Mother's Influence Over
Training Her Children
(Condensed From Heart's Interna
ttonal-coemopoiitan by Oeorie a.
Dorsey.)
Recently, through my Interest In
the relation of childhood training to
maturity, I hare closely observed
tro children with their mothers.
One is a girl of seven—a tyrant who
rules one father, one mother, one
grandfather, one grandmother, one
aunt, and three servants. She real
ly rules; her whim is law. The boy
is the same age. He Is even worse
off than the girl, because the world
at large will less rapidly put up with
his whims and pettiness than hers.
There Is no reason why tne world
should, but the world does. This boy
U also a tyrant, and quite devoid of
what we call manners. He has been
so pampered. Indulged, fondled, and
spoiled that the natural manhood
we expect to find In a boy of seven
haa had no chance to develop.
These two youngsters are typical
of why thousands of young men and
young women, and even elderly
i men and women, fall: they cannot
1 stand on their feet against a gale
because they never learned to stand
on their feet In a breeze.
It is easy for a mother to become
so emotionally wrought up over her
child that she cannot see it with the
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naked eye or give it the chance it
needs. Neither mother of these two
children realizes what she is doing
for her child. I 6uspect they would
both be insulted if told that they
are spoiling their children because
they are not willing to take a stand.
Both mothers are no doubt annoy
ed and at times much distressed,
but when it comes to a question of
restraining these children It comes
to ' Mother's presious darling,” and
mother’s precious darling knows
how to get his or her way.
We must remember the plain
fact that, in maturity, we do not
"put away childish things.” The
mother who recognizes the signifi
cance of that fact can prepare her
boy or girl for the hard knocks of
life.
| Biology, the mother is responsi
ble for so bringing up her child
that when adolescence comes that
child can start a home of its own—
and start- It on its own economic,
social, moral and physical re
sources. But the mother who would
assume this responsibility wisely
must realize that the child learns to
walk alone only by walking alone!
The difference between teaching by
order, rote, formula, or advice, and
teaching by child’s doing it, Is fun
damental.
These two particular mothers are
victims of the high cost of keeping
up with the Joneses. They com
mand servants’ rooms and a garage,
but no nursery: neither boy nor
girl has any room, lot. or spot where
he or she can manipulate things to
the Joy of fingers and the delight of
eyes. Both children are hard push
ed for natural outlets of surplus
steam. If the boy were left aione
In a shed with some soft pine, he
might saw off a finger, but nine
fingers would carry him farther on
the road to a happy and useful life
than the coddling he now gets
Anv mother can pee how habit
forms as a result of physical repe
tition. but often she fails to see that
the child’s emotional nature like
wise gets set in its way by reputa
tion. Any normal infant will cry
when in pain or when hungry, bm
suppose the mother, every time she
picks it up to look for a pin or
nurse it, pets k, and makes a fuss
over it That Infant has learned the
value of erring, nor will it require
much brain to learn to cry for the
fondling there is in it. The ways a
baby can learn in six months to get
what it wants are nothing short of
incredible. And the capacity of a
year-old boy or girl to rule an en
tire household is hardly less
astounding.
The two youngsters of my illus
tration are demanding attention all
the time, usually by doing some
thing mother does not like. ft
seems ridiculous, but it is literally
true that many a child of six finds
it easiest to get mother's attention
by doing something which calls for
a "d''n't!” The boy especially is
"dootrd'’ fifty tim»s a day—and en
joys it hugeiv. The punishment
should fit the crime and must fol
low immediately—-it then becomes
tied in. A little rap over the knuck
les at the proper time will do more
to correct deportment than all of
father's ragings or mother's tears
hours later.
When these youngsters enter a
room every body present must know
it. If slamming the door does not
suffice, there is a cackle or a whis
tle or a stamp of feet.
