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MRS. BEATRICE MAYE S This Week In GREENVILLE ' WAITING is a power game We wait for what we want and the waiting makes us value it more. tj. Time is money. The greater the demand, and the scarcer the supply, the longer the like. !S. We value what we wait for. A. Status dictates who waits. Hie more important we are, the greater the demand for our time. 5. The line makes the man or woman. The longer the line, the more important the person becomes. 6. The privileged don’t wait, and the privileged few almost never wait. The people who go to clinics usually wait longer to see a doctor than those who can afford to make appointments with private doctors. 7. Time is power. With status, then, comes the power to control time, your own and others’. Those who control others’ time have power and those who have power control others’ time. Making a person wait is an exercise of power. Powerful people have the capacity to make others wait. 8. Waiting can have a more positive side. I can think, I can wait, I can fast, with the right attitude, waiting can prove a potent force against the obstacles of life. 9. Time can be a gift. We sometimes offer our time as an ex pression of respect. “Time is an herb that cures all diseases.” “Waste of time is the most ex travagant and costly of all expenses.” “The Lord wants our precious time, not our spare time.” SEVEN DEADLY SINS OF MARRIAGE Aside from the classic seven deadly sins—pride, wrath, envy, lust, glut tony, avarice and sloth—Dr. James Lieberman, a family therapist and psychiatrist in Washington, D.C., has come up with the Seven Deadly Sins of Marriage. 1. Violence—The worst thing you can do in a marriage is to injure your spouse physically or emotionally. That violates the most sacred trust in a marriage. 2. Taunting—Being inconsiderate of (»r teasing your spouse, which is cruel. 3. Trespass—This includes the denial or violation of privacy, such as reading a mate’s mail or eavesdropp ing 4. Invidelity—Undermining a hus band’s or wife’s trust by being incon sistent or undependable. 5. Nagging—Asking a mate for or to do something more than twice. 6. Contempt—If you expect too much of a mate, it leads to contempt. And if your expectations are too high, it doesn’t give the other person a chance to be human. 7. Indifference—It, not hate, is the opposite of love. If your mate tells you “I’m mad” and this hurts you and you can’t respond, there’s no way the relationship can work. SINGLE MOTHERS, TAKE HEED Do you know what your teenagers are doing while you’re at work? Teenagers who live with their mothers only are much more likely to be depressed, take drugs, drink alcohol and engage in sexual activity than are teenagers who live with both parents. Do you know that the 12- to 15-year olds need more “adult supervision” and “better access to parents” for self-care to be a realistic and safe choice? Children of single mothers tend to be more frustrated an<L depressed, are absent from school more and tend to use this time to sleep more or have sex in the home. They also tend to use more time talking on the telephone, and after-school hours socializing at the home of friends or in outdoor ac tivities. Many teenagers who live with their mothers feel less loved by their fathers. They are not as close to their brothers and sisters and more likely to yell and spank them when super vising them. On the positive side, teenagers liv ing with their mothers in a single parent household have closer rela tionships with their moms, feel free to discuss problems with them and are more likely to call their moms when they get home or to call the police or fire departments in emergencies. These teenagers also spend more time doing household chores and cooking. Parents, your latchkey kids need adult supervision. Children can’t rear children. I don’t know about you, but to me, life is just one big bowl of cherries. Made so by all of the great people in Franklin County. Another week has passed, with my having gone into several com munities where I walked among and talked to many, many people about The CAROLINIAN, the newspaper that I personally fell in love with when I learned firsthand what I had been missing by not reading a publication by blacks, for blacks. Thankfully, I have been able to at tend various events I wouldn’t have kdown existed, had I not read it in the North Carolina Semi-Weekly, which hrfs been published in Raleigh for the pdst SO years. It was quite rewarding to me when oft Sunday, April 7, while attending the afternoon singing program at one of my favorite churches, Gethsemane, of Bunn, when, in welcoming visitors, the church’s pastor, Dr. Joseph Paige, mentioned that I write for both the Franklin Times and The CAROLINIAN, saying that he had caught my very first arti cle. That