Modern Women
Do Women Spend Too Much Time Worrying About
Advancing Years?
By MARIAN MAYS MARTIN
pVERY columnist in the country has risen to the bait cast by
Dr. Olga Knopf, a pupil of the famous psychiatrist, Dr.
Alfred iJH of Vienna, and reams already have been written
pro and con her theory that women set entirely too much store
on sex. It did not take any great amount of diligent or deep
study to discover the fact that women are forever bemoaning
their fate, and wasting a great deal of valuable energy wishing
they were men.
IT is the exceptional women
who have not at some time or
other given voice to such a wish.
Dr. Knopf says It Is all our moth
ers' fault—that she has set father
up as a household god and that
as little children we learn to think
of all male creatures as god-like
because of this.
BUT there are goddesses as well
as gods, and why is it not Just
as great a privilege to be a goddess
as a god? The eldest son idea,
dear to British traditions, is cal
culated to rouse any thinking
daughter! or second son to a state
of rebellion, but we In America
fortunately have no such angle on
family relationships. Share and
share alike is our idea of a fair
distribution of the family hold
ings. but unfortunately brains
cgnnot be parceled out. even in
England. Which member of the
family has the brains of that fam
ily Is not regulated by precedence
In birth, nor for that matter by
the accident of sex. There arc
any number of women who, right
ly or wrongly, are the head of the
family by right of superior intel
lect or by some such determlnnig
force. Is such women are handi
capped by their sex. I doubt if
they are conscious of It. Sex
conscious people are an awful
nuisance anyway.
THE constant association of men
and women in business has.
of course, brought about a mucli
easier relationship, and a much
better understanding between the
sexes. Women have found that
while there are some prejudices
against them In the business
world, they are rapidly vanishing,
and that achievement is possible
to them as to men similarly
equipped with brains and ambl
cion, with an equal amount of in
telllgence and application.
THE charge if furthe • made that
women worry far too much
about growing old There is, of
course, a great deal of truth in
this statement but it must, of
course, be conceded that men are
not overjoyed by the prospect,
either. Their refuge is not natur
ally to the beaut” parlor, but it
is to the gym or the golf course
which is a manifestation of the
same desire, not to say a more
intelligent attempt to arrive at
the same goal—the semblance of
youth, appearance of youth. 1
doubt if there is at . her civilized
country in the entire world that
Slakes such a fetish of youth as
oes these Unite ’ States. Your
Parisienne, who is credited with
knowing a thing or two about
charm and, not only how to charm
the male, but to enthrall him, has
no such fear of age a~ we have,
because the men wh she comes
in contact with are not obsessed
by the idea thu. youth is the most
desirable quality a woman can
possibly possess. Dr Knopf ac
cuses us of dreading old age be
cause by growing old we lose sex
attraction and says: "That a wo
man is truly happy only when she
realizes that her sex attraction is
powerful."
pVEN in this enlightened age
*■* when sex has become a par
lor topic, I venture the opinion
that there are heaps and heaps of
happy women who have never
been conscious of having sex at
traction, and who seem to be get
ting along very nicely without any
shadow of its presence, let alone
departure darkening their domes
tic lives. Of course women do
not relish the idea of growing old
—who does? But why pick on the
so-~a*».*d weaker sex for this very
general and human attitude.
+ You and Your Child +
By JANE HERBERT GO WARD
Watch That Imitative
Faculty!
By the time t'aby is two years
old he is quite a finished ac
tor. His parents will observe that
he imitates them, or an older
brother or sister, or his grand
mother, indeed anyone with whom
he comes in contact, revealing a
surprising keenness for detail. He
catches intonations and gestures,
and though none of these may be
come habituaU th-re is a lesson in
all this spring for parents.
We hear lots of talk about the
importance of environment upon
the young, growing child. And
environment includes persons as
well as the physical surroundings.
Indeed during these early years
daddy’s end mother's economic
status have nothing whatever to
do with his happiness. As long
as he is looked after and intelli
gently handled, and f his parents
lake the trouble to play with him.
he is very well off.
This is the time of life when
attitudes and manners make their
strongest imprint upon his mind.
He's as curious as a young monkey
and as keenly alive. He's so busy
storing up impressions that he
doesn't get time to use some of
them. It may ake weeks or
months or years before he does.
When he is a year or so older
and exhibits precocious ways, his
parents will shake their heads and
wonder where he geti all the ex
pressions, gesture', and Intona
tion. ‘"The little fellow is a deep
thinker,” they will tell each other
joyously. But acti.ally. though he
is intelligent and capable of
thought, he is just unwinding his
impressions mechanically, pretty
much in the same way that a vic
trola record does when regulated
to go.
nonsense, suiue wn*
say. And their argument Is a
good one. “Then why does he
speak so to the point?” they de
mand.
