We need loving
relationships
Listen to Leo as he contin
ues about loving each other.
He says in years past, there
was so much more stability,
so much less moving about.
We found possible
relationships in church,
school at the playground,
which remained constant year
after year. They formed the
permanent network of con
tracts from which we received
our security and strength.
Even our daily shopping once
afforded us opportunities for
relating. We had no one-stop
super-efficient sterile markets,
but. today everything has
changed.
Today 40 million people a
year change residence in the
United States. They move into
impersonal cities where people
pride themselves in having
achieved privacy in that they
don’t even know their neigh
bor. They are fearful that oth
ers may invade their world
and at the same time, hope
that some of them will.
We don’t dare to stroll our
forbidding side walks. Security
today has come to mean elab
orate alarm systems, armed
guards and high-rise housing
where we can enter and leave
in an elevator which delivers
us directlyinto our living
room, assuring us of not one
good or bad human encoun
ter.
Loving relationships,
though necessary for life,
health and growth, are among
the most complicated skills.
Before we can be successful at
achieving relationships, it is
necessary that we broaden
our understanding of how
they work, what they mean
and how what we do and be
lieve can enhance or destroy
mem.
Many marriages fall be
cause Its members are often
without preparation for the
partnership function. A lot of
remorse and failure could
have been avoided if there had
been at least some early train
ing and how to become good
partners. Luciano De Cres
cengo says, “We are, each of
us angels with only one wing.
And we can only fly embracing
each other.”
According to Leo, if you
love, you are considered naive.
If happy you are considered
frivalous and simple. If gener
ous and altruistic, you are
considered suspect. If for
giving, you are considered
weak. If trusting, you are con
sidered a fool, n you try to be
all of these things, people are
sure you are a phony. What a
sad decision.
If we don’t have the inborn
knowledge of knowing how to
love, we end by living together
in hate like two children fight
ing over a toy. We live in fear
and loneliness, and continu
ing to hurt each other in igno
rance. The poet, W.H. Auden
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Marian Frierson
Local Columnist
said, “We must love one an
other or dlel”
So, Leo asked and I con
cur, Isn’t It time that we forget
our petty egoes, give up our
fears of appearing sentimental
or naive and come together In
our universal need, one for the
other. He asked why is it so
difficult for us to embrace
each other fearlessly and with
passion and to say, “Human
being, take my human hand?"
We all need each other.
My comment is that if we
don’t learn to live together we
will all die most miserably.
What is your choice? Why be
miserable when we can be
happy? Despite all of the
odds, life can be beautiful.
Let’s give it a try! “These
things 1 command you, that ye
love one another." John 15:17
Congratulations to Mrs. La
Bertha Blanchard who re
cently observed her nlnety
Blanchard, you would not be
lieve that is her correct age.
She is yet agile, very alert, in
teresting to converse with,
knows how to coordinate her
colors when she dresses. She
is an avid reader, not only
does she do her own house
Work, but, is a caregiver to her
daughter who Is disabled be
cause of arthritis. Hats off to
Mrs. Blanchard and more
power to her. She is such an
inspiration to those of us who
birthday. To see Mrs.
are much younger-yet feel old.
Many memories were awo
ken just recently when I saw
the daughters of Lemuel and
Luvenia Felton who once lived
in the swamp as it was called.
It was a long ways back from
the road. Later, the family
moved to what is called
Swamp Road in Mrs. Felton’s
family home. The house was
rented for a while as the par
ents were deceased and the
three daughters were in differ
ent areas, more recently, the
house was renovated and is
available for family members
to occupy when in the area.
Two of the daughers, Sally
and Ahrerta, spent time there
recently. Sally now lives in
Elizabeth City, Alverta lives in
West Virginia and Janie lives
in Columbia. The two brothers
Presco and Thomas are de
ceased.
I just wanted to share
that, at times we wonder what
became of certain people and
when we see them again, it’s
like getting reacquainted. It
kinda helps to make you fed
better to know that some of
those we knew earlier in life
are still with us.