was quite unexpected. Although I knew that Dr. Paige, who is executive vice president of the Shaw Divinity School, manages to keep abreast of things, his having read my first article was a pleasant surprise. I have covered at least four different events for the good folk at Gethsemane under Dr. Paige’s pastorate, which causes me to feel almost a part of them. And I was pleased to let them know that they will be able to buy the Thursday issue of the paper at the Bunn Mini Mall, which is operated proprietress Jennie Lucas, who also carries apparel, greeting cards, accessories and mens wear; and at Carol’s Grocery, the nice new store near Buna Elementary and the Franklin Estates. Just one more observation about Dr. Paige is that I was privileged last year to have been among a busload of Gethsemanites who went to Washington, D.C. for a church ser vice conducted by Pastor Paige. I found myself overwhelmed with the knowledge that he possesses of the nation’s capital, a place that I, too, lived, upon first leavfa« home as 9 teacher. Standing in the center of the ras, the pastor gave us all a vary special guided tour. Prior to going to Bunn and Lake Royale, where 1 and my two guests, Cammie Kearney and Mertha Lee Crudup, ended up as we paid a short visit to Jacki Wilson’s home, I attend ed the morning service at Pope Chapel United Church of Christ, where the Rev. John Henry Jones is pastor. A very jovial minister at all times, Pastor Jones was especially funny last Sunday, while Harriet Walker, Franklin ton City Schools food service director, was conducting her usual children's hour. Pastor Jones had stepped out to the little boy’s room when suddenly a very audible sound of flushing was heard. Harriet’s face registered such a sur prise that everyone noticed, and Larry Andrews hurried outside to And out what was going on. Not only was the flushing beard anew, Pastor Jones’ voice was heard saying, “I had to use the bathroom.” I guess he, too, was startled at Larry’s sudden appearance. On the heels of that, Deacon Richardson went in to quieten both of the men. A short time later, Pastor Jones said, “I guess I need to offer an apology for what happened a while ago. You see, the church gave me a cordless mike, and by me not being used to it, I forgot to turn it off when I went out.” All of which was a real bowl for the entire congregation, in cluding this writer, who was beginn ing to think that Pope Chapel would have to spend some serious money to have their “wiretapped” bathroom All’s well that ends well, they say, and I love an unexpected funny scene, don’t you? Only good people can bear Ring joked about, and Pastor John Henry Jones Is good people. I both love and respect the gentleman. He, by the way, told me that he takes The CAROLINIAN, and this is my test. He’D let me know if he read this little bit of humor. If he didn’t see it on his own, don’t you tell Urn I was telling tales old of school, will you? I’ll tell you one thing for sure: those folk at Pope Chapel sure can mess with some food! They served a dinner after servide that would make you fait your grandma. The meal was kind of private, but they invited me to par take of it nonetheless. Those people over at Pope’s enjoy reading The CAROLINIAN, toe. I told them as I have told others that it may be pur chased at Ann Jones’, Brddie’s, and Mable as well as Pood Corker will carry the paper if I haven’t got r around to bringing it to your door Better yet, why not subscribe? Tha way you can get the Tuesday editioi as well, which has carried all of tbi events that I’ve been able to attend. Let me tell you of my lates subscribers: Alex Alston of Franklin ton, the other Saturday, was pleasec to offer the paper to him. “I’ve beer planning to subscribe to it for a long time,” Alex said. While driving around Raleigh, making deliveries to firms, Alex said that he bought it ofl the stands. I’m not sure, but I think 1 told you about Audrey Hartsfleld of Bunn, who subscribed the other day. But I know that I had not told you of Mr. and Mrs. Edd Alston of the West River Road, who are both retired from the Franklin County School System after yean of teaching. Last week, as I for the very first time in lie was en route to Wilmington with the young lady whom I fondly call my daughter, Dezale Vines Kearney, we stopped at Shoney’s for breakfast and wouldn’t you know it was like old home week. Just outside of Raleigh proper, there were the Rev. and Mrs. Claude Duns ton and Mr. and Mrs. Ed Alston with their lit tle grandson. With Dezale, her daughter Kelly, her little Mend and me all seated in the same general area, and each from good old Franklin County, Ms. Alston said, “They must have known that we were all from Franklin County.” I’ve gotten to the point that wherever I go I expect to meet so meone from the county. My