Modern Women Do Women Spend Too Much Time Worrying About Advancing Years? By MARIAN MAYS MARTIN pVERY columnist in the country has risen to the bait cast by Dr. Olga Knopf, a pupil of the famous psychiatrist, Dr. Alfred iJH of Vienna, and reams already have been written pro and con her theory that women set entirely too much store on sex. It did not take any great amount of diligent or deep study to discover the fact that women are forever bemoaning their fate, and wasting a great deal of valuable energy wishing they were men. IT is the exceptional women who have not at some time or other given voice to such a wish. Dr. Knopf says It Is all our moth ers' fault—that she has set father up as a household god and that as little children we learn to think of all male creatures as god-like because of this. BUT there are goddesses as well as gods, and why is it not Just as great a privilege to be a goddess as a god? The eldest son idea, dear to British traditions, is cal culated to rouse any thinking daughter! or second son to a state of rebellion, but we In America fortunately have no such angle on family relationships. Share and share alike is our idea of a fair distribution of the family hold ings. but unfortunately brains cgnnot be parceled out. even in England. Which member of the family has the brains of that fam ily Is not regulated by precedence In birth, nor for that matter by the accident of sex. There arc any number of women who, right ly or wrongly, are the head of the family by right of superior intel lect or by some such determlnnig force. Is such women are handi capped by their sex. I doubt if they are conscious of It. Sex conscious people are an awful nuisance anyway. THE constant association of men and women in business has. of course, brought about a mucli easier relationship, and a much better understanding between the sexes. Women have found that while there are some prejudices against them In the business world, they are rapidly vanishing, and that achievement is possible to them as to men similarly equipped with brains and ambl cion, with an equal amount of in telllgence and application. THE charge if furthe • made that women worry far too much about growing old There is, of course, a great deal of truth in this statement but it must, of course, be conceded that men are not overjoyed by the prospect, either. Their refuge is not natur ally to the beaut” parlor, but it is to the gym or the golf course which is a manifestation of the same desire, not to say a more intelligent attempt to arrive at the same goal—the semblance of youth, appearance of youth. 1 doubt if there is at . her civilized country in the entire world that Slakes such a fetish of youth as oes these Unite ’ States. Your Parisienne, who is credited with knowing a thing or two about charm and, not only how to charm the male, but to enthrall him, has no such fear of age a~ we have, because the men wh she comes in contact with are not obsessed by the idea thu. youth is the most desirable quality a woman can possibly possess. Dr Knopf ac cuses us of dreading old age be cause by growing old we lose sex attraction and says: "That a wo man is truly happy only when she realizes that her sex attraction is powerful." pVEN in this enlightened age *■* when sex has become a par lor topic, I venture the opinion that there are heaps and heaps of happy women who have never been conscious of having sex at traction, and who seem to be get ting along very nicely without any shadow of its presence, let alone departure darkening their domes tic lives. Of course women do not relish the idea of growing old —who does? But why pick on the so-~a*».*d weaker sex for this very general and human attitude. + You and Your Child + By JANE HERBERT GO WARD Watch That Imitative Faculty! By the time t'aby is two years old he is quite a finished ac tor. His parents will observe that he imitates them, or an older brother or sister, or his grand mother, indeed anyone with whom he comes in contact, revealing a surprising keenness for detail. He catches intonations and gestures, and though none of these may be come habituaU th-re is a lesson in all this spring for parents. We hear lots of talk about the importance of environment upon the young, growing child. And environment includes persons as well as the physical surroundings. Indeed during these early years daddy’s end mother's economic status have nothing whatever to do with his happiness. As long as he is looked after and intelli gently handled, and f his parents lake the trouble to play with him. he is very well off. This is the time of life when attitudes and manners make their strongest imprint upon his mind. He's as curious as a young monkey and as keenly alive. He's so busy storing up impressions that he doesn't get time to use some of them. It may ake weeks or months or years before he does. When he is a year or so older and exhibits precocious ways, his parents will shake their heads and wonder where he geti all the ex pressions, gesture', and Intona tion. ‘"The little fellow is a deep thinker,” they will tell each other joyously. But acti.ally. though he is intelligent and capable of thought, he is just unwinding his impressions mechanically, pretty much in the same way that a vic trola record does when regulated to go. nonsense, suiue wn* say. And their argument Is a good one. “Then why does he speak so to the point?” they de mand. Why? Because he is so amaz ingly keen at this period of de velopment, that he has not failed to note the precise situation that induce certaiij reactions in tone, gesture or mood. Ant once he has learned something it is not so easy for him to unlearn it. Worrying is not an inherited trait. If mother shakes her head dolefully when daddy is late at the end of the day. and is easily upset and anxious, she must not be sur prised some d-y to hear her little one address his doll and say, “Oh. dear." in just .he same hopeless, fashion that mother does. When Judy stands up on the little bench which she herself has pushed over to the sink and pro ceeds to wash the dishes as mother does, it is very likely that , she