MRS. BEATRICE MAYE S
This Week in
GREENVILLE
WHY GOOD PARENTS HAVE BAD
KIDS... CONTINUED
Our care of the child from birth to
six years provides the emotional
foundation that will affect his
behavior throughout his life. If we
turn up our noses and call his body
waste dirty while we are potty train
ing, the chances are pretty good the
child will feel he is dirty.
It is during this period that children
can learn to appreciate books and
perceive learning as an adventure.
They do not need to be pushed into
reading, or counting, but if we read to
them with enthusiasm, and talk to
them with a healthy respect for their
intellect, they will live up to their in
tellectual capacity.
Teach affection by being affec
tionate with our spouses, the child's
siblings, and the child. Affection and
nurture are taught by exemplary ex
amples, but it is an essential part of
the learning process. Anger and hate
can be taught just as effectively if we
are not careful.
The day they walk into
kindergarten class they will know
how to hold grudges, hate and fear,
if that was what they were exposed
to at home. Children learn about sex
and their bodies from us. If we turn
our noses up and look disgusted at the
question about the penis or vagina,
they understand immediately how we
feel. By then whatever words we
choose are virtually meaningless.
They will ask questions and be
curious. For the better part of two
years we cover their bodies with
diapers, and when finally they have a
chance to explore and discover these
strange organs, they will be
fascinated and exciting.
Ask yourself—What do I want my
children to know before they leave
home? Educational needs and
physical/medical/dental needs, sure
ly. Children muist be taught through
, social interaction that they are a part
of a larger community is their
responsibility. They learn how to be
sociable by watching their parents
socialize. Our children are imitators.
The chances are good that they will
associate with the same type of peo
ple we associate with. Become an ac
tive part of the community in which
you live. Children learn from what
they see, not what they hear. If they
see a parent who can only relax with
a drink in his or her hand, what doe
it say? Parents need to analyze
their own consumption habits. As a
society, we need to think about the ex
ample we set, and the images we
create.
Parents who provide a nurturing,
structured environment and com
municate with their child have the
best chance of dealing with substance
abuse. Husbands and wives who do
not love each other produce disturbed
kids. When affection, respect and
love are present in a marriage, the
children are secure and happy with
each other. Children who feel secure
seldom commit crimes or need to
abuse others to meet their needs. We
all need a time and place to vent our
wrath, but the best place is not in
front of the kids. There's a big dif
ference between an argument and a
fight. Your compatibility is their
security.
Children thrive in homes where
their mothers and fathers love one
another. Children are destroyed in
homes where the only bond is a
mutual hate and distrust. If your hose
is broke, fix it.
Raising children is a high-risk
business. There are no guarantees,
and the best of parents will have pro
blems, but the successful ones learn
how to confront them. The others will
continue to avoid their respon
sibilities. It is difficult for children to
grow up when their parents are too
preoccupied to parent. Parents who
are preoccupied with their jobs,
themselves, or their problems arc not
available to their children. You can
work and also be a good parent. If
family and home take a back seat in
every situation, no book or profes
sional can help you out.
Stay with your kids and rsolve the
issues. Why be a parent? We have
babies and raise children because
there’s nothing on this earth that can
match the excitement or joy of
creating and caring for a child. There
are moments when you see your
child's first smile, or first step, or
graduation ceremony, and a lump
sticks in your throat, and your heart
expands until you feel it will explode.
They do not give Nobel prizes for
parenting, but if it’s done right, they
should.
TIPS ON GETTING THINGS
DONE THROUGH OTHERS
1. Get the people in your company
motivated to do things.
2. Get to know your people and
determine what motivates them.
Money is important, but you'd be sur
prised at the importance employees
assign to recognition.
3. Give feedback constructively
and in private.
4. Be a good listener.
5. Be considerate.
6. Delegate responsibility and
authority for details to subordinates.
7. Give credit where credit is due.
8. Avoid domination. You don't
have to be tough to get respect.
