Page 14-A?THE BRUNSWICK BEACC Home, Swee A home is not just a house. It's a sanctuary where persons love and care for another. Two basic marital needs contribute to making a home. John has a need for "peace and quiet" at home or what author Willard Harlev calls "domestic support." Mary needs John to be a good father to their I children. Harley calls this "family I commitment." I agree that both are legitimate needs, but add that it is easier naming them than doing them. In John's fantasy, each day he can come home to a clean house with a iwiiig wuc aim wcu-uciiavtu children. Mar}' urges him to sit down and relax before sitting down with the family to a delicious dinner. Later the family enjoys a pleasant evening with everyone going to bed at a reasonable hour. Along with many modern wives, Mary' laughs when she hears this fantasy. You can understand her position. She works outside the home just as John does. "Why shouldn't John help me around the house?" Mary thinks. That's not the point. John should help. Only, his basic need for support doesn't rule out helping make life more pleasant. Harley contends that "the male need for his wife 'to take care of things' " is widespread . . . regardless of the rhetoric about what "male chauvinist pigs" ought to do about shaping up, the truth is this: In CEP/ M I V_l IUl LI I I BY BARBARA T. HEWETT ] Cedar Grove Missionary Baptist 1 Church will cm- i phasize the im' portance .3B Christian < VKCBfl motlierhood in its I 11 a.m. worship ! ^Hjs7 service Sunday, 1 with the pastor, Rev. Freeman tt Cause, in charge of the ministry of the word. During the service, a formal Mother's Day tribute will be given by Perita B. Price, wife of Anthony Price and daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Dolphus Bryant. The church's pastor, officers and members invite the public. 1 She's A Winner As she sits in Sunday School class at Cedar Grove Missionary Baptist \ Church, or in the sanctuary during 1 me morning worship service, I graceful and humble, we are ex- 1 1 (v|?I ST. JAMES 1 V"'l j EPISCOPAL CHURCH 1 \l J The Rtv. Reginald Blin ' Holy Eucharist - 1st 8, 3rd Sundays Morning Prayer ?2nd & 4th Sundays 10:00 AM i Hwy. 17, Shallotte _ I (Eoble Mn COMPl Jffuneral SUPPLY. N..C .f*'. CAo^M ? DIIRARI F utmrAi Rentals/Soles Free Blood Pressure Checks Medicare Billing Commode Chairs Elevated Toilet Seats Bath Bars Bath Tub Chair Sitz Bath ? Folding Walkers Traction ? Much more Call and ask for Route 3, Supply, North C 919-75^ Across from The Bi >N, Thursday, May 5, 1988 t Home Take families where the wife has a fulltime career, the typical husband wants to be cared for by having his wife do certain domestic chores. How can this happen in John and Mary's situation where both have careers? Harley suggests that every couple needs to develop a proper division of labor. This means listing all the tnelre nnA ...AaU K.. KsvtW ? v'iew Associational family as well as :ellow West Brunswick High School seniors with her most recently won title. She won the county ACT-SO scholarship competition April 16. Her parents are the John McMillians of the area. Association To Meet The Cedar Grove Improvement Association meets Friday, May 13, at its usual time in the church dining hall. Members and potential members are encouraged to attend. Happy Birthday Happy birthday to Shirley Robinson, Angie and Jeauifer Coatney, Soma Bellamy, Lorenza Hewett, Carolyn M. Bellamy, Norman Hank ins, Reginald Lofton Hewett, iris Lee Hewett, Brenda Faye Johnson, Pearlie Bryant, Ola Frink, iubert "Bobby" Johnson, Earnell Hewett, Evelyn Johnson, Newton icott, Dessie Grissett, Josie Pugh, Jimmie Hankins and Brandon Gore. Tune In Be sure to listen to WVCB Radio 1410 AM) in Shallotte at 3 p.m. Thursday and 10:15 a.m. Saturday 'or the Cedar Grove Area News. Much /945 V, I ??? n.*fl ; -ETE I l^enrice I , 754-GB4B swf g.)