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mam 2 - The Morrtsville and Preston Progress, Wednesday, July 31,1996 ‘Reflections’ helping kids deal with loss Continued from page 1 situation as normal as possible, and they suggested the Reflections pro gram," said Sharon Barber, Ashley's and Christie’s mother. In its commidneni to providing compassionate and comprehensive care, the program includes a num ber of supportive projects for chil dren, one of which is the Children’s Grief Support Groups which Ashley and Christie attended. The once-a-week, eight-week program brought them together with other youngsters in similar situations and enabled them to identify and share the difficult and confusing feelings associated with such a major loss. "Sometimes children get reas surance and comfort from other children who have experienced a loss," said James-Manus. "The group helps remove the feeling of isolation and builds a feeling of community with other bereaved children." Looking over pictures of the ses sions kept in photo books, the girls today laugh as they look back at some of the sessions, at remarks certain other children came up with at times, likes and dislikes they shared, along with special memories and special times they bad shared with their father. Part of the program was creating a quilt of individual memories in which each child makes a patch about 12 inches by 12 inches depicting their "specif" person. In the Barber girls’ patches, their fa ther was shown with his reddish blonde beard, wearing a peaked cq), bluejeans and a vest. Another project is a personal memory box. Ashley and Christie each have their own, stocked with items from their father. Christie’s holds a picture of hCTself with h^ father when she was 3 in a mountain tourist attraction called the "tilting room" where everything looks off balance, a small screw driver to remember his mechanical ability, a neatly folded red bandanna, a tarnished bracelet kept in a drawer, and two tiny figurines of a coyote and roadrunner, two I cartoon characters be especially en- f joyed. ^ Among the items in Ashley s memory box is one of his black caps, a large screwdriver, a photo of her father, and a small silk pouch containing several stones and a message given those in the Reflec tions group. It reads: "These stones were chosen just for you and have Residents undaunted by request AFTER SCHOOL FUN-Christie and Ashley Barber take time out from their studies to jump on the trampoline in their backyard. special meaning. The smooth stones are like the bright and shiny parts of you, the parts that have healed and grown, and are stronger than before. The rough stone is like that comer of your heart that may always feel a little rough and pain ful because of what’s happening to you. But because of what’s happen ing to you, you may always be stronger, more gentle, and more tender with all the people in your life." Ashley also drew a personal memory book with a drawing she made of her father and herself and 10 thoughts he brings to mind today, among them: "He tickled me good." "Liked T.V. a lot." "Was a mechanic.” "Liked our dog a lot." Ashley and Christie’s grand parents are MorrisviUe Mayor Pro Tem Billy Sauls and Wilma Sauls, and Fred and Evelyn Barber of Raleigh. Explaining the Children’s Grief Support Groups, James-Manus said they provide children with a safe place to identify and share the dif ficult and confusing feelings asso ciated with loss and grief. "Bereaved children nurture each other by openly off^ing acceptance and support," she explained, point ing out that compassionate, experi enced professicMials lead the age- specific groups of six to eight chil dren and help the children learn healthy coping skills through spe cially structured group activities. Reflections also provides clinical care and family support services to children who have life-threatening illnesses, are 21 or younger, and under the care of a licensed physician. It offers clinical care with registered nurses, home health aides, physical tber^ists, and other therapists needed, as well as family suM>ort services through social workers, chaplains, bereavement ccHinselors and volunteers. "I know it helped," Sharon Barber said of the Reflections program. "It let them know they were not alone in the world, not by tbranselves with their feelings. When the others started talking, they said to them selves, ’Hey, I’ve had some of those same feelings.’ When one of the other kids would show anger, they learned it was okay to be angry, to feel certain ways. It al lowed them to look ahead into the future." To Ashley, that means planning to be a dancer. She looks forward to her lessons at a ballet school. To Christie, though, the answer isn’t that easy. "I’ll get back to you on that," she said. Continued from page 1 read and less likely to be manipu lated. Hodgkins said these are simply requests for voluntary conservation, and without a limited time frame. "It’s continuing, not just for the summer," he pointed out. And the reaction generally has been positive. If Dot Hoover has any problem with the use of watCT, she says, "it’s the bills that kill me." She lives alone and says they are never the same. "They change despite the fact I use the same amount. It puzzles me. But I am careful of the water I use and, of course, would be in favor of any savings," she added. On Airpot Boulevard at the Days Inn, the question isn’t whether to back conservation, but how can it be accomplished at a hotel where 110 rooms have guests coming and going on a daily basis. "I’m not sure how it can be dcme. We can’t control how long they stay in the shower," said Barbara McGill, regional sales and market ing director. "And with 110 rooms, we have to consider the washing machines for all who stay h^e. We certainly are in favor of the proposal, and we do try where it is possible." The inn’s maintenance engineer, Richard Burt, says the housekeepers notify him if they find a leaky faucet or water running in a commode. "We act immediate ly. Maybe we can save some on the swimming pool, but I haven’t given that thought at this point.” Hearon Dickson, vice president and general manager of Dillard P*aper Co. on MorrisviUe Parkway, doesn’t feel it’s relevant to his type of company, at least not m this time. Chairman of the board of the Mcxrisville Chamber of Commerce, be says he doesn’t have any prob lem with the commissioners asking for voluntary measures. "They are entitled to make whatever requests they deem necessary, and it does danonstrate a certain amount of leadership," be said. In an effort