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A2 Winston-Salem Chronicle Thursday, September 6, 1990 Local psychotherapist writes book on mastering stress in your life By TRACY L PROSSER Chronicle Staff Writer - How many times have you heard someone say,"! have so much stress because of my job," or ^because I don’t have enough money," or "because of my race"? Wouldn't people love to know how to reduce the stress they feel as a result of these outside factors? In a newly published book. Stress Master, a Winston-Salem psychotherapist tells the public how ey can control the level of stress iii their lives. I- Dr, Richard Terry Lovelace 5ays in his book, "Negative stress (nay well be the greatest single threat to your relationships, success, happiness, physical and mental health, and your very life." Lovelace's explanation of stress seems to go against ideas common ly held by stressed people. He says that stress is not caused by outside factors, but by an individual's think ing and attitudes, specifically, by a hurt self-esteem. "Ultimately we are responsible for the stress we have," he said. "The wor.se you feel about yourself, the harder it is to accept responsibility." His book outlines techniques one can use to become a shess mas ter. Lovelace .said, "A stress master is someone who has gone beyond learning how to monitor stress. He has moved into being really in con trol of stress rather than manipulat ed by it." Lovelace used a model that illu.strates how stress is caused. He said outside inHucnces, commonly thought to be the causes of stress, are filtered through a person's .self- esteem and result in subconscious thoughts that can produce stress. A healed or a hurt .self-esteem determines what kind of subcon scious thoughts arc formed, and what stress comes as a result. Dr. Richard T. Lovelace Lovelace said self-esteem is the key step in preventing outside influ ences from becoming stress. Being a minority has often been blamed for the stress African- Americans feci, but Lovelace holds that minorities can learn to control stress like anyone else. He explained that everyone is follow'- ing his ow'n path through life, and the path grows darker at some points than at others. Everyone has a torch that he needs to keep as close to his feet as possible, Lovelace said. "African-Americans and others in society are walking a path that is darker than others are," he said. "It's not their fault, but they are walking a darker path than the gen eral population." "It behooves African-Ameri cans to take even more care with how they use that light that is their focus of attention," he continued. "You don't learn much out in the open," Lovelace .said. "(People who walk dark paths) have more w'onderful information to share than people who have been fortunate enough to walk paths that are well- lit." They have more skill in avoid ing obstacles, and there are still beautiful things to enjoy along a dark path, he said. He pointed to Martin Luther King as a good example of someone who learned from walking a dark path. He had a lot of love, and he was not afraid or angry, Lovelace said. Lovelace claims that "flawed thinking," including attitudes like "It's not fair...," 'Poor me...," and "It's too hard," contribute to stress. Self-exams, charts, checklists, and diet guidelines contained in Lovelace's book are designed to help the reader identify and combat this Hawed thinking. Lovelace encouraged doubters of his philosophy to put his recom mendations to the test. He empha sized that his is u.sable advice that can be put into practice immediate ly- Lovelace, director of Behav ioral Dynamics Human Services Resource Center, a private agei in Winston-Salem, also has a p vale practice offering group a individual psychotherapy in stri management and addiction, A pi chotherapist for 19 years, he i| specialist in the areas of persoj adjustment counseling, mariutl lt| apy, sex therapy, and addicti coun.seling. Stress Master, published i; year by John Wiley & Sons,j remarkably easy reading. Lovel| said he has a gift as a translatoi complicated ideas into langup most people can understand. In ( book, he said he added to the sii and filled in the blanks to maki even more approachable to ( average reader. Stress Master, which coi S12.95, is available in the lar; chain and independent bookstoi in the area or can be ordered phone from the publisher by calli 1-800-848-8298. Atkins Class of 1945 weathered their own war, celebrate 45th reunion By PATRICIA SMITH-DEERING Chronicle Staff Writer When the 80-85 returning alumni gathered at the Holiday Inn-North Saturday, Aug. 18, it was their first reunion 45 years after graduating from Atkins High ■School. They remembered that they were in the midst of world history in the making: the United States had entered World War II precipi tated by the bombing of Pearl Harbor by the Japanese, food and gas rationing was the order of the day, metal for munitions were school children's projects, the tri als of segregation, and so much more. They can see the irony in today's competition from Japan, the Persian Gulf crisis, escalating oil prices, an economy that threat ens recession, and hard-fought At the evening banquet. Dr. Man- derlinc Scales recalled with her fellow classmates, "We started out in 1941, and we had to live through all