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The right to strike and ’
the new economic reality
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Plenty of fireworks are sure
to go off when Congress opens
debates on a very contentious
labor Issue: Should U.S.
companies to prohibited from
hiring permanent replacement
workers if their current workers
go on strike? Management says
that the crippling effect of
strikes might destroy a company
and that it needs those
replacements Just to stay afloat
Unions counter that their
biggest gun, the strike, is
neutralized when companies are
allowed to hire “scabs.”
Many In the right-to-work
south, as elsewhere, have little
sympathy for union workers.
They think they’re whiny, over
paid, underworked, lazy, and
demanding and greedy. Marty
blame unions for the country’s
decline amongst nations in
heavy Industries and especially,
until recently, the auto industry.
Unfortunately, economic realities
are more complicated than that
All Over
the Map
forty Key
The hearings will generate
lots of heat and with any hick
some illumination. We may not
like what we see. Ugly truths will
have to faced up to. An ugly
truth: In though economic times,
striking looks stupid. TO a
person with no Job, a person who
strikes to get an even better deal
looks stupid. There are
thousands of unemployed who*d
jump at the' chance to make the
money and partake of the
benefits that strikers turn their
noses up at. So there’ll probably
be no grounds-well of support,
no phones lighting up In
Congressional offices with callers
demanding representatives take
the unions side, except for that
from union members and their
famines. , '
Incidents of violence dining
strikes turn people from a
union's cause. Hostile
confrontations at picket lines,
threatening phone calls, bullets
fired Into homes and cars, all are
guaranteed to alienate potential
supporters.
Labor relations In the U.S.
are evolving. Worker ownership,
stock options, management and
workers performing as a team
rattier than opposing armies,
these are the waves of the future.
But as in any evolutionary
process, the successors must
watch and wait as the primitives
that came before them fight the.
good fight, than surpass them. ■
On the lighter side
First things first Here are
the answers to last week's teaser
"Body Parts."
1. nose: 2. toes; 3. heart; 4.
chin: and 5: eyes.
This week’s offering IH title
"Overlap." Each line has two
words separated by two blanks.
Your job? To fill in the blanks
with a familiar name or phrase
that links all the words or names
together. For example. “Cut.
hose” might he "Cut - flower -
garden-hose.” Now you try it
Good luck!
• Princess —---——
-Perot
• Elijah-—
— Baba ,
• Baby
Computers
• Fast-1—
Cub
• Moon-—
— Arizona
• Pearl
Kissinger
• Michael-—
-Phoenix
•
Boy-——
—Ford
• Plymouth —-—— —
--River
• Rodney -
-— Lotterman
Birds...Wesley Nelson has a thousand
martins in his Front Street back yard.
Signs of the times
You keep sending them, so I
keep getting a chuckle from them
until I have enough to pass them
along to everyone else. Here are
the latest public declarations
found on signs that make you
stop and think because
somebody else either foiled to. or
thought quite wen, on purpose:
On a neighbor’s refrigerator:
“housework done property will
kill you."
Over a ban “Old drunks
never die. They Just get Jigger
Montis.*
Complaint department: "We
will accept no whine before its
time."
Sign in allergist’s office:
“Sneezin’s Greetings."
Sing in a full-service gas
station: “Gas. oil. flats fixed,
bumper stickers explained."
From the Omaha World- «
Herald newspaper “Man's Knit
Shirt An ideal shirt far the active
man with extra long tall."
Sign in grocery store window
In Cafifomia: “Come tomorrow
morning for our special sale on
apples. Remember, the early bird
gets the worm!”
In a beautician's office:
“Sure...I work magic with
haircuts and style, and I do try
to see that you leave with a
smile. But don't ask to look like
Dolly or Cher, 'cause you have to
remember when you’re in my
chair, rm a beautician, not a
magician."
Sign on a home/office that
said. ^Veterinarian and
Taxidermist.” Underneath, in
“Either way. you get your pet
bade.”
