Modern _Women
How a Wife May Make Her Husband Agree to Her
Vacation Plans
By MARIAN MAYS MARTIN
«WHAT wou^d y°u do with a husband," asks Beatrice, "who
** insists on dragging you off to the mountains on your
vacation every year, so that he can fish all day while you sit
In a little log-cabin on top of a hill, twiddling your thumbs
and wondering why life Is like that? The trouble Is, he’s such
a dear, and kind and considerate In every other way, that I
hate to spoil his pleasure. But he believes that husband and
wife should be together on a vacation, and, of course, he's
bugs on fishing.”
WeJuLj, uea, tne easiest way out
of such a dilemma Is for you
to develop a touch of the angling
mania that has seized your hus
band. However, If you get the
same squeamish reaction that al
most every female of the species
does when she sees a wriggling
worm being speared on the barbed
end of a fishing hook, that sugges
tion must be discarded.
• • •
r' seems to me, from what you've
told me of the situation, that
you're in great danger of spoiling
your husband. Perhaps you’re not
being fair to him. Perhaps he
doesn't realize that the glories of
fishing mean little if nothing to
you. Perhaps he doesn't know
your soul longs for the seashore
or the deck of a Bermuda-bound
ship. Perhaps it’s never even en
tered his head that you might
have your own ideas on the sub
ject of vacationing. Probably he's
so In the habit of making all deci
sions for the good of the family.
It never occurred to him that such
decisions might not meet with
your full approval.
• • •
IP so. I say—watch out. You're
in danger of spoiling a good
man. For his own welfare, you
should breach the wall Immediate
ly. But. first of all, plan the set
ting for the whole scene. That is
decidedly important. Some night
when he comes home after a hard
day's work, greet him at the door
with a loving smile. Wear one of
your best frocks—nothing too
sumptuous, you understand, for
then he might get suspicious. Be
Just as sweet and charming as you
know how. Give him a good, ap
petizing dinner, full of all the cul
inary edibles that appeal to a
man’s soul. Then, after he has
pushed back his chair with a sign
of satisfaction and wiped his chin
to remove all evidence of fried
chicken, lead him to a comfortable
chair, where he can recline at ease
and watch the smoko rings blow
ceilingward.
• • •
f^ON’T spring your news on him
U too quickly. He might get In
digestion at being taken by sur
prise so soon after dinner. Talk
pleasantly of this and that for a
while. Then — and only then —
bring up the subject of vacation
ing. Tell him you’ve been think
ing—it might surprise him, but if
you speak in a low. firm, decisive
voice, hell listen, if for nothing
else than out of curiosity—that
the mountains this year don't
sound the least bit Intriguing.
• • •
BEFORE he has a chance to
countercharge, emphasize the
fact that you know what it means
to him, and that, above all, you
don’t want to spoil his pleasure.
Point, out that you've been a true
and loving wife all these years—
that you've acted in accordance
with his slightest wish and desire
but that, this year, you believe
it will do both of you good to trek
off in opposite directions. Bear
down hard on the fact—but not
too strongly, for he might get con
trary—that usually the most suc
cessful marriages are those in
which husband and wife get away
from each other for at least two
weeks of the year. Ask his opin
ion on the subject. Ask him if it
doesn't stand to reason that after
a married couple have been living
side by side for fifty weeks at a
stretch—after sharing the same
meals, the same thoughts, the
same amusements, the same
friends—they should get away
from this sameness of life. Ap
peal to his protective instinct and
to his intelligence. Bring in that
bit about the happiness in "our
Pallor, Bedlam
and Wrath
By NANCY WELLING
SOME bridge players call a spade
three diamonds.
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’T'W£ fall o) numerous wealths/
» people can be accurately de
scribed by an old phrase, dollars
to doughnuts."
A WOMAN who spends too
much irion y on headgear
comes a mad hatter.
TVS INI AT UR E golf has gotten so
*»* small its addicts are disap
pearing.
F>EER hungers w.U soon be out
^ hunting dough.
’Y'llOSE who try to live by their
* generally welcome a square
meal.
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than on* qoeen of dia
ita . bra ended up looking
L.k»: the deuce.
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lives being intensified by pain
as an argument to prove that af
ter being away from him for a
while you’ll rush back with a
stringent realization of how much
he means to you—of how good it
is to get back to the old stamping
grounds.
• • •
IJY all means, Bea, go to It. It
" Isn’t so much a question of
standing up for your rights—the
overdone modern feminist’s talk
ing point. It’s a question of doing
what’s good for both you and your
husband. And when it comes to
separate vacations, I'm for it.
