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Wfcclflfcftdajr, August 2f, 1963 WmMi • ' ,f. s' wgk. , SDBfc*? '4, 'lpllpjpl .. -' ’‘■' im » % *&• BP ’ -T *%t v W V I'/ :: » .4 ■>'" ■■*»';iy-.' ;:■.. . . ?;'. TlUjMjHva',' K ,;. V ' H *■' t 4 • - ’Wm ■wK^'sH'W M--* f a ——l w, mmms ■ .3sSH';-a: s*»*v .m • j|E ,9| v i '- #-ji» > v 'ISM .<gjy ¥ ; vl Bennett-Sowers Vows Exchanged Mr. and Mrs. Harvey Bennett of Chapel Hill announce the mar. riage of their daughter, Rebecca Ann Bennett, to Ronald Edward Sowers, son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert E. Sowers of Hampton, Va. The ceremony took place on Sat urday, August 17, at the Univer sity Baptist Church. Dr. Henry Turlington officiated. Wedding music was presented by Mrs. Crawford Taylor, organ ist, and George Seymour of Eliza beth City, soloist. The church was decorated with four candelabra with greenery entwined against an arrangement of gladiolas and chrysanthemums. Given in marriage by her fath er, the bride wore a formal length white gown ot silk organza over taffeta with a fitted bodice, set-in midriff, rounded neckline of alen con lace, and elbow length sleev es. The bell skirt with two flying back panels appliqued with lace ended in a chapel train. Her veil of silk illusion was attached to a pill box of lace and taffeta. She carried a bouquet of orchids and bride's roses. Matron of honor was Mrs. Caro lyn Lee, sister of the bride. She wore a sheath dress of peach silk with a scooped neckline, abbrevi ated sleeves, and matching aces sories. She carried Tropicana ros es and tangerine carnations. - • til 11 ISSI 1 !!/ ; i TjjiTlY; "W OF g LIGHTING CAN STRIKE TWICE! Suppose lightning struck your home. The second bolt could be the biggest; when you get the bills for repairing the dam age! Let insurance pay the bills. See us today for all-risk insurance on your home. FOUSHEE-WILSON ■■ Agency JOHN FOUSHEE • ADGER WILSON 108 N. Columbia Phone 968-4481 Bridesmaids were Miss Rachel Forbes of Murfeesboro, Miss Car ole Meador of Richmond, and Miss Gail Ford of Chapel Hill. Their dresses were like that of the honor attendant. Best man was Robert E. Sow ers. Groomsmen were Philip Ran some and Kenneth Carson of Hampton, Va.; Bruce Clark of Raleigh, and Michael Peeler of High Point. Ring bearer was Danny Lee, r.ephew of the bride. The bride's mother wore a sheath dress of seakist blue em broidered silk with matching ac cessories. She wore a white or chid. The bridegroom’s mother wore a sheath dress of petal pink silk organza with matching ac cessories. Her corsage was a white orchid. /“''v A pre-rehearsal dinner at the Pines Restaurant was given by the bridegroom’s parents for the wedding party. After the rehear sal, Mrs. A. H. Poe, Mrs. J. J. Williams, and Mrs. H. D. Strowd entertained the wedding party, and relatives and friends of the bride’s and bridegroom’s families at Mrs. Poe’s home. For a wedding trip to Myrtle Beach, the bride wore a navy blue sheath dress with a jacket and matching accessories. She wore an orchid which was lifted from her bouquet. The bride received a degree in Secretarial Science from Chowan College. The bridegroom is a graduate of Chowan College where he was vice president of the stu dent body and president of Pi Theta Kappa. Out-of-town guests included Mr. hnd Mrs. E. C. Howard of Wash ington, D. C.; Mrs. Ida Lanier of Dillon, S. C.; Phil Wade of Rich mond, Va.; Mr. and Mrs. Bill Boyce of Windsor, Mr. and Mrs. Shelley Highfill of Summerfield, and Mrs. James W. Gudsey of Hampton, Va. Mrs. Jack Howard and Miss Helen Howard of Durham enter tained the bride and her brides maids at a luncheon at Schrafft’s Country Inn on the day of the wedding. At this time the bride presented her attendants with gifts. Now She’s A ‘Lady Mama Dentist’ By PAQUTTA FINE “Many patients are anxious when they approach a dentist, and this includes adults,” said Dr. Patricia Smathers Mitchell, Chapel Hill s only woman den tist. “It’s not enough to do your work well; a dentist has to make patients feel comfortable and make the treatment endurable. Actually, we’re harmless people.” To illustrate her point. Dr. Mitchell told of a little boy who on his first visit was terrified and kept calling her “lady den tist” in a frightened voice. “To calm him, I let him hold the instruments, showed him how water came out of one, air out of another, and that still an other was only a little mirror. By the time he left he was call ing me ‘lady mama dentist.’ ” Dr. Mitchell is a native of Canton. As a child she lived on the edge of town where her favo rite childhood activity was dam ming up the creek with the aid of her brother. She attended the public schools in Canton and was editor of the yearbook In her senior year. She went to Meredith College: “I wanted to go to a girls’ school so I could get an education dur ing the week and play on the weekends." Majoring in chemis try, she still found time to be president of the freshman class and then secretary and presi dent of the student body. She met her future husband, David Mitchell, when they were in the fifth grade. They started going steady in high school and continued to date while he was at Duke and she at Mere dith. Upon graduating, she mar ried Dave and moved to Chapel Hill where he was a second year dental student. “We lived in Victory Village for three years where our daughter Jan, now 9, was born.” How did she become interested in dentistry? “During Dave’s junior year, he could tell I was bored with just staying at home. He began For Women-Mostly By PAQUITA FINE If you had a child who had in some manner escaped going to school until he was 13, you cer tainly wouldn’t expect him to be enrolled in the eighth grade the first time he did attend. Yet, it is surprising how meny parents expect Junior and Sis, who have had no previous training, sudden ly to start making up their beds, ironing clothes, washing dishes, sweeping floors, and mowing lawns ust because they have reached the “age" when these things are “expected.” Do the parents accept the blame for this lack of know-how or recognize the confusion and conflict of their man-child and girl-woman? Os course not. Sel dom does a day go by that one doesn't hear parents complain that they "just don't understand the laziness of teenagers today” and that when THEY were that age they were ‘milking the cows, plowing the fields and walking five miles to school.” According to Dr. Irene M. Josselyn, author of “The Ado lescent and his World,” today s Mom and Pop not only expect Junior and Sis to become house hold helpers overnight but they constantly remind their off spring that they are "growing up” and should therefore “as supie more responsibility, think more for themselves, and be less dependent upon them for guidance.” When the adolescent attempts to be more indepen dent, however, he is immedi ately reminded that after ell “we are still your parents and you are too young to know what is best for you.” Apparently, what the parent means by “independence” is that the adolescent should take more initiative in doing what THEY wish him to do. Unfortunately, what parents wish is rarely very clear. They may expect the ado lescent to be "grown up” in thb sense -of possessing all the vir tues parents value, and yet to lack all the vices usually tol erated by adults in one another. "Few parents ever reach peace ONLY “Chapel HiU’s only qualified Bug Cleaner” j7mmmm JtSJSuuiiLMr Dial Operator, uk for Durham WX2OOO, Bernson rne ffiAPm, mtt tfefcf&t :lfc. WL ' :''m - • jjm *iß K '* ' *• . -f|§ Jm »■ hhhm -*> j&k m ” l i >■) t 1 ' ' - V 4 -iii H' ■ Dr. Patricia Mitchell at Work telling me how interesting his work was, showed me projects he was working on, and kept mentioning how much fun it would be if we practiced den tistry together. Dave knows how to stimulate one’s interest in his work; so in 1955, I talked to Dr. Sturdivant and applied to the Dental School for admission. Although I was the only woman in my class, 1 was readily accept ed by the other students, and I never felt there was any discrim ination because I was a woman.” Although Dr. Mitchell’s prac tice is about equally distributed in age levels, she thinks she may have more children because she is a woman. “Probably because they think of a woman as a ‘soft touch,’ she said, smiling. Dentists are very honest with within themselves to the extent that they actually approve of the adolescent’s doing what they have told him to do,” Dr. Jos selyn writes. "In our culture, so ciety not only makes heavy de mands upon the adolescent, but it fails to provide him with a preconceived and carefully out lined pattern to help him meet these demands. This is in con trast to many of the primitive cultures which established an