On a pickup truck: “If you
cant run with the big dawg...stay
under the porch.”
Gail
Winds
Gail Roberson
Syndicated Columnis
The name-sign on a boat
belonging to a banker: “Float
Alone.''
Another name-sign on a
boat: “Paid IV."
In a butcher shop: “Honest
scale. No two weighs about it"
Outside a real estate office:
“For Land’s sake, drop In.”
On fish box express office: “If
not delivered in 10 days, never
mind."
Upholstery truck: “On the
road to recovery.”
From Portland, Oregon, a
newspaper account of a July 4th
celebration: “The crowning event
will be the drowning of the
queen.
A friend’s sweat shirt: “I quit
jogging because it was bad for
myhealth...my thighs rubbed
together so much my underwear
caught on fire.”
A sign every country store
ought to post beside the big
stove: “Sitting Bull.”
And. finally this reaction: A
large sign on a department store
counter read: “Register here for
a free door prize.” As one person
was filling out a card in the hope
of winning a major appliance, a
woman came up beside him and
glanced at the sign. Reaching for
a card and pencil, she said, ?I
Suess I’ll sign up, but I sure
on't know what 111 do with
another door.”
Coaches proud of 13-year-old State Games team
Dear Editor.
We are very proud of the 13
year-old baseball team we took
to the N.C. State Games last
week. They played good ball,
displayed good team spirit and
made us proud to say we are
from Perquimans.
The members of our team
were the best 13-year-olds from
our Babe Ruth program and five
promising 12-year-olds from die
Perquimans Youth League. With
only six practices together over
a 9-day period, tills group of
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young athletes, determined to do
well, quickly gelled into a
competitive team.
Not only did our team make
us proud, we were extremely
pleased with die support of our
narents. Georgia Stalliniss,
Debbie Stallings. Helen Hunter,
and Anthony and Jonthan
Downing stayed an week. They
cheered us on, and Georgia,
Debbie and Helen, along with
Candy Eley, were a tremendous
help washing uniforms. Not only
did our team play well, they
looked good too! Also, a great
majority of the parents of our
team made it to at least one
game. Having a cheering section
really felt good, especially so far
away from home.
We appreciate all the people
who bought raffle tickets and
those Individuals and businesses
who contributed money. We
without you. *
Again, our thanks to our
players, parents and the
community for allowing us to
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compete in the State Games. It
was an experience none of us will
ever forget
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Sincerely.
CaJ. Stallings
Lee Stallings
Hertford
(Editor's Note: Statistics and team
photographs from the State
Games competition w/n be
published next week.)
PERQUIMANS COUNTY
PUBLIC NOTICE
Except for the Sheriff’s Deprtment, Dispatch Of
fice and Emergency Medical Services, ail
County Offices in the Perquimans County Court
house, Courthouse Annex, Social Services, Agri
cultural Extension Service, Perquimans County
Library ancf the Perquimans County Recreation
Department will be closed on Monday, July 5,
1993 in observance of independence Day. The
Water Department will be closed but emergen
cies may be reported to the Dispatch Office by
calling 426-5751.
The Board of Commissioners meeting sched
uled for Monday, July 5th has been changed to
Tuesday, July 6,1993 at 3:00 p.m. ■
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N. Paul Gregory Jr.
County Manger
NOTICE OF FILING FOR
NON-PARTISAN ELECTION
' TOWN OF HERTFORD £
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The Perquimans County Board of Elections will
conduct a Non-Partisan Municipal Election for
the Town of Hertford, November 2, 1993. Hert
ford will elect two (2) Town Council person at
that time. The filing for candidates begins at
12:00 noon, July 2nd and ends at noon Au
gust 6, 1993. Voter registration deadline for
town residents who will vote in this, election
Is October 11. 1993. Persons already registered
do not have to re-register.
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PERQUIMANS COUNTY BOARD OF ELECTIONS
Mon,. Wed., Fri., 8:30-12:30 p.m. s, f&tsf
Phone 426-5598 ^ '
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