to bolstCT the move by the five areas to get the state al location, MorrisviUe com missioners allocated $51,138 to join the other jurisdictions in hiring a Charlotte engineering firm to help get approval for the water alloca tion from Jordan Lake. Local in formation on population and demand projections, water use and conservation are to be supplied to the engineering firm by the Morris- ville town staff. The road to getting that approval may not be smooth. The matter is potentially controversial since it would require diverting water from the C^e Fear River Basin, of which Jordan Lake is a part, to an other basin. Counties that use water from the lower Cape Fear River, in cluding cities like Wilmington and Fayetteville, have noted their oppo sition. They claim that by allowing Cary, Apex, MorrisviUe, and Holly Springs to draw the extra water next year, an interbasin transfer will result. That is when a municipality draws water from one source, and after using it, returns the water to another source. Objec tors say unmoniiored transfers could lead to water shortages later, and if the water taken out of Jordan Lake is not replaced, the result would be drastically reduced water levels downstream and problems at Fayetteville’s new $40 million wastew^r treatment plant which requires millions of gallons from the Cape Fear to operate. The voluntary conservation measures were madp by Hodgkins after be emphasized that Jordan Lake has a finite amount of avail able watCT. "I don’t know if Morris- ville reahstically can go back and get more water out of Jordan Lake after this." be said, adding that "there are so many straws in the lake that the Cops of Engineers won’t permit more." Meanwhile, MorrisviUe hopes its residents and businesses wiU try to conserve on that "priceless com modity" referred to by Com missioner BiUy Sauls. Janet and WiUiam Richard say they will, and think it’s a good re quest. The McCrimmon Parkway residents say they will follow the town’s suggestions. "I only do laundry once a week, so that’s not a problem, and since it’s a dry sum mer, I believe in the plan." And for Mrs. John Medlin of Koppers Road, conserving water, especially clean water, makes her happy. "I’ve been involved in amove for clean water ever since 1989 at Shiloh because of the contamina tion problem in the area,” she ex plains. "I know the need to con serve it. If you see a sprinkler going on our lawn, it’s because we have a well. So when we use a sprinkler, it doesn’t affect town water." Turtio TuSeSIide^ * A Full Line of Swing 'N Sfide Kits ^ * Accessories & Hardware Available * Quaiity #1 Pressure Treated Li YOUR COMPLETE SWING 'N SUDE CENTER TARHEEL WOOD TREATING Hv*y 54, MorrlsvUle • 467-9176 • M-F 7;30-5 SAT. 6-12 Thank you for reading The Progress! DECADENT DOGS Professional Grooming Cornerstone Village 1935 High House Rd. Cary. NC 27513 (919)460-4649 Apt^iZenlOnly Hospice program offers myriad of resources for parents, kids The Reflections Program of fered by Hospice of Wake County is committed to provid ing compassionate, comprehen sive care and support to chil dren with self-limiting illnesses and to children who are griev ing over the loss of a family member or close friend. Among the programs offered are individual support sessions for children scheduled by ap pointment, as well as grief sup port groups where children can share the difficult and confused feelings associated with loss and learn coping skiUs. A 30-minute puppet show based on Donna O’Toole’s book, "Aarvy Aardvark Finds Hope,” demonstrates loving and losing, friendship and hope. Call to schedule a performance for your organization. Tliere is also a lending library with books and other grief- related materials for children which can be checked out Donjons of books and cas settes may be made to the lend ing library in memory of a loved one. Available as well is a pediatric resource room for children, parents and profes sionals in which children may use the room by ^pointment to work with a train^ bereave ment specialist, using art materi^s, special games and re lated activities to express dif ficult feelings. Resources for parents and professionals supp ly information on many grief- related issues for children of different ages. Those interested in more information are asked to call Reflections children’s coordinator Toni James-Manus at 782-3959. The doctors and staff of Ap0L Veterinary Hospital, PA are pleased to announce the opening of Cornerstone Veterinary Clinic located on 2111 High House Rd. Cary • North Carolina Hours: — Weekdays 7:30 am to 6:00 pm n-| A ^*1 A 1 C C C Saturdays 8:00 am Appointments Preferred I SPACE STATION SELF STORAGE • 319-6446 3301 NC Highway S5 (1 Mile North of High House Rd.) FEATURING • ON SITE MANAGEMENT • STATE-OF-THE-ART SECURITY WITH INDIVIDUAL DOOR ALARMS OFFICE HOURS: GATE HOURS: 10 am - 6 pm MON.-SAT 7 am - 9 pm DAILY 1 pm - 3 pm SUN. SERVING THE CARY, MORRISVILLE, APEX AREA Board grants more time on site plan Rollins Leasing Corp., which plans to develop a truck leasing fa cility on Aviation Parkway near Southport Business Paik, has been given an extensicm of the normal time required to start construction of the building. The company asked the Maris- ville Board of Commissioners to extend approval of its site plan for 12 months. Most of the site grading and preparation has been com pleted. Original approval of the site plan was given nearly a year ago. Commissioners were told that the firm was involved in several other projects and bad financial concerns about starting a new project while the others were still in develop ment Gilbert R. Alligood, presi dent of Alligood and Associates, Inc., the engineering firm employed by Rollins for the MorrisviUe building, made the request at the board’s last meeting in June. It was tabled on a motion from Com missioner Billy Sauls who felt the 12-month extension was too long. The board brought the request off the table earlier this month and voted to give the company a six- month extension of its site approval on a suggestion by Sauls, who ex plained he still had a problem with the project "sitting out there for a year." Town Planner Leisa Powell ex plained that the company would have an additional six months to file for a building permit at the end of the site plan’s extended ap proval. Alligood asked if there was a time limit on construction or how long the company would have to complete it, to which Building In spector Wallace Baker, seated in the audience, answered: "Forever, as long as you work on it.”
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