of the hardships of the war." They were the class with no yearbook, no class ring, she said. But, for all of what would be per ceived as deprivation, she remind ed them that they had something that money could not buy. "We had been the children of the thir ties when folks didn't have any thing...We enjoyed life, and the friendships we have right now started then...," she said. Extolling the benefits of their education. Dr. Scales listed among them being the first class to have a typing teacher. There were also the foreign language classes. But, key among the things that they had which seem to be sorely lack ing today, she said were the values that they had. "The point that has held us together and has brought us back here together comes from the common bonds that were developed while we were students walking up those hallowed halls...interacting with each other, respecting each other,,..respecting our teachers and understanding that there were value systems that were important," she said. Sharing his reflections was Willie Clyde Williams, who noted the difference between schools now and Atkins High when he was a student. "Joe Clark, princi pal of Eastside High School in Paterson, NJ, in the eighties had his 'Lean on Mo,' while John Carter, principal of Atkins Hi School in Winston-Salem, NC,I the forties had his 'Straighten and fly right!"’ he recalled, brii] ing a hearty laugh from his cla| mates, as they, too, rememberj He implied that that philosop] was probably necessary w'ith i mixture of students coming fr^ 14th Street, Columbia Heighj Kimberley Park, and Woodlii Please see page A12 Photo by LB. Speas Jr. Dr. Manderline Scales reflects with classmates on their years at Atkins. gains in integration being judicial ly reversed. The members of the Class of 1945 chose as their theme "Reflections," and they, in fact, had much upon which to reflect. Wake Forest's law school Brand gets gift from Brown estate Chronicle Staff Report Wake Forest University has received a gift of S2.3 million - the largest estate gift in its history - from the estates of the late Junius Calvin Brown and Eliza Pratt Brown. The gift was presented Aug. 22, along with a contribution of nearly $300,000 to First Baptist Church of Madison, at a luncheon today at Deep Springs Country Club near Madison. The lun cheon was sponsored by First Union National Bank of North Carolina, executor of the Brown estates. Approximately $1.2 million of the estates will provide scholar ships to North Carolina students, primarily in the Browns' native Rockingham County. The remaining $1.1 million will be used for scholarships in Wake Forest's School of Law, from which Junius Brown graduated in 1913. With the earnings from its contribution, the First Baptist Church plans to build a fellowship hall named in honor of the Browns. "Madison and Rockingham County can take a lot of pride in having been associated with such a giving, caring couple as Mr. and Mrs. Brown," said Charles Saun ders, First Union's Greensboro- based regional trust officer, who presented the checks. "Mr. Brown was eminently successful as a businessman and lawyer and he wanted to give a significant por tion of his legacy back to the com munity." Prior to his death in 1968, Junius Brown practiced law for 55 years in Madison, where he was city attorney for 50 years. He also served as attorney for Rocking ham County and as a member of the North Carolina Senate. Celebrating two years of fabulous appliance and electronic values ONLY AT SEARS! 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'lEe program is designed to rai.se up to $100,000, a portion will be distributed as scholarship monies to current and future students, with a large percentage of llie proceeds also being donated to those "grass root" organizations who arc committed to lighting die war on drugs, 'llic "Back to School" promotion is one of ihc most aggressive campaigns the PRO-LINE Corporation has ever launched, with added power coming from TV, radio, national and local print ads coupled with extensive point of purcha.se materials, 'llic campaign also includes the distribution of book-covers, T-shirts, posters and stickers with the message "Say No to Drugs and Yes to Education", to schools across the country. On I-riday I-'ebruary 23, 1990, Comer Colirell made hisior)’ by purchasing the bankrupt Bishop College in Dallas Texas. In an emotional press conference Mr. Cottrell simply staled, "It's really a gift to our Black kids, to give them an opportunity." .Many people were surprised and elated when the news of Mr. Cottrell's deed hit the various news media and Cottrell sent a message out to his supporters, "Wc’rc all in this together, (I’KO-l.lNIi and the community) and now we have a lot of work to do." 'ilic PRO-LINE Corporation is making a tremendous effort to encourage community involvement, raise the awareness of the dangers of drugs and .slre.ss the importance of education. PRO-LINE expects the "Back to School" campaign to be one of tJic most .succc.ssful in historj- and hopes to score a major victory in the war against drugs. PRO-LINE OFFERS FUNDING FOR ANTI-DRUG ORGANIZATIONS! Dallas TX, August - 1990 - T'hc symptoms of drug abu.sc arc sometimes dilTicult to rccogniz.c but even more difficuh to combat. 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