DEAR SALLY
BY SALLY SHAW
DEAR SALLY: After five years
of marriage during which I had
to beg my husband for every
extra dime, quarter, and dollar
I happened to need for household
and personal expenses, I finally
began to help myself from his
billfold at night while he was
asleep, and during the past two
years he hasn’t missed the
money at all and my little private
bank account has mounted nice
ly. I happen to be a woman of
high principles, but despite this
I am still free of any pangs of
conscience. There’s also a feel
ing ‘of satisfaction over the fact'
that my penny-pinching husband
hasn’t managed to save any
money at all these past two
years, while I have a healthy
amount saved up. What have you
to sav about this? WISCONSIN.
DEAR WISCONSIN: Despite
your bit of rationalization, what
you’re doing is wrong. Admit
tedly, a wife should never be
forced to beg for spending money
she is ENTITLED to it but
still and all she should not be
filching it. That healthy Jrank
account you so proudly inform
me of is proof that you are de
riving more satisfaction from
deceiving your husband tnan
from the money itself. If you
really needed the money, you’d
be spending it, not saving it.
DEAR SALLY: What is wrong
with being frank and open and
truthful? My brother-in-law
asked me for my opinion of the
girl he has been dating, and I
told him I thought she was a
loud-mouthed, vulgar, ill-bred
person and if he were to marry
her, it would be the most tragic
mistake in his life. Instead of
thanking me, he gave me a dirty
look and told me he would re
lieve me of any chance to suffer
by omitting me from the guest
list at his wedding. Now my
husband is really angry at me
for what he calls my lack of
diplomacy and tact, and says
we’ll be completely ostracized
so far as any future invitations
to his brother’s home. Again I
ask you, what is wrong with being
honest as I was? OPEN BOOK.
DEAR OPEN: There’s a great
big difference between being
honest and brutal. The next time
you’re asked such a question
about another person, instead
of chopping him to pieces, say
something pleasant. This is
known as being kind. And every
person, believe it or not, does
have something good in his
makeup.
DEAR SALLY: I am the father
of TWO brides who will be seal
ing their vows in a double-wed
ding ceremony, and right now
we’re in a quandary as to just
how these two girls should be
escorted down the aisle and how
I fulfill the rite of giving them
away. DOUBLE DUTY.
DEAR DOUBLE: There are
two ways of handling the escort
bit. You may escort youi older
daughter, followed by your sec
ond daughter escorted by anoth
er male relative--an uncle, a
brother, a cousin, or even a
close male friend of the family.
Or, you may escort first one
daughter down the aisle, then re
turn for the other daughter . . .
then remaining to respond to
the minister’s questions in the
rite of giving them away.
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cooled.
tions with strange men put a
cheap price tag on themselves.
Find new girl friends whose
ideas and principles are more
like the ones you grew up with.
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Corner
EDITOR’S NOTE: Below are
some of the many current ques
tions from former servicemen
and their families. Further in
formation on veterans benefits
may be obtained at any VA office
or your local service organiza
tion representative.
Q--I plan to attend college un
der the GI Bill, and understand
that I must submit, at intervals,
a certificate of attendance card.
Is this true?
A--Yes, veterans attending
college under the GI Bill are re
quired to return a certification
card to the VA during the last
month of each enrollment
period. Students studying under
the GI Bill below the college
level must submit a certificate
of attendance card every month.
Q--I have read that some
national cemeteries are filling
up, and will soon close. Will VA
pay an additional allowance to
ward purchasing a plot in a pri
vate cemetery?
A-There is noprovisionfor VA
to pay anything upon the death of
a veteran except a statutory $250
burial allowance, unlesshecar
ries insurance administered by
the VA. Also, the Army, not VA,
is in charge of the National
Cemetery System.
Q —Will the increased Social
Security benefits caus§ me to
have to pay back money to the VA
if I go over the imeome limita
tion?
A--No. Your VA pension will
be continued through the end of
1971. On receipt of your annual
income questionnaire at th4 end
of the year, your pension will be
adjusted as appropriate.
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New President
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DURHAM - James W. Hill,
administrator, Durham Busi
ness College, Durham, was
elected president of the North
Carolina Association of Busi
ness Colleges at the Annual
Convention held in Raleigh, on
May 7-8.
He is the first Black presi
dent of the statewide associa
tion. During the past year, Hill
has served as acting president
of the North Carolina Associa
tion of Business Colleges. He
is a graduate of A&T State Uni
versity, Greensboro, and has
completed graduate work at
North Carolina Central Uni
versity, University of Tennes
see, and University of North
Carolina at Chapel Hill.
His wife is the former Beulah
Rowland of Durham, and they
are the parents of three child
ren.
Hill is very active in many
civic and professional organi
zations throughout the com
munity.
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'Sesame Street’ Is Household Word
NEW YORK, N, Y. - The real
ization that the widely-heralded
television series, “Sesame
Street’’, is proving itself as one
of the most advanced steps ever
taken in the country for the
pre-school education of young
sters has spurred its creators
on to making sure that.it be
comes a household word.
The Children’s Television
Worshop, which created the
program, In the past year setup
the Field Service Coordinators
whose job is to plant the seed
of learning in every nook and
corner of the United States,
Working in a dozen cities in
cluding New York, Chicago, De
troit and Oakland, coordinators
search for children and their
parents in underprivileged
area to make sure they acquire
the Sesame Street viewing habit.
Mrs. Joan Ganz Cooney, CTW
president, regards the field ef
forts to reach children who need
an early education the most, as
second in importance only to the
actual production of the tele
vision series that is seen in all
of the 50 states and many fo
reign countries,
“These children,” she said,
“are the major target of our
show and it is only w'hen we
THE CAROLINIAN
RALEIGH N. C.. SATURDAY, MAY 22. 1971
reach and teach them that we
consider Sesame Street a com
plete success.’’
The work of the field coordi
nators involves them in en
couraging minority and poor
parents as well as teachers, day
care and Head Start staffers not
only to watch Sesame Street with
their children, but to conduct
various kinds of follow-up edu
cational activities after the pro
gram.
Reinforce Show’s Lessons
Using a pre-packaged pro
gram approach, according to
Mrs. Evelyn P. Davis, CTW
vice president for community
relations, they use the person
to person contact, workshops
and written materials.
To assure the success of the
program the Field Service C
ordinators work closely with
neighborhood groups and out
communitv organizations to set
up viewing centers in the inner
city neighborhoods where there
are large numbers of poor fam
ilies. Almost 10,000 pre-school
children have been reached us
ing this approach. For exam
ple:
--In Detroit, the CTW coordi
nator, Richard Smith, works
with the Highland Park Model
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Cities program. Using portable
buildings at the schools, he has
established a viewing center for
preschoolers with parents run
ning the project.
—Storefronts, public housing
projects and community facili
ties have lieen utilized In New
York City. Last summer teen
agers conducted a program in
the city’s five boroughs.
--Working with social service
aides and community organiz
ers, the National Council of
Negro Women and the Mayor
of Jackson, Miss., extended the
viewing of Sesame Street by
setting up centers in various
areas of the city. v
--Community conscious peo
ple, the Field Service Coordi
nators are selected on the
basis of their relationship with
the inner-city and its myriad
problems. They come from
various backgrounds, Peace
Corps volunteers, VISTA volun
teers, teachers, social workers
and community organizers.
Charlie Smith, newly appoint
ed national director of Field.
Services, says ‘‘grass roots
activity is their specialty.”
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