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cop Manipul The Con By Dr. Charles Faulkner I have counseled and helped thousands of unhappy people during the past few years and have discovered a striking similarity in a significant number of the cases. Most of my Clients are honest, kind, loving people in search of a reliable mate who can make them happy. When they find a potential ?? DATING f AND W MATING v mate. thev bestow jgnordo not receive the same thing in return, they become unhappy and seek counseling in order to find out what went wrong. Their mate usually takes them for granted, finds the challenge disappearing in the relationship and becomes bored with the mate's loving" predictability. " Invariably, counselors tell these unhappy people to be honest, kind, loving and affectionate, and they will receive the same thing in Breathir L. [ - - : f There's A Breathing is an art. With the flow of each melodious breath, you set the stage for your life. It is very clear that breath is life. Breathing -eontrols_Jhfi balance of energy?in yoy*r body throughout the life cycle. Proper breathing is an an tidote to daily stressors. Although we all breathe, few of us continue to breathe properly as we I become adults. Proper breathing habits are essen( DEALING WITH STRE ! EVELYN DUNLAF tial for good mental and physical health. An infant breathes deep breaths, filling the lungs completely, expanding the diaphragm, before exhaling the air. This allows the infant to remain in a peaceful and relaxed r HtatCi^Wfrifc^observing an infant, you may notice the difference in his breathing and your present breathing to discover who is the real artist. Breathing can control the amount of tension in the muscles of the body including the heart. Through the practice of proper breathing, you can effect the following symptoms: anxiety, depression, irritability, muscular tension and fatrgue. tsreainmg is an unconscious function of the body, something you normally don't think about. Right now, pay attention to how you are breathing. Take a deep, long breath and notice the differnce in your body as you exhale the air and relax. This is called the relaxing sigh, and although people generally sigh, they usually don't know the reason. Sighing allows you the opportunity to disburse some of the negative energy from the body and relaxes you when feeling stressed. I * % j ing ation Games People return. They are told to o continue the very behavior m that caused the unhappiness & in the first place. d< Wouldn't it be nice if this tl were true? It is such a nice y< concept. But, is it true? p Answer the following fj questions: s< Are you always treated n kindly by your mate when . you are kind, loving and af- a fectionate? ? Most of the t: time Some of the u wrw m : lim - -time- N*V" ^ Are you taken for granted J and treated rudely by ^ your mate when you are a kind, loving and affec- c tionate? c Unfortunately, many peo- ^ pie who turn the other * cheek find that cheek a getting slapped, also. The r honest, kind person often ? ~gets~abused and made to v feel unhappy. The hard- c nosed manipulative person v takes advantage of the c kind person, reaps great a personal and material * rewards and achieves a level lK X I ji Art To It When you arc watching something very emotional ? either frightening or anger-provoking ? be attentive to your breathing. ^You can learn to alter the .body's response to stressful? emotions by changing your breathing pattern. The next ime you feel very angry or frustrated, use the basic relaxation breath described in this article to relax you. You will be able to feel thedifference and benefit from this change of breathing. Breathing exercises do not pose as problem-solvers, but assist you in being able to relax in a crisis so that you might be able to think more clearly. Altering your breathing style will also help you deal with daily stressful situations in a effective and relaxed manner and improve your overall health. It is very important for cigarette smokers to use the following breathing techniques regularly so that the lungs can be cleared as much as possible with each breath. This may be the protector between you and emphysema, (having less air sacs for oxygen exchange). However, persons with emphysema can still benefit from these exercises to increase their lung capacity. While a breathing exercise can be learned in a 'few minutes and some immediate benefit experienced, the profound effects of the exercise may not be fully appreciated until months of continuous practice have passed. Each person needs to develop a breathing program incorporating these exercises and more. Teach your children these exer- , See Page jg ; , Play f happiness. Everyone manipulates practically /eryone else, to some egree, in order to get what ley want: A smile will get ou a pleasant hello; a comliment will get you a new fiend; a "pleasant* perDnality will get you a pay i\se. Manipulation has found n important place in sociei. Manipulation, which is sed by each of us, is thically acceptable as long s the behavior is not insnded to harm the other arty. Following is an exmple: Mary loved John and reated him with continued. indness?and affection. onn?beeame?Dorea?wittr Gary's loving predictability nd wanted a new hallenge, so he stopped ailing her and began to, late other women. John ;new that Mary would ilways be there when he teeded her_^ and that__she onstantly sat by the phone vaiting for his telephone all. John felt that Mary vas not desired by- any >ther men because she was ilways at home waiting for lis call. 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