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Schools Workshop On Grief Aimed At Helping Students
BY l)()KI COSGROVK
A three -part workshop for Bruns
wick County school counselors and
school nurses should better equip
litem to help students handle grief.
"This is an area that I think has
been overlooked in our school sys
tem," said Chris Judah, a registered
practicing counselor at Shallotte
Middle School, "but we're all be
coming more aware that this is
something that hits every family."
The first session, led last Friday
at Shallotte Middle by Ms. Judah,
instructed participants in what she
called "an introduction to the stages
Ms. Judah has been a counselor
We have to know
how to talk to them,
what to say
? Chris Judah
at Shallolie Middle for three years,
and has gathered support from the
school system recently to sponsor
this first-time workshop. She point
ed out at the beginning of the semi
nar that many parents of students
have died in ihe past lew years, as
well as an alarming number of stu
"Many of the students at our
schools arc feeling the loss of some
body?a father, a sister, their pet,"
Varnamtown To Replace Stolen Flag
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Varnamtown officials plan 10 re
place ihc North Carolina Hag that
was stolen from the town hall
grounds less than a month after it
was pui up.
The town board voted to buy an
other state Hag ? one suitable for
outdoor display ? at their monthly
"I think it's very sad." Mayor
Judy Galloway said of ihe Oct. 13
theft of ihe (lag and rope.
The stale flag and an American
Hag were raised on the town's new
tlag pole at the Varnamtown Festi
val last month.
The two all-weather flags had
been left up all night and lighted
from the ground.
Town officials said the North
Carolina flag and the rope were tak
en about two weeks ago, but the
American Hag was left behind.
The Holden Beach Board of
Adjustment Monday granted per
mission for the relocation of an ero
sion-threatened house on Hillside
1 he board approved relocation of
the D.H. Pollilt cottage from 206
Hillside to another beachfront lot at
"03 Ocean Blvd. West.
As a condition of the relocation,
the four-bedroom house must be
improved so that it meets state and
town building codes, said board
secretary Joyce Shore.
A hot water heater w ill be moved
upstairs so that it is above the 18
foot flood elevation level. The
house will also get a new roof.
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"Are we taking the American flag
down for Halloween?" Alderman
Ada McDonald asked the board
Monday night. "I think it might be a
good idea to take it down."
No formal decision was made re
garding Old Glory, but the town
board did vole to purchase new locks
for tw o interior doors at town hall.
Town officials also are consider
ing buying an alarm system for
town hall, and agreed to purchase a
vacuum cleaner and two fire extin
The Varnamtown Women's Club
is looking for people who arc inter
ested in helping plan the 1992 tow n
festival or just have comments on
how the festival can be improved.
The group will meet Sunday,
Nov. 3, at 4 p.m. at the town hall,
according to member Marlene
In other business Monday, alder
?Appointed hoard member Luellcn
Norris to represent the town at the
grand opening of the new Supply
Post Office. Mrs. Norris will help
Postmaster Nomian Rachels plan an
open house and dedication ceremo
ny, which is tentatively scheduled
for the second week in November.
?Heard from Mrs. McDonald that
the town's house numbering project
is finished. Residents who still don't
know their numbers can call Mrs.
McDonald, Mayor Galloway or
Town Clerk Paul Vcalcy.
?Voted to release S83.32 to the
Cape Fear Council of Governments.
The money would have gone into
the state's general fund if the town
hadn't released it. The council helps
towns with planning and zoning
matters and other issues.
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Ms. Judah explained. "Grief can be
fell by the loss of a parent through
divorce: losing a friend by moving
to a new town."
However, her focus in the work
shop is on death and the sense of
loss students can bottle up inside.
She said that many students don't
express their grief simply because
not many other people are willing to
talk about it.
Ms. Judah urged counselors to
feel free to talk about death and
learn more about the feeling it caus
es. "This is a subject that the less
you know about it, the more uncom
fortable you are with it," she said.
"We have to know how to talk to
them, what to say. These kids won't
ask for help and we can't count on
every family to be handling it. The
family is grieving, too, so how can
they rccogni/.c what's happening?"
The next two sessions of the
workshop, coming up in November,
will be led by Jean Pelletier of the
Brunswick County office of Lower
Cape Fear Hospice.
Ms. Judah said she is considering
opening up future workshops to
teachers and possibly parents, but
that she would have to wait and see
what kind of response she gets. She
invites interested teachers to call her
at Shallotte Middle School at 754
She also has organi/.cd a local
branch of Compassionate Friends, a
national non-profit group, for
Brunswick County parents who
have lost a child to death. She wel
comes parents to call co-organizer
Pat Hewett, at 754-8838 for more
Hospice also counsels and assists
victims of terminal illness and their
families and can be reached at 754
'There just aren't a whole lot of
places to go in this area for grief
counseling," Ms. Judah said, "but
I'm hoping that can change."
Recently an area funeral service
presented the county school board
22 videotapes, two for cach of the
county's 1 1 schools, for use in grief
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