A DISH +
+ A D A Y
By JANET WILSON
Tomorrow’s Menu
Luncheon
Macaroni and Cheese
Cabbage Salad
Baked Apple with Cream
Dinner
Lamb Chops
Mashed Potatoes
Spinach with Egg
Watercress and Tomato Salad
Gelatin Dessert
Formal Niceties
Fortunately the more pain
ful formalities of Victorian
hospitality have been discarded
now by a more practical genera
tion. The ladies at a formal din
ner do ndt retire to the drawing*
room now after dessert while the
gentlemen smoke their cigars and
sip port wine or liqueurs for more
than one reason. There are no
liqueurs and while the gentlemen
exercise their male prerogative of
smoking rich, full flavored cigars,
the ladies in some parts of the
country will as often as not light
their own cigarettes. The ten
course dinner, too, is a little too
much for an age which knows the
essentials of sane diet.
Large and elaborate dinners are
practicable only for wealthy fam
ilies who have at least a cook and
a waitress, but all of the niceties
and graces of such a meal, and a
great deal of friendly intimacy
which the elaborate affairs seldom
have, can be attained in a six
course dinner with plates laid for
six or eight.
Oysters, shrimps, or hora
d’oeuvres should constitute the
first course of such a dinner, fol
lowed by a clear soup, fish, roast
with one vegetable, salad, an ice
or other dessert, coffee with
Cheese and wafers. In the middle
west even the fish course can be
dispensed with during warm
weather when it is difficult to get
fresh fish in perfect condition.
The opening course Is set be
fore the guests are seated. For
the next course the lady on the
right of the host is served first
and so about the table, serving
the host last. For the third
course the lady to the left of the
host is served first., and so on,
alternating service with each
course and each time serving the
nost last.
It would be extraneous now to
recite the elaborate code of bev
erages which once accompanied
each course, but it is not yet too
late to observe that with the more
pungent cheeses, accompanied by
thin salted crackers, a dinner
cigar of medium body should go
to the gentlemen; a milder variety
goes with blander cheeses. Con
noisseurs in the art of dining
claim that the cigar is improved
if the tip is dipped into the coffee.
A dinner which is lighted by
anything but candles is not a
dinner at all. Finger bowls, of
course, follow the fish course, or
the appetizer course, and the last
course of the dinner. Many hos
tesses drop a sprig of pussy-wil
low, apple blossom, some rose
petals or a violet into the finger
bowl.
Even the folding of the large
dinner napkins is important. Fold
the napkins lengthwise, then
again lengthwise. Fold once in
the middle and then fold each end
back to the central fold so that
the linen opens accordion fashion.
A delicious dessert for the for
mal dinner can be made by beat
ing the yolks of four eggs, adding
one and one-half cups of sugar
and pouring this over one pint of
grated bread crumbs. Let this
stand about one-half hour and
then bake until it is firm in the
center. Spread with currant jelly
or strawberry preserves and cover
with a meringue made with one
hrlf cup of sugar and the whites
of the four eggs. Bake about
ei h* minutes to brown the mer
ingue.
EVENING WRAP FOR COMING SEASON
Already fashion is turning its attention towards the coming
season. And above you see one of the new models for evening
wraps. It is of white ermine, three-quarter length and cut oh
simple lines.
Speaking of Style
By IRENE VAIL
Oats have gone romantic.
* Everybody who knows about
the subject insists that this Is so.
Ostrich feathers contribute largely
to this end and soft, rather rakish
lines settle the matter.
Crowns may be out of fashion
politically but milliners have taken
them up in a big way. They are
in fact much larger. Some of
them go so far as to be draped.
Every so often fashion tends us
scurrying to our history books.
The contemporary idea now ap
parently has become a bore. Paris
designers are back at their old
pastime of haunting museums and
ancient editions so that they may
revive past grandeurs and set us
all of a twitter identifying this
and that silhouette or treatment.
Fashion copy for some, time has
been full of references of Second
Empire styles and how creeps in
reference to the Renaissance, to
Francois I, even to the moyen age,
to say nothing of the gallant gen
tlemen of the 17th century. Now
if that does not give us something
to think about, nothing will.
Pick out the period most flattering
to you, sisters, and go to it, that
is. unless you are one of the vari
ety who just must wear what
every one else is wearing. Paris is
giving us plenty of scope, and lots
of rope in which to get ourselves
entangled. It all sounds very In
trigulng and exciting, after so
many years of a really bread and
batter sartorial diet, which has
we must admit, gradually been
becoming richer.
Back, so they tell us, will come
velvet hats. We have had velvet
this and velvet that, but not so
many velvet hats as many would
like. Millinery having gone ro
mantic. and velvet, being one of
the most poetic of materials, just
naturally belongs in that category.