Why? Because he is so amaz
ingly keen at this period of de
velopment, that he has not failed
to note the precise situation that
induce certaiij reactions in tone,
gesture or mood. Ant once he has
learned something it is not so easy
for him to unlearn it.
Worrying is not an inherited
trait. If mother shakes her head
dolefully when daddy is late at the
end of the day. and is easily upset
and anxious, she must not be sur
prised some d-y to hear her little
one address his doll and say, “Oh.
dear." in just .he same hopeless,
fashion that mother does.
When Judy stands up on the
little bench which she herself has
pushed over to the sink and pro
ceeds to wash the dishes as
mother does, it is very likely that
, she may break a dish or two be
fore mother gets to her. And if
mother fusses and scolds and
overemphasises the Importance of
the accident, the little girl may
learn to grumble and complain
when displeased.
A broken dish, afte* all, is Just
a trifle. Mother can't make it
whole again, but she can give her
little one a new slant on the aub
jcct of accidents and how to re
spond.
How much better if mother lifts
the frightened girl off the bench,
dries her tears and seys softly, ‘‘1
think you have had enough dish
washing today," and then after
giving her an understanding pat
on the head, quietly goes about
picking up the pieces. Judy will
probably never repeat the experi
ment again. She's learned a les
son and that washing dishes like
mother does is not really so much
fun as she thought it would be.
Mother must take time to play
with baby herself. When baby
commands her to "sit down," if
she is not too busy, she should sit
down and try to get acquainted
with how baby plays, as in play
the little one re-enacts what he
is learning about life and living
from his environment. It gives
her an opportunity.to check up
on herself, as it were and then to
correct the child through correct
ing herself or through eliminating
some wrong or bad influence in
the envlronmen* which she had
not heretofore suspected.
MANY REVIVALS
IN NEW STYLES
The reappearance of feathers
Into fashion has inspired the
making of feather muffs. Tiny
little barrel muffs of glistening
Spanish coq feathers are beingg
shown as a part of a costume
topped by a coi, trimmed hat, a
debonalre little affair with the
coq In a graceful sweep at the left
side. Left side trimmings are
once more here by the way.
Relating the hat to the costume
not by the usual color route but
by the repetition of a fabric or fur
is one of the new ideas.
Fur Is so Important this season
that there is no use attempting to
stop talking about it. especially
since it has come to be used as a
brim facing. In bows and for so
many little trimmii _ details. Furs
contrast rather than match. They
are best when darker than the
fabric, with, of course, the out
standing exception of ermine or
what passes for it on black. No
season determined on elegance
would naturally do without the aid
of black velvet. rrmine and pearls.
Every so often there is a flurry
of excitement o er the return of
the "ell, but it ‘.as not been any
thing but a flurry for a long time.
The little chenille dotted mesh
veil is struggling for recognition
and so is the lat veil draped
around the brim and forminga
cascade at the back.
! FORMAL GOWNS SOBER OR SOPHISTICATED
. . !
The youthful type of summer
evening frock sketched above at
left is expressive of many of the
organdies sponsored by the young
er set at the Long Island Beach
club during Saturday night
dances. This one is in pale blue,
with tucked bodice and hip sec
Copyright, l&l, by Fairchild.
•{ion, and loose ruffle-edged pan
els. making a graceful pitcure on
the dance floor. Beside it is a
sophisticated black chiffon gown,
relieved by shoulder straps and
belt of brilliants. A white moire
taffeta jacket, completes the black
and white impression.
Mothers of Famous Men
The Mother of
Thomas Gray
'T’HE life of Dorothy Antrobus
* Gray, the mother of Thomas
Gray, the poet, was cast along
hard lines. She was dependent on
her own earnings for support
Philip Gray, the father of Thomas
was a brutal husband and not
only failed to aid his family fi
nancially but made the struggle
of his wife for a livelihood more
difficult by his persecutions.
But Dorothy Gray came from a
cultured family and nursed high
ambitions for the son who was
born to her in 1716. in Comhlll,
London, and she determined that
he should have the education that
was needed to bring out the best
that was in him.
With the meager earnings of the
millinery shop that she kept in
the city where she lived she man
aged not only to support herself
and her child but to give him the
advantages of good schools. Nor
did she stop with provision of
preparatory education—for she
recognized the development of
rare gifts in Thomas and set her
heart on giving him the benefit
of training in a great college. So
she supported him through a
course of study at Cambridge
University.
And so Dorothy Gray, by her
sacrifices, gave to her poet son the
opportunity to a‘tain the heights
for which he was equipped. With
out the devotion of his mother,
the author of “The Elegy” might
have failed to realize his gifts—
with it he achieved undying fame.
And it is to ’-is mother—whose
self-denial and high service in the
rearing of Thomas Gray made the
fruition of his genius possible—
that the world owes a large part
of gratitude due for the treasure
in verse with which he emiclfed
English literature.
