SELF-MADE MAN'S SON
A SOCIAL MISFIT!
By Jan Chris tensen
Raleigh ? A successful, self
made man may find be has a
son who is beligerent, too pas
sive or a social misfit. Why?
According to Leo F. Hawkins,
extension family relations spe
cialist, North Carolina State
University, "M any self-made
men never allow themselves to
become deeply involved with
anyone. They create a world in
which only accomplishments
are important They imagine
themselves as nearly Infallible
and cannot tolerate criticism."
In such a situation the son
has three emotional choices. He
can become dogmatic like his
father, he can become passive
and submissive like his mother
or he can remain emotionally
like a rebellious child and be
come a social misfit.
What this boy needed was a
family environment of warmth
and adult intimacy. He needed
parents, especially a father, who
would discuss with him the
many conflicting values being
taught to him. He should have
felt free to disagree with his
parents in social, political and
moral causes without having
them withdraw acceptance and
love.
"Young people must critically
examine the values of their par
THE VETERAN'S CORNER
(Editor's Note: Below are
authoritative answers by the
Veterans Administration to some
of the many current questions
from former servicemen and
their families. Further informa
tion on veterans benefits may be
obtained at any VA office.)
Q ? I am rated 80 per cent
disabled from a service con
nected disability. Since I am
unable to work because of this
disability, am I not entitled to
a 100 per cent disability rating?
A ? If your service connected
disability causes you to be un
employable you may be entitled
to a 100 per cent disability rating
from the Veterans Administra
tion. Contact the VA regional
office where your records are on
file for information as to the
evidence needed to support your
Q ? I am the widow of a
World War II veteran currently
receiving a widow's pension
from the Veterans Administra
tion. How may I be considered
for an aid and attendance allow
ance now provided for widows?
A ? You should have your
private phydician submit a
statement to the VA giving a
complete account of your physi
cal condition at present If you
are a patient in a nursing home
you can qualify under the law
without a medical statement A
statement from the nursing
home showing that you are a
patient will usually be sufficient
Generally, widows are eligible
for an extra $50 a month aid and
attendance allowance in addition
to their pension if they are un
able to care for themselves.
ETHEL'S
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MOcnBI
ents before they can know what
they believe and what they
want out of life," Hawkins
notes.
If parents do not afford this
opportunity for critical exami
nation of their values through
intimate and intense discussion,
then young people are likely to
become indifferent to the values
of society and unwilling to com
mit themselves to deep human
relationships.
To fill life's emptiness, these
young people may turn to pseu
do adult sexual encounters or
to teenage marriages that are
not deep human relationships.
Others may become temporary
social misfits. Such actions are
searching experiments by young
people who are deprived of
strong and meaningful relation
ships with parents, especially
with fathers.
What fathers naturally feel
for sons is compassion, Hawkins
observes. This compassion is
related to the basic human de
sire for self-preservation and is
therefore solid and enduring.
However, too often this natu
ral compassion is submerged
and hidden in adult work and
the absent father. "Therefore,"
Hawkins believes, "a man must
find better ways to share this
thinking and feeling with his
sons."
DISTAFF DEEDS
By Janice R. Chrtstensen
(News items this week from
Camden, Gaston, Martin and
Alamance counties.)
UNDER CERTAIN
CONDITIONS
Maralyn Gagnon, a 4-H Club"
member in Camden County, is
a girl who can think fast, Mrs.
Mamie C. Sawyer, Extension
home economics agent, relates.
She was giving a demonstra
tion of how to splint a broken
leg when the leg accidentally
came off the mannequin she was
using.
So Maralyn just put the de
tached leg between two padded
boards and tied them in place
with bands of cloth.
One very earnest onlooker ex
claimed, "Do you always take
the leg off to do that?"
"Only under certain condi
tions," Maralyn said, and con
tinued with her demonstration.
DECENT BISCUITS
Extension agents in Gaston
County have been working
closely with low-income fami
lies .vho receive surplus foods,
Doris B. Fearrington, assistant
home economics Extension agent
relates.
Through classes arranged be
tween agents and welfare
groups, the recipients can ac
tually do some "first hand"
cooking.
One lady, before a class
started, indicated that "not even
the dogs would eat her biscuits".
After she learned the correct
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and the right mixing methods to
use, this same woman was de
lighted with the result: light,
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She rushed home to prepare
her family "decent biscuits for
a change."
CANCER CHECKUPS
Members of Extension Home
makers Clubs, Martin County,
are getting "free" cancer check
ups at the Rocky Mount Health
Center, Mrs. Helen L. Hoskins,
home economics Extension ag
ent, says.
Encouraged by the health
leaders in their local clubs, 200
women have already had check
ups, the agent relates. Five
have been advised to see their
physician for further testing or
treatment.
CLASSES FOR MENTALLY
RETARDED CHILDREN
There are not many empty
juice cans, spools or egg cartons
to be found in Alamance County
garbage cans these days, Mrs.
Rachel K. Kinlaw, home eco
nomics Extension agent, says.
These items are being used in
a craft workshop for mentally
retarded children.
Taught by Mrs. W. C. Greg
ory, Burlington, the classes will
last three weeks.
Mrs. Gregory uses the egg
cartons to make mod flowers.
She paints them bright colors
and uses pipe cleaners as stems
and ball fringe as centers.
After the juice cans are cov
ered with burlap they can be
used as flower containers or
pencil holders.
Spools can be painted or
dyed, decorated with Indian de
signs, and strung together with
straws for "Indian beads".
Mrs. Gregory says working
with the children has been
most rewarding. "They are
learning so much and are so
happy with their accomplish
ments," she adds.
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