arbitrary line between childhood and adulthood with a defined code of taboos and customs as a framework in which to develop his own personality. “Although in principle our cul ture places value on the indi vidual's right to choose his own pattern of self-development, in prod ice it penalizes those who do not recognize the difference between license and liberty . . . The adolescent, unsure of his own goals, keenly feels the im pact of the social confusion . . . The most significant confusion the child experiences is in his own home; for example, in the attitude of the typical parent toward dating. The boy who is not dating a girl is e source of concern to his parents. They feel that perhaps he is not maturing correctly; they press him to date girls, tease him about his self-consciousness, and imply that he should be more tolerant of his natural impulses. Finally he does date girls. The parent then becomes concerned because he is staying out late, he is not studying as much as he should, and they feel that he may not have sufficient understanding of the risks involved in his rela tionships with girls.” Dr. Josselyn offers a word in defense of parents’ conflicting attitudes: “Parents of an adoles cent are often frightened peo ple. They see their child as an extension of themselves, grow ing, they hope, into a more near ly adequate adult than cither of them is. Their wish derives not only from pride in their own child but also from an honest desire that their child should have a happier adult life than they themselves have had. They sense the confusion of the adoles cent and are frightened by it. "The confusion of the adoles cent is increased by the half % Pepsi f pf|p| Take please!” Bpepsil Xllflliiii.Miiiiiiliil carton a child: if it’s going to hurt, we say so, and they learn to be lieve us when we say it isn’t going to hurt. Children are in stinctively better judges of people because they aren't clouded up with prejudice. If we’re honest with them, they come to know we ‘shoot straight' with them. They usually make* their first trip to the dentist when they are three to four. Unfortunately, sometimes they have heard neighborhood ‘stories about the dentist, stories that disturbed them, therefore, on their first trip we show them the instru ments and let them hold them. This way they learn that there is nothing to fear. No work is done on the first trip, and when the child is ready to leave, lie selects something from an array truths he learned during child hood, half-truths that were told him in good faith. Usually they represent the ideals to which adults wish to cling; the truth, which they evade, often repre sents the compromises they have made with those ideals . . . The child may be told that peo ple should be valued for what they are instead of what they have. He is taught to value per sons, regardless of their race, creed, or economic status. This point of view is considered tical while he mingles on the playgrounds and forms childhood friendships. However, when he approaches the time for choosing his permanent social group, and his permanent life mete, he is confronted with a different set of values. He is then told that it is wiser to select one's social group and to choose one's mate from persons with backgrounds and beliefs similar to one’s own . The young people, therefore, are exposed to a contradiction between what - they hove been taught and what the parents really expect of them. “At present the adolescent con fusion is unavoidable. Since the degree of confusion may be too great for the individual adoles cent to handle wisely, it is im portant that those interested in him recognize the pressures to which he is exposed. If this is done, it may be possible to les sen the traumatic impact of this period by alleviating the pres sures or,'if the pressures are un avoidable, by supporting him through this period.” To parents, the adolescent is a series of contradictions. Today he may clean his room to shin ing perfection or he may tell all his innermost thoughts, hopes, and dreams; tomorrow, his room may look like a rat’s nest and he may be secretive to the point of sullenness to cover his own inner confusion. The only thing a parent car. seriously “expect” of the adoles cent is a swinging pendulum of moods, each contradicting the one that preceded it. It may also pay the parent to remember that although he, as an adoles cent, did "milk the cow, plow the field, and walk five miles to school,” he too "goofed-off” or "rebelled" on more than one occasion. of small toys which ( most den tists usually have.ffir their young patients. They enjoy knowing they are going to get something after each visit, and often they will plan what they want next time.” Why do so many people fear the dentist? She laughed and said, “There's an old saying: ‘They’re afraid of getting hurt in the mouth or in the pocket book.’ Actually, the earliest treatment is the least expensive, physicially arid financially. Thirty years ago, it didn’t mat ter how pleasant a dentist was, he still represented ‘pain’ to his patients. Today, improvements in equipment and treatment have done much to make dentistry pleasant to patients.” A particularly enjoyable part of dentistry to Dr. Mitchell is what she calls “Hollywood" den tistry. "No matter how ugly one’s teeth may be, something can be done to make them look better,” she said. “I became really interested in this part of dentistry because of a friend who always smiled in a very tight lipped manner because she didn’t like her teeth. But after six months of orthodontic treatment to straighten them, I capped her teeth, and she now has a beauti ful smile. Even teeth that once had to be gold capped where it showed, can now have some thing done about them with the porcelain baked-on metal, ’ a practice which dentists started using about five years ago.” The Mitchells live on Old Lystra Road in a yellow house of natural stone. “We decided to lay the tile in the basement ourselves. We thought it would be simple, but it was a mess. Everything oozed up between the tiles; so we had to buy a whole new set of tiles and lay them right on top of the others." Dr. Mitchell feels that working with her husband in the office and at home has made them closer than most married couples. “We have so many similar in terests. We have a boat; we love water skiing. We took up flying two years ago; we have a tri pacer which we keep at the Uni versity field. It’s a four-pas senger plane, and we use it to fly to Washington, to the beach, to Miami. Florida is easy to find: you just go to the first ocean and turn right.” After practicing four years in Chapel Hill (the first two alone while her husband went back to school to specialize in orthodon tics), Dr. Mitchell said, “Chap el Hill is an excellent place in which to practice because the dental I.Q.’ i s extremely high here. People are aware of and appreciate good dentistry. I think the level of practice in Uiapej Hill , s among highest in the Nation.” Announcing A NEW SERVICE IN CHAPEL HILL I Business Services Company 104 PROFESSIONAL BUILDING East Franklin Street OPENING SEPTEMBER 3,1963 Managed by Frances S. Tate Offering 1 services in all types accounting, bookkeeping, typing, mimeograph ing, telephone answering, taxes, both individual and corporation, direct mail advertising, and notary public. Personnel are trained and fully ex perienced in all phases business services. s COME mjSH TELEPHONES BY f. CHAPEL H,LL OUR OFFICE f P* 929-1552 FOR QUOTES / DURHAM OR Nights & Weekends CALLUS 682-4638 ;s ; 7 \ .. -kt j v i v 1... \ , FRANCES TATE J / ' Mrs. Tate resides at 2822 Butner Street, Durham, North Carolina. She attended Eton Colleg and Burlington Business College. She is a native of Orange County having worked in the business field in this area many years. Mrs. Tate has one daughter, age five and thev are members of the St. Paul Methodist Church in Durham. Mrs. Tate is also a member of the American Business Women’s Association. She has been employed as Office Manacer of The Bcrry-Sholar Lumber Company, Chapel Hill, since March, 1963. K IB vSjiR • HI . ■:• ■r it 'w. > F -n MfpdHß Bl ' mmmm ENGAGED Mr. and Mrs. William Grady Snipes of Route 1, Pittsboro, announce the engagement of their daughter, Barbara Mae, to Vernon Preston Davis, son of Mr. and Mrs. Auburn M. Davis of Route 1, Chapel Hill. The wedding will take place at 4 p.m. Sunday, October 27, in Cedar Grove' Methodist Church. The bride-elect is a graduate of Pittsboro High School ai4d Town Classes here. The bridegroom-to-be is a graduate of Chapel Hill High School. He is employed by’ the A & P Food Store in Chapel Hill. country-tasting B HjljS, buttermilk Page 1-B
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