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Family financial strain
and stress and family conflicts
over money management
problems seem to
flare up at the same time.
Some of these conflicts are
serious enough to lead to
divorce.
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Some recent newspaper
facts show that family
arguments often occur
because each family
member feels that the other
person is not shouldering a
fair share of the household
responsibility or spending
restraint. The biggest conflicts
seem to be over how
the money is being spent,
over what is being bought
and who is doing the buying.
Dr. John W. Hudson,
former president of the
American Association for
Marriage and Family
Therapy, furnished these
facts to the Inquirer on how
to handle money management
problems in marriage.
Dr. Hudson says:
1. Couples ought to sit
down and agree on some
basic ground rules in marriage
pertaining to money
management.
2. No matter who earns
/the money, married people
ought to agree on how the
family income is to be
spent. (He believes that
when either a husband or
wife is in sole control of
FEMA
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By Mari Wooden
Staff Writer
"I don't think the
American public realizes
thev're not as nrotected as
they think they are," said
Ms. Dorothy Fentriss,
Director, WinstonSalem/Forsyth
County Of?
fice??4?t4ve?Federal
Emergency Management
Agency, located at Smith
Reynolds Airport.
"Because of insufficient
funds, our agency has not~
been able to label all of the
in-place shelters that would
be used in the event of a
threatened nuclear attack,"
she added.
During the late sixties,
FEMA, then called Civil
Defense, went around to
many of the shelters
throughout the country
removing food supplies that
had become damaged.
These supplies were never
replaced.
"In the event of a
threatened nuclear attack,"
Fentriss said, "our agency
would issue to the media,
pertinent information
regarding where people
need to relocate, what they
should do prior to leaving
their homes, what supplies
they need to take with
them, when to leave the
shelter and w hat they
should do when they return
home after an attack."
Winston-Salem is
classified as a Risk Area,
Category III, meaning this
area is highly populated,
within a distance that can
receive nuclear fallout and
can be quickly converted
for military needs. Ill the
event of a nuclear attack,
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TamTly'TTriancesT it can leacT
to resentment,- anger,
frustration and distrust.)
3. Decide on a figureperhaps
$30--above which
no purchase can be made
without the approval of?
both spouses.
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4. Sit down and work out
a budget that is acceptable
to both of you.
5. If you are still arguing
after laying out the ground
rules, try to observe these
precautions:
- Discuss your convictions
on spending. Let each
other know how money
matters were handled in
your home when you were
growing up. This will help
you to understand why the
person feels as he does or as
she does.
6. It may be that your
family was totally against
the use of credit cards.
Perhaps your husband or
wife had a bitter family experience
with the use of
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creaii caras because the
father or mother in that
family did not know how to
use credit cards wisely.
7. Never discuss money
matters suddenly when you
are tired or emotionally
upset. But find time to
discuss the money situation
before a crisis arises.
Be calm during discussions
abut money. Support
your thinking but don't get
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residents would be informed
of in-place shelter locations
in a host area.
In addition to responding
toa nuclear disaster,~
FEMA also responds to
natural disasters, manmade
and to any vehicle
carrying low or high level
radioactivity. The agency
docs not respond to per.
sonal disasters unless all
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respond.
The agency, funded by
Federal, county and~city~
governments consists of
five staff members and
volunteers. The military
also uses the agency, as a
training facility for personnel
involved in mobilization.
Staff members are trained
in the areas of
radiological monitoring,
hazardous materials handling,
tornado spotting and
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9. Never compare your
financial situation with that H
of your neighbor or friends.
It will bring resentment.
10. Stick to the money
subject, and don't bring up
"other grudges?"
11. Don't use money
arguments to make your
mate seem small. If your
mate has made a financial
mistake, accept it and go on
from there. Don't dwell on
it. Try to correct it.
12. Accept the fact that
you cannot win every
money argument. If you
can't agree, agree to
disagree. If you continue to
discuss something about
which you cannot agree, it <H
will eventually lead to conflict
and bitterness. It will
cause more trouble than it I
will be worth in the long
run.
13. Don't walk away and
refuse to listen. What you
hear might be helpful to I
you even if it makes you uncomfortable
to hear it.
14. Try to talk about it
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passed and you both have
had more time to think it
over.
I firmly believe that
couples can solve almost
any problem pertaining to
money management if they
approach?the?matter M
telligently and in a calm
manner.
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?StaTf__members also attend
the Emergency
Management Institute in
Emmitsburg; Maryland: fl
There are city/countywide
simulated disaster
drills held once a year that
involve other agencies and
members of the community.
Smaller drills for our?H
agency members and other
agencies are held on a
regular basis.
Our agency formed a 17 M
.'member radiological
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response team, ior immediate
response measures
from the time a radiological I
accident occurs until the
radiological team from H
Raleigh arrives.
Workshops are held for
the public and Tn^ the
schools to train people in
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