Mother's Influence Over Training Her Children (Condensed From Heart's Interna ttonal-coemopoiitan by Oeorie a. Dorsey.) Recently, through my Interest In the relation of childhood training to maturity, I hare closely observed tro children with their mothers. One is a girl of seven—a tyrant who rules one father, one mother, one grandfather, one grandmother, one aunt, and three servants. She real ly rules; her whim is law. The boy is the same age. He Is even worse off than the girl, because the world at large will less rapidly put up with his whims and pettiness than hers. There Is no reason why tne world should, but the world does. This boy U also a tyrant, and quite devoid of what we call manners. He has been so pampered. Indulged, fondled, and spoiled that the natural manhood we expect to find In a boy of seven haa had no chance to develop. These two youngsters are typical of why thousands of young men and young women, and even elderly i men and women, fall: they cannot 1 stand on their feet against a gale because they never learned to stand on their feet In a breeze. It is easy for a mother to become so emotionally wrought up over her child that she cannot see it with the Nowadays You Summon. Help by Telephone / /CONSIDER the plight of the householder in the days-before-the-telephone. When some * itocfltber of the family wu taken suddenly ill,.. i ft A)* fceeb oat; ... an Intrader was heard fore *. fay 0 window—-there was only one way of getting help. Somebody had to ran for it! . . . While jBOwdaye the telephone does die running for you V-« a speed that is filter than light. If yoaf heme has a telephone you are within ‘twsrfh. day and night, of the various prote&ve •• pgendes that mean so much to human welfare. Uhftnd you on snmmoo aid as easily and quickly as 1>«o can chat with feieads, or shop u distant Stores. If ym have been trying to manage without a j edaphone—resolve today to have one. The coft of n few cents a day is returned to you many times in the form of comfott and protetiion. ... IcStxU lations are made quickly these days. . . . Jn& ask Ac Business Office or any telephone employee. 41 SOUTHERN BEIL TELEPHONE AND TELEGRAPH COMPANY naked eye or give it the chance it needs. Neither mother of these two children realizes what she is doing for her child. I 6uspect they would both be insulted if told that they are spoiling their children because they are not willing to take a stand. Both mothers are no doubt annoy ed and at times much distressed, but when it comes to a question of restraining these children It comes to ' Mother's presious darling,” and mother’s precious darling knows how to get his or her way. We must remember the plain fact that, in maturity, we do not "put away childish things.” The mother who recognizes the signifi cance of that fact can prepare her boy or girl for the hard knocks of life. | Biology, the mother is responsi ble for so bringing up her child that when adolescence comes that child can start a home of its own— and start- It on its own economic, social, moral and physical re sources. But the mother who would assume this responsibility wisely must realize that the child learns to walk alone only by walking alone! The difference between teaching by order, rote, formula, or advice, and teaching by child’s doing it, Is fun damental. These two particular mothers are victims of the high cost of keeping up with the Joneses. They com mand servants’ rooms and a garage, but no nursery: neither boy nor girl has any room, lot. or spot where he or she can manipulate things to the Joy of fingers and the delight of eyes. Both children are hard push ed for natural outlets of surplus steam. If the boy were left aione In a shed with some soft pine, he might saw off a finger, but nine fingers would carry him farther on the road to a happy and useful life than the coddling he now gets Anv mother can pee how habit forms as a result of physical repe tition. but often she fails to see that the child’s emotional nature like wise gets set in its way by reputa tion. Any normal infant will cry when in pain or when hungry, bm suppose the mother, every time she picks it up to look for a pin or nurse it, pets k, and makes a fuss over it That Infant has learned the value of erring, nor will it require much brain to learn to cry for the fondling there is in it. The ways a baby can learn in six months to get what it wants are nothing short of incredible. And the capacity of a year-old boy or girl to rule an en tire household is hardly less astounding. The two youngsters of my illus tration are demanding attention all the time, usually by doing some thing mother does not like. ft seems ridiculous, but it is literally true that many a child of six finds it easiest to get mother's attention by doing something which calls for a "d''n't!” The boy especially is "dootrd'’ fifty tim»s a day—and en joys it hugeiv. The punishment should fit the crime and must fol low immediately—-it then becomes tied in. A little rap over the knuck les at the proper time will do more to correct deportment than all of father's ragings or mother's tears hours later. When these youngsters enter a room every body present must know it. If slamming the door does not suffice, there is a cackle or a whis tle or a stamp of feet. So it is that middle-aged men and women demand attention at every little upset There are thous ands of such adult persons who lit erally never have learned to get along away from their mothers apron strings. Their mothers may be tead. but in every crisis they re vert to childish ways. They must be rocked to sleep so somebody must hold their hands, rub their brows, or feed them the kind of "pap'' they learned to depend on to get out of trouble. The tragedy comes, of course, when a husband or a wife says: "I'm tired of living with a baby; I'm off!" or when the head of the firm says: ‘This job needs a man; you're fired'." It is. easier for the average moth er to give in to a child than to cor rect it, easier for her to become the child's slave than to thwart it or see it cry. She does not realize that she has taught it to cry, or that she has made herself the child's slave. She speaks scornfully of nagging mothers, but the difference between a nagging and coddling mother is the difference between two ways of ! spoiling a. child. Anothr kind of mother raises a timid child by using fear as a wea- j pon of control, as a labor-and-time- j saving device to keep the child out. i or keep it off, or keep it still. She ; tells stories to illustrate what hap- ! pens to bad children and who gets • them when they "don't watch out.” j Harassed by household duties, aft- , ernoon tea, or her bridge lesson, she has little time to guide the child's activities. She finds fear a mother's friend. The child grows up In an atmos phere of goblins, ghosts, bad men, and devils. And the mother thinks ; she has done her duty with a com forting caress and a "There, there; ! Mother won't let the bad man get j her little precious!" The sex education of the child is j enormously important and Is gen- i eraly avoided as if it were the p!a- j gue. This is not the place for d«- j tails, but the mother who lies about j or evades such matters, or leaves such education to servants or to the Street, endangers the child's future. Frankness does not mean forcing matters on the child's attention, it does mean never letting the child s natural curiosity become morbid, shamefaced or prudish. Must 5erve 30 Days Mrs. Florence E. S. Knapp former New York secretary ol state, who has been sentenced to serve thirty days in jail for grand larceny. She was con victed on two counts in con nection with alleged state cen sus thefts. (IsUruttlonil Uliutritcd Nairil Curiosity Is natural; the child without it is unnatural, or has learned to keep still to parents about certain matters, and look elsewhere to satisfy its curiosity. It soon learns what meets with approval, and governs itself accordingly. If plain or fancy lying buys approval, or wards off wrath the child readily learns plain or fancy lying or both. The mother may not know her letters, she may be intellectuai’y flat-footed, but she can so train her children that it will be an eternal joy to her and will command a capi tal it can draw against till death But she cannot lay the foundation of that kind of character by de ceiving the child, or by making a pet or a nuisance of it. No man worth the powder to blow him up ever had that kind of mother. To take the crown and the hom age which belong to them, mothers do not reed rights They need cnlv use their power; power to educate women to be mors valiant, more self-reliant, more independent, more natural. Through their children they can rule the world. Conceiv ably." it the mothers of the world were to conspire to rear their sons for profession of peace and de cency. fair play and give-and-take, war cn earth would become as ex tinct as dinosaurs. Suppose women intelligently as sumed responsibility and used all the power of nature has put info their hands—hat a world this might be! 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