The sacrifices of such a mother
could not fail to inspire such a
son to high endeavor and lofty
thoughts and it was under her
influence that h gave himself to
development of his poetic gifts to
the highest.
And in the immortal lines
penned by her son. Dorothy Gray’s
sacrifices were rewarded.
Thomas Gray was born in Corn
hiU, London Dec. 26. 1716. He
died at Cambric'ge, July 30. 1771.
A poet, his best known work being
“Elegy Written in a Country
Churchyard
A DISH +
+ A DA Y
By JANET WILSON
Menus
Pfcmle Lunches
Ham fluidriches CV/holewheBti
Eggs Staffed with Pickles
Spice Buns Bananas
Chocolate Milk
Tuna Pish anc^ Pickle Sandwiches
Cheese Sandwiches
Olives
Cookies Apples
Lemonade
F* all Picnics
THE last few days before school
* again claims iL captive spirits.
The children should be encouraged
to make the most of the freedom
offered by the woods or beach.
And food, canal it may seem
when sunshine and trees are call
ing, will become important as the
afternoon slips away.
Sandwiches, no matter what
kind or how many. Will be wel
come and cakes or tarts that may
have been slipped along with them
into the knapsack, will certainly
not go begging.
rne homemaker who seeks to
make her home and her young
son’s life a happy one while she
may, 'vill snatch a few moment’s
from the day’s work to assist In
the 6mall matter of filling up a
knapsack. >
Put the least crushable thing in
the bottom and the lighter tilings
on top so the lunch will not get
too Jarred up. Thirst quenchers,
such as a bottled chocolate drink,
ginger ale, lemonade or milk, can
usually be slipped in the side in
an upright position. Taking along
a beverage or just plain water is
an important thing, as spring
water, unless it is absolutely
known and tested, often is not to
be trusted.
Left-over meat sliced and put
between buttered slices of white
or whole wheat bread makes the
right kind of sandwiches, as sub
stance rather than daintiness is
most appreciated in lunches of
this kind. Roast beef and baked
ham are probably the best—unless
there is chicken on hand—and for
such an occasion it is a good idea
to omit the usua’ lettuce and
mayonnaise.
A combination cheese sandwich
is also very good. One kind is
made with chee e. onion and sweet
pickles. Cut white or rye bread
into slices and butter well. Cut
fairly thin slices of American or
brick cheese and sweet cucumber
pickles, and thin slices of Ber
muda onion. On a slice of but
tered bread lay the slices of cheese
and onion to fit the bread, and
on top put the slices of pickle and
the second slice of buttered bread.
A plain cheese sandwich sea
soned with mustard is always pop
ular. If there .s no cake avail
able for the lunch and a sweet is
desired, a very delicious sweet
sandwich can be made by work
ing a little cream chees and
o r an g e marmalade together.
Chopped nuts n. .y be added, and
the mixture spread between whole
wheat or Boston brown bread.
In cor’-ing vegetables the best
results, as far as saving food is
concerned, are obtained when
prepared in a covered pot, quick
ly cooked until tender. Do not
re.-cook.
THE PINGOS
By Clark Watson
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Guide to C harm
Here’* a Splendid Treatment for ui./'-vin* the
Neck Line
By JACQUELINE HUNT
'J'HERE is much to be said about necks, but I must get on to
other subjects. Before I do, however, I want to give you a
magic treatment for regaining a youthful throat, neck and
shoulder line. The preparation Is the old standby—Epsom salts.
The hot Epsom salts treatmen t will reduce unsightly pouches
and completely rejuvenate the lines of the neck and shoulders.
WJC Cipouni SttlbS water
by adding four tablespoons of
Epsom salts to one-half pint of
boiling water. When the salts
has dissolved divide the portion
and put half into another con
tainer. Add another cup of hot
water to one portion and you are
ready for the treatment.
Cleanse the neck and shoulders
thoroughly with cleansing cream
and remove the excess with
cleansing tissues or gauze. Take
a large square of gauze and fold
it until it will cover the portion of
the neck and shoulders you wish
to treat. Wring this out of the
hot Epsom salts w’ater and place
it about the neck. Repeat five or
six times, then massage gently to
ward the ears and around to the
spine, then upward to the base of
the hair.
tie peat tne hot compresses and
massage again. Finish the treat
ment with the remaining half cup
of salts water that has been thor
oughly chilled with the addition
of . good sized p’ece of ice. Sev
eral cold compresses are necessary.
Pat the skin gently and finish
with a thin film of cold cream to
prevent the skin from becoming
too dry.
You can us* thi treatment
dally until the ungainly portions
of the neck have been reduced and
the skin is firm and youthful in
appearance.