Prettiness has been sacrificed
for chic or "smartness” for so long
that it is positively thrilling to
realize that fashion is going in for
prettiness, even at the expense of
being, smart.
What -is really more gratifying
still is to realize that one may flit
from period to period, including
1931, without being any more in
consistent than it is a woman's
privilege to be.
Naturally colors may be roman
tic too, so we read of deep and
royal purples, of rich and ruby
wine shades and of various
greens, all of which are colors de
lighted in by old masters and im
portant now that fashion is look
ing longingly backward into a
past rich with lost material capa
ble of being applied to current
costumes.
The Paris openings wall take
place as usual during the latter
part of July and the first week
of August, Until these are over
one is not entirely at ease sar
torially—although our own col
lections now in progress are both
enlightening and important.
Guide to C h a r m
Dark Costumes Will Retain Their Freshness for
Office Wear.
By JACQUELINE HUNT
YOUNG women who work in offices during these hot days
* find the choice of proper clothing a serious one. They may
wear pale, cool silks or crisp linens and come into the office
looking as fresh and bright as new-blown roses, but you know
how long they last! By noontime light frocks are soiled and
wilted, their wearers warm and self-conscious. Dark colors are
much more practical for office wear, even if they do not ap
pear as cool as the summery colors. Wear a dark dress that
can be freshened with touches of white or a pale tint and you
will feel and appear much neater when quitting time comes.
Prints are practical and you
can get them in dark colors and
simple designs that will wear well
and if the dress is aired every
night it will not require launder
ing or cleaning so often. Linens,
too. come in dark colors, smartly
tailored into neat little suits or
dresses tihat you can brighten
with white blouses or frilly colors
and cuffs. Get several sets so you
will always be clean and fresh.
Select dresses in materials that
are not too transparent and you
won't have to wear a slip.
You can slip them on unironed in
voile or organdie—coolest for un
derthings, and they may be
squeezed out of warm soap suds
every night, rinsed and dried.
You can slip them on unironed in
the morning ir you are in a hurry.
Dear Miss Hunt: How can I
stay cool in warm weather? I
work in an office and unless I wear
stuffy dark things my dresses are
grimy and wrinkled before lunch
time comes.
L. S.
Answer: A cool or cold shower,
before you go to work, and a dust
ing of deodorant powder will help
you start the day property. Be
cause clothes are dark is no rea
son why they should be stuffy.
You can get sheer dark chiffons
and voiles In simple designs and
tailored enough to wear in the
office. You will find other sug
gestions above.
Dear Miss Hunt: The water
here is very hard on my skin. My
hands crack and roughen, and the
skin on my body is dry and irri
Home
Making
By ALINE STERN
Very often one buys things that
Intrigue the eye and then finds
that there Is no place to put them.
Pencil sharpeners fall in this cat
egory. To fasten them to a desk
or wall would mar the finish of
the wood and to put them out In
plain sight detracts from the dec
orative effect of the room. The
best, place for pencil sharpeners
is just inside a handy closet. If It's
screwed into the wall at the right
just as the door is opened, it will
be in a very convenient spot.
• • •
If you’re buying fruit juices, you
want to be sure and find out
whether they are pure or adulter
ated. The Food and Drug Admin
istration tells us that it is legal to
adulterate fruit juices—in fact, all
t hey do is add sugar or sugar sy
rup to the contents. But the label
must specify whether the contents
are pure or not. Of course, pure
juice is more expensive.
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soften the water?
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Answer: Perhaps the irritation
is partly caused by careless rins
ing or drying. Water or soap left
on the skin will cause it to rough
en and chap. Powdered borax is
the simplest softening agent. You
can also soften your bath water
with bath salts. aJmond meal,
powdered oatmeal, or a finely
powdered starch that is prepared
for that purpose.
Party Hints
By LEATRIC* OREGORY
^3^ SHOWER of dainty little
garments given by a group
of her Intimate friends Is. a
thoughtful tribute to the new
mother.
Give the stork shower just after
the baby comes. A luncheon fol
lowed by an afternoon of chat
ting and sewing or by bridge is
the most attractive and Informal
method of entertaining.
Write the invitations on white
Or pale tinted correspondence
cards <or purchase them ready to
send) and decorate one side w’ith
a stork seal. Send the guest of
honor an undecorated card, in
viting her to luncheon on such
and such a date.
Use deep salmon pink sweet
peas and white baby’s breath as
the theme of the decorations.
These flowers are inexpensive at
this season if they cannot be ob
tained from one's own garden.
The luncheon table should be
the most attractive feature of the
party. The centerpiece might
take a variety of forms. One sug
gestion is a large swan carrying
a cradle and baby doll on his
back. Cut two swan shapes about
eighteen inches tall from card
board. Spread thin paste on one
side at a time and cover with pink
crepe paper, crinkling it slightly
as you stick it in place.