?P ~ y* xitynaZ iSAa/unacy =fleallhCa//EQUIPMENT STORE Al Hospital Bods by Smith Davis Electric 6-Way Manual Bedrails Trapeze Bars Egg Crate Mattress Sheepskins ^ Kylic Incontinent Systems ^ Mike Gunther Box 22 1 arolina 28462 2 1-8160 unswick Hospital uiv- mono ami nuin uuiil uy uvjui 111 the following four categories: (1) inrnnip-ppnpratinp aptivitip*; (money-producing); (2) child-care I anything that involves care of children); (3) household responsibilities (cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing, home organization}; and (4) repair and home maintenance activities (repair and maintain home, car and mechanical possessions). After setting down a complete inventory, estimate present division of labor, then adjust each other's list to create a fair division with your spouse. Today for John to have domestic support, he and Mary' must create this fair division of labor. Mary has a need around the home GROVE AREA NF Dlans Mothers' 1 jeriencing, watching an " '87 Black Pearl." And not only that, can you jnagine that Ursula McMillian is ilso on her way to Washington, D.C., ;o compete in the national ACT-SO competition in drama? Ursula is cerainly "taking it to the top," and she las brought lots of inv tn thn flnnon >s Joint Effort too. She needs John to spend more time with his children and to contribute to their well-being. She needs him to be a good father, an involved father. By developing what sociologists call "quality family time," John can strengthen his marriage to Mary and his ties with his children. Hariey recommends that every father spend 15 hours a week as a goal for "quality family time." This includes all meals together as a family, going to church together, going out for walks, attending sports events, reading to the children before bedtime and family projects. The activities keep changing. When your children reach their teens, spending tnis mucn time with them will tax your ingenuity. They want to spend most of their tunc with their friends. That's why John must begin "quality time" when his children are still young. Today there arc thousands of books on parenting. They will tell John of his need for consistent and persistent discipline, of how to reach agreement with Mary on all matters concerning their discipline and a whole lot more. Attempting to digest their contents will please Mary no end. She knows "the best husband is a good father." Both John and Mary want a good, loving home, working together they can create it. (Dr. Stan Smith is the minister of Camp United Methodist Church in Shallotte.) MS rribute On Sunday at 3:30 p.m. listen for the Moments of Inspiration gospel music program. Weekly Scripture The Scripture for the week comes from Psalms 63:3, "For Jehovah's love and kindness are better to me than life itself. How I praise him thrmioh Christ .Tocnc hie cnnl" Gospel Sing Set Saturday Jennies Branch Baptist Church will host a gospel sing on Saturday, May 7, at 7:30 p.m. Among the groups scheduled to sing are the Sabbath Home Baptist Church Quartet and trumpet soloist, the I^ttie's Grove Trio and the Elaine Pigott and Jojuan Somersett Duet. The public is invited to the praise service. Griffin Cemetery Clean-Up Slated A spring clean-up day will be held Saturday, May 7, at Griffin Cemetery on Mill Branch Road in Ash. Work will begin early, and all those who have friends or relatives buried in the cemetery are asked to bring rakes and lawnmowers and work. "It's very important," said spokesman Doris Gore. You Are Invited To Worship With Us East Sibe Aasemblg NON-DENOMINATIONAL Sunday, 10 AM, 7 PM Wednesday, 7 PM Village Rd., across from Shallotte Dry Cleaners Pastor, Bobby Causey . .liufy mug Ul ,, w, Ml UUUUI^Ul k, r died April 30 in Dosher Memorial Hospital. c A graveside service was held May K 3 in the Old Smithville Burying a Ground, with Rev. Frank Ross and Rabbi Albert A. Gordon officiating. A native of Washington, D.C., King S had lived in Southport since 1950. He ri served as a lieutenant colonel with U.S. Army Intelligence during World h War II, was retired as a broker from C Philip King Associates Realty, and w was a member and past president of C the Brunswick County Board of A Realtors. Survivors include his wife, Mrs. Susan Tate King of the home; a son, Philip King III of Vienna, Va.; two y, daughters, Susan H. King of Kailua, h Hawaii, and Jeanette King Lasley of Charlottesville, Va.; and sue grand- i children. y Memorial contributions may be p made to the Southport Rescue Squad. EVERETT J. SKIPPER JR. 4 Everett J. Skipper Jr., 62, of Wilm- j, ington, died April 29. v The funeral was held May 2 in the y Coble Ward-Smith Chapel, with Dr. w David Goodroe and Pastor A.L. w McGee officiating. Burial was in r Oleander Memorial Garden. C Born in Brunswick County on July 6,1925, he was the son of the late E.J. y and Annie Benton Skipper Sr. and ^ stepson of Viola Mintz Skipper of j, Leland. 