Answer to Query:
Dear Miss Hunt: 1 would
appreciate it greatly if you
will help me as you have
helped others. Lately I have
been bothered with a dry,
Tinkled skin that looks old
What can I us j at night and
during the day to take away
some of the dryness and
wrinkles? Constant Reader.
I suspect that more fat produc
ing foods in your di'* would help
Speaking
of Style
By IRENE VAR
IN your natural enthusiasm over
* the new colors, do not make
the mistake of discounting the
importance* of black. Black is al
ways a favorite with chic women,
and runs the chance of being even
more distinguished now that the
masses have forsaken it for colors.
Do not make he mistake, either
of underestimating the value of
the ensemble in the new scheme
of things. It is an old story and
so is not being played up by fash
ion reporters, but it remains a
very sensible costume type and is
by no means a back number.
There is a trend toward'hats
that contrast rather than match
the costume and this brings in red
hats or others unreleated to the
costume. Since ther are any
number of fur ->a • , waiting to be
worn, it is to be presumed that
their owners will appreciate the
opportunity of adding color to
them by cholcing * frivilous son
of hat. It may be a moon since
red hats have been the fashion.
There is an attempt to revive
them, either in velvet or felt.
On everything in which it is
possible to introduce move than
one color it seems advisable to do
so. The all btack costume is the
usual exception to this blanket
rule. Black velvet or cloth coats
or suite trimmed with black lynx
or with Persian lamb are one of
the outstanding preferences. Black
trimmed with white remains, and
while black furs trimming color
are more usual than black
trimmed with light fur. in some
quarters it is reported that badger
is being called for and is again
wviug uov>u uu uiai/tv.
Among the so-called sports furs
ocelot Is proving extremely smart.
In case you do not know an ocelot
when you meet one it may be
of our own particular variety of
mentioned that he is the largest
lepard cat and is spotted accord
ing to the traditions of his family.
Wiseacres are linking leopards
with the French Colonial influ
ence but be that as it mav there
are many spotted furs, some of
them being jagr. ir although usual
ly presented as and known as
leopard.
One of the most interesting
phases of the new fashions is the
way fur is introduced not only as
a trimming but as a part of the
garment itself. A good many
short jackets are offered and al
most as many cloth coats the
top section of which is of fur.
these models being easily mistaken
on first glance for a shirt and
jacket. Fur Is also used, in some
cases, for the entire sleeve of a
coat or suit.
Any number of fur trimmed
dresses are being prepared for the
new season. Wide bands of fur
at the hem is one arrangement,
while wide sleeve bands remain.
Necklines are fur bordered, or fin
ished with a fur bow, this being
Especially well thought of when
white fur is used on black or a
dark frock.
tne ary skin. There is nothing
like a healthy layer of fat under
the skin to prevent wrinkles. You
should use a rich cream on your
face every evening. There are
many good brands, but you can
use lanoline or cocoa butter if you
w’ish. I would suggest that you
also use a mild skin tonic to stim
ulate the circulation. Use a foun
dation cream with an oily base
'NOT a vanishing cream) under
your powder during the day.
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“LItHT TOPS" IN
DRESS OR COSTUME
Terra Cotta is combined with
putty color for this contrast jacket
ensemble, with its fashionable fur
bordered short sleeves, completed
by long gloves. Note the fancy
tucking on the hips and the scarf
neckline. The costume appeared
at 'he Le Touquet Polo Club.
Home
Making
By ALINE STERN
-
C recent years the modern
housewife has been increasingly
interested in the use of ther
mometers in cooking. The candy
thermometer for testing all kinds
of sugar mixtures was first in
troduced Next there was the
oven thermometer which should
be used constantly if one has no
heat regulator on the oven. There
is also the frying thermometer
which takes the guess out of deep
fat frying. And now there is also
a meat thermometer. Inserted
into the center of a roast this in
strument tells when meat is
properly done.
An unusual ware is now being
shown that is not china, glass or
paper and is unbreakable. It is
made up for refreshment sets in
such a variety of pieces that pic
nic, tea and coffe. sets can be
assembled. They are thin and
light and may be obtained in a
wide variety of colors.
Pen and pencil games fof en
tertainments are always interest
ing. Suppose, for instance, you
have decided to give a party on a
certain holiday. You take the
letters in the name of that partic
ular holiday, and the game con
sists iii seeing who can make the
most words from those letters.
Or you might have the guests ar
range these sa e letters in a
column and then with the word
itself as the subjec make a sen
tence. having the first word after
the subject begin with the letters
of the column.
Cotton waste, purchased by the
pound, is excellent for all polish
ing operations arcunt the house
including the cleaning of silver.
To use it, tear off a small amount,
finger It carefully to make sure
that it contains no foreign matter.
U3e it and then discard it. It this
way no dirt or tarnish is trans
ferred from one piece to another.