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Modern Women Should a Wife be Paid a Salary; Both Sides of the Question By MARIAN MAYS MARTIN "TALKING about the injustice of our alimony laws—as a 4 number of the stronger sex have been recently—I was at a dinner the other night at which the subject was being hotly discussed. One of the suggestions as to a means of discarding alimony entirely was to place marriage on a business basis. BUT you will probably protest, as 1 did, You can't do that! You'll be robbing it of all romance, of all spontaneity, of the highest feelings and emotions that are as sociated with marriage. You’ll be making of it a deadly mechanical thing. Moreover, you can't place marriage on the same oasis as a career, for the very thought of paying a woman for being a wife— as she would get paid if she were on a Job—would be distasteful and repulsive to both man and woman. Marriage is a part of life itself, whereas business is merely a means to provide the carrying on of life. 'T'HOSE were my arguments * against the idea. But I was immediately set upon, vanquished and forced to draw in my sails. "Romance and spontaneity.” I was informed, “are largely a mat ter of personality. Men have found both in business—in their careers —because they thought and dreamt about their jobs, because they had the vision to see not the Immediate job, but its possibilities. Business may be called mechan ized sometimes, but certainly it is not a deadly thing. It's the per son in back of the job that makes it alive or deadly. Upon that per son depends the success or failure of an undertaking. Marriage re sponds to the same sort of treat ment. ifT* HER E F O R E, L marriage * were placed on a business basis—!/ it offered the same re wards that a woman would find in a career, she would set about pre paring herself and giving herself training just as she would if she intended to enter the advertising or journalistic fields. Certainly no one would gainsay that such preparation is not necessary or desirable. ” • • • MY opponents took deep breaths and went on: "Of course, they told me, "it would be ridicu lous to think of placing love or the affection that exists between hus band and wife on a mercenary basis.” That, as they pointed out, was hardly what they were sug gesting. It was their idea to pay the wife for the management of the home, for taking over the du ties of the household—just as any worker would enter into the du ties of a business job and receive jdue payment. • • • M'T'HIS,” they said, "would tend * to make a success of marriage —or, a\ least, of that rart of mar riage which consists of a well managedj home. For the wife would run her menage more effi ciently; she would be more care ful, would take more interest in it—as she would if she were out in the business world building up a career. She would have a job that was definitely laid out and that was her own to handle—to make or break, much the same as the job her husband was tack ling. * • • AFTER getting their second wind, these people who had hopped all over me for protesting against their idea asked me why if the thought of paying a woman for the management of a home was so distasteful, was not the thought of alimony equally dis tasteful? “After all,” they argued, "alimony is nothing but an expen sive way of paying for past serv ices—a safeguard against the pos sibility of there being no further call for those services. A salary such as any woman would get on a job would, therefore, be an eco nomic protection for her. And it would do away with the neces city of supplying alimony. Such an arrangement would, moreover, better relations between divorcees. Neither of them w’ould feel bitter toward each other in thinking that the other was trying to cheat him or her.” Pallor, Bedlam and Wrath By NANCY WELLING UATS turn men’s hair gray, * * especially if they have to pay for them. £^OS8IPS fire know for an an *wer. ARMED males think the best 1T* Part of their Uvss is when they vara haehelors. • • * WOMEN do odd things to get eren. • • * ALQT of vaddtngs take place •Hen the man can't' hold out any longer. A BEAUTY mark is patch work these days. Speaking of Style By IRENE VAIL IT may come as a surprise to many that Paris is still wearing felt hats. Those who know their Paris, however, know that this is always a weakness with French women. They seem to regard straw as “hard.” The reason Is a little deeper than that—straws are much higher priced in France than here and of course are ever so much more costly than felt. The millinery sensation of the moment is the derby-sallor so reminiscent of the Second Empire. This jaunty little hat, worn rak ishly over one eye and well for ward also, has registered at Le Touquet, where the fashionables of several countries, including our own, are now enjoying themselves. Our correspondent assures us that many of these hats are of felt. En thusiastic mention is also made of crochet headgear, the rolled edge type which has had consid erable success with us also. This has very largely replaced the beret in the affection of the chic Par is lenne. There is also mention of many creditable hats with crochet crowns and contrasting brims, lin en being mentioned as a popular choice. The only straw listed as important in reports from this re sort are the shiny straws known in Paris as chip. It may be or interest to snow how sojourners at he TouQuet feel about scarfs. They are worn ex tensively but seldom tied or knot ted. They are