So it is that middle-aged men
and women demand attention at
every little upset There are thous
ands of such adult persons who lit
erally never have learned to get
along away from their mothers
apron strings. Their mothers may
be tead. but in every crisis they re
vert to childish ways. They must be
rocked to sleep so somebody must
hold their hands, rub their brows, or
feed them the kind of "pap'' they
learned to depend on to get out of
trouble. The tragedy comes, of
course, when a husband or a wife
says: "I'm tired of living with a
baby; I'm off!" or when the head
of the firm says: ‘This job needs a
man; you're fired'."
It is. easier for the average moth
er to give in to a child than to cor
rect it, easier for her to become the
child's slave than to thwart it or
see it cry. She does not realize that
she has taught it to cry, or that she
has made herself the child's slave.
She speaks scornfully of nagging
mothers, but the difference between
a nagging and coddling mother is
the difference between two ways of !
spoiling a. child.
Anothr kind of mother raises a
timid child by using fear as a wea- j
pon of control, as a labor-and-time- j
saving device to keep the child out. i
or keep it off, or keep it still. She ;
tells stories to illustrate what hap- !
pens to bad children and who gets •
them when they "don't watch out.” j
Harassed by household duties, aft- ,
ernoon tea, or her bridge lesson, she
has little time to guide the child's
activities. She finds fear a mother's
friend.
The child grows up In an atmos
phere of goblins, ghosts, bad men,
and devils. And the mother thinks ;
she has done her duty with a com
forting caress and a "There, there; !
Mother won't let the bad man get j
her little precious!"
The sex education of the child is j
enormously important and Is gen- i
eraly avoided as if it were the p!a- j
gue. This is not the place for d«- j
tails, but the mother who lies about j
or evades such matters, or leaves
such education to servants or to the
Street, endangers the child's future.
Frankness does not mean forcing
matters on the child's attention, it
does mean never letting the child s
natural curiosity become morbid,
shamefaced or prudish.
Must 5erve 30 Days
Mrs. Florence E. S. Knapp
former New York secretary ol
state, who has been sentenced
to serve thirty days in jail for
grand larceny. She was con
victed on two counts in con
nection with alleged state cen
sus thefts.
(IsUruttlonil Uliutritcd Nairil
Curiosity Is natural; the child
without it is unnatural, or has
learned to keep still to parents about
certain matters, and look elsewhere
to satisfy its curiosity. It soon
learns what meets with approval,
and governs itself accordingly. If
plain or fancy lying buys approval,
or wards off wrath the child readily
learns plain or fancy lying or both.
The mother may not know her
letters, she may be intellectuai’y
flat-footed, but she can so train her
children that it will be an eternal
joy to her and will command a capi
tal it can draw against till death
But she cannot lay the foundation
of that kind of character by de
ceiving the child, or by making a
pet or a nuisance of it. No man
worth the powder to blow him up
ever had that kind of mother.
To take the crown and the hom
age which belong to them, mothers
do not reed rights They need cnlv
use their power; power to educate
women to be mors valiant, more
self-reliant, more independent, more
natural. Through their children
they can rule the world. Conceiv
ably." it the mothers of the world
were to conspire to rear their sons
for profession of peace and de
cency. fair play and give-and-take,
war cn earth would become as ex
tinct as dinosaurs.
Suppose women intelligently as
sumed responsibility and used all
the power of nature has put info
their hands—hat a world this might
be!
BAR BOY FLIER IN
MASSACHUSETTS
Boston, Mass., Sept. 9—Joseph
Garslde. 14-year-old Milton 1^7
aviator who was granted a fede-sl
air permit in Washington and who
will fly to Boston the plane which
his mother bought for him, mnv
land in Massachusetts, but he will
not be permitted to take it off .lie
•round again
Such was the announcement
made by the state motor vehicle
registrar when he learned that
young Garside, who recently cb
talned a national reputation a* a
boy aviator In North narolln*. w^s
flying here from Rockingham. N. C
with stops at Richmond and NC'»
York.
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