0 He was a World War II U.S. Army c veteran and was retired from E.A. Rusher Meat Packing Co. after 48 years of service. He was a member of j Calvary Baptist Church and g American Legion Post No. 10. y In addition to Ids stepmother, survivors include his wife, Mrs. Annie 1 Mae Odom Skipper of the home; a v son, Charles E. Skipper of Wilmington; a daughter, Mrs. Dian G. j Workman of Wilmington; two y brothers, Carl Skipper of Wilmington j and William E. Skipper of Leland; three sisters, Mrs. Vetnia Pridgen of u Wilmington, Mrs. Inez Pope of j Leland and Mrs. Agnes Watson of a Inland; and four grandchildren. i, GARY JEROME SMITH Gary Jerome Smith, 30, of Delco, died April 28. The funeral was held April 30 in Prosper Baptist Church, with Rev. Bob Compton officiating. Burial was in the Prosper Cemetery. Survivors include a daughter, Carrie Lynn Smith of Delco; his father and stepmother, Roland and Shirley Smith of High Point; mother and stepfather, Joseph and Virginia Suggs of Sunset Beach; a brother, Anthony Craig Smith of Sunset Beach; a sister, Sherry Lynn Daniels of Lumberton; and a half-sister, Lee Ann Smith of High Point. CATHERINE BROADWELL SUMMER LIN Catherine Broadwell Summerlin, 64, of Sunset Beach, died April 29. The funeral was held May 2 in the Hall-Wynne Chapel in Durham, with burial in Maplewood Cemetery. Survivors include her husband, James Lester Summerlin; a son, f \ Cabbage Plants (in packs) and Broccoli 75cdoz Red Salvia ?$1.50do< ? Bedding Plants 5 Roses*Azaleas Red Tips 1 LEAH'S NURSERY 2 HWY. 17. JUST NORTH OF ? SHALLOTTE, PHONE 754 6994 Deaths MARGUERITE DAY BIDDLE Marguerite Day Biddle, 63, of t Wilmington, died April 25 in New ( Hanover Memorial Hospital. 1 The funeral was held April 27 in An- I drews Market Street Chapel by Rev. t Horace Jackson and Rev. Thurman 1 Allred, with burial in Oakdale ? Cemetery. c Born in Rock Hill, S.C., on Nov. 3, E 1924, she was the daughter of the late Fred N. and Mary Carver Day. Survivors include her husband, ? Robert A. Biddle of the home; a C daughter, Mrs. Julia Biddle Anderson of Leland; a sister, Mrs. Mary II Woolard of Delco; a brother, Fred N. ? TTT t?7i!? r 1 l/uj aaa ui niuiuiigiuiii ioui granuchildren and one great-grandchild. S a JOHN IE MAC FORD JR. F Johnie Mac Ford Jr., 40, of E Shallotte, died April 29 of injuries s sustained in an automobile accident, v The funeral was to be held 3 p.m. f1 May 4 in Holy Bethel Holiness V Church, with burial ir. the church !' cemetery. v d PHILIP KING JR. a Philin V\r\rt In Of* A ?i ?v?v ?. oU1A.IIU Howell of Miami, Fla.; and four grandchildren. DALE GAFFNEY Dale Gaffney, 64, of Ocean Isle 3each, died April 26 in The Irunswick Hospital. The funeral was held April 28 in imp United Methodist Church, Jhallotte, with Rev. Dr. Stan Smith ind Rev. Dan Norman officiating. Jurial was in Brunswick Memorial hardens. Members of the Shallotte /olunteer Rescue Squad, of which Saffney was a member, served as active and honorary pallbearers. Gaffney was retired from Mitchell !t Becker Steel Co. of Charlotte. Survivors include his wife, Carolyn iV. Gaffney of the home; three sons, "raig Scott Gaffney of Statesville, Patrick Dale Gaffney of Plneville ind Martin Brian Gaffney of Charlotte; two daughters, Cynthia G. Hoback of Charlotte and Kathleen Purvis of Franklin, Tenn.; and nine grandchildren. LYDIA ALICE FENSTERMACHER Lydla Alice Fenstermacher, 70, of foiling Spring Lakes, died April 20 at ler residence. A native of Shamokin, Pa., she had ived here since 1977. She was retired rom Sears, Roebuck Co. after 25 rears of service and was a member >f Southport Presbyterian Church. Survivors include her husband, Oonald J. Fenstermnrhpr nf thfi name; two sons, Donald James Fenstermacher of Dayton, Ohio, and /erl Thomas Fenstermacher of West [Tenton, N.J.; three sisters, Mrs. Dlive Steiner of Shamokin, Pa., Mrs. June Bird of Catawissa, Pa., and 1 Mrs. Minnie Martin of Millsboro, Del.; a brother, Ned Miller of Har-isburg, Pa.; and two grandchildren, Cristen Fenstermacher of Long 3each and Thomas Fenstermacher >f Warminster, Pa. Memorial contributions may be nade to the American Cancer Sociey PAULINE KING Pauline King, 81, of Shallotte, died April 23 at her home. The funeral was held April 27 in Pleasant View Baptist Church by Rev. James Smith, with burial in Mulberry Cemetery. Survivors include a sister, Mrs. Pinks Vaught; and a brother, Rudolph Hill. ID CLINIC te .1? V FRff IIVLL Ear Molds Cleaned Ultrasonically Service Includes: Hearing Tests Hearing Aid Evaluation Repair Estimates (aii models) 1 No obligation. iSiONAL PHARMACY 'e Offer' Blood Pressure Tests lior Citizen's Discount Supply 754-8155 i I