may break a dish or two be fore mother gets to her. And if mother fusses and scolds and overemphasises the Importance of the accident, the little girl may learn to grumble and complain when displeased. A broken dish, afte* all, is Just a trifle. Mother can't make it whole again, but she can give her little one a new slant on the aub jcct of accidents and how to re spond. How much better if mother lifts the frightened girl off the bench, dries her tears and seys softly, ‘‘1 think you have had enough dish washing today," and then after giving her an understanding pat on the head, quietly goes about picking up the pieces. Judy will probably never repeat the experi ment again. She's learned a les son and that washing dishes like mother does is not really so much fun as she thought it would be. Mother must take time to play with baby herself. When baby commands her to "sit down," if she is not too busy, she should sit down and try to get acquainted with how baby plays, as in play the little one re-enacts what he is learning about life and living from his environment. It gives her an opportunity.to check up on herself, as it were and then to correct the child through correct ing herself or through eliminating some wrong or bad influence in the envlronmen* which she had not heretofore suspected. MANY REVIVALS IN NEW STYLES The reappearance of feathers Into fashion has inspired the making of feather muffs. Tiny little barrel muffs of glistening Spanish coq feathers are beingg shown as a part of a costume topped by a coi, trimmed hat, a debonalre little affair with the coq In a graceful sweep at the left side. Left side trimmings are once more here by the way. Relating the hat to the costume not by the usual color route but by the repetition of a fabric or fur is one of the new ideas. Fur Is so Important this season that there is no use attempting to stop talking about it. especially since it has come to be used as a brim facing. In bows and for so many little trimmii _ details. Furs contrast rather than match. They are best when darker than the fabric, with, of course, the out standing exception of ermine or what passes for it on black. No season determined on elegance would naturally do without the aid of black velvet. rrmine and pearls. Every so often there is a flurry of excitement o er the return of the "ell, but it ‘.as not been any thing but a flurry for a long time. The little chenille dotted mesh veil is struggling for recognition and so is the lat veil draped around the brim and forminga cascade at the back. ! FORMAL GOWNS SOBER OR SOPHISTICATED . . ! The youthful type of summer evening frock sketched above at left is expressive of many of the organdies sponsored by the young er set at the Long Island Beach club during Saturday night dances. This one is in pale blue, with tucked bodice and hip sec Copyright, l&l, by Fairchild. •{ion, and loose ruffle-edged pan els. making a graceful pitcure on the dance floor. Beside it is a sophisticated black chiffon gown, relieved by shoulder straps and belt of brilliants. A white moire taffeta jacket, completes the black and white impression. Mothers of Famous Men The Mother of Thomas Gray 'T’HE life of Dorothy Antrobus * Gray, the mother of Thomas Gray, the poet, was cast along hard lines. She was dependent on her own earnings for support Philip Gray, the father of Thomas was a brutal husband and not only failed to aid his family fi nancially but made the struggle of his wife for a livelihood more difficult by his persecutions. But Dorothy Gray came from a cultured family and nursed high ambitions for the son who was born to her in 1716. in Comhlll, London, and she determined that he should have the education that was needed to bring out the best that was in him. With the meager earnings of the millinery shop that she kept in the city where she lived she man aged not only to support herself and her child but to give him the advantages of good schools. Nor did she stop with provision of preparatory education—for she recognized the development of rare gifts in Thomas and set her heart on giving him the benefit of training in a great college. So she supported him through a course of study at Cambridge University. And so Dorothy Gray, by her sacrifices, gave to her poet son the opportunity to a‘tain the heights for which he was equipped. With out the devotion of his mother, the author of “The Elegy” might have failed to realize his gifts— with it he achieved undying fame. And it is to ’-is mother—whose self-denial and high service in the rearing of Thomas Gray made the fruition of his genius possible— that the world owes a large part of gratitude due for the treasure in verse with which he emiclfed English literature. The sacrifices of such a mother could not fail to inspire such a son to high endeavor and lofty thoughts and it was under her influence that h gave himself to development of his poetic gifts to the highest. And in the immortal lines penned by her son. Dorothy Gray’s sacrifices were rewarded. Thomas Gray was born in Corn hiU, London Dec. 26. 1716. He died at Cambric'ge, July 30. 1771. A poet, his best known work being “Elegy Written in a Country Churchyard A DISH + + A DA Y By JANET WILSON Menus Pfcmle Lunches Ham fluidriches CV/holewheBti Eggs Staffed with Pickles Spice Buns Bananas Chocolate Milk Tuna Pish anc^ Pickle Sandwiches Cheese Sandwiches Olives Cookies Apples Lemonade F* all Picnics THE last few days before school * again claims iL captive spirits. The children should be encouraged to make the most of the freedom offered by the woods or beach. And food, canal it may seem when sunshine and trees are call ing, will become important as the afternoon slips away. Sandwiches, no matter what kind or how many. Will be wel come and cakes or tarts that may have been slipped along with them into the knapsack, will certainly not go begging. rne homemaker who seeks to make her home and her young son’s life a happy one while she may, 'vill snatch a few moment’s from the day’s work to assist In the 6mall matter of filling up a knapsack. > Put the least crushable thing in the bottom and the lighter