^ Pointers
Role Play With Toys Helps
Children Express Feelings
American families typically
move at least once during their
children’s elementary school years.
Unfortunately, most children are
not usually asked for their opinion
about a move. Psychologists sug
8*et that parents should, however,
encourage children to ask questions
■nd express their concerns about
moving.
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A doll houM helps a child act
out feelings.
' One way parents can encourage
this is to let little ones create dra
mas that resemble everyday life.
With a doll house, for example, chil
dren are able to express how they
feel about moving. Many experts
feel that Playmobil’s Victorian Doll
House is well suited to this type of
play activity.
Children can help Vicky, the little
girl character in the Victorian
themed “Good Old Days” play set
move into her new room and deco
rate it. They can also help her ex
plore her new house and meet new
friends from the neighborhood.
Children can control the pace at
which Vicky does this, which is very
important at a time when it seems
they have no control over their lives.
Even a child who is not moving
can delight in “moving” back to the
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Study Shows Workaholic's Behavior
Can Ruin Lives. Is Same As Addiction
CHARLOTTESVILLE, V*.
(AP)—'Workaholic behavior can ruin
llvaa as surely as any other com
pulsive activity and can be Just as
destructive as drug and alcohol ad
diction, an admitted former
workaholic says.
“People use work like any addict
would to blunt their feelings or get
high off of It,” John 0. Neikirk said
recently at Mountain Wood, a private
treatment center for alcohol and
other drug addiction.
Neikirk spoke to about SO health
care and counseling professionals at
a workshop titled “Workaholism:
The Pain that People Applaud.”
Neikirk, associate director of Con
ifer Park Treatment Center in Scotia,
N.Y., has interviewed 300 to 400 self
assessed workaholics' for a soon-to
be-published book of the same name.
Years ago, Neikirk said, his desire
to blunt emotions through work was
so strong that he left his screaming
wife’s side to call his office when she
was in labor delivering their first
child, the nursing staff was appalled.
He wu ashamed, “and my wife had ■
few thing* to say about it, as you can
imagine.” he recalled. T
He defines workaholics u not Jiat
the guy who makes 1900,000 ■ year,
works 90-hour weeks and is darned
proud of It, but also anyone who is in
volved in compulsive activity all the
time whether it’s paid work,
housework, yardwork or woodwork
ing
“I feel like I’m a human doing, not
a human being,” he quoted one of Us
Durham Co. Manager Takes Post
ytur/ uurnam Mjuniy manager
Jade Bond baa accepted a top-level
"management poaition in city govern
ment in Washington, D.C.
Bond said be officially accepted the
poet of city administrator-deputy
mayor for operations for the nation’s
capital city during a meeting last
Thursday night with mayor-elect
Sharon Pratt-Dixon
All city operating agencies, with
the exception of finance and the cor
poration council, will report to the
mayor through Bond.
There are more than 40,000 city
employees in Washington.
During the month of January, Bond
says he will begin the transition and
will officially resign from the
Durham County manager’s post in
late January.
William Bell, chairman of the
Durham County Commissioners, said
last Friday he isn’t surprised at
Bond’s selection for the post.
“I’m more surprised that we’ve
been able to keep him as long as we
have," Bell said. "He’s a capable
manager and well respected in his
profession. He will be mlsaed.” Bond
has been county manager in Durham
since 1984.
Prior to Joining Durham County
government as county manager,
Bond worked as deputy county ad
ministrator of Hillsborough County,
Fla.; city manager of Petersburg,
Va.; and assistant city rnmnmgm- fa
Miami.
Chicago Cites Six Cab Drivers For Racism
CHICAGO, HI. (AP)-Si* taxi
driven were charged with refusing to
pick up blacks after the cabbies
denied service to Chicago in
vestigators, officials said.
Chicago’s Department of Con
sumer Services sent four black in
vestigators to try to hail cabs during
downtown’s busy traffic hours last
month, spokeswoman Connie
Buscemi said.
“We received some complaints and
decided to find out for ourselves,” she
said.
The investigators were denied ser
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subjects.
Neikirk, who holds a master’s
degree in social work, listed a few red
flags for workaholism: Do you get
more excited about work than about
anything else'? Are you more in
terested in talking about work than
anything else? Do you take total
responsibility for the outcome of your
work? Has your family given up ex
pecting you on time? Do you pro
crastinate or get disorganized so you
can get an adrenaline high when you
get the job done?
And he told workaholic anecdotes:
One man hid a work file in a carefully
folded beach towel on a family vaca
tion; another spread work all over his
king-sized bed and, when his wife
teased, “Any room in there for me?”
he replied, “Can’t you see I’m busy?”
“A hard worker has support and
nurturance in areas that don’t have
anything to do with work,” he said.
The workaholic may find comfort on
ly in work, not in the physical, emo
tional and social relationships of
everyday life.
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