9. Show interest in and appreciate
people.
10. Make your wishes known by sug
gestions or requests.
11. When you make a request or a
suggestion, be sure to tell the reason
for it.
12. Never forget that you set the
style for your company.
13. Let your assistants be in on your
planning, even in early stages. Ask
for opinions.
14. Play up the positive..
15. Be consistent.
16. Help your people set goals, a
sense of direction and something to
achieve.
17. Keep your people informed on
matters affecting them.
18. When you're wrong or make a
mistake, admit it.
These guidelines aren’t a substitute
for a course in management but, if
rigidly adhered to, they'll make you a
better boss and your shop a better
place to work.
Emma Quinn, director. Small
Business Center, Central Piedmont
Community College.
MANAGING TIME
The purpose of managing time is to
enable us to get the most out of the
time we spend—working smarter, not
harder. With time management as
the keystone to success, a number of
related strategies also will help you in
the workplace.
1. Get organized. Once organized,
establish priorities and begin making
lists.
2. Delegate. A leader who is unable
to delegate is a prime candidate for
burnout. Delegating is a means to
teach and mentor. The obvious
benefit is free time to pursue other
matters needing attention.
3. Be a decision-maker. Take con
trol of a situation and act on it.
4. Take risks. Trust your instincts
and your ability to cultivate
knowledge into smart decisions.
5. Use humor. Laugh a lit
tle—Humor can improve job perfor
mance and is a sign of acceptance
and team playing.
6. Exercise. Pay close attention to
your health and listen to your body.
7. Look good. Your appearance is a
form of self-expression, influencing
not only how others see you but how
you see yourself.
8. Build self-esteem. Our efficiency
depends largely on our sense of self
worth.
8. Be interested. If you worry that
you don't have enough to say. you
may not be interested in enough
things.
10. Continue education. You don't
have to live near a university or city
college to take classes. Many institu
tions offer extension courses in local
high schools and community centers
LINCOLNVILLE AME CHURCH
AND COMMUNITY NEWS
BY ANNIE PERRY
ASBURY-Church School began at
9*45 a.m. with the superintendent,
Alton Hooker, in charge. The opening
selection weaa “What a Friend We
Have in Jesus.” The Apostles’ Creed
was recited by the school. Prayer was
offered by Melvin Hooker. The sub
ject of the lesson was “The Victorious
Christ,” Revelation 1S:U-16. The
lesson was reviewed by Ms. Nellie
Penney. Acting secretary was Melvin
Hooker. Superintendent is Alton
Hooker. Pastor is Rev. Allen D. Ter
rell. ■’ v':;
Morning worship began at 11 *.m.
with the pastor, Rev. Allen D. Terrell,
presiding and the local elders
m -—-*—■ fur
by
to worship were
given by Rev. Terrui. The opening
hymn wee "Guide Me, O Thou Great
Jehovah.” Morning prayer was of
fered by Rev. Collins Ridley. After
the selection, “Jesus Keep Me Near
the Cross,” the responsive scripture
reading and Decalogue were given by
Rev. Terrell. Announcements and
recognition of visitors were given by
Ms. Carolyn Rogers.
After the selection, “When It Rains,
It Pours,” the mission and general of
ferings were lifted by Willie Shaw.
The offertory sentence was "All
Things come of Thee, 0 Lord." After
the selectdion, “Let the Blood of My
Savior Run Down On Me." remarks
came from the pastor’s notebook.
Children's altar call and Bible verses
were next. The adult alter prayer was
led by Rev. Terrell.
The sermonlc hymn was “In That
Great Getting Up Morning Fare You
Well." The meeaage was delivered by
\
the pastor. He took his message from ‘
Matthew 4:11 on the subject, “The
Word of God is Our Weapon.” The
Lord’s Prayer was chanted. The in
vitation to Christian discipleship was
extended. Invitational hymn was
“Get Right with God and Do It Now.”
The Apostles’ Creed was recited.