first visit to Greensboro earlier this year, who would I meet in the same eatery? None other than the Franklin County librarian, Ellen O’Connor. I got another reaTsurprise while In Wilmington the other week. I was seeking the office of the Challenger newspaper. Hardly anyone had heard if the Challenger, but instead iirected us to the Journal. The publisher turned out to be the brother if the publisher of The- CAROLI NIAN. Besides the subscribers, I need to say hello and thanks to some of the persons that I missed last week who are faithful to buy the paper every week. Mother Lessie Baker and daughter Sharon Anderson of Bunn, or rather I should say Pierce’s, made for plea sant company the other week as they were just returning home from Wilson, where the Rogerses and others were celebrating a family reu nion. On that Saturday, too, James Vick was telling me about his son Tony who lives in Raleigh, just off Route 64, and it was he who told me how to get to the Baker home, of whom I’d just written in “Life Sket ches.’’ The Baker son Lynn, who was on the phone with his mother while I was present, was just fresh back from the conflict in the Middle East. Hairdresser Mable Williams was rejoicing the other week that her sor would be home to see her, fresh from the Middle East as well. I just hap pened to come across a bit of infor mation that I jotted down on March 27. There are still 411,000 American: in the Middle East, and just this mor ning, the newscast at 7 a.m. state* that April 11, an official ceasefire would be brought about with all of the concerned nations in agreement. It k utterly unbelievable how all of mj notes can get lost. I had very careful ly taken the name of the Glover son ol East College Street in Franklin, ant for the life of me I simply cannot fine it. Anyway, the young man is servinf in the Middle East. Also speaking of College Street Silas Monroe was nursing a burn h< had gotten from having his pants lej caught from gas, and a car’i backfire. Hie bandaged ankle seem ed a little swollen, but hopefully, !m will be whole again soon. Susanna Norwood Holden was imp ly delighted to realize that the papa she thought was dead and buried lon( agolsbsckTif circulation again. At the top of the well-known street Emma Lee Tabron is recovering nicely from a fall she had that lai< her up for a spell. It was she who in formed me that my beloved friend William Montague, was buried oi Saturday, April 6. That is one famil; that had always seemed like a part o my own, before I started movini around so fast that they couldn’t kee] 19 with me to inform me of how da< was. To Marie, Jesse, Earl, Bill, am John Thomas, your loss is mine ai well. A quick hello to the following peo pie: Mertha Lee Crudup, Dalphim McGhee, Marie Fogg, Melvii (Tweet) Yarborough, the Rev Walter Yarborough, Charlie Hayes Jr., James Kingsberry, Evelyn Mit chell, Raymond Wilder, Patty Yar borough, and last but not least for thii time young Billy Ray Andrews, tlx brother of Larry Andrews of whom spoke earlier, in the joke I told 01 Rev. Jones, Those two young men an a real example of what blacl manhood should really be. Raised b; foster parents, they both have excel] ed in brick and block masonry work Billy is available for any job, am may be contacted at 464-2621 0 494-2867. Please allow me just one mon mention. At Jones Barber Shop, yw will find Thomas Privette, who i willing to cut and style to suit you fancy. More than that, Privette is lb lead «<wg*r of Golden Ethnos believe it is of Franklinton. If I’n wrong I’ll have to leave Franklinton I suppose. Anyway, the man cai groom. Bye, everyone. See you nex week. I PERRY HONORED i (Continued from page IS) 1 presentations in Perry’s Honor. Among them were Lanier Construc tion Co., J.P. Jones Concrete Co., and others. Perry started his duties in DOT in Itn when he was named coordinator of the State Highway Commission s Equal Employment Opportunity pro gram.. While be was coordinator, he headed the EEO staff and also work ed in the field to ensure that contrac tors on federal-aid projects observed anti-discrimination regulations. Perry started several projects. The projects included programs to iden tify firms interested in becoming highway contractors and providing technical assistance through train ing. Other programs expanded the use of minority business firms in the highway construction industry in North Carolina, thus removing bar riers and paving the way for minority participation. As a result, North Carolina has a minority business enterprise pro gram that has been nationally recognized. As a part of this pro gram, Perry created or initiated the North Carolina internship program, which served as a model for the en tire federal and state highway in dustry. Perry retired in March 1006, but he has been called back to serve as