When the paste has dried,
fasten a small oblong box between
the two swan forms and fasten the
heads and front part together.
Stuff the space between with
crushed paper. Arrange tiny
blankets in the box and sit a baby
doll among the miniature pillows.
Place the swan on a round mirror
surrounded by ferns and moss.
MODES AND
MANNERS
By MARTHA MAXWELL
QUESTION: If you're at a
ball game or an open-air concert
and get separated from your
friends, how ean you attract their
attention without yelling and
causing an embarrassing situa
tion?—Y.L.
ANSWER: At a time like that
one wishes that mental telepathy
were really workable, but barring
that, the next best thing is to get
to some position above the crowd
where you can survey the people.
Your friends will no doubt be on
the lookout for you and if you
can attract their attention by
standing out where they can see
you, that should settle the difficul
ty. A friend of mine who was in
a similar situation, happened to
be wearing a bright-colored scarf
that her aunt, who was in the
group, had given her. So she
found a stick, tied her scarf about
it and held it up in the air. Her
aunt, of course, immediately rec
ognized it and in no time the
group were all together.
QUESTION: How ean you de
cline a bridge invitation grace
fully? Neither my wife nor I care
particularly about bridge, but two
of our friends always insist on
including us whenever they have
a bridge party. As we like both
of these people, we don’t want to
hurt their feelings by declining.
ANSWER: You might invite
them to a bridge-less affair at
your home and have some one
who has been informed of the
situation engage in conversation
with these people. Then quite
casually the intermediary could
drop the remark that you never
played bridge at your house be
cause you didn’t care for the
game. If they don’t take the hint
the only other tactful way out of
the dilemma is to plead another
engagement when a bridge invi
tation oomes your way.
CLOVES YOU'LL
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with a two-color banding.
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You and + +
+ Your Child
By JANE HERBERT GOWARO
Truth and Training
MIJOW can X cultivate truthful
* * ness in my child?” is a ques
tion which every mother asks her
self sooner or later.
There are times in the life of
every youngster when a series of
circumstances or events make him .
out to be a culprit in' the eyes of4i
his parents. And running true to
form, they fail to reason beyond
the startling fact of the “lie.” Of.
course, they are blind to truth—
that the youngster was prompted
or tempted to respond as he did.
This might happen in any
home:
Mother hears a loud crash and
little feet hurrying away to hide.
She rushes to the scene, to find
a dainty hand-painted vase
smashed to smithereens, the fresh
cut flow'ers strewn over the floor.
“Mary!” she shouts, a threat in
her voice.
At first there is no answer. Lit
tle Mary, like the ostrich in the
sand, has hidden her face behind
the curtains. Her mother plainly
sees her and loses no time in get
ting to her.
Pulling her forth rather sud
denly, she demands: "What have
you done?”
The little girl shakes her head.
“You’ve broken mother's vase.
You did, didn’t you?”
“No, mother,” the little girl an
sw-ers, her eyes filling w’ith tears,
her lips trembling.
This time mother gets a better
hold on the little girl. She looks
her square in the eye.
"Tell mother the truth,” she de
mands.
The child returns her mother’s
stern look and blinks back the
tears. ‘'The truth is I didn’t do
This infuriates the mother. She
realizes that her little girl is lying.
So she promptly turns her over
and gives her a good old-fashioned
spanking, to the accompaniment
of a lecture on why little girls must
not tell lies. Then she lets the
crying child run away to her room
or to a corner, while she returns
to her household duties, satisfied
that she has taught her a valuable
lesson.
Why did little Mary tell an un
truth? Because it was the only
response under the circumstances
—an almost instinctive way of
protecting herself. That's why it
is up to the parent to keep from
manufacturing situations that will
elicit such behavior responses
from a child.
Little Mary was caught like a
trapped animaL She might have
admitted her guilt. But what
would have been the use? She
might have been punished anyway.
So she took a chance and said. “I
didn't do it.”
If Mary's mother had been able
to keep her head at the time she
would have taken the philosophic
attitude and told herself that it is
too latfc to mend the broken vase
now anyway. She would have
gathered up the pieces, found an
other bowl for the flowers and
asked, “How did it happen?”
And Mary, as a well-bred child,
would have replied, “I’m sorry,
mother. I wanted to smell the
flowers. I tripped and knocked it
over.”
After that mother would dismiss
the incident with, “Well, try to be
more careful in the future. Put
some water in this bowl and you
may arrange the flowers yourself."
Here is no lying, but compan
ionship and understanding that
accidents will and do happen.