After the benediction, all were asked
to be seated for a moment of silent
prayer to thank God for all of His
goodness.
ANNOUNCEMENTS '
Church School is supposed to begin
at 9:30 a.m. Please try to get there as
early as you can.
Our pastoral days are every Sun
day at 11 a.m.
Hour of Power praise service is
held every Sunday at 6:30 p.m.
Bible study is held every Wednes
day at 7 p.m.
The Gospel Choir thanks everyone
who came out and helped make their
anniversary a success. If at any time
you need the Gospel Choir, just let
them know.
All auxiliaries are requested to give
your announcements to Ms. Bessie
Ridley a week ahead to be printed in
the bulletin for next Sunday.
Happy Thanksgiving to everyone.
Please be careful as you drive. The
life you save may be your own.
Happy belated birthday to Ms.
Margaret Blackwell, Nov. 20; James
Hicks, Nov. 23; Reggie Perry, Nov.
23, son of James Perry, Sr., and Rev.
Sarah Perry. We trust that all of you
had happy birthdays. We pray that
God will bless you with many more
birthdays to come.
In memory of James Bronson, Sr.,
who died Nov. 24, 1976. He was the
brother of Ms. Mary Evans.
In memory of Ms. Lula Peterkin,
who died Nov. 3, 1983. She was the
sister of Rev. Mary Locklear.
In memory of Joseph Reeds, who
died Nov. 18, 1988. He was the hus
band of Ms. Louis Reeds.
In memory of Zed Walker, Sr., who
died Nov. 22,1988. He was the father
of the Walker Sisters.
I know they all are missed. I know
they’ll never be forgotten, but they
are gone to take their rest. I know
they all were loved, but remember,
God loved them best.
Our sick and shut-in is Willie White.
Let us pray for others also. J.
Williams, a dear friend, Grover
Wilcox, Rigal Eason. Let us pray for
the senior citizens all over. Please
let’s keep on praying for one another.
That little talk with Jesus sure makes
it right. Prayer is the key to the
kingdom and faith unlocks the door.
Prayer changes things.
Smithfiel
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BY LILLIE M. LEE
SMITHFIELD—A family once had
12 children, This meant the older ones
had to look after the little ones. One
morning a small one was to the
breakfast table rather early. The
father asked him how it was he was
up so early and fully dressed. The lit
tle one replied, “No one undressed
me for bed last night.’’
Recently, folks at the Lee’s Chapel
celebrated their annual homecoming
services.
Last Saturday morning, AME mis
sionaries celebrated their annual pro
gram at St. Mark AME Church, head
ed by the Rev. E.G. Dunn, pastor of
Union Hill AME Church.
Are you dally saying thanksgiving
prayers and thanking Goid for the
many blessings He has given you?
What are you doing and how thankful
are you? We are very grateful to God
for a great change in our society.
Many blacks are filling seats for the
first time, but can you believe that
Virginia has elected a black gover
nor? History is being made all over
the world, through sweat, toil, tears
and many prayers the blacks will
overcome. You just keep on praying.
Ms. Colette Durant and many fami
ly members made a trip to
Orangeburg, S.C.
Our sick are George Whitley,
Albert Gray, Mr. and Mrs. Charles
Kennedy and Millie Tomlinson.
Clinton
BY A.M. JOHNSON
THE BUSINESS OF THE DAY
It’a Just the way we carry through
The business of the day
That makes the molds of character—
The things we do and say,
The way we act when we are vexed;
The attitude we take;
The sort of pleasure we enjoy ;
The kind of friends we make.
It’s not the big events alone
That make us what we are;
And not the dizzy momenta when
We’re swinging on a star;
It's Just the things that happen
Along the road we plod;
The little things determine what
We’re really worth to God.
CLINTON—M*. Sadie HU1 of New
York spent last week here on
business. She has returned back
home now.
Ms. Sarah Burnett Is a patient at
Sampson Memorial Hospital. She
would welcome some calls or visits.