frequently wom in lei or sling fashion and are united in a determination to be indepen dent of the costume with which they appear, being unlike it in both color and fabric. Earlier in the season one pricked up one’s ears at the mention of the possible return of white stockings. It seemed about time for them to reappear and not unreasonable that they should, with women cholcing white for so many occa sions. A few white stockings only have stepped into the picture. Re turning to Le Touquet for style confirmation one finds no white hose listed excepting in sox, and these are bordered in colors. There seems to be no general rule about color stockings ranging from light beige to brown and also including grays of several shades. Plain silks outnumber meshes, which is not at all the case at our own resorts. The foot notes from the same resort are more concerned with brown kid and combinations of brown and white than with all white. Sandal types and oxfords each have their place and men tion is also made of blue shoes, navy usually. Blue shoes are hav ing a considerable vogue in this country and are worn not only with blue to effect a contrast. The success of the hand sewn white doeskin or • fabric glove seems to be international. These have wide flaring cuffs and are wom at least a size larger than is necessary. Eight-button length gloves in antelope, while bulky, do not flare and are reported as a great favorite with both sleeveless and short sleeved dresses. Home Making By ALINE STERN One of the cleverest combina tions of furniture that was re cently on display was a two-in one lamp and table. The table was a small square one with a tile top and the lamp was attached down at the bottom of the legs and extended on its pole high enough above the table so that the juxtaposition would not make it, uncomfortable for the reader if he wanted to utilize the table. The paper parchment shade of the lamp is decorated with the same scheme of design as the tile table top. If you are going to the beach I suggest taking along one of those new waterproof beach rolls that are so convenient to lie on after coming in from a dip. It’s nice to roll in the sand if you’re dry. but when you’ve just come out of the water the sand is apt to cling to you and make you feel gritty. These pads fold up into a small square and are easily carried. Prying eggs? How about mak ing them square instead of the usual rounded contour? You can do it with one of the new square frying pans. It’s marked off into four smaller squares, making it possible to fry four eggs at once. It's made of cast ironware and is very durable. FOR THE HOTTEST DAYS OF SUMMER | Everyone’s thoughts are now of cool and summery dresses, and here is one of the latest models of this type of frock. It is of red pat terned chiffon and is worn with a bow of red velvet and hat to match. + + A DISH A DAY + + By Janet Wilson Tomorrow's Menu Luncheon' Boston Baked Beans Brown Bread and Butter Cabbage and Apple Salad Fruit Drink Dinner Frozen Chicken a la King Spring Salad Nut Bread Sandwiches (filled' Olives Celery Pickles Mint Parfait Coffee Cookies First Impressions IT has long been a household ex * presslon that first Impressions are most important. The same line of logic that is accepted by many as applying to persons can well be applied to the dishes that we eat. Following this line of rea soning. the first course in a meal is likely to influence the zest with which the rest of the repast is en joyed. It might be possible to re deem the meal by an appetizing entree or main dish, by a delicious salad or conclude w'ith a memor able dessert. The fact remains, however, that the first course is, or should be, the appetizer. *.Of course, it can be reasoned that a hungry man or woman needs no appetizer. But one is not always so hungry and if meals are to be enjoyed as well as satisfy the demands of hunger, an appetizing first course is most im portant. There is a great deal that is psychological in a meal and thus side of food preparation must not be overlooked if complete satisfac tion and enjoyment is to be had. A well conceived and prepared ap petizer, whether it be an hors d’ourve, a soup or a fruit combina tion, stimulates the gastric Juices and prepares the diner to approach’ succeeding courses with a greater sense Of pleasure and relish, and makes a more enthusiastic and enjoyable dinner companion. The choice of an appetizer should depend upon the known tastes of the diners, the question of variety and novelty to the palate ' and the state of the weather. De pending upon the weather and the courses to follow, the soup might be a cold jellied soup, a thin clear soup, or soup with a decided body. Hors-d’ourve with pickles and fruit combinations should be served thoroughly chilled in order to bring out the full flavor, and jellied soups should be served in the same way. Other soups should come to the table piping hot. AI mosUayery variety of hors-d’ourve can be secured today in cans or glass, 4fcntalners at any grocery or delicatessen store and fresh fruits At thaiS time of the year are to be had ejpry where. For novelty's sake try this sim ple appetizer: LdjMCi FRUIT COCKTAIL. Dissolve a package of lime gela tin in a pint pf boiling water. Turn into a shallow pan and chill until'firm. Cut into cubes. Free the membranes from sections of two oranges and ar/ange a layer in the bottom of each individual glass. Add to each glass a layer of grapefruit sections whiclr have also been freed from the mem