to Cape Fear Valley Hospital
in Fayetteville where the doctors
confirmed the seriousness of the
injury. There was a 99 percent
chance that he would remain
oaralv/.ed from the neck down.
Davis has seen little improve
ment over recent weeks. Confined
to Cape Fear Valley, he has been
on a respirator to help him breathe
since his admission.
The first good sign came the
week before last. According to
Henry Burchette, brother-in-law of
Davis who works at the same place,
the hospital was going to take Davis
oft" of the respirator machine.
A married man without children.
Davis continues the road to recov
ery. a road initially contructed by
two customers who happened to
know a life-saving technique.
Accent On Agriculture
Some politicians as well as many
in the news media became very
alarmed when the U.S. Depart
ment of Agriculture released some
preliminary figures showing how
much land in this country was
owned by foreign interests.
No doubt many of them conjured
up visions of Arabs in their big
Rolls Royces driving down U.S.
country lanes looking over their
vast holdings of soybean, corn and
wheat fields or herds of cattle.
There are other figures, however,
that we need to look at in order to
put all this into proper perspective.
Figures from another govern
ment report should cause even
more concern than the land owned
by foreign interests. Recently
USD A released a report entitled.
"Who Owns the Land?" and its
shows that governments -- local,
state and federal -- own 40 percent
of the land in this country. Foreign
ers own five one-hundredths of a
percent.
It is the legislatures and the
Congress that have passed laws
giving various agencies of govern
ment the power of eminent domain
so that million of acres in this
country have been condemned and
purchased until now government
owns 40 percent of the land.
Possibly some of these same
lawmakers who helped pass, and
continue to support these eminent
domain laws are the same ones who
are protesting the loudest about
foreign investments.
We need to be concerned about
government and foreign ownership,
but when you compare 40 percent
and five one-hundredths of per
cent. it's not too hard to figure
which one should give us the most
concern.
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