Ms. Bottle Tatum was hostess for
the Women's Guild Club last Thurs
day at Captain Willis Kestaurant. The
fellowship and food were enjoyable.
The next meeting will be in January
and Ms. Lassie Underwood will be the
hostess.
James A. Ezzell, Sr., is now back on
his merry Journey after being under
the weather for a few days.
First Baptist Church family
celebrated its homecoming last Sun
day all day. At the 3 p.m. service,
Bev. Smith and members of Snow
Hill Church family and the Keathern
Baptist Church members of Rose Hill
were the guests.
The dinner was enjoyable and the
services were all great. They are
already thinking about next year’s
celebration.
Mr. and Mrs. Edward Faison and
son of Colorado were in town recently
to visit his brother, Willie Faison, of
Wilmington Highway.
The son, Frankie, is in Wilmington
making a movie titled “Betsy’s Wed
ding.”
The Ingold Baptist Church
celebrated its anniversary last Sun
day, Nov. 19. The Rev. Lionel Ed
monds, pastor of First Baptist
Church, 900 College St., along with his
Male Chorus and congregation, were
in charge of the 3 p.m. service.
Faison Memorial Presbyterian
Church (USA), Clinton, celebrated
Harvest-Homecoming last Sunday.
Dr. C.C. Thomas of Fayetteville is the
pastor.
Rhamkatte
BY LUCILLE ALSTON
RHAMKATTE—Sunday School
began at 9:45 a.m. with all classes
reporting. The subject of the lesson
was “The Victorious Christ,” Revela
tion 19:11-16,20:11-15. Key verse was
repeated by the school. Classes had a
45-minute study period. Thomas Burt
taught the adult class. The lesson
was reviewed by Rev. Hughes. After
the report from Secretary Barbara
Burt, the school closed. Superinten
dent Albertine Sanders presided.
At 11 a.m., Presiding Elder N.
Gaylord spoke from Exodus 16:4, us
ing for his subject, "God Provides for
His People” Music was furnished by
the Mass Choir, with Ms. Hazel
Hughes at the piano. Betty Rogers
gave the morning prayer. An
nouncements were made by Sadie
Chavis.
Mini-church was led by Lee Nipper.
Altar call came from Rev. Hughes.
Elder Gaylord left the congregation
with a message on how God plans for
His peoples. He will come to His peo
ple and our parents before us were
sometimes up, somtimes down, but
they made it with the help of God. He
rained down bread from Heaven.
This manna from Heaven is God's
grace.
Invitation to Christian discipieship
was extended, followed by benedic
tion and closing. Immediately after
the closing, the quarterly conference
was held.
At 6 p.m., Sunday School Night was
celebrated.
ANNOUNCEMENTS
Bible study is held every Wednes
day at 7:30 p.m.
On the sick list are Ms. Kathleen
Hemby, Ms. Mary Utley, Ms. Lola
McClain, John T. Singletary, Bertha
Pearce, Ella Fletcher, Margaret
Kearney. Let us keep praying for the
sick everywhere and visit with them
more. God still sits on the throne and
He does take care of His own.
Watts Chapel Baptist Church held
its annual senior citizen banquet last
week. Rev. Phyllis Royal presided.
She opened by singing “What a
Fellowship." Then prayer was of
fered by Rev. J.W. Morris, pastor of
Poplar Springs Church. The welcome
address was given by Ms. Phyllis
Royal. Remarks then came from all
the ministers present, followed by
remarks from Rev. Frank B.
Weaver, pastor. Dinner was served
and gifts were passed out to the
guests.
YMC’A GOLDEN OAKS
On Nov. 15, Kev. Nedra Merriman,
pastor of Grace Lutheran Church,
was the speaker for the day. She
spoke from John 8:2-11. When people
criticize others, she said, they don't
understand each other. We must be
kind to one another. We must not con
demn each other, tiod is by your side.