tilings on top so the lunch will not get too Jarred up. Thirst quenchers, such as a bottled chocolate drink, ginger ale, lemonade or milk, can usually be slipped in the side in an upright position. Taking along a beverage or just plain water is an important thing, as spring water, unless it is absolutely known and tested, often is not to be trusted. Left-over meat sliced and put between buttered slices of white or whole wheat bread makes the right kind of sandwiches, as sub stance rather than daintiness is most appreciated in lunches of this kind. Roast beef and baked ham are probably the best—unless there is chicken on hand—and for such an occasion it is a good idea to omit the usua’ lettuce and mayonnaise. A combination cheese sandwich is also very good. One kind is made with chee e. onion and sweet pickles. Cut white or rye bread into slices and butter well. Cut fairly thin slices of American or brick cheese and sweet cucumber pickles, and thin slices of Ber muda onion. On a slice of but tered bread lay the slices of cheese and onion to fit the bread, and on top put the slices of pickle and the second slice of buttered bread. A plain cheese sandwich sea soned with mustard is always pop ular. If there .s no cake avail able for the lunch and a sweet is desired, a very delicious sweet sandwich can be made by work ing a little cream chees and o r an g e marmalade together. Chopped nuts n. .y be added, and the mixture spread between whole wheat or Boston brown bread. In cor’-ing vegetables the best results, as far as saving food is concerned, are obtained when prepared in a covered pot, quick ly cooked until tender. Do not re.-cook. THE PINGOS By Clark Watson y-^ r uey.~ GJArr1.'. F" •WHOA-!/ J &%ile walking with Davy Jane* toward the cattle o{ Old Ki-nbCole, tOilly.Uu-n-nle a-, tvcnce PtT>jty> came ufrom & a • , waiting to be worn, it is to be presumed that their owners will appreciate the opportunity of adding color to them by cholcing * frivilous son of hat. It may be a moon since red hats have been the fashion. There is an attempt to revive them, either in velvet or felt. On everything in which it is possible to introduce move than one color it seems advisable to do so. The all btack costume is the usual exception to this blanket rule. Black velvet or cloth coats or suite trimmed with black lynx or with Persian lamb are one of the outstanding preferences. Black trimmed with white remains, and while black furs trimming color are more usual than black trimmed with light fur. in some quarters it is reported that badger is being called for and is again wviug uov>u uu uiai/tv. Among the so-called sports furs ocelot Is proving extremely smart. In case you do not know an ocelot when you meet one it may be of our own particular variety of mentioned that he is the largest lepard cat and is spotted accord ing to the traditions of his family. Wiseacres are linking leopards with the French Colonial influ ence but be that as it mav there are many spotted furs, some of them being jagr. ir although usual ly presented as and known as leopard. One of the most interesting phases of the new fashions is the way fur is introduced not only as a trimming but as a part of the garment itself. A good many short jackets are offered and al most as many cloth coats the top section of which is of fur. these models being easily mistaken on first glance for a shirt and jacket. Fur Is also used, in some cases, for the entire sleeve of a coat or suit. Any number of fur trimmed dresses are being prepared for the new season. Wide bands of fur at the hem is one arrangement, while wide sleeve bands remain. Necklines are fur bordered, or fin ished with a fur bow, this being Especially well thought of when white fur is used on black or a dark frock. tne ary skin. There is nothing like a healthy layer of fat under the skin to prevent wrinkles. You should use a rich cream on your face every evening. There are many good brands, but you can use lanoline or cocoa butter if you w’ish. I would suggest that you also use a mild skin tonic to stim ulate the circulation. Use a foun dation cream with an oily base 'NOT a vanishing cream) under your powder during the day. r “LItHT TOPS" IN DRESS OR COSTUME Terra Cotta is combined with putty color for this contrast jacket ensemble, with its fashionable fur bordered short sleeves, completed by long gloves. Note the fancy tucking on the hips and the scarf neckline. The costume appeared at 'he Le Touquet Polo Club. Home Making By ALINE STERN - C recent years the modern housewife has been increasingly interested in the use of ther mometers in cooking. The candy thermometer for testing all kinds of sugar mixtures was first in troduced Next there was the oven thermometer which should be used constantly if one has no heat regulator on the oven. There is also the frying thermometer which takes the guess out of deep fat frying. And now there is also a meat thermometer. Inserted into the center of a roast this in strument tells when meat is properly done. An unusual ware is now being shown that is not china, glass or paper and is unbreakable. It is made up for refreshment sets in such a variety of pieces that pic nic, tea and coffe. sets can be assembled. They are thin and light and may be obtained in a wide variety of colors. Pen and pencil games fof en tertainments are always interest ing. Suppose, for instance, you have decided to give a party on a certain holiday. You take the letters in the name of that partic ular holiday, and the game con sists iii seeing who can make the most words from those letters. Or you might have the guests ar range these sa e letters in a column and then with the word itself as the subjec make a sen tence. having the first word after the subject begin with the letters of the column. Cotton waste, purchased by the pound, is excellent for all polish ing operations arcunt the house including the cleaning of silver. To use it, tear off a small amount, finger It carefully to make sure that it contains no foreign matter. U3e it and then discard it. It this way no dirt or tarnish is trans ferred from one piece to another.