ac ting director of civil rights for the N.C. Department of Transportation. Perry is married to the former Elsie Hunt of Raleigh, and they are the parents of twin sons, Wayne and Bill. POWELL DAY (Continued from rase 13) against the Chicago White Sox. He dedicated the event to Capt. Manuel Rivera, the first New Yorker killed after war was declared against Iraq. At the schools, Powell told the students not to do drugs and not to let others set limits for them. He told them that be had to contend against such limits when be was growing up, but decided not to let them decide how far he would go. "Plan to be president, governor,” he told the youth. VOLUNTEERS FETED (Continued from page 13) women and married couples of all ages who pledge to serve for at least one year and be willing to provide care for up to 21 days at a time. The family selects the age and sex of the children they wish to assist and when they are able to open their homes to one or more children. A professional social worker assists in making the match between child and family and assists the family throughout the placement. Paul and Michaels Millard, a fami ly prepared in the first training ses sion, have fostered several children. Paul said, “This has been a good ex perience. If you’ve got room in your house and enough income there is no reason not to help a child.” He con tinued, “This is a simple way to res pond to the needy personality, not just with money . It’s rewarding to do something good and positive for kids in difficult situations.” Wake VEFC is looking for more volunteer families, especially from the black community. Anyone in terested can contact Lynn Welliver at 846-5304 or Ann Walkkup at 848-2211. DELTA CAROUSEL (Continued from page 13) participants in their writing of tix script, directing experiences anc practice sessions. Assisting Ms. Young with the pro duction are Theresa Morris, .also i member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorori ty; and high-school Carousel par tiipants Robi Roberts, Monica Cloud Diane Smith, Kia Carpenter anc Davida Haywood. David Mallette, III and Candace Byrdsong share in the choreography production of the musical dance numbers. Presentation of awards to the Carousel participants will also be a highlight of the finale. The eietnen tary and middle-school participant! will crown a king and queen for theta levels and will present achievemen awards. Academic scholarship red pients and service award winners wtl be in the spotlight on the hlgh-scboo level. Tickets to the performance may 1m secured from the DELTA Carouse participants, members of the Data Sigma Theta Sorority or may be pur pha***t it the door. Hattie Bridges is chairperson of tb DELTA Carousel. Annette Watson ii president of the Raleigh Atumnai Chapter of Delta Sigma Tbeta Sorori ty, Inc. PRICE SUPPORTS (Continued from page IS) not hve to bear this burden as well.' The administration’s propose! budget for fiscal year IMS would cu educational assistance for 1.1 miiHa. •tudsnts next year, according to th American Council for Education Th. Pell Grant program would tx drastically scaled back, eUminatini 380,000 Pell Grants next year. “The PeU Grant program is not i program for the rich,” Price said “It's the families earnihg betweei $30,000 and $38,000 a year who rely ot Pell Grants to help finance theii —-s—“ I Ml BACK-A-CMLD—Maaaars sf ths Kappas Fntamity racsaffy prsaaatai a $150.0a dadr la Japs Ray af Iks Oaraar Raad YMCA, Baek-A-CMM Pragma. Shawa afeava wttfeMa. Ray is WMams WMtay and Lamual Hhitan. Tha Raefc-A vim pifnw is m^vi is p siiss simn msmssrsnips in tssmiff uy CMS tcdalanMpi/ar frta awariwnMp la attar scdasl pragmas, a yaath wta sail ■nSfS ISTwIClS |NSISIH By ISS TSvA. Friday Afternoon Book Club Tells True Story .Friday. Aftenuon. Book-Uub met April 12 it the home of Me. Dorothy Senders, hooted by Me. Li Seals Murchison. The devotional segment was open ed with dm singing of “He Lives,” followed by the reeding of the scrip tures by Ms. Jestine Davis and prayer by Ms. Elisabeth Jordon. Ms. Mildred James read a poem, “I Shall Be Glad,” by Grace Crowell. A few minutes were spent in silent prayer for Ms. Nora Lockhart who recently lost her sister in death. Ms. Elisabeth Jordon, the presi dent, opened the meeting for business by calling for die reading of the minutes of the previous meeting. These were adopted as read. This was REINVESTMENT (Continued from page 13) ne « us was one-fifth,” observes Lennix, “so, to start, we all Just got together and said, ‘Well, what’s happening for everybody?’” “There were times when I’d be say ing, ‘No, that’s not the step, that’s the wrong step,” recalls Wells, the member of the bunch with the most dance experience. "Or maybe Harry would give somebody a note and they wouldn’t hit it exacdy on pitch, and we’d get frustrated. But