The meeting was led in prayer by
Itev Merriman. followed by the exer
cise class. After 30 minutes of exer
cise. lunch was served and the
meet mg closed.
ACTIONS
All the beautiful sentiments in the
world weigh less than a single lovely
action.
James Russell Lowell
SOCIAL SCENE
(Continued from page 13)
large numbers of persona wbo live In poverty.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
We gather together to ask the Lord's blessing,
He chastens and hastens His will to make known;
The wicked oppreasing, now cease from distrasalng;
Stag praises to Hla name,
He forgets not His own.
Beside us to guide ue, our God with us joining,
Ordaining, maintaining His kingdom divine;
So from the beginning the fight we were winning,
Thou, Lord, wast at our side: the glory be Thine!
—Dutch folk sang
Have a happy Thanksgiving!
S A. PRISONER
(Continued from page 13)
African nationalism inside the
world’s biggest and most gruesome
jail—apartheid South Africa... that
jail must be demolished, and South
Africa must become the land of its
people.
DELTAS
(Continued from page 13)
(3-12) to hear and discuss more
specifically the activities planned for
each group from November through
March. The afternoon culminated
with a reception hosted by the Deltas
for the participants, parents and
friends
N.C. AMNESTY
(Continued from page 13)
late November, Department of
Revenue staff will be answering the
amnesty hot line (1-800-446-2829) on
Friday, Nov. 24, the Friday after
Thanksgiving, from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m.;
and from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. Nov. 27-Dec.
1.
The North Carolina Tax Amnesty
Program, which began on Sept. 1, of
fers delinquent taxpayers a one-time
only opportunity to settle their ac
counts with the state. In exchange for
receiving payment of the back taxes
and interest, the Department of
Revenue will waive all criminal and
civil penalties. Taxpayers will be
granted amnesty if the amnesty ap
plication, payment of tax and interest
are delivered to a Department of
Revenue field office by 5 p.m. Dec. 1,
or if they are postmarked by mid
night Dec. 1.
Tax amnesty will conclude at mid
night on Dec. 1, after which willful
tax evasion will become a felony,
punishable by five years in prison, a
(25,000 fine, or both.
Raleigh Ensemble
Sets Christmas
Pageant In City
Raleigh Ensemble Players will per
form the children’s Christmas play,
“The Best Christmas Pageant Ever,
by Winston-Salem native Barbara
Robinson. The play is being directed
by Robin Watkins and performance
dates are Dec. 0 and 16 at 10 a.m.t 3
p.m. and 8 p.m., Dec. 10 and 17 at 2
p.m. and Dec. 15 at 8 p.m. at Sertoma
Arte Center, 1400 West Millbrook
Road at Shelley Lake Park. Ticktes
are $5 for adults, $3 for children 12
and under, students and seniors. Dis
counts are availalbe for groups of 10
or more. Call 782-7583 for reserva
tions.
“The Best Christmas Pageant
Ever” is a family show which Is
suitable for ages 3 and up. The cast of
40 includes 30 children. The play is a
modern holiday story about the strug
gles of a woman and her husband to
put on the annual Christmas pageant
using the most mischievous kids in
town. This Christmas event will in
clude guest hosts, a drawing far
prizes, refreshments and Christmas
carols.
Audience members attending per
formances of “The Best Christinas
Pageant Ever” are asked to bring a
canned good or other non-perishable
food item to donate to the Salvation
Army. REP will offer a 50-cent dis
count coupon to the next children’s
production for those who donate.
NO REGRET
We have never yet felt a twinge of
regret for being a little too kind.
Christian Herald
Regret is an appalling waste of
energy. You can’t build on it; it’s only
good for wallowing in.
Katherine Mansfield
500,000th Child Helped By Foster Parents Plan
Two and a half year old Mauricio
Gliseo Grave Manuel of Amati
lan, Guatemala is the 500,000th
child in the world to have his own
Foster Parents Plan sponsor.
Mauricio joins needy children
and families in 26 developing coun
tries currently enrolled in the or
ganization's international humani
tarian aid programs.
Mauricio’s sponsor ils a family
from Belgium, who specified their
interest in helping a native Guate
malan Indian child. Their sponsor
ship of Mauricio includes monthly
program contributions of $22 and
personal correspondence with the
child's family — and eventually
with Mauricio, himself.
The sponsorship funds are used
primarily to support health, educa
tion, home improvement and in
come-generating assistance for
Mauricio and his family. A portion
of the funds also supports commu
nity projects such as school con
struction, gardening, and animal
husbandry.
Foster Parents Plan arranged for
Mauricio to greet his sponsors on
video tape. They will monitor his
future progress through detailed
field reporta *hd photograph*, aa
well as through the family's lettan.
Foster Parents Plan has operated
a sponsorship program in Guate
mala since 1978. Tne organisation
links individual sponsors with
needy children and their families in
Africa, Asia, Latin America and the
Caribbean.
For more information, call Farida
Khan, Foster Parents Plan, at 1
800-556-7918 (in Rhode Island 401
738-5600). Or write: 155 Plan Way,
Box K024A, Warwick, R.I. 02886.
Local Banks Offer Wide
Variety Of Savings Plan
(NU) - Now that you've paid
Uncle Sam his taxes for the year,
financial experts advise that you
begin thinking about your personal
savings programs for the coming
year -• including longterm IRA ana
other retirement plans, and shorter
term savings for vacations, home
improvements or a cushion against
emergencies or other unexpected
expenditures.
In both cases, local banks con
tinue to offer the popular and con
venient savings programs today for
consumers with a variety of sav
ings needs, according to the
American Bankers Association.
Bankers advise consumers to
think of savings as a regular
monthly expense, like rent or food,
and to save some money every
month. How much depends on
your budget, but it’s advisable to
keep enough on hand to cover at
least three months of regular
household expenses for an emer
gency.
Despite changes in the Tax
Reform Act of 1986, IRAs still
offer an excellent way to save for
retirement.
IRA Tax Deduction
“Consumers should remember
that an IRA can still offer terrific
benefits." explains Ray Skelton,
chairman of the ABA’s Branch
Administration Division and senior
vice president, Indiana National
Bank in Indianapolis.
“A lot of consumers still qualify
for at least a partial deduction. Ana
being able to defer taxes on IRA
interest is an advantage open to
anyone," he added.
Certificates of Deposit are
another savings option. CDs are
among the highest yielding savings
opportunities at your bank, some
times requiring less than $300 to
open.
CDs Have Variable Term*
Several years ago, most CDs
had standard time durations of say
six months or a year. But bankers
realized that many savers wanted
more flexibility and now CDs are
available in a whole range bftime
spans to suit just about every sav
ings need.
Banks are also offering more
flexible terms today, such as vari
able rates. Some variable rate CDs
even offer an interest rate floor to
protect you if rates should fall.
Some CDs offer the opportnnity to
withdraw funds early with penalty.
The familiar passbook savings *
account, often referred to as state
ment savings accounts today, gen
erally offer the most flexibility ftxr
smaller savers, and require a low
initial deposit and minimum bal
ance, if any. They offer liquidity
and the ability to save gradually.
Once you save up enough, you
may want to consider moving the
funds to a higher yielding account
at the bank.
The bankers point out that
American consumers save less than
their counterparts in most other
industrialized countries. Even
small savers should remember to
pay themselves a little each month.
BEGIN AGAIN
Each day is a new day. We stand a>
a point of beginning again. Wa must
release the unhappineu of the put
We have come through a long, darl
night but now the day breaks, thi
night Is past. We may wish that w»
had been wiser, that we had beei
stronger, that life could have beet
different.
The day dawns, the light comer
flooding Into our consdousnese. Wl
begin again.
The nectarine's skin is
damaged. Look for pUMh* film
well-colored fruit. , . .Wl’