branes. Top with a layer of gela tin cubes. This recipe serves eight persons. MELON COCKTAIL Mix together the required amount of melon balls 'scooped from any seasonable melon*, a fourth that quantity of seeded, peeled grapes and a few halved maraschino cherries. Pour over this a little of the cherry juice, add a dash of lemon juice and sweeten to taste with powdered sugar. Place in a covered bowl and chill in the refrigerator. Serve in chilled glasses. Guide to Charm Keep Your Enthusiasm If You Would Retain Your Beauty By JACQUELINE HUNT QINCE Mrs. W. has taken so much of my space today, it is ° impossible to go into any problem In detail. I want to take this opportunity to beg my readers who expect personal replies to enclose stamped, self-addresed envelopes in their letters. If you wish to have your questions answered through the column, please be as definite and concise as possible. Do not ask me to reconimend treatments unless you give me all of the details of your problem. I am happy to answer your questions and I want to be as genuinely helpful as possible. Dear Mias Hunt: What exer cises are best, to reduce the abdo men and hips? What are the best creams to use and how la muscle oil applied? How often should I go to a beauty parlor for a facial? Please send me directions for keep ing young. I am trytnc to get a position and if I could make my self look about five years younger I know 1 could succeed. I am 30 years old. Do you think I should have my face lifted, and if so could you recommend a goed plas tic surgeon? I will appreciate your help very much. Mrs. W. Answer: This exercise is splen did for reducing the abdomen and hips. Lie on the floor and bring your legs up as high as you can. touching the floor back of your head if possible. Bring your legs back to position and, holding your hack straight, raise up, bringing .vour arms up and down to touch the toes. Repeat twenty times night and morning. If y6u are ten pounds or more overweight you should also watch your diet. Since you told me nothing about the condition of your skin, it is im possible to recommend a course of treatment* or tell you how often to have a facial. A muscle oil is warmed then patted on the skin with absorbent cotton and allowed to remain ten to fifteen minutes. Directions for youthfulness are not as simple as you 6eem to think. Keep your skin clear and healthy, your body fresh and free from odors, your hair and hands in good condition and. above all, keep your enthusiasm and zest for life alert. Party Hints By LEATRICE GREGORY rFQ decorate for the butterfly * party, cover the lights in the room with fringes of pink green and yellow crepe paper. Spring flowers in pastel colors should bloom from vases on every avail able table or mantel. Cut out dozens of butterflies from printed crepe paper or make them from fairly stiff drawing paper and color in soft, tints with crayons. Hang from chandeliers and doorways on varying lengths of black thread to give the impres sion of flying through the air. The threads will not show. For a club dance additional dec orations might consist of stream ers of crepe paper in rainbow col ors running from the corners of the room to the central chandelier. To match partners for the eve ning give each girl a huge paper butterfly to pin on her shoulder. Each man receives a tiny butterfly to clip onto his tie. Couples are paired off by matching their but terflies. Lovely favors for the girls might consist of tiny phials of perfume and gauzy silk handkerchiefs. Use the bottle of perfume for the body of the butterfly and gather the handkerchief into the wings and tie with baby ribbon. If you play bridge make your tallies in the shapes of butterflies. Color them in pastel shades with gold paints and tie with narrow water colors, edge their wings with ribbon. Modern Furniture Used Effectively A charming furniture arrangement Is shown in this picture. The modern table has a mirror w flasa and brushed brass. The chairs are upholster ered in black printed silk In navy blue and white In this way you can keep youth. After all, thirty is not "old.'' Per haps your muscles have begun to sag, but you can remedy that with a good skin astringent, exercse and a well balanced diet. I would not advise having your face lifted. In the first place there is only a limited group of reliable face surgeons and they must charge enormous sums for thetr riellcate work. Work done by any one other than a reliable surgeon is likely to result in white scar tissue that is disfiguring and fi nally the operation must be repeal - ed at intervals, once you've had it done. Think the matter over seriously before deciding. You and + + + Your Child By JANE HERBERT COWARD THE average parent measures obedience m children in terms of convenience to hersef. If a child is tractable he is not only well behaved but well bred. And if he puts up a fight, why he is a diffi cult child and his parents go about worrying how he will turn out. With children it is the same as with adults in the sense that as soon as they stop ‘ kicking” they find themselves in a rut. Who ever coined the expression “alive and kicking” was an observant thoughtful student of human na ture. That's why he recognized the impulse to rebel as a healthy sign. From time to time one does come across an anomoly among chil dren—the child who accepts his fate with a shrug of the shoulder. He gives in to his little sister's or brother s every whim. And his parents, looking on, pronounce him a "good boy.” What if he is spoiling his little sister? What if he is cheating himself ? I know a youngster. He is sev en. docile, silent and somewhat pathetic. His mother controls most of his actions—but thank the stars, she can t control his mind. Perhaps this explains why he is such a bookish lad and given to day dreaming. He has a veritable talent for sitting quiet. This, as any one who has had experience with chil dren knows, is most unnatural. Something has been killed. I am sure of this, despite the fact that his parents and the neighbors consider him an exceptionally well bred child. A boy (or glrl> should have more fight In him. To be a little yes man while he is young may save his mother many a heartache and annoyance But later on when she observes how willingly he fol lows his stronger willed friends she will notice that her son is weak and feel ashamed. The time to prepare our offspring for manhood and womanhood is from the start, by teaching them to accept responsibilities as a nat ural course of events. This is pos sible only when a child is allowed ireedom to explore, to make mis takes and to learn from experi ence. The cautions, nervous mother who quivers and quakes at every step her child takes lest he fall and hurt himself is not taking as good care of him as she appears to be. If he were a china dish or an embalmed mummy that would be different. But he is flesh and blood and mind. His heritage is to go forward and stumble and fall and pick himself up until he is able to stand erect and walk alone. He will never learn if he is can ned part of the way by a mother whose vanity, pride or sense of duty it flattres to do so. The trouble with such-training is that the child's intelligence and strength are generally underesti mated. This is far from uplifting for the child—and of course it is bad for the mother. She gets the habit of doing things for him and he of •having them done. He learns to expect more in the way of parental service than he has a right to or is good fo him. And of course he is never grateful. He only knows that he is getting what he is ac customed to get and what he be lieves. for this reason, is coming to him. There's a lesson here. I believe, for some too foolishly fond moth ers. THREE NEW TYPES OF SHOES ® 1931, by Fairchild. The three shoes shown above il lustrate new presentations in day-< time footwear introducing two and three leather effects featuring th« higher throat which is being dis cussed and noted in the first of the better class maker's lines for tall. The upper shoe is a pump in black patent with the popular touch of red. In the center the use of black patent is advocated in • Quarter and heel, with brown suede vamp and decoration o f paler lizard. The three-eyelet tie at the. bottom of the group is of dark green suede. New Guinea Girl* Are Proud of Modesty By VINCENT WILCOX THE poet sings of the bashful and modest girl and the bold, dashing young man. The blush ing bride is the society reporter's ancient stand-by and the parson's regular phrase. American girls have no corner on the market, however, and Evan geline and Annabel Lee’s lived in .—New Guinea if not in our own Silver Sheet. Wasn't it. ooldsmtth who said, "Modesty seldom re sides in the breast that is not en riched with nobler virtues." But what is modesty? Does the New Guinea or the American pre nuptial brand come within Gold smith’s definition? This is the new Guinea brand: ... . When two women commissioned to negotiate with a daughter's parents on behalf of a young man first give a hint of their purpose by praise of him and his family, the damsel directly falls into the greatest apparent consternation and runs out of doors, tearing her hair, for no single woman dan think of marriage without the ut most bashfulness and aversion to anything supposed to be like mar riage. If they act otherwise they will lose their reputation for mod esty. And this makes no differ* ence, although they may love their husbands and may have assured him that they would marry him. In Greenland the bridegroom when he has obtained her parents' consent sends some old women to carry away the bride by force; for though she ever so much approves of the match, yet out of modesty she must make as if it went against the grain, and as If she were much ruffled at it; else she will be blamed and get an ill name. When brought to him she sits in a corner with disheveled hair, cov ering her face, being bashful. For newly married women are ashamed of having changed conditions for a married state. MODES AND MANNERS By MARTHA MAXWELL JHI'flf1., .Hl'.fllL'.— 1 I ' mg'lfli1..'I.I, .1 QUESTION: When * couple have just been engaged, whose family should be first to call on the other, the man's or the girl’s? U. J. ANSWER: It is customary for the man’s family to make the first call. QUESTION: Is it correct to of ,fer the protection of an umbrella to an unknown girl who is walking alone in the rain? JACK.. ANSWER: It is an age-old im pulse, Jack, that shakes men want to help women in distress, and it is a very commendable one. But chivalry has falflBh off consider ably since the days of knighthood, and I’m afraid the girl might re sent your action. However, if there is no sign of the rain letting up and if there is no taxicab or street car in sight it may be that the girl will be glad of your offer. You should exert every effort to be tactful so that the girl will not feel site is breaking convention
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