eventually it came together. We became the Five Heartbeats.” “It was like being in a real group,” concurs Townsend. “It was like, I’d be one hand, Tico would supply the other, and everybody Just put their little pteres together.” The quintet is presently engaged in a unique major city promotional blitz that includes informal interview ses sions, charity basketball games against local media, and, at a recent screening in New York, a surprise curtain call that electrified the au dience. “We’re stage actors as well,” notes Townsend, “so the idee of making a curtain call seemed natural. The crowd got a kick out of it and it was fun for us, too.” They even claim to have their own personal airplane, which Wright Jok ingly refers to as “Heartbeat-One.” “There’s a similarity to the old studio methods of promotion,” says Wright, “using innovative ideas and making contact with people' I think it reflects Robert’s aims of maHwg a classical film and wanting everything attached to it to be more personal.” Indeed, "personal” and “fim” would seam to be the operative cat chphrases for “The Five Heartbeats.” Townsend feds confi dent that he has created a Joyride of a film for one and all, and dismisses the notion that die movie is strictly a black film. children's education. It’s thesi families who have borne the brunt oi aid cuts over the Iasi and it’s these families whc are being increasingly squeezed bj the cost of higher education. It's these families who would suffer under the budget proposal of our self-stylet ‘education president.”’ Price spoke in support of the House fetidpt resolution, an alter native budget scheduled for a vote this week. The House budget resoht tion includes an increase of 12 billkx over currant funding levds-and ai increase of M-S MUton over the presi dent’s proposal—for the Pell Granl proram, etsmentary fy* secondary education and other federal educa tion programs. “This budget resolution puts oui priorities in the right place,” he said “It will help f.mtnjn cannot afford to ignore. followed by reports of the various committees. The roll was called sad each member responded with a poem' or proverb as she made bar coobribo tioo to the Least Coin Collection. Hm collection was blessed by Ms. SaUe Lane. The program for the day was a discussion of current events and television programs. Many views and ideas were shared on some of the latest popular books that have recent ly been released. On behalf of all the members, Ms. Marjorie Phillips expressed gratitude to Ms. La Senia Murchison and Ms. Dorothy Sanders for the delightful repast and enjoyable after noon. The meeting adjourned with the benediction. Members present were Ms. SaDie Lane, Ms. Jestine Davis, Ms. Elizabeth Jordon, Ms. Marjorie Phillips, Ms. Mildred James, Ms. Dorothy Sanders, Ms. Hazel Reece and Ms. Lucy Standi. Ms. Elizabeth Burton is dub reporter. Friends Of The Library Host Shaw Meet Shaw University Friends of the Library members will demonstrate their versatility in a community fashion show on April 10 in the university gymnasium. Pro ceeds will benefit the Friends of the Library organization. Participating models will be members of the university student body, members of the Friends of the Library, the Raleigh community and the Shaw staff. Darryl Lester, professional model and member of the rmmaslhig staff at Shaw University, is coor dinator for the fashion show. Segments will indude: die look of yesterday, including vintage wear; African wear; and a special look at today’s fashions including business, formal and evening wear; along with a special segment, “Fade to Black.” Tickets are available at the Shaw University Library, the Udvonlty Counseling Center famsgii Mid dle School. For more information, contact Darryl Lester at the Counsel ing Center, M9-9M3, or Carolyn Peterson at the library, MM409. St. Aug's Honors Students Today For Scholarship Dr. Oyne Akwart, associate pro feesor, Department of Surgery, Duke University Medical Center, will be the keynote speaker for the 1IM Honors Convocation on Thursday, April 19, at lO:Ma.m. la the Fine Arte Auditorium at St. Augustine's Col lege. He is also a member of the col lege’s board of trustees. The convocation will scholastic achievements of i who have exemplary [_ Recognition will also be given to students who have achieved "Who's Who” honors and the Dean’s List There are Ml students on the Deen’s List for this year. Military News Airman James V. Duncan has graduated from the aerospace im pulsion specialist (turboprop) corns at Chanute Air Force Base, Ranted, -»tth hydr.uiic.Uy operated propellers. Topics included operating, removal, disusemhlvaind assembly, test, and installation of -is the son of Mr. and Mrs Walter Harrell of 49mT Drive